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Alec Soth and Stacey Baker: This is what enduring love looks like
አሌክ ሶዝ + እስቴሲ ቤከር: ዘላቂ ፍቅር ምን ያመስላል
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እስቴሲ ቤከር ሁሌጊዜም ፍቀረኞችን ለትውውቅ የሚያበቃቸውን አጋጣሚ ታሪክ የማወቅ ጽኑ ፍላጎት ነበራት፡ የፎቶ ግራፍ ባለሙያውን አሌክ ሶዥ ይሄን ታሪክ ለመዳሰስ አንዲረዳት በጠየቀችው ጊዜ እራሷን በአለም ፈጣን ከሚባልለት የፍቅር ትውውቅ መድረክ ላይ አገኘችው ላስ ቬጋስ ውስጥ ያውም በፍቅረኞች ቀን በመቀጠል በኔቫዳ የአረጋውያን ማህበረሰብ በመገኘት ከአሌክ ሶዥ ጋር በመሆን የጥንዶችን ፎቶ መሰብሰብ ያዙ፣ በነዚህ ሁለት ተጻራሪ ውኔታዎች መሀካል በፍቅር ተጣማሪዎች ጥንዶች ከትውውቅ የጋራ ህይወት ወደ መመስረት የሚያሸጋግራቸውን ቁም ነገር አገኙት (ይሄ ንግግር የተዘጋጀው ከፖፕ አፕ መጽሄት ጋር በመተባባር የቴድ 2015 መርሀግብር አካል ሆኖ ነው)
Stacey Baker - Photo editor
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
Stacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine. Full bioAlec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America. Full bio
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00:13
Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
I got a call from a woman in Texas,
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አስር አመት አካባቢ ይሆናል ከቴክሳስ ከአንድ ሴት የስልክ ጥሪ ደረሰኝ
00:16
Stacey Baker,
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እስቴሲ ቤከር
00:18
and she'd seen some of my photographs
in an art exhibition
in an art exhibition
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የኔን የተወሰኑ ፎቶግራፎችንና የፎቶ አውደራዕይ ተመልክታ ነበር
00:22
and was wondering if she could commission
me to take a portrait of her parents.
me to take a portrait of her parents.
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የቤተሰብ አልበም በክፍያ እንድሰራላት ፈልጋ ነበር
00:27
Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey,
and I thought this was some sort of
and I thought this was some sort of
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በጊዜው ከእስቴሲ ጋር አልተገናኘንም ነበር እናም የተሰማኝ ይሄ ነገር
00:31
wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich,
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የነዳጅ ሀብት አግኝቼ የከበርኩ ነው የመሰለኝ
00:35
but it was only later that I found out
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ግን ቆይቶ ነበር ነገሩ የተገለጸልኝ
00:37
she'd actually taken out a loan
to make this happen.
to make this happen.
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ይሄንን ለማድረግ ስትል ተበድራ ነበር
00:41
I took the picture of her parents,
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የናት አባቷን ምስል አነሳሁ
00:43
but I was actually more excited
about photographing Stacey.
about photographing Stacey.
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ግን እስቴሲን ፎቶ ማንሳት ነበር ይበልጥ ያስደሰተኝ
00:47
The picture I made that day
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በእለቱ ያነሳሁት ምስል
00:48
ended up becoming
one of my best-known portraits.
one of my best-known portraits.
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ከሰራኋቸው ሁሉ የተሻለው ለመሆን በቃ
00:53
At the time I made this picture,
Stacey was working as an attorney
Stacey was working as an attorney
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ይሄን ፎቶ ባነሳሁበት ጊዜ እስቴሲ ጠበቃ ሆና ትሰራ ነበር
00:57
for the State of Texas.
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በቴክሳስ አስተዳደር
00:58
Not long after, she left her job
to study photography in Maine,
to study photography in Maine,
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ብዙም ሳይቆይ ስራዋን በመተው በሜይን የፎቶ ጥበብ ማጥናት ጀመረች
01:03
and while she was there,
she ended up meeting
she ended up meeting
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እዛ በቆየችበት አጋጣሚ ሳይታሰብ
01:05
the director of photography
at the New York Times Magazine
at the New York Times Magazine
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የኒውዬርክ ታየምስ መጽሄት የፎቶ ጥበብ ዳይሬክተር ተዋወቀች
01:08
and was actually offered a job.
