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Lidia Yuknavitch: The beauty of being a misfit
Lidia Yuknavitch: Ljepota "autsajdera"
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Onima koji se osjećaju kao da ne pripadaju: postoji ljepota u tome što ste autsajder. Spisateljica Lidia Yuknavitch govori o svom putovanju kroz sjećanja na gubitak, sram i spor proces samoprihvaćanja. "Čak i u trenutku neuspjeha, vi ste prekrasni," kaže. "Još to ne znate, ali imate sposobnost da se obnovite beskonačno mnogo puta. U tome je vaša ljepota."
Lidia Yuknavitch - Author
In her acclaimed novels and memoir, author Lidia Yuknavitch navigates the intersection of tragedy and violence to draw new roadmaps for self-discovery. Full bio
In her acclaimed novels and memoir, author Lidia Yuknavitch navigates the intersection of tragedy and violence to draw new roadmaps for self-discovery. Full bio
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00:12
So I know TED is about a lot
of things that are big,
of things that are big,
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Znam da se TED vrti oko velikih stvari,
00:16
but I want to talk to you
about something very small.
about something very small.
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ali želim vam pričati o nečemu jako malom.
00:20
So small, it's a single word.
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Tako malome da se sastoji od jedne riječi.
00:23
The word is "misfit."
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Riječ je "autsajder".
00:25
It's one of my favorite words,
because it's so literal.
because it's so literal.
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To je jedna od mojih najdražih riječi
jer je tako bukvalna.
jer je tako bukvalna.
00:29
I mean, it's a person
who sort of missed fitting in.
who sort of missed fitting in.
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Mislim, to je osoba koja se
na nekin način zakasnila uklopiti.
na nekin način zakasnila uklopiti.
00:33
Or a person who fits in badly.
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Ili osoba koja se loše uklapa.
00:36
Or this: "a person who is poorly adapted
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Ili ova: "osoba koja se loše prilagođava
00:39
to new situations and environments."
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novim situacijama i okolinama."
00:43
I'm a card-carrying misfit.
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I sama sam autsajder.
00:46
And I'm here for the other
misfits in the room,
misfits in the room,
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I ovdje sam u ime svih
autsajdera u ovoj prostoriji,
autsajdera u ovoj prostoriji,
00:49
because I'm never the only one.
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jer nikada nisam jedina.
00:51
I'm going to tell you a misfit story.
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Ispričat ću vam priču autsajdera.
00:55
Somewhere in my early 30s,
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Negdje u ranim 30-ima
00:57
the dream of becoming a writer
came right to my doorstep.
came right to my doorstep.
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san da postanem spisateljica
došao mi je na vrata.
došao mi je na vrata.
01:02
Actually, it came to my mailbox
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Zapravo, došao mi je u sandučić
01:03
in the form of a letter that said
I'd won a giant literary prize
I'd won a giant literary prize
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u obliku pisma u kojem je pisalo da
sam osvojila veliku književnu nagradu
sam osvojila veliku književnu nagradu
01:07
for a short story I had written.
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za kratku priču koju sam napisala.
01:10
The short story was about my life
as a competitive swimmer
as a competitive swimmer
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Ta kratka priča govorila je
o mom životu kao plivačice
o mom životu kao plivačice
01:14
and about my crappy home life,
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i o mom lošem obiteljskom životu
01:17
and a little bit about how grief
and loss can make you insane.
and loss can make you insane.
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te malo o tome kako zbog tuge i
gubitka možete izgubiti razum.
gubitka možete izgubiti razum.
01:23
The prize was a trip to New York City
to meet big-time editors and agents
to meet big-time editors and agents
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Nagrada je bila putovanje u New York i
susret s poznatim urednicima i agentima
susret s poznatim urednicima i agentima
01:28
and other authors.
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te ostalim piscima.
01:30
So kind of it was the wannabe
writer's dream, right?
writer's dream, right?
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To je baš bilo ostvarenje
sna mladog pisca, zar ne?
sna mladog pisca, zar ne?
01:34
You know what I did the day
the letter came to my house?
the letter came to my house?
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Znate li što sam učinila
tog dana kada sam primila pismo?
tog dana kada sam primila pismo?
01:38
Because I'm me,
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Zato jer sam takva,
01:39
I put the letter on my kitchen table,
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stavila sam pismo na stol u kuhinji,
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I poured myself a giant glass of vodka
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natočila si veliku čašu votke
01:45
with ice and lime,
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s ledom i limetom
01:48
and I sat there in my underwear
for an entire day,
for an entire day,
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i cijeli dan sam sjedila u donjem rublju
01:52
just staring at the letter.
