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Sally Kohn: Let’s try emotional correctness
Sally Kohn: Siguem emocionalment correctes.
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La crítica política Sally Kohn afirma que ja és hora que els conservadors i els liberals deixin de costat les seves diferències polítiques i que s'escoltin els uns als altres. En aquest discurs optimista, Kohn comparteix el que ha après com a presentadora lesbiana i progressista de Fox News. No es tracta de ser políticament correctes, diu, sinó que hem de ser emocionalment correctes.
Sally Kohn - Political pundit
Sally Kohn searches for common ground among political foes by focusing on the compassion and humanity in everyone. Full bio
Sally Kohn searches for common ground among political foes by focusing on the compassion and humanity in everyone. Full bio
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00:13
So when I do my job, people hate me.
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Quan treballo, la gent m'odia.
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In fact, the better I do my job,
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De fet, com més bé treballo,
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the more people hate me.
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més m'odia la gent.
00:20
And no, I'm not a meter maid,
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I no, no poso multes,
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and I'm not an undertaker.
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ni sóc una enterramorts.
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I am a progressive lesbian talking head
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Sóc una lesbiana progressista que presenta
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on Fox News. (Applause)
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les notícies a la Fox. (aplaudiment)
00:31
So y'all heard that, right? Just to make sure, right?
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Ho heu sentit bé, oi? De veritat, eh?
00:33
I am a gay talking head on Fox News.
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Sóc una presentadora homosexual a les notícies de la Fox.
00:36
I am going to tell you how I do it
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Us explicaré com ho faig
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and the most important thing I've learned.
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i la cosa més important que he après.
00:40
So I go on television.
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Bé, doncs, surto a la tele
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I debate people who literally want to obliterate
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a debatre amb gent que vol destruir literalment
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everything I believe in, in some cases,
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tot allò en que crec, en alguns casos,
00:47
who don't want me and people like me to even exist.
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que voldrien que jo i la gent com jo no existíssim.
00:50
It's sort of like Thanksgiving
with your conservative uncle
with your conservative uncle
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És una mica com un dinar familiar,
amb aquell oncle conservador
amb aquell oncle conservador
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on steroids,
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però com si hagués pres drogues,
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with a live television audience of millions.
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a la tele, amb milions d'espectadors.
00:59
It's totally almost just like that.
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És ben bé així.
01:01
And that's just on air.
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I en directe.
01:03
The hate mail I get is unbelievable.
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Rebo moltíssims correus desagradables.
01:05
Last week alone, I got 238 pieces of nasty email
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Només la setmana passada, vaig rebre'n 238,
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and more hate tweets than I can even count.
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i més tweets de rebuig dels que puc comptar.
01:13
I was called an idiot, a traitor, a scourge,
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Em van tractar d'idiota, de traïdora, de xacra,
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a cunt, and an ugly man,
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de puta i d'home lleig,
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and that was just in one email.
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i tot això en un sol correu electrònic.
01:21
(Laughter)
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(riures)
01:24
So what have I realized,
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Així doncs, de què m'he adonat
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being on the receiving end of all this ugliness?
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en rebre tots aquests insults?
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Well, my biggest takeaway is that for decades,
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Bé, el que em sembla és que fa molts anys
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we've been focused on political correctness,
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que ens centrem en allò políticament correcte,
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but what matters more is emotional correctness.
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però en realitat és més important allò emocionalment correcte.
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Let me give you a small example.
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Us en donaré un petit exemple:
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I don't care if you call me a dyke. I really don't.
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m'és igual si em dieu "bollera". De veritat.
01:44
I care about two things.
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M'importen dues coses:
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One, I care that you spell it right.
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Primer, que ho sapigueu escriure.
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(Laughter) (Applause)
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(riures, aplaudiments)
01:53
Just quick refresher, it's D-Y-K-E.
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Us ho recordo, s'escriu amb B alta.
01:57
You'd totally be surprised.
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Us en sorprendríeu.
02:00
And second, I don't care about the word,
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I segon, m'és igual la paraula,
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I care about how you use it.