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በዛም የስራ እድል ቀረበላት
01:12
Stacey Baker: In the years since,
Alec and I have done
Alec and I have done
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ከዛን ጊዜ ጀምሮ አሌክና እኔ
01:14
a number of magazine projects together,
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በጋራ ብዙ የመጽሄት ፕሮጀክቶችን ሰርተናል
01:17
and we've become friends.
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እንም ጓደኝሞች ለመሆን በቃን
01:19
A few months ago, I started talking
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
to Alec about a fascination of mine.
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ከጥቂት ወራቶች በፊት ከአሌክ ጋር ስለሚመስጠን አንድ ነገር መነጋገር ጀመርን
01:23
I've always been obsessed
with how couples meet.
with how couples meet.
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ጥንዶች እንዴት እንደሚገናኙ ማወቅ የሁልጊዜም ጉጉቴ
01:27
I asked Alec how he
and his wife Rachel met,
and his wife Rachel met,
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አሌክን ከባለቤቱ ራሄል ጋር እንዴት እንደተገናኙ ጠይቄው ነበር
01:30
and he told me the story
of a high school football game
of a high school football game
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የሁለተኛ ደረጃ ትምህርት የኳስ ጨዋታ ላይ ነበር
01:33
where she was 16 and he was 15,
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እሷ 16 እሱ 15 ነበር
01:36
and he asked her out.
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ጠየቃት
01:38
He liked her purple hair.
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ሮዝ ጸጉሯን ይወድላት ነበር
01:40
She said yes, and that was it.
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እሺ አለችው ይሄው ነበር
01:43
I then asked Alec if he'd be interested
in doing a photography project
in doing a photography project
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በመቀጠል አሌክ ፎቶግራፍ ፕሮጀክት ለመስራት ፍላጎቱን እንዳለው ጠየኩት
01:47
exploring this question.
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በዚሁ ጉዳይ ላይ የሚያጠነጥን
01:49
AS: And I was interested in the question,
but I was actually much more interested
but I was actually much more interested
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ጉዳዩ ስቦኝ ነበር ግን ይበልጥ ፍላጎቴ የነበረው
01:53
in Stacey's motivation for asking it,
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እስቴሲ ለመጠየቅ ያነሳሳት ነገር ላይ ነበር
01:56
particularly since I'd never known
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
Stacey to have a boyfriend.
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ምክንያቱም እስቴሲ በጭራሽ ፍቅረኛ ይዛ አይቻት አላውቅም
02:00
So as part of this project,
I thought it'd be interesting
I thought it'd be interesting
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ስለዚህ በዚህ ፕሮጀክት አጋጣሚ ሳስበው
02:03
if she tried to meet someone.
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የሆነ ሰው ለማግኘት ብትሞክር ጥሩ ይሆናል
02:05
So my idea was to have Stacey here
go speed dating
go speed dating
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ሀሳቡ እስቴሲ እስፒድ ዴቲን ማስገባት ነበር
02:10
in Las Vegas on Valentine's Day.
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ያውም ላስቬጋስ ውስጥ በፍቅረኞች ቀን
02:14
(Laughter) (Applause) (Music)
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(ሳቅ) (ጭብጨባ)(ሙዚቃ)
02:20
SB: We ended up at what was advertised
as the world's largest speed dating event.
as the world's largest speed dating event.
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በአለም ትልቅ ከሚባለለት የችኮላ "ዴቲንግ" ዝግጅት ላይ ተገኘን
02:25
I had 19 dates
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19 ወንድ ተዋውቄአለሁ
02:27
and each date lasted three minutes.
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ከእያንዳንዱ ለ3 ደቂቃ ነበር የቆየሁት
02:30
Participants were given a list of ice-
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
breaker questions to get the ball rolling,
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ሂደቱ እንዲቀጥል ለተሳታፊዎች የሚያዝናኑ ጥያቄዎች ተሰቶ ነበር
02:34
things like, "If you could be any kind
of animal, what would you be?"
of animal, what would you be?"
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ለምሳሌ "እንስሳ መሆን ብትችዪ፣ ምን ትሆኒ ነበር?"
