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Srikumar Rao: Plug into your hard-wired happiness
斯瑞庫馬．拉奧: 喚醒你的幸福基因
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斯瑞庫馬．拉奧（Srikumar Rao）說，即使我們在追求幸福，但是我們卻花了一生的時間去學習如何不幸福。在 2009 年丹麥的《 工作現場》研討會上，他教我們如何打破「如果...，我就會幸福」的心理模式，並擁抱我們天生自然就有的幸福感。
Srikumar Rao - Happiness teacher
Executive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so. Full bio
Executive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so. Full bio
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00:13
I have a vision for each one of you,
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我有一個願景要送給各位，
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and the vision I have for you
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我希望你們每一個人，
00:18
is that when you wake up in the morning,
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當你清晨醒來時，
00:20
your blood is singing at the thought
of being who you are
of being who you are
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一想到你是誰，你要做什麽，
00:24
and doing what you do;
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你就全身熱血沸騰起來。
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that as you go through the day,
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這一天中，
00:27
you can literally sink
to your knees in gratitude
to your knees in gratitude
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毫不誇張地說，
你甚至願意跪下感恩
你甚至願意跪下感恩
00:31
at the tremendous good fortune
that's been bestowed on you;
that's been bestowed on you;
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上天賜予你的無限幸福；
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that as you go through the day,
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這一天中，
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you become radiantly alive several times.
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你時刻感到容光煥發，
活力四射。
活力四射。
00:43
And if your life isn't like that,
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如果你現在的生活不是這樣，
00:47
I'd like to humbly suggest
that you're wasting your life.
that you're wasting your life.
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請容我指出，
你正在浪費你的生命。
你正在浪費你的生命。
00:50
A life is too short to be wasted.
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人生很短，切莫浪費光陰。
00:53
So what I propose to do
in the next 17 minutes --
in the next 17 minutes --
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因此，在接下來的 17 分鐘內，
00:57
I've used up one minute already --
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——我已經用去了 1 分鐘——，
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is to give you a set of powerful tools
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我將提供一些能夠幫助你們
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which can get you started on being there.
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實現這個願景的有效建議。
01:06
Is that of interest to you?
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大家有興趣嗎？
01:07
Audience: Yes.
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觀眾：有。
01:09
Srikumar Rao: OK.
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斯瑞庫馬：好。
01:10
This is a conference on happiness,
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這是一個關於幸福的研討會，
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but even if it wasn't
a conference on happiness,
a conference on happiness,
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但即便這不是關於幸福的研討會，
01:14
would it be right if I said
that in some way, shape, fashion or form,
that in some way, shape, fashion or form,
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如果我說，在某種程度上，
某種形式上，
某種形式上，
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you're devoting your entire life
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你終其一生
都是為了幸福，對嗎？
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to being happy?
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01:23
Everything you do -- your job, family,
children, relationships, whatever --
children, relationships, whatever --
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你做的每一件事、你的工作、
家庭、孩子、人際關係、無論什麽，
家庭、孩子、人際關係、無論什麽，
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is a quest for happiness.
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都是在追求幸福，
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Correct?
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對嗎？
01:31
I'd like you to think about the following:
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我想要各位思考一個問題：
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What do you have to get
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你必須要得到什麽
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in order to be happy?
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才能獲得幸福？
01:41
We're just going to spend
a minute on this.
a minute on this.
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我們在這花一分鐘思考一下。
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What do you have to get
in order to be happy?
in order to be happy?
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你必須要擁有什麽才能獲得幸福？
01:48
Anybody, quick?
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有人回答嗎？
01:50
When I conduct this experiment,
a bunch of stuff comes up:
a bunch of stuff comes up:
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當我進行這個實驗的時候，
出現了很多答案：
出現了很多答案：
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vast wealth, trophy spouse, good health,
lots of travel, time, etc, etc, etc.
lots of travel, time, etc, etc, etc.
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萬貫家財，完美配偶，身體健康，
環遊世界，大把時間，等等等等。
環遊世界，大把時間，等等等等。
02:00
Right now, if you were to think about it,
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那麼現在，如果讓你思考一下，
02:02
you probably have a list
of, "Here's what I need to get
of, "Here's what I need to get
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你可能也會列出一個清單：
02:05
in order to be happy."
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“我得到便會幸福的東西。”
02:08
I would like you to consider this:
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但是我希望你能考慮一下：
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anything that you can get --
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你能得到的任何東西——
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let me repeat that -- anything
you can get, you can un-get.
you can get, you can un-get.
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讓我重複一遍，你能得到的任何東西，
你也都可能會失去，
你也都可能會失去，
02:16
Is that correct?
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對嗎？
02:17
So, vast wealth can make you happy.
Vast wealth can disappear tomorrow.
Vast wealth can disappear tomorrow.
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萬貫家財可以讓你幸福，
萬貫家財也可能一夜盡失，
萬貫家財也可能一夜盡失，
02:21
A number of people in the financial sector
have discovered this already.
have discovered this already.
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金融業的人們早就體會到了這一點。
02:26
So whatever you get
that can make you happy
that can make you happy
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所以，那些可以讓你幸福的東西，
02:30
can go away.