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te samo buljila u pismo.
01:56
I was thinking about all the ways
I'd already screwed my life up.
I'd already screwed my life up.
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Razmišljala sam kako sam si
do sada već upropastila život.
do sada već upropastila život.
01:59
Who the hell was I to go to New York City
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Tko sam ja da idem u New York
02:02
and pretend to be a writer?
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i pretvaram se da sam pisac?
02:05
Who was I?
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Tko sam ja?
02:07
I'll tell you.
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Reći ću vam.
02:08
I was a misfit.
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Ja sam autsajder.
02:10
Like legions of other children,
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Poput mnoge druge djece,
02:13
I came from an abusive household
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potekla sam iz nasilne obitelji
02:16
that I narrowly escaped with my life.
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od koje sam jedva živa pobjegla.
02:19
I already had two epically
failed marriages underneath my belt.
failed marriages underneath my belt.
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Imala sam već dva propala braka iza sebe.
02:24
I'd flunked out of college
not once but twice
not once but twice
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Ne jednom, već dva puta
sam odustala od faksa,
sam odustala od faksa,
02:27
and maybe even a third time
that I'm not going to tell you about.
that I'm not going to tell you about.
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a možda i tri puta, ali
neću vam pričati o tome.
neću vam pričati o tome.
02:30
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
02:32
And I'd done an episode
of rehab for drug use.
of rehab for drug use.
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Bila sam i na odvikavanju od droge.
02:36
And I'd had two lovely
staycations in jail.
staycations in jail.
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Dva puta sam bila u zatvoru.
02:42
So I'm on the right stage.
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Znači, sad sam na pravoj pozornici.
02:45
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
02:48
But the real reason,
I think, I was a misfit,
I think, I was a misfit,
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No, pravi razlog zašto
mislim da sam autsajder
mislim da sam autsajder
02:52
is that my daughter died
the day she was born,
the day she was born,
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je taj što je moja kćer umrla
istog dana kada se i rodila
istog dana kada se i rodila
02:55
and I hadn't figured out
how to live with that story yet.
how to live with that story yet.
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i još nisam naučila kako živjeti s time.
03:00
After my daughter died
I also spent a long time homeless,
I also spent a long time homeless,
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Nakon smrti svoje kćeri,
dugo sam bila beskućnik,
dugo sam bila beskućnik,
03:05
living under an overpass
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živjela sam ispod nadvožnjaka,
03:07
in a kind of profound state
of zombie grief and loss
of zombie grief and loss
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u stanju duboke tuge i gubitka,
03:11
that some of us encounter along the way.
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s čime se neki od nas susreću.
03:14
Maybe all of us, if you live long enough.
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Možda i svi mi, ako živite dovoljno dugo.
03:18
You know, homeless people
are some of our most heroic misfits,
are some of our most heroic misfits,
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Znate, beskućnici su
najhrabriji autsajderi
najhrabriji autsajderi
03:22
because they start out as us.
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jer počnu kao i svi mi.
03:26
So you see, I'd missed fitting in
to just about every category out there:
to just about every category out there:
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Vidite, nisam se uklopila
ni u jednu kategoriju koja postoji:
ni u jednu kategoriju koja postoji:
03:32
daughter, wife, mother, scholar.
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kćer, supruga, majka, učenica.
03:37
And the dream of being a writer
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A san da budem spisateljica
03:39
was really kind of like a small,
sad stone in my throat.
sad stone in my throat.
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bio je poput knedle u grlu.
03:46
It was pretty much in spite of myself
that I got on that plane
that I got on that plane
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Zapravo sam protivno
sama sebi sjela na avion
sama sebi sjela na avion
03:50
and flew to New York City,
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i odletjela u New York
03:52
where the writers are.
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gdje su bili pisci.
03:55
Fellow misfits, I can almost
see your heads glowing.
see your heads glowing.
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Kolege autsajderi, već vidim kako zračite.
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I can pick you out of a room.
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Točno znam tko ste.
04:00
At first, you would've loved it.
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Isprva biste uživali.
04:03
You got to choose the three
famous writers you wanted to meet,
famous writers you wanted to meet,
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Možete odabrati tri poznata
pisca koja želite upoznati
pisca koja želite upoznati
04:06
and these guys went
and found them for you.
and found them for you.