02:38
That sort of thing.
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እንደዚ የመሰለ ጥያቄ ነበር
02:40
My first date was Colin.
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የመጀመሪያው ኮሊን ነበር
02:42
He's from England,
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እንግሊዛዊ ነው
02:44
and he once married a woman he met
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
after placing an ad for a Capricorn.
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ሚስት ነበረችው
02:49
Alec and I saw him
at the end of the evening,
at the end of the evening,
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አሌክና አኔ ማታ ላይ አግኝተነው ነበር
02:52
and he said he'd kissed a woman in line
at one of the concession stands.
at one of the concession stands.
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ወረፋ መጠበቂያ ላይ አንድ ሴት እንደሳመ ነገሮናል
02:57
Zack and Chris came
to the date-a-thon together.
to the date-a-thon together.
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ዛክና ክሪስ አንድ ላይ ነበር የመጡት
03:02
This is Carl.
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ይሄ ካርል ነው
03:05
I asked Carl, "What's the first thing
you notice about a woman?"
you notice about a woman?"
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ካርልን ሴት ስታገኝ መጀመሪያ የሚታይህ ምንድ ነው አልኩት
03:10
He said, "Tits."
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ጡት አለኝ
03:12
(Laughter)
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(ሳቅ)
03:17
Matthew is attracted to women
with muscular calves.
with muscular calves.
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ማቲው ጡንቸኛ እግር ያላት ሴት ትማርከዋለች
03:20
We talked about running. He does
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
triathlons, I run half-marathons.
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ስለ ሩጫ አውርተን ነበር እሱ ትሪታሎን ይሰራል አኔ ግማሽ ማራቶን ሮጫለሁ
03:24
Alec actually liked his eyes and asked
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
if I was attracted to him, but I wasn't,
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አሌክ አይኑ ያምራል ወደድሽው ሲለኝ ነበር ግን እኔ አልሳበኝም
03:29
and I don't think he was
attracted to me either.
attracted to me either.
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እሱም የተመቸሁት አይመስለኝም
03:33
Austin and Mike came together.
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ኦስቲንና ማይክ አብረው ነበር የመጡት
03:36
Mike asked me a hypothetical question.
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ማይክ መስቀለኛ ጥያቄ አነሳ
03:39
He said, "You're in an elevator
running late for a meeting.
running late for a meeting.
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"ሊፍት ውስጥ ብትሆኚና ለስብሰባ ረፍዶብሽ ቢሆን
03:43
Someone makes a dash for the elevator.
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የሆነ ሰው ወደ ሊፍቱ እየመጣ ምልክት ቢሰጥሽ
03:46
Do you hold it open for them?"
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ሊፍቱን ትይዢለታለሽ?"
03:49
And I said I would not.
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አላደርገውም አልኩት
03:51
(Laughter)
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(ሳቅ)
03:55
Cliff said the first thing he notices
about a woman is her teeth,
about a woman is her teeth,
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ክሊፍ ከሴት ቀድሜ የማየው ጥርሷን ነው አለ
03:59
and we complimented each other's teeth.
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ጥርሳችን ያምራል ስንባባል ነበር
04:02
Because he's an open mouth sleeper,
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አፉን ከፍቶ ስለሆነ የሚተኛው
04:05
he says he has to floss more
to help prevent gum disease,
to help prevent gum disease,
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በሽታ እንዳይዘው ጥረሱን ብዙ ጊዜ መቦረሽ እንዳለበት አወራኝ
04:09
and so I asked him how often he flosses,
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በምን ያህል ጊዜ ትፍቃለህ ስለው
04:11
and he said, "Every other day."
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በቀን አንዴ አለ
04:14
(Laughter)
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(ሳቅ)
04:17
Now, as someone who flosses twice a day,
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እንግዲህ እኔ በቀን ሁለቴ ለሚፍቅ ሰው
04:19
I wasn't really sure that
that was flossing more
that was flossing more
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እሱ እንደሚለው መፋቅ የበዛበት አይመስለኝም
04:22
but I don't think I said that out loud.