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也可能會離你而去。
02:31
Where does that leave you?
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而你會剩下什麽？
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Not a very nice place, right?
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一個並不樂觀的處境，對吧？
02:35
I have a different proposition
to suggest to you.
to suggest to you.
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我有一個不同的建議要給各位，
02:38
What I have to suggest to you
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我要給各位的建議就是：
02:39
is that there is nothing
that you have to get, do or be
that you have to get, do or be
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你想要的任何東西，
02:44
in order to be happy.
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都不能使你幸福。
02:46
Let me repeat that:
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讓我重複一遍：
02:47
there is nothing that you have to get,
do or be in order to be happy.
do or be in order to be happy.
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你想得到任何的東西
都不會讓你變得幸福。
都不會讓你變得幸福。
02:51
In fact, happiness is your innate nature.
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事實上，幸福是你的本性。
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It is hardwired into you.
It is part of your DNA.
It is part of your DNA.
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這是你與生俱來的，
是你 DNA 中的一部份。
是你 DNA 中的一部份。
02:59
You cannot not be happy.
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你不可能不幸福。
03:02
Now, all of you are very polite,
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各位現在表現的都很有禮貌，
03:03
and in some of the other forums
I speak in, such as top business schools,
I speak in, such as top business schools,
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但在我參加過的其他研討會上，
比如一些頂尖的商學院，
比如一些頂尖的商學院，
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they're not so polite.
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他們並沒有那麼禮貌。
03:09
And invariably, somebody articulates
what many of you are thinking,
what many of you are thinking,
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每一次，都會有人問我一個
你們每個人都想問的問題：
你們每個人都想問的問題：
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which is: "If happiness
is my innate nature,
is my innate nature,
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“如果幸福是與生俱來的，
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how come I am not experiencing it?
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那麼為何我感受不到？
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How come I am experiencing my life sucks?"
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為何我還是覺得生活很糟糕呢？”
03:22
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
03:24
And the answer to that
is actually very simple.
is actually very simple.
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答案其實很簡單，
03:28
You have spent your entire life
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因為你花了一生的時間，
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learning to be unhappy.
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去學習如何不幸福。
03:36
Let me repeat that: you have spent
your entire life learning to be unhappy.
your entire life learning to be unhappy.
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我再說一遍，你一生的時間
都用來學習如何不幸福了。
都用來學習如何不幸福了。
03:42
And the way we learn to be unhappy
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我們學習如何不幸福的方式
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is by buying into
a particular mental model.
a particular mental model.
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是相信了一個特定的心理模式。
03:48
A mental model is a notion we have
that this is the way the world works.
that this is the way the world works.
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心理模式就是，我們自己認為，
世界運轉的方式。
世界運轉的方式。
我們每個人都有心理模式，
我們也有很多心理模式。
我們也有很多心理模式。
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All of us have mental models,
we've got dozens of mental models.
we've got dozens of mental models.
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03:54
We've got mental models
on how to find a job,
on how to find a job,
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我們有如何找到工作的心理模式，
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how to get ahead at work,
how to pick a restaurant to eat at,
how to pick a restaurant to eat at,
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有如何在工作中獲得成功，
如何選擇餐廳，
如何選擇餐廳，
04:00
how to have a movie
to go to ... dozens of them.
to go to ... dozens of them.
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以及如何選擇要去看的電影
的心理模式，等等。
的心理模式，等等。
04:03
The problem isn't
that we have mental models.
that we have mental models.
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但問題不是我們擁有心理模式，
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The problem is that we don't know
that we have mental models.
that we have mental models.
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問題是我們不知道
我們有心理模式。
我們有心理模式。
04:08
We think this is the way the world works.
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我們認為這是世界運作的方式，
04:10
And the more we invest in a mental model,
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我們越用這種心理模式思考，
04:12
the more it appears that this, in fact,
is the way the world works.
is the way the world works.
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我們就越覺得這個世界
就是這樣運作的。
就是這樣運作的。
04:16
But it isn't: it's just a mental model,
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但其實並不是，
這僅僅是一個心理模式。
這僅僅是一個心理模式。
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and the mental model we have
that we buy into so strongly
that we buy into so strongly
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我們如此堅信的這個心理模式是：
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is that we have to get something
so we can do something
so we can do something
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我們必須有所得，才能有所為，
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so we can be something.
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然後才能有所成。
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Like, we have to get a great deal of money
so we can travel to exotic places
so we can travel to exotic places
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例如，我們必須要有很多錢，
才能去異國旅遊，
才能去異國旅遊，
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so we can be happy.
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然後我們才能幸福。
04:34
We have to be in a relationship
so we can have great sex
so we can have great sex
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我們必須戀愛，
才能有良好的性生活，
才能有良好的性生活，
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so we can be happy.
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然後我們才能幸福。
04:39
All of this is a variation
of the if-then model.
of the if-then model.
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所有的這些都是
“如果-然後”模式的各個形式。
“如果-然後”模式的各個形式。
04:44
And the if-then model is:
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這個“如果-然後”模式就是：
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if this happens,
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如果這個發生了，
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then we will be happy.