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m'importa com la feu servir.
02:03
Are you being friendly? Are you just being naive?
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Sou afectuosos? Potser tan sols ingenus?
02:05
Or do you really want to hurt me personally?
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O el que voleu és fer-me mal?
02:09
Emotional correctness is the tone, the feeling,
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La correcció emocional és el to, el sentiment,
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how we say what we say,
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Com diem el que diem,
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the respect and compassion we show one another.
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El respecte i la compassió que ens tenim.
02:19
And what I've realized is that political persuasion
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I m'he adonat que per convèncer políticament
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doesn't begin with ideas or facts or data.
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no es comença amb idees, fets o dades.
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Political persuasion begins with
being emotionally correct.
being emotionally correct.
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Per convèncer, en política,
cal ser emocionalment correcte.
cal ser emocionalment correcte.
02:30
So when I first went to go work at Fox News,
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Quan vaig començar a treballar a les notícies de la Fox,
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true confession,
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ho confesso,
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I expected there to be marks in the carpet
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m'esperava veure marques a la moqueta
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from all the knuckle-dragging.
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d'arrossegar les mans
[com goril·les, perquè tenen actituds "primitives"].
[com goril·les, perquè tenen actituds "primitives"].
02:39
That, by the way, in case you're paying attention,
is not emotionally correct.
is not emotionally correct.
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Això, per cert, ho dic per si esteu atents,
no és emocionalment correcte.
no és emocionalment correcte.
02:44
But liberals on my side,
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Però els liberals com jo
02:47
we can be self-righteous,
we can be condescending,
we can be condescending,
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Podem ser fariseus,
podem ser condescendents
podem ser condescendents
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we can be dismissive of anyone
who doesn't agree with us.
who doesn't agree with us.
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podem ser despectius amb tot aquell
que no comparteixi les nostres opinions.
que no comparteixi les nostres opinions.
02:53
In other words, we can be politically right
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És a dir, podem tenir raó, políticament,
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but emotionally wrong.
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però no tenir-ne emocionalment.
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And incidentally, that means that
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I per cert, això vol dir
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people don't like us. Right?
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que no agradem a la gent. Oi?
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Now here's the kicker.
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I ara ve el pitjor:
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Conservatives are really nice.
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Els conservadors són molt simpàtics.
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I mean, not all of them,
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Bé, no tots;
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and not the ones who send me hate mail,
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els que m'envien correus desagradables, no,
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but you would be surprised.
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però us en sorprendríeu.
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Sean Hannity is one of the sweetest guys
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En Sean Hannity és un dels homes més amables
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I've ever met.
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que he conegut mai.
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He spends his free time
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El temps lliure que té, se'l passa
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trying to fix up his staff on blind dates,
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buscant cites a cegues per al seu personal;
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and I know that if I ever had a problem,
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i sé que si mai tinc algun problema,
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he would do anything he could to help.
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ell faria tot el que pogués per ajudar-me.
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Now, I think Sean Hannity is
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Bé. Jo penso que en Sean Hannity
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99 percent politically wrong,
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està equivocat en un 99%, políticament,
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but his emotional correctness
is strikingly impressive,
is strikingly impressive,
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però la seva correcció emocional
és molt impressionant,
és molt impressionant,
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and that's why people listen to him.
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i per això la gent l'escolta.
03:38
Because you can't get anyone to agree with you
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Perquè no pots arribar a convèncer ningú
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if they don't even listen to you first.
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si no t'escolten abans.
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We spend so much time talking past each other
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Passem molt temps parlant sense escoltar,
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and not enough time talking
through our disagreements,
through our disagreements,
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i no prou temps solucionant allò
en que no estem gens d'acord,
en que no estem gens d'acord,
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and if we can start to find
compassion for one another,
compassion for one another,
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i si podem començar a sentir
compassió els uns pels altres,
compassió els uns pels altres,
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then we have a shot at building common ground.
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aleshores potser podrem construir afinitats.