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እንዲህ ብዬ ግን አልነገርኩትም
04:24
Bill is an auditor,
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ቢል የኦዲት ባለሙያ ነው
04:27
and we talked the entire three minutes
about auditing. (Laughter)
about auditing. (Laughter)
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ሦስት ደቂቃውን በሙሉ ስለ ኦዲት ስናወራ ነበር (ሳቅ)
04:34
The first thing Spencer notices
about a woman is her complexion.
about a woman is her complexion.
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እስፔንሰር ከሴት ቀድሞ የሚያየው የፊት ማሰማመሪያን ነው
04:38
He feels a lot of women
wear too much makeup,
wear too much makeup,
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ብዙ ሴቶች ሜክአፕ እንደሚያበዙ ነው የሚሰማው
04:41
and that they should only wear enough
to accentuate the features that they have.
to accentuate the features that they have.
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በትንሹ ለመታየት ካልሆን በስተቀር ማድረግ የለባቸውም ባይ ነው
04:45
I told him I didn't wear any makeup at all
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ምንም ሜክአፕ አለማድረጌን ነገርኩት
04:47
and he seemed to think
that that was a good thing.
that that was a good thing.
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ሀሳቡ ሳመቸው አይቀርም
04:51
Craig told me he didn't think
I was willing to be vulnerable.
I was willing to be vulnerable.
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ክሬግ ስለ እራሴ ግልጽ መሆን የምፈልግ አልመሰለውም
04:55
He was also frustrated when I couldn't
remember my most embarrassing moment.
remember my most embarrassing moment.
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በህይወቴ ስለገጠመኝ የሚያሳፍር ነገር ማስታወስ ባለመቻሌ ሲበሳጭ ነበር
05:00
He thought I was lying, but I wasn't.
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የዋሸሁት መስሎታል ግን አልዋሸሁም
05:02
I didn't think he liked me at all,
but at the end of the night,
but at the end of the night,
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የወደደኝ አይመስለኝም ግን መጨረሻ ላይ
05:05
he came back to me and he gave me
a box of chocolates.
a box of chocolates.
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ተመልሶ መጥቶ ሙሉ ቸኮሌት ሰጠን
05:09
William was really difficult to talk to.
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ዊልያም ሊያወሩት የሚከብድ ሰው ነው
05:12
I think he was drunk.
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ሳይክር አልቀረም
05:14
(Laughter)
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(ሳቅ)
05:17
Actor Chris McKenna
was the MC of the event.
was the MC of the event.
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ተዋናይ ክሪስ ማኬና በዝግጅቱ ዋና አድማቂ እሱ ነበር
05:20
He used to be on
"The Young and the Restless."
"The Young and the Restless."
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ወጣትና እረፍት አልባ የሚል ፊልም ላይ ነበረበት
05:23
I didn't actually go on a date with him.
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ከእሱ ጋር አልተገናኘሁም
05:26
Alec said he saw several women
give their phone numbers to him.
give their phone numbers to him.
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አሌክ ነው ብዙ ሴቶች ስልክ ቁጥር ሲሰጡት ያየው
05:30
Needless to say, I didn't fall in love.
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ቢሆንም ፍቅር አልያዘኝም
05:35
I didn't feel a particular connection with
any of the men that I went on dates with,
any of the men that I went on dates with,
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ከማናቸውም ጋር የተለየ የተሰማኝ ነገር አልነበረም
05:39
and I didn't feel like they felt
a particular connection with me either.
a particular connection with me either.
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እነሱም ቢሆኑ ከኔ ጋር የተሰማቸው ነገር ያለ አይመስለኝም
05:45
AS: Now, the most beautiful thing to me --
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ለኔ ከሁሉም ነገር ውብ ሆኖ የሚታየን
05:48
(Laughter) -- as a photographer
is the quality of vulnerability.
is the quality of vulnerability.
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(ሳቅ)እንደ ፎቶ አንሺነቴ ተጋላጭነት ነው
05:53
The physical exterior reveals a crack
in which you can get a glimpse
in which you can get a glimpse
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ውጫዊ አካላችን ውስጣችንን በቀዳዳ አሳልፎ ይሰጠናል
05:57
at a more fragile interior.