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然後我們就會幸福。
04:52
If I were to get a better job,
if I were to get more money,
if I were to get more money,
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如果我有了更好的工作，
如果我賺了更多的錢，
如果我賺了更多的錢，
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if my boss would have a heart attack,
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如果我的老闆心臟病突發，
04:57
if only I was married,
if only my wife would leave me --
if only my wife would leave me --
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如果我結婚了，
如果我妻子離開我——
如果我妻子離開我——
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
05:04
if only I had children,
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如果我有了孩子，
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if my children would grow up
and go to college ...
and go to college ...
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如果我的孩子長大了，上了大學，
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It doesn't matter what it is.
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不管它是什麽，
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The whole notion is if this happens,
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整個模式的概念是：
如果這個發生了，
如果這個發生了，
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then I will be happy.
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然後我就會幸福。
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And right now, the only thing
that's different
that's different
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此時此刻，
你與身邊聽眾之間，
唯一不同的地方就是，
唯一不同的地方就是，
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between the persons in this audience
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05:23
is what is the particular "if"
that you are focusing on?
that you are focusing on?
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你們所關注的這個
特定的“如果”是不一樣的。
特定的“如果”是不一樣的。
05:26
And the only thing that's different
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你與十年前的你之間
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between you now
and where you were 10 years ago
and where you were 10 years ago
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唯一不一樣的地方也只是
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is what is the particular "if"
that you were focusing on?
that you were focusing on?
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你所關注的這個
特定的“如果”不同而已。
特定的“如果”不同而已。
05:34
Think about your life 10 years ago.
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回憶你十年前的生活，
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Spend a minute doing that.
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花一分鐘回想一下，
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Ten years ago, if you remember clearly,
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十年前，如果你還記得清楚，
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there were certain things you wanted.
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一定有某些你想得到的東西，
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Is that correct?
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對嗎？
05:45
Odds are pretty good
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可能性很大的是
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that many of those things you wanted
10 years ago you now have.
10 years ago you now have.
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這些十年前你想要的東西，
你現在基本都已經擁有了，
你現在基本都已經擁有了，
05:50
Is that correct?
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對嗎？
05:52
Where has that left you?
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可是現在呢？
05:56
In exactly the same place, right?
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你還是身處在完全相同的地方，對吧？
05:59
What we don't realize
is the model itself is flawed.
is the model itself is flawed.
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我們沒有意識到的，就是，
這個模式本身是有缺陷的。
這個模式本身是有缺陷的。
06:03
The if-then model --
"If this happens I will be happy" --
"If this happens I will be happy" --
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這個“如果-然後”模式
——如果發生了，然後我就會幸福——
——如果發生了，然後我就會幸福——
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the model itself is flawed.
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這個模式本身是有缺陷的。
06:09
But instead of recognizing
that it is the model itself that's flawed,
that it is the model itself that's flawed,
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但是，我們所做的是花大量的時間
06:13
what we do is spend
enormous amounts of time
enormous amounts of time
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去改變這些“如果”，
06:17
changing the "if."
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而不是認識到模式本身的缺陷。
06:19
"Oh, well, I thought if I became
CEO it would help,
CEO it would help,
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“嗯，我覺得我成為 CEO 就會幸福，
06:22
but now I realize it's not
that I want to become a CEO.
that I want to become a CEO.
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但是現在我發現不是成為 CEO，
06:25
I want to become the billionaire CEO,
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而是成為億萬富翁 CEO，
06:28
and then I will be happy."
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然後我才會幸福。”
06:30
You've got your own variation on that.
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你們會有自己不同的衡量標準，
06:32
But it's the model itself that's flawed,
not what you put on the "if" side
not what you put on the "if" side
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但問題的根本，是因為
這個模式本身的缺陷，
這個模式本身的缺陷，
而不是你在等式中，
所代入的“如果”的內容。
所代入的“如果”的內容。
06:37
of the equation.
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06:38
I can demonstrate that to you.
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讓我來給你們解釋一下。
06:40
Can any of you recall a time
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你們可以回憶起這樣一刻嗎？
06:42
when you were confronted with a scene
of such spectacular beauty
of such spectacular beauty
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當你們面對一幕壯麗美景，
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that it took you outside of yourself
into a place of great serenity?
into a place of great serenity?
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它讓你忘記自我，
變得無比平靜。
變得無比平靜。
06:52
Maybe a rainbow, a mountain range,
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可能是一道彩虹，一段山脈，
06:54
a valley, the sea.
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一個村莊，一片海洋。
06:56
And if you remember that --
raise your hands if you could.
raise your hands if you could.
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如果你回想起了這一刻，
可以的話請你們舉一下手，
可以的話請你們舉一下手，
06:59
Virtually all of you could, right?
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幾乎每個人都有過，對吧？
07:01
Have you ever wondered why that happened?