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It actually sounds really hokey
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Ja sé que sona artificial
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to say it standing up here,
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dient-ho des d'aquí d'alt,
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but when you try to put it in practice,
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però quan intentes posar-ho en pràctica,
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it's really powerful.
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de veritat que funciona molt.
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So someone who says they hate immigrants,
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Així doncs, si algú diu que odia els immigrants,
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I try to imagine how scared they must be
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intento imaginar-me la por que tenen,
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that their community is changing
from what they've always known.
from what they've always known.
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perquè la comunitat canvia i ja
no és allò que ells coneixen tan bé.
no és allò que ells coneixen tan bé.
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Or someone who says they
don't like teachers' unions,
don't like teachers' unions,
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O algú que diu que no li agraden
les unions de professors,
les unions de professors,
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I bet they're really devastated to see
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segur que els hi fa molta pena veure
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their kid's school going into the gutter,
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que l'escola dels seus fills fa aigües,
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and they're just looking for someone to blame.
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i tan sols volen donar-n'hi la culpa a algú.
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Our challenge is to find the compassion for others
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El nostre repte és tenir compassió pels altres,
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that we want them to have for us.
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tanta com volem que ens en tinguin a nosaltres.
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That is emotional correctness.
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Això és la correcció emocional.
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I'm not saying it's easy.
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No dic pas que sigui fàcil.
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An average of, like, 5.6 times per day
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Cada dia, unes 5,6 vegades de mitjana,
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I have to stop myself from responding
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he d'autoconvèncer-me de no respondre
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to all of my hate mail with a flurry of vile profanities.
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tots aquests e-mails amb tot de paraulotes vils.
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This whole finding compassion
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Tot això de trobar compassió
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and common ground with your enemies thing
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i afinitats amb els teus enemics
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is kind of like a political-spiritual practice for me,
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és una mena de pràctica política-espiritual, per mi,
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and I ain't the Dalai Lama.
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i no sóc pas el Dalai Lama.
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I'm not perfect, but what I am is optimistic,
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No sóc perfecte, però sí que sóc optimista,
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because I don't just get hate mail.
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perquè no només rebo correus desagradables.
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I get a lot of really nice letters, lots of them.
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Rebo moltes cartes amables, moltíssimes.
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And one of my all-time favorites begins,
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Una de les meves preferides comença així:
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"I am not a big fan of your political leanings
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"No m'agrada gaire la teva tendència política,
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or your sometimes tortured logic,
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ni la teva lògica estranya,
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but I'm a big fan of you as a person."
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però m'agrades molt tu, com a persona."
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Now this guy doesn't agree with me, yet.
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Aquest noi no està d'acord amb mi, encara.
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(Laughter)
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(Riures)
05:29
But he's listening, not because of what I said,
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Però m'escolta, no pel que dic,
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but because of how I said it,
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sinó per com ho he dit,
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and somehow, even though we've never met,
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i d'alguna manera, tot i que no ens coneixem,
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we've managed to form a connection.
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hem aconseguit construir una connexió.
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That's emotional correctness,
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Això és la correcció emocional,
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and that's how we start the conversations
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i és així com comencem les converses
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that really lead to change.
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que de veritat aconseguiran el canvi.
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Thank you.
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Moltes gràcies.
05:48
(Applause)
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(Aplaudiment)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sally Kohn - Political punditSally Kohn searches for common ground among political foes by focusing on the compassion and humanity in everyone.
Why you should listen
Sally Kohn has a powerful vision for a more united United States. She's a columnist and a political commentator for CNN, and she is working on a book about hate that will be published in the spring of 2018. As a former contributor to Fox News, this progressive lesbian sparred with some of the most conservative minds on television and has sifted through hundreds of letters of hate mail a day. But she deeply believes in finding our common humanity, political differences aside. Before we can achieve political correctness, we must first establish emotional correctness — and this will ignite conversations that lead to real change.
Kohn has appeared on Fox, MSNBC and CNN and has written for The Daily Beast, Salon, The Atlantic and TIME Magazine.
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