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በተለይ ውስጣችን ያልተረጋጋ ከሆነ
06:00
At this date-a-thon event,
I saw so many examples of that,
I saw so many examples of that,
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በዚህ ዝግጅት ደግሞ ያን የሚመሰክር ብዙ ነገር አይቻለሁ
06:03
but as I watched Stacey's dates
and talked to her about them,
and talked to her about them,
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ግን እስቴሲ ያገኘቻቸውን ወንዶች ሳይና ስለእነሱ ሳዋራት
06:08
I realized how different
photographic love is from real love.
photographic love is from real love.
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የተረዳሁት ነገር ምን ያህል በፎቶ ያለ ፍቅርና እውነተኛ ፍቅር እንደሚለያይ ነው
06:14
What is real love? How does it work?
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እውነተኛ ፍቅር ምንድን ነው? እንዴት ነው ሚሰራው?
06:18
In order to work on this question
and to figure out how someone goes
and to figure out how someone goes
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ይሄን ጥያቄ ለመመለስና
06:22
from meeting on a date
to having a life together,
to having a life together,
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በትውውቅ ተገናኝቶ አብሮ እስከመኖር እንዴት እንደሚደረስ ለመረዳት ስንል
06:27
Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin,
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እስቴሲና እኔ ወደ ሰን ሲቲ ሰመርሊን አመራን
06:29
which is the largest
retirement community in Las Vegas.
retirement community in Las Vegas.
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ያው በላስ ቬጋስ ያለ ትልቁ የአዛውንቶች መጦሪያ ስፍራ ነው
06:35
Our contact there was George,
who runs the community's photography club.
who runs the community's photography club.
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አገናኛችን ጆርጅ ይባላል የፎቶግራፍ ክበብ መሪ ነው
06:39
He arranged for us to meet other couples
in their makeshift photo studio.
in their makeshift photo studio.
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ለፎቶ የተገኙ ጥንዶችን እንድናነጋግር አመቻችቶልን ነበር
06:44
SB: After 45 years of marriage,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
Anastasia's husband died two years ago,
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ከ45 አመታት የትዳር ቆይታ በኋላ የአንስታሲያ ባለቤት ከሞተ ሁለት ሆኖታል
06:49
so we asked if she had
an old wedding picture.
an old wedding picture.
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የቆየ የሰርግ ፎቶ እንዳላት ጠይቀናት ነበር
06:52
She met her husband
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
when she was a 15-year-old waitress
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ባለቤቷን ያገኘቸው በ15 አመቷ በአስተናጋጅነት
06:56
at a small barbecue place in Michigan.
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ከምትሰራበት በሚቺንጋን ከሚገኝ ትንሽ ምግብ ቤት ውስጥ ነበር
06:58
He was 30.
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እሱ 30 ነበር
07:00
She'd lied about her age.
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እድሜዋን ዋሽታለች
07:02
He was the first person she'd dated.
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የመጀመሪያዋ ነበር
07:05
Dean had been named photographer of
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
the year in Las Vegas two years in a row,
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ዲን ለሁለት አመት በተከታታይ በላስ ቬጋስ የአመቱ ምርጥ ፎቶግራፈር በመሆን ተመጧል
07:09
and this caught Alec's attention,
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ይሄ አሌክን ስቦት ነበር
07:11
as did the fact
that he met his wife, Judy,
that he met his wife, Judy,
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ባለቤቱን ጁድ ያገነበት አኳሀን
07:14
at the same age when Alec met Rachel.
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አሌክ ራሄልን ባገኘበት ተመሳሳይ እድሜ ላይ ነበር
07:17
Dean admitted that he likes
to look at beautiful women,
to look at beautiful women,
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ዲን በባህሪው ቆንጆ ሴት ማየት እንደሚወድ ቢያምንም
07:20
but he's never questioned
his decision to marry Judy.
his decision to marry Judy.
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ጁድን ለማግባት የመወሰኑን ትክክለኝነት አይጠራጠርም
07:24
AS: George met Josephine
at a parish dance.
at a parish dance.
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ጆርጅ ጆሴፊንን ዳንስ ላይ ነበር ያገናት
07:27
He was 18, she was 15.
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እሱ 18 እሷ 15 ነበሩ
07:29
Like a lot of the couples we met,
they weren't especially philosophical
they weren't especially philosophical
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በብዛት እንዳገኘናቸው ጥንዶች እነሱ
07:33
about their early choices.