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你可曾想過，爲什麽會
發生這樣的事情？
發生這樣的事情？
07:04
The reason that happened is that somehow,
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它會發生的原因是，
不知怎麼的，
不知怎麼的，
07:08
for some reason,
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不知什麽原因，
07:10
at that instant,
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在那一瞬間，
07:13
you accepted the universe
exactly as it was.
exactly as it was.
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你接受了這個世界本來的樣貌。
07:18
You didn't say,
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你不會說，
07:19
"That's a beautiful rainbow,
but it's kind of off to the left,
but it's kind of off to the left,
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“那是一道美麗的彩虹，
但是它的位置有點偏左，
但是它的位置有點偏左，
07:22
and if I could move it
200 yards to the right,
200 yards to the right,
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如果我可以把它向右移動 200 碼，
07:25
it would be ever so much more beautiful."
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它會變得更美麗。”
07:27
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
07:29
You didn't say,
"That's a beautiful valley,
"That's a beautiful valley,
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你不會說，“那是一個漂亮的山谷，
07:31
but the tree in the foreground
has too many crooked branches.
has too many crooked branches.
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但是前景中的那棵樹
有太多歪斜的樹枝了，
有太多歪斜的樹枝了，
07:34
So if you gave me
a chainsaw and 20 minutes,
a chainsaw and 20 minutes,
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如果你給我一個電鋸和 20 分鐘，
07:36
I'd make it ever so much better."
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我可以把它變得更美麗。”
07:39
Oh no, the rainbow off-center
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當然不會，偏離中心的彩虹
07:40
was just fine.
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挺好的。
07:41
The tree with its crooked branches
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有著歪斜樹枝的樹
07:43
was just fine.
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也挺好的。
07:44
And the moment you accepted
the universe just as it was,
the universe just as it was,
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當你接受這個世界
原本樣貌的那一刻，
原本樣貌的那一刻，
07:49
your habitual-wanting self dropped away,
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你習慣性需求的自我
就會消失了，
就會消失了，
07:53
and the happiness which is
your innate nature surfaced,
your innate nature surfaced,
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而你與生俱來的幸福感
就會浮現出來，
就會浮現出來，
07:56
and you felt it.
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而且你能感受幸福的存在。
07:57
And I know you felt it because now,
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我之所以知道你感覺到了幸福，
08:00
even now after all those years,
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是因為即使過了這麼多年，
08:02
you can still remember it.
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你依舊仍會記得這種感覺。
08:06
The problem is that your life right now,
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問題是你現在的生活，
08:09
with all of the problems that you have --
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以及你生活中的所有難題——
08:11
more precisely, all of the problems
that you think you have --
that you think you have --
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準確的說，是你認為
你有的所有難題——
你有的所有難題——
08:16
is equally perfect.
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其實同樣完美，
08:19
But you do not accept it.
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只是你不能接受。
08:21
In fact, you're spending all your time
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事實上，你花了你所有的時間，
08:24
striving with might and main
to make it different.
to make it different.
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竭盡全力讓它變得有所不同。
08:28
You are not accepting it.
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你不能接受它。
08:31
And when you're not accepting it,
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當你不能接受它的時候，
08:33
you're buying into the if-then model:
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你就會開始相信
“如果-然後"的模式：
“如果-然後"的模式：
08:35
if this happens, then I will be happy.
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如果這個發生了，
然後我就會幸福。
然後我就會幸福。
08:38
And it's the model itself that is flawed.
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而這個模式本身卻有缺陷。
08:43
So let me show you how
you can get out of that,
you can get out of that,
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因此，讓我來告訴你
如何擺脫這個心理模式，
如何擺脫這個心理模式，
08:45
or at least you can begin the steps
towards getting out of that.
towards getting out of that.
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至少你可以邁出
擺脫它的第一步。
擺脫它的第一步。
08:50
I'd like to share with you that action.
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我願意與你分享這個行動。
08:52
We all live our lives because we want
to achieve something, correct?
to achieve something, correct?
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我們活著是因為我們想要
實現一些夢想，對嗎？
實現一些夢想，對嗎？
08:56
You know, we are here
and we want to have something.
and we want to have something.
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你知道，我們現在在這裡，
都想要一些東西。
都想要一些東西。
08:58
Alex wants to have
a successful conference.
a successful conference.
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亞歷克斯想要舉辦
一個成功的研討會。
一個成功的研討會。
09:01
You know, many of you want to have
great programs for your companies
great programs for your companies
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你們很多人都想要為公司
完成一些宏圖偉業。
09:05
that are very successful.
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09:06
You want to progress, have more money,
all of that, is that correct?
all of that, is that correct?
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你想要進步，想有更多的錢，
所有這些，對嗎？
所有這些，對嗎？
09:13
Each of those is an outcome;
you would like something to happen.
you would like something to happen.
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但這每一個都只是一個結果；
你希望發生的事情。
你希望發生的事情。
09:17
Now, I'd like you to think
about the following:
about the following:
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現在，我希望你們想一下：
09:20
actions are within your control,
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行動都在你的控制範圍內，
09:22
not entirely, but to a large extent.
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雖不完全是，但很大程度上是。
09:24
The outcome is completely
out of your control.
out of your control.
