Tiffany Kagure Mugo and Siphumeze Khundayi: How to have a healthier, positive relationship to sex
The curator of HOLAAfrica, Tiffany Kagure Mugo is a wine bar philosopher who pontificates on all things and is willing to learn about everything else. Full bioSiphumeze Khundayi - Photographer, theatre-maker, performer
Siphumeze Khundayi is founder and artistic director of HOLAAfrica, sparking conversations about sex and sexuality. Full bio
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there's no turning back now.
TKM: Hello, everyone.
that you don't.
that no matter where you come from,
Dubai to downtown London,
safe and spicy.
of rubbing our naked bodies together
affected by eons of ideas.
have some internalized ideas about sex
and some very, very strange.
to see you butt naked,
how the ideas that you internally have
tickling your elbow or kissing your thigh
monitoring and evaluation
our best sexy lives.
how to have a great sex life, right?
you have about sex.
that we need to change.
in all of their shiny newness.
on a journey of sex:
historically great sexual practices
seven billion people on this planet,
the sex thing for a long time.
we are actually good at it.
limit ideas of pleasure.
that a DJ gives his deck
pet peeve of mine.
to blame for our fear.
of every part of their anatomy,
using their sexiness.
and say, "My elbow hurts."
has a strange buzzing feeling,
the buzzing-vagina ointment?"
to simply go into supermarkets
talking about chicken or turkey.
and historical notions
to freak out when somebody says "nipple"
is admitting that it exists
like bottled water or coffee.
on the internet "by mistake."
this ailment, again,
some messed-up ideas of sex.
in our quest for coitus.
that the past can teach us
which I really wish I did --
in which African societies
before the C that shall not be named --
both social and spiritual,
healthy sexual practices.
that taught social and erotic cues.
could engage, understand
how to handle sexual urges,
the stresses and strifes of adulting.
you hiding your credit card bill
from your phone.
were so important for women.
that centered women
about one in particular
welcome to the Thunderdome.
different shapes and forms
of sensual living.
of contortionist sexual positions,
on living a good life.
and creating pleasure for women.
but back to the African erotic.
who is an orisha of the Yoruba people,
and, most importantly, sensuality,
who typify the osun force
you got that line this time.
in conception and birth
at the heart of copulation.
at the heart of the creative energy
of sexual pleasure and the erotic.
deities of fertility across Africa,
the importance of female sexuality
sexuality schools of thought
about the power of this inner force.
about the synergic nature of sex
as a social good.
that the rivers are replenished
have become some sort of battle
to subvert each other.
using sex as a weapon,
when it comes to this war.
and explore your sexuality and your sex
with healthy sexual practices.
to get really, really good.
of the monster hiding in the night?
the backseat of a car
and sliding into the present,
explain and denounce
is one of the realms
can be unpacked and explored.
to call upon the osun honey
of sex and pleasure
to build a new identity
slowly choking the life out of us.
charting their own sexual paths.
not to mention the digital realm.
creating incredible conversations,
and also cunnilingus.
But that's not the point.
are resurrecting the work of ancestors
buried and sealed.
that we are so afraid to ask,
in sticky situations.
the charting of a new sexual path
and their engagement in kink.
who does not understand consent.
is actually rope play.
is the Japanese art of rope play.
of restraining captives,
and spreading across the globe
with a respected and erotic aesthetic.
queer women would be kinksters?
slavery and a lack of bodily autonomy.
that despite the dark history
from our beautiful continent,
and beautifully constructing
now needs to rush out and engage in kink.
can come out of a history
religious and cultural pitfalls,
and pleasure means to them,
that we have about sex -- the bad ones,
and creating new ones
and natural human acts ever.
what counts as a system bug.
for their superpower to upgrade.
ABOUT THE SPEAKERSTiffany Kagure Mugo - Curator, blogger, media consultant
The curator of HOLAAfrica, Tiffany Kagure Mugo is a wine bar philosopher who pontificates on all things and is willing to learn about everything else.
Why you should listen
Tiffany Kagure curates and creates knowledge on women and sexuality on the African continent, manages spreadsheets and creates conversations -- all the while trying to figure out how to adult. Founding and running HOLAAfrica helped to bring together her various skills as it demanded all of them, all the time.
A passion for making sure people had the orgasms and conversations that elude them whilst being given the comprehensive healthy knowledge of sexuality that eluded her meant that HOLAAfrica forced her to grow as a blogger, project creator and guru of excel spreadsheets. The need to have conversations about sex and sexuality, seeing what the novel ways this could be done whilst exploring what boundaries could be pushed meant that her life at the helm of HOLAAfrica and her personal consultancy work grew, and life got wild. Sometimes the best life choices come from trying to figure out how to get through your own existence.
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Siphumeze Khundayi - Photographer, theatre-maker, performer
Siphumeze Khundayi is founder and artistic director of HOLAAfrica, sparking conversations about sex and sexuality.
Why you should listen
Siphumeze Khundayi has found art to be a great tool for her to explore and express who she is. So she makes art about the experiences of African women and their sexuality. When she is not creating and performing, she is founder and Artistic Director of HOLAAfrica, where she gets to facilitate dialogues and make sure the site is looking pretty while annoying the curator for taking ages to reply to emails. She also dedicates her life to floating through the world having conversations with the universe, struggling through yoga poses, meditating, blowing bubbles and playing Candy Crush.
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