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ስላለፈ የህይወት ምርጫቸው የሚፈላሰፉ አልነበሩም
07:35
George said something
that really stuck with me.
that really stuck with me.
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ጆርጅ ያነኝ ነገር እስካሁን አብሮኝ አለ
07:38
He said, "When you get that feeling,
you just go with it."
you just go with it."
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"ያ ስሜት ሲሰማሽ ዝም ብለሽ ትከተይዋለሽ" ነበር ያለው
07:46
Bob and Trudy met on a blind date
when she was still in high school.
when she was still in high school.
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ቦብና ትሩዲ እሷ ሁለተኛ ደረጃ ትምህርት ላይ እያለች ነበር የተገናኙት
07:49
They said they weren't particularly
attracted to each other
attracted to each other
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የመዋደድ ስሜት አልነበራቸውም
07:52
when the first met.
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መጀመሪያ የተገናኙ ጊዜ
07:53
Nevertheless, they were
married soon after.
married soon after.
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ይሁን እንጂ ብዙም ሳይቆዩ ተጋብተዋል
07:57
SB: The story that stayed with me the most
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ከሁሉም ተለይቶ ውስጤ የቀረው
07:59
was that of George, the photography club
president, and his wife, Mary.
president, and his wife, Mary.
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የጆርጅ የፎቶ ክበብ ሀላፊው ና የባለቤቱ ሜሪ ታሪክ ነበር
08:04
This was George and Mary's
second marriage.
second marriage.
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ጆርጅ ይሄ ነው የሜሪ ደግሞ ሁለተኛ ትዳር
08:07
They met at a country-western club
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
in Louisville, Kentucky called the Sahara.
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በሎዊስቫይል ኬንተርኪ በሚገኝ ሳሃራ ሚባል አገረሰብ ክለብ ነበር የተገኛኙት
08:12
He was there alone drinking
and she was with friends.
and she was with friends.
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እሱ ብቻውን እየጠጣ እሷ ደግሞ ከጓደኘቿ ጋር ነበረች
08:16
When they started dating,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
he owed the IRS 9,000 dollars in taxes,
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መውጣት የጀመሩ ሰሞን እሱ ቴክሳስ ውስጥ 9ሺ ዶላር የታክስ እዳ ነበረበት
08:21
and she offered to help him
get out of debt,
get out of debt,
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ከእዳ እንዲወጣ አግዛዋለች
08:24
so for the next year, he turned
his paychecks over to Mary,
his paychecks over to Mary,
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ስለዚህ ለቀጣይ አንድ አመት ደመወዙን ለሜሪ ነበር የሚሰጠው
08:28
and she got him out of debt.
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በዚህም ከእዳ ነጻ እንዲሆን አድርጋዋለች
08:30
George was actually an alcoholic
when they married, and Mary knew it.
when they married, and Mary knew it.
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በመሰረቱ ሲጋቡም ጀምሮ ጆርጅ የመጠጥ ሱሰኛ ነበር ሜሪ ይሄን ታውቃለች
08:35
At some point in their marriage,
he says he consumed
he says he consumed
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በትዳር ውስጥ እያሉ እሱ እንዳለው
08:38
54 beers in one day.
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በቀን 54 ቢራ የጠጣበት አጋጣሚ ነበር
08:41
Another time, when he was drunk,
he threatened to kill Mary
he threatened to kill Mary
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በሌላ ጊዜ በጣም ሰክሮ እሷና
በሁለት ልጆቿን ላይ የመግደል ሙከራ አድረጓል
08:44
and her two kids,
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08:45
but they escaped and a SWAT team
was called to the house.
was called to the house.
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ግን አምልጠዋል ልዩ የፖሊስ ሀይል ቤታቸው መቶ ነበር
08:50
Amazingly, Mary took him back,
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የሚያስደንቀው ይቅር ብላ ታረቀችው
ከዛ በኋላ ነገሮች እየተሸሉ መጡ
08:52
and eventually things got better.
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08:54
George has been involved
in Alcoholics Anonymous
in Alcoholics Anonymous
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ጆርጅ ከመጠት ሱስ ለመገላገል የምክር አገልግሎት ተካፍሏል
08:57
and hasn't had a drink in 36 years.