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但結局是你無法左右的，
09:27
OK?
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是吧？
09:28
Actions are within your control.
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行動在你的掌控之中，
09:30
The outcome is completely
outside your control.
outside your control.
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而結局完全不可控。
09:32
Have any of you recognized
that when you have a goal
that when you have a goal
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你們發現沒有？當你有一個目標，
09:35
and you start to work towards it,
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並且你向著目標開始努力前進，
09:37
some of the time
you don't achieve your goal,
you don't achieve your goal,
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有時，你僅僅是沒有實現目標，
09:39
and some of the time what you get
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而有時，你得到的
09:41
is the exact opposite of what you wanted?
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與預期恰恰相反。
09:43
Has that happened to any of you?
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你們身上是不是都發生過這種事？
09:46
Like there was a friend of mine
who said, "Gee, you know,
who said, "Gee, you know,
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我有一個朋友，
他說：“天哪，你知道嗎，
他說：“天哪，你知道嗎，
09:49
I have not been paying
a lot of attention to my wife,
a lot of attention to my wife,
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我已經很久沒有
關心過我的妻子了，
關心過我的妻子了，
09:53
and this has to change."
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情況必須要有所改變。”
09:54
So the next time
we went on a business trip,
we went on a business trip,
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所以下一次我們出差的時候，
09:56
he bought a very expensive dress for her.
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他就為他的妻子買了一件
非常昂貴的裙子，
非常昂貴的裙子，
09:59
And this was his way of showing,
you know, I care for you,
you know, I care for you,
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這是他表達的方式，
你看，我關心你，
你看，我關心你，
10:02
and nice things would happen.
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他以為會有好事發生。
10:04
And when he presented the gift
to his wife, her immediate reaction was,
to his wife, her immediate reaction was,
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但是當他把禮物送給他妻子的時候，
他妻子的第一反應是：
他妻子的第一反應是：
10:09
"After 20 years of marriage,
you don't know my size?"
you don't know my size?"
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“結婚20年，你竟然不知道我的尺碼？”
10:12
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
10:14
"And furthermore, don't you know
I never wear this kind of thing?"
I never wear this kind of thing?"
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“還有，難道你不知道
我從來不穿這類衣服嗎？”
我從來不穿這類衣服嗎？”
10:19
And the next thing you know,
he had a full-blown marital spat.
he had a full-blown marital spat.
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接下來發生的事情你們應該
都能預料到，他們大吵一架。
都能預料到，他們大吵一架。
10:23
Has that happened to any of you?
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你們身上發生過這種事嗎？
10:24
You've taken action
for a particular outcome
for a particular outcome
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為一個特定的結果採取行動，
10:27
and the outcome you got
was the exact opposite
was the exact opposite
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但是結果卻與預期
10:29
of what you wanted?
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背道而馳？
10:31
Happens all the time.
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這其實很常見。
10:33
Well, we live in a world
where what we think of,
where what we think of,
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我們生活在這樣一個世界裡，
10:37
what we invest in,
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我們所想的、所投入的
10:39
is the outcome.
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都是結果。
10:40
We define our life in the following way:
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我們是用以下的方式來定義生活的：
10:42
here I am, here is where I want to go,
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我現在在這裡，這是我想去的地方，
10:44
these are the steps I have to take
in order to get from where I am
in order to get from where I am
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而這些是我從這裡到我想去的地方，
所必須採取的步驟。
所必須採取的步驟。
10:48
to where I want to go,
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10:49
and if I succeed, life is wonderful.
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如果我成功了，生活很精彩，
10:52
And if I don't, then I have failed,
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如果我沒有，那我就失敗了，
10:56
life is no good, life sucks.
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生活不好，生活糟透了。
11:00
True? False?
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對吧？
11:02
That is how we live.
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這就是我們生活的方式，
11:03
We invest in the outcome,
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我們投入了很多心力在結果上，
11:05
and as I've just pointed out,
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正如我剛剛所說，
11:07
the outcome is frequently different
from what we would like,
from what we would like,
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結果通常不如人意，
11:11
and sometimes the diametric opposite
of what we would like.
of what we would like.
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甚至背道而馳。
11:14
You invest in the outcome
and you are guaranteed to have
and you are guaranteed to have
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你投入在結果上，你一定會
11:18
more than your share of frustration, angst
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有沮喪、焦慮
11:20
and all the rest of the stuff
that makes life suck.
that makes life suck.
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以及所有可以讓你生活糟透了的東西。
11:24
There is an alternative.
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其實我們還有另一個選擇，
11:26
And the alternative is that you do not
invest in the outcome,
invest in the outcome,
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這個選擇就是不去投入結果，
11:29
you invest in the process.
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而是投入過程。
11:33
And the best way to describe that
is a quote by John Wooden.
is a quote by John Wooden.
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引用約翰．伍登的一句名言
來描述最為貼切。
來描述最為貼切。
11:37
I don't know how many of you
are familiar with John Wooden.
are familiar with John Wooden.
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我不知道你們有多少人
認識約翰．伍登，
認識約翰．伍登，
11:40
He's very well-known in the United States
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他在美國非常出名，
11:42
and certainly among basketball fans.