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እናም ለ36 አመት ያህል መጠጥ ጠጥቶ አያቅም
09:00
(Music)
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09:01
At the end of the day,
after we left Sun City,
after we left Sun City,
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በስተ መጨረሻ ሰን ሲቲን ለቀን ከወጣን ስንወጣ
09:04
I told Alec that I didn't actually think
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ለአሌክ የነገርኩት
09:06
that the stories of how these couples met
were all that interesting.
were all that interesting.
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እነዚን ጥንዶች የተገናኙበት ታሪክ አይደለም ቁም ነገሩ
09:10
What was more interesting
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ዋናው ነገር
09:12
was how they managed to stay together.
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እንዴት አብረው መቆየት እንደቻሉ ነው
09:16
AS: They all had this beautiful
quality of endurance,
quality of endurance,
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ሁሉም ጋር የሚምር ጽናት አለ
09:20
but that was true of the singles, too.
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ግን ላጤዎቹም ቢሆኑ እንደዛው ናቸው
09:23
The world is hard,
and the singles were out there
and the singles were out there
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ህይወት ከባድ ነው እነሱ ደግሞ ወተው
09:26
trying to connect with other people,
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ሌሎችን ሰዎች ለማግኘት እየታገሉ ነው
09:29
and the couples
were holding onto each other
were holding onto each other
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ጥንዶቹ እጅ ለእጅ እንደተያያዙ ነው
09:31
after all these decades.
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ከስነት አስርት አመታት በኋላም ቢሆን
09:35
My favorite pictures on this trip
were of Joe and Roseanne.
were of Joe and Roseanne.
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በዚህ ጉዞ የወደድኩት ምስል የጆይ እና ሮሴአንን ነው
09:39
Now, by the time we met Joe and Roseanne,
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እነሱን ባገኘንበት ሰአት
09:41
we'd gotten in the habit of asking couples
if they had an old wedding photograph.
if they had an old wedding photograph.
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የሰርግ ፎቶ መጠየቅን እንደ ልምድ አድረገነው ነበር
09:46
In their case, they simultaneously
pulled out of their wallets
pulled out of their wallets
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የነሱ የሚለየው ሁለቱም በተመሳሳይ ጊዜ ከኪስ ቦርሳቸውን
09:51
the exact same photograph.
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አንድ አይነት ፎቶ ማውጣታቸው ነበር
09:56
What's more beautiful,
I thought to myself,
I thought to myself,
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ለራሴ ሳስበው የትኛው ነው ይበልጥ የሚያምረው
09:59
this image of a young couple
who has just fallen in love
who has just fallen in love
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ምስሉ ላይ ያሉት ሁለት ትኩስ ፍቀር ላይ ያሉ ጥንዶች
10:03
or the idea of these two people
holding onto this image for decades?
holding onto this image for decades?
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ወይስ የነዚህ ሁለት ሰዎች ለአመታት ይሀንን ምስል ይዘው የመገኘታቸው ሀሳብ
10:10
Thank you.
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አመሰግናለሁ
10:12
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKERS
Stacey Baker - Photo editorStacey Baker assigns photography for the wide-ranging vision of the weekly New York Times Magazine.
Why you should listen
Stacey Baker is a photo editor at The New York Times Magazine. She assigns and produces photography for the weekly publication on topics as varied as sports, politics, religion and pop culture. She works with an array of photographers from all over the world, including photojournalists and portrait, fine-art and conceptual photographers. These include Alec Soth, Damon Winter, Lars Tunbjork, Stephanie Sinclair, Nadav Kander and Katy Grannan. She is a former director of photography at More Magazine.
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Alec Soth - Photographer
Alec Soth makes large-scale projects that are as much about dreams and heartache as they are about charting the landscape of Middle America.
Why you should listen
Alec Soth is a photographer born and based in Minnesota. He has published several books, including Sleeping by the Mississippi, Niagara and Broken Manual. The New York Times once wrote that Soth has made a "photographic career out of finding chemistry with strangers." His editorial work routinely appears in The New York Times Magazine, he is a member of the Magnum photo agency, and his work was featured in the Whitney Biennial in 2004.
In 2008, Soth started his own experimental publishing company, Little Brown Mushroom, that explores the possibilities of combining images and text. After publishing seven issues of his own newspaper, Soth compiled this work into his latest monograph, Songbook.
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