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尤其是在籃球迷中。
11:45
He's the only person ever to make
the basketball Hall of Fame
the basketball Hall of Fame
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他是唯一一位以
運動員和教練雙重身份
運動員和教練雙重身份
11:49
both as a player and as a coach.
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入選籃球名人堂的人。
11:51
And what he told his entering team --
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他對他的入圍團隊說過的話中
11:53
he led UCLA to an unprecedented number
of victories and finals in the NCAA --
of victories and finals in the NCAA --
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——他曾帶領 UCLA 數度闖入 NCAA 的決賽
並取得空前的勝利——
並取得空前的勝利——
11:59
and what he used to tell any new team
is he never spoke about winning.
is he never spoke about winning.
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他對任何新人團隊，
都從未提及要獲勝的事情。
都從未提及要獲勝的事情。
12:06
He always said, "When it's over
and you look in the mirror,
and you look in the mirror,
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他經常說：“當比賽結束，
你對著鏡子中的自己捫心自問，
你對著鏡子中的自己捫心自問，
12:10
did you do the best
that you were capable of?
that you were capable of?
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你竭盡全力了嗎？
12:13
And if you did the best
that you were capable of,
that you were capable of,
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如果你全力以赴了，
12:16
the score doesn't matter.
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分數就不重要。
12:18
But I would suspect that if you did
the best that you were capable of,
the best that you were capable of,
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但當你全力以赴的時候，
12:22
you will find the score to your liking."
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你會發現，分數通常
也會讓你很滿意。”
也會讓你很滿意。”
12:26
That is investing in a process.
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這就是投入的過程。
12:29
What we do is the exact opposite.
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但是現在我們所做的恰恰相反，
12:31
We invest in the outcome.
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我們投入心力在結果上。
12:33
This is what I want -- oh,
I want it so desperately,
I want it so desperately,
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這是我想要的——我那麼渴望得到它，
12:36
because if I get it I will be happy.
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因為如果我得到了它我就會幸福。
12:38
And you try with might and main,
to do whatever you can,
to do whatever you can,
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你竭盡全力，費盡心機，
12:42
but you are always focusing
on, "This is the outcome."
on, "This is the outcome."
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但你只關注在
“這就是我要的結果”。
“這就是我要的結果”。
12:46
Now, focusing on the outcome is fine.
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你可以關注結果，
12:48
It gives you direction.
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它可以為你指明方向。
12:50
Investing in the outcome means
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但投入心力在結果上，意味著，
12:52
that you make the achievement
of a particular outcome
of a particular outcome
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你在特定結果上獲得的成就
12:57
dependent for your well-being.
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決定了你的幸福。
12:59
And that is a surefire recipe for failure.
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這絕對是個失敗的方法。
13:03
What you can do is something else.
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你能做的絕不是這些，
13:05
You can invest in the process.
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你可以投入在過程中。
那就是，一旦你做了決定，
這是我在的地方，
這是我在的地方，
13:09
That is, once you have determined,
here is where I am,
here is where I am,
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13:12
here is where I want to be,
and that's fine,
and that's fine,
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這是我想要去的地方，
這就可以了。
這就可以了。
13:15
you focus on the outcome only
to the extent that it gives you direction,
to the extent that it gives you direction,
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你在某種程度上關注結果
僅僅是因為它可以指引你方向，
僅僅是因為它可以指引你方向，
13:19
and then you invest yourself
completely in the process.
completely in the process.
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然後你要全心投入到過程中。
13:22
You say, here are the steps
you want to take,
you want to take,
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你會說，這些是你想要採取的步驟，
13:24
and you put everything into it.
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你投入一切，
13:26
And if you succeed, wonderful.
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如果你成功了，很好！
13:30
And if you don't succeed,
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如果你沒有成功，
13:32
still wonderful,
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還是很棒啊！
13:36
because now you have a new starting point,
and from that new starting point,
and from that new starting point,
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因為你現在有了一個新的起點，
從這個新的起點出發，
從這個新的起點出發，
13:39
you select another outcome and keep going.
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你選擇一個新的結果，繼續前行。
13:42
And when you do that, you will find
that every day is a blast.
that every day is a blast.
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當你這樣做的時候，
你會發現每一天都是驚喜。
你會發現每一天都是驚喜。
13:46
Let me give you an example.
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讓我來舉一個例子，
13:48
And if you have children -- raise
your hands if you have children.
your hands if you have children.
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如果你有孩子——
如果你有孩子的話請舉手，
如果你有孩子的話請舉手，
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Have you ever seen
a small child learn to walk?
a small child learn to walk?
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各位見過初學走路的嬰兒嗎？
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What happens, and this happens
typically between 11 and 13 months,
typically between 11 and 13 months,
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這通常是在嬰兒
11 至 13 個月大的時候，
11 至 13 個月大的時候，
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is the child gets up
and she sees everybody walking,
and she sees everybody walking,
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常常是這樣：孩子起床後，
她看到每個人都在走路，
她看到每個人都在走路，
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she wants to walk, she gets up,
she falls down, she starts crying
she falls down, she starts crying
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她想要走路，她站起來，
她摔倒，她開始哭，
她摔倒，她開始哭，
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and momma runs up and comforts her,
kisses the place, makes it well.
kisses the place, makes it well.
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媽媽跑過去安慰她，
親親受傷的地方，撫平孩子的情緒。
親親受傷的地方，撫平孩子的情緒。
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She tries again, falls down,
mommy runs up again.
mommy runs up again.
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她又開始嘗試，摔倒，媽媽再跑來。
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After some time, mommy feels tired
and no longer runs up
and no longer runs up
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幾次之後，媽媽感覺疲憊了不再理會。
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and the child stops crying,
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這時孩子會停止大哭，
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and then she gets up, takes a step
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站起來，邁出一步，
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and doesn't fall down,
and then she takes another,
and then she takes another,
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沒有摔倒，接下來她又邁出另一步，
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and a beautiful smile comes on her face.
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然後燦爛地笑了起來。
14:24
And very soon, generally within 24 hours,
she's walking all over the place,
she's walking all over the place,
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很快，通常是在 24 小時內，
她就會到處走來走去，
她就會到處走來走去，
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upsetting your living room arrangements.
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弄亂你井然有序的客廳。
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And you know you've gone
to a new stage of parenting.
to a new stage of parenting.
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你開始意識到，你已經進入
育兒的新階段了。
育兒的新階段了。
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Right?
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對嗎？
14:34
Now, imagine what would happen
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現在，想想
14:37
if each time the child fell,
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如果孩子每次跌倒時
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she would say, "Oh my God, I failed again.
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都說，“天哪，我又摔倒了，
14:43
I'm never going to learn to walk."
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我再也不學走路了。
“這樣會發生什麽？
“這樣會發生什麽？
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And you have to get counseling for her
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你必須幫她心理輔導，
14:48
to help her deal with
feelings of inadequacy
feelings of inadequacy
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幫她解決無力感、
14:51
and not being able to achieve
and fail yet again.
and fail yet again.
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挫敗感和失望感。
14:55
How long do you think it would take her
to learn to walk if you had to do that,
to learn to walk if you had to do that,
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你覺得這樣的話，孩子需要
多久才能學會走路？
多久才能學會走路？
14:59
if every three times she fell down,
you had to get a counselor
you had to get a counselor
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如果孩子每次跌到，
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to counsel her and so on?
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你每次都得開導她、安慰她等等...？
15:04
Sounds funny, doesn't it?
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聽起來很可笑，不是嗎？
15:06
But that is exactly what we're doing.
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但這恰恰是我們現在正在做的。
15:08
What the child is doing
is focusing on the process.
is focusing on the process.
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孩子所做的就是投入過程，
15:13
She's investing in the process,
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她投入在過程中，
15:15
not in the outcome.
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而不是結果。
15:18
What we do is the exact opposite.
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我們所做的恰恰相反。
15:21
As we grow up, we lose the ability
to invest in the process,
to invest in the process,
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隨著我們長大，
我們逐漸失去投入過程的能力，
我們逐漸失去投入過程的能力，
15:25
we start investing in the outcome.
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我們開始投入結果。
15:27
By definition the outcome
is outside of our control,
is outside of our control,
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但顯而易見的是，
結果都不如你意，
結果都不如你意，
15:31
and if that's where we spend
all of our emotional energy,
all of our emotional energy,
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如果我們將所有的
情感能量花在這裡，
情感能量花在這裡，
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we are going to get drained as we do.
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遲早有一天我們會耗盡心力。
15:36
But if, on the other hand, we said,
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但是，另一方面，我們說，
15:38
"Here is the outcome,
I am going to invest in the process
I am going to invest in the process
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“這是結果，我要投入過程，
15:41
and give it every single bit I could,"
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並付出每一份努力，”
15:44
every day is a blast,
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每天就都是驚喜。
15:46
and you're well on your way to achieving
the vision that I outlined to you.
the vision that I outlined to you.
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而你正一步一步地邁向
我為你勾勒的願景路上。
我為你勾勒的願景路上。
15:51
The question that I get all the time,
is people say, "Professor Rao,
is people say, "Professor Rao,
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人們一直問我，“拉奧教授，
15:54
but nothing makes me passionate."
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可是沒有東西可以讓我產生激情。”
15:57
So I say, "OK, what would?"
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然後我說，“好，那什麽
會讓你產生激情呢？”
會讓你產生激情呢？”
15:58
And they invariably come up with,
you know, here is a list of things.
you know, here is a list of things.
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答案每次都是，
你知道的，一個清單。
你知道的，一個清單。
16:02
Here's my job and here's how much it pays,
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這是我要的工作，
這是我要的工資，
這是我要的工資，
16:04
this is the kind of person my boss is,
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我要的老闆是這樣的人，
16:06
the kind of people my colleagues are,
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我要的同事是那樣的人，
16:08
and here's how my customers are,
here's how much I travel,
here's how much I travel,
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我要的客戶是怎樣的人，
我要多久旅行一次，
我要多久旅行一次，
16:11
here's how big my office is,
how deep the carpeting is,
how deep the carpeting is,
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我要辦公室有多大，
我要地毯有多深，
我要地毯有多深，
16:13
how many windows I have --
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我要有多少扇窗戶——
16:15
a bunch of parameters.
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一大堆的因素。
16:17
And what I tell them is what
I want to share with you,
I want to share with you,
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我告訴他們的，
也是我現在想與你分享的，
也是我現在想與你分享的，
16:20
because all of that stuff --
first of all, it doesn't exist.
first of all, it doesn't exist.
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因為所有的這些東西，
首先，都不存在。
首先，都不存在。
16:23
But second, even if it did
and you were plugged into it,
and you were plugged into it,
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其次，即使存在，你為之努力，
16:26
it would not take more than six months
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最多 6 個月，
16:28
for you to be the same sorry,
miserable self there as you are now,
miserable self there as you are now,
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你又會像現在這樣
一樣的遺憾、痛苦。
一樣的遺憾、痛苦。
16:32
because passion exists inside you.
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因為激情也是你與生俱來的，
16:36
It does not exist in the job.
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而不是在工作中。
16:39
And if you don't find a way
to ignite it within you
to ignite it within you
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如果你不找到一個方式
16:43
right where you are,
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將心中的激情點燃，
16:44
you are not going to find it outside.
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你無法從外界找到它。
16:48
But if you do find a way
to ignite it where you are,
to ignite it where you are,
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如果你找到一種方式
將心中的激情點燃，
將心中的激情點燃，
16:53
then you will find that the external world
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你會發現一個全新的自己，
16:55
rearranges itself
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生活中的一切也都隨之
16:59
to accommodate the new person
that you are becoming.
that you are becoming.
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變得煥然一新。
17:03
And as you do that, you will find
that miracles happen on a regular basis.
that miracles happen on a regular basis.
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如果你這樣做了，
你會發現奇跡常常發生。
你會發現奇跡常常發生。
17:08
Persons come up
whom you're delighted to meet.
whom you're delighted to meet.
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你樂意遇見的人會出現，
17:10
New people enter your life.
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你會認識新的人，
17:11
It's just a breeze,
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這都很輕而易舉。
17:14
because all you do in your life
is you take journeys.
is you take journeys.
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因為你的生活已然成為一場旅途，
17:17
You came here to this conference;
you went on a journey.
you went on a journey.
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你來參加這次研討會，你在旅途中；
17:21
You hang around the water cooler,
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你安裝水冷卻機，
17:22
talking about how terrible
your place of work is;
your place of work is;
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抱怨艱苦的工作環境時，
17:25
you went on a journey.
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你在旅途中；
17:27
You watch "Desperate Housewives,"
you go on a journey.
you go on a journey.
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你看“絕望的主婦”時，你在旅途中，
17:29
You go on a journey
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這個旅途是
17:31
where 40-something women are having
affairs with 19-something gardeners
affairs with 19-something gardeners
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40多歲的主婦在丈夫
與模特廝混的時候
與模特廝混的時候
17:34
while the husbands
are playing around with models.
are playing around with models.
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與 19 歲園丁出軌的旅途。
17:37
All you do is go on journeys.
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你所要做的一切就是踏上旅途。
17:39
There's nothing wrong with that,
but just ask yourself,
but just ask yourself,
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這一切沒有任何問題，
你只需要問自己：
你只需要問自己：
17:41
"Is this a journey I want to take?
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”這是我想要踏上的旅程嗎？
17:44
Does this take me to a place
I want to spend time?"
I want to spend time?"
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這段旅程最終會帶我去到
我想要去的地方嗎？“
我想要去的地方嗎？“
17:48
And if you start doing that,
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如果你開始這樣做，
17:50
you will find that your life changes.
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你會發現你的生活改變了，
17:53
The kind of people you meet,
the things you talk about,
the things you talk about,
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你遇見的人，你談論的事，
17:55
the movies you go to,
the books you read --
the books you read --
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你看的電影，你讀的書——
17:57
everything changes.
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每一件事都改變了。
18:00
And you begin all of that
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而這一切的改變，
18:03
by focusing on the process.
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都是始於你開始關注過程。
18:05
Invest in the process, not in the outcome.
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投入到過程，而不是結果。
18:09
Thank you.
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謝謝！
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Srikumar Rao - Happiness teacherExecutive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so.
Why you should listen
Srikumar Rao was an executive at Warner Communications and McGraw-Hill before he created his celebrated MBA course, "Creativity and Personal Mastery." The course -- the only business school course that has its own alumni association -- shows students how to discover their unique purpose, creativity and happiness, through group work and a philosophical perspective. Its popularity has led to write-ups in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and Business Week.
Rao is also an adviser to senior business executives, whom he helps find deeper meaning and engagement in their work. He's the author of Are You Ready to Succeed: Unconventional Strategies for Achieving Personal Mastery in Business and Life, and has been a contributing editor for Forbes. His latest book is titled Happiness at Work: Be Resilient, Motivated, and Successful - No Matter What.
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