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i oni bi ih našli i doveli.
04:08
You got set up at the Gramercy Park Hotel,
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Odsjeli biste u Gramercy Park Hotelu,
04:11
where you got to drink Scotch
late in the night
late in the night
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gdje kasno navečer pijete viski
04:14
with cool, smart, swank people.
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sa super, pametnim i elegantnim ljudima.
04:16
And you got to pretend you were cool
and smart and swank, too.
and smart and swank, too.
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I možete se pretvarati da ste
i vi super i pametni i elegantni.
i vi super i pametni i elegantni.
04:21
And you got to meet a bunch
of editors and authors and agents
of editors and authors and agents
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I upoznate hrpu urednika,
pisaca i agenata
pisaca i agenata
04:24
at very, very fancy lunches and dinners.
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na jako otmjenim ručkovima i večerama.
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Ask me how fancy.
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Pitajte me koliko otmjenima.
04:31
Audience: How fancy?
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Publika: Koliko otmjenima?
04:34
Lidia Yuknavitch: I'm making a confession:
I stole three linen napkins --
I stole three linen napkins --
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Sada priznajem: ukrala sam
tri platnene salvete
tri platnene salvete
04:38
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
04:40
from three different restaurants.
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iz tri različita restorana.
04:42
And I shoved a menu down my pants.
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I sakrila sam jelovnik u hlače.
04:44
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
04:46
I just wanted some keepsakes
so that when I got home,
so that when I got home,
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Samo sam htjela neke
suvenire da, kad dođem kući,
suvenire da, kad dođem kući,
04:50
I could believe it had really
happened to me.
happened to me.
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vjerujem da mi se to stvarno dogodilo.
04:53
You know?
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Znate?
04:55
The three writers I wanted to meet
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Autorice koje sam htjela upoznati
04:57
were Carole Maso, Lynne Tillman
and Peggy Phelan.
and Peggy Phelan.
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bile su Carole Maso,
Lynne Tillman i Peggy Phelan.
Lynne Tillman i Peggy Phelan.
05:00
These were not famous,
best-selling authors,
best-selling authors,
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One nisu bile poznate,
najprodavanije spisateljice,
najprodavanije spisateljice,
05:03
but to me, they were women-writer titans.
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ali meni su bile divovi
među spisateljicama.
među spisateljicama.
05:07
Carole Maso wrote the book
that later became my art bible.
that later became my art bible.
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Carole Maso napisala je knjigu
koja je postala moja Biblija umjetnosti.
koja je postala moja Biblija umjetnosti.
05:12
Lynne Tillman gave me
permission to believe
permission to believe
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Lynne Tillman omogućila mi je da vjerujem
05:14
that there was a chance
my stories could be part of the world.
my stories could be part of the world.
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da moje priče mogu biti dio svijeta.
05:18
And Peggy Phelan reminded me
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Peggy Phelan podsjetila me
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that maybe my brains
could be more important than my boobs.
could be more important than my boobs.
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da moj mozak može
biti važniji od mojih sisa.
biti važniji od mojih sisa.
05:27
They weren't mainstream women writers,
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Nisu bile popularne spisateljice,
05:30
but they were cutting a path
through the mainstream
through the mainstream
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ali svojim su pričama krčile put
05:34
with their body stories,
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u popularnoj književnosti,
05:36
I like to think, kind of the way
water cut the Grand Canyon.
water cut the Grand Canyon.
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kao što voda prodire Grand Canyonom.
05:41
It nearly killed me with joy
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Zamalo sam umrla od sreće
05:43
to hang out with these three
over-50-year-old women writers.
over-50-year-old women writers.
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što sam se družila s te tri
spisateljice starije od 50 godina.
spisateljice starije od 50 godina.
05:46
And the reason it nearly
killed me with joy
killed me with joy
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A razlog zašto sam skoro
umrla od sreće je taj
umrla od sreće je taj
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is that I'd never known a joy like that.
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što nikada nisam osjetila takvu sreću.
05:52
I'd never been in a room like that.
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Nikada nisam bila na takvom mjestu.
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My mother never went to college.
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Moja majka nikada nije išla na faks.
05:56
And my creative career to that point
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I moja kreativna karijera je do tada
05:59
was a sort of small, sad, stillborn thing.
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bila mala, tužna i nepokretna.
06:05
So kind of in those first nights
in New York I wanted to die there.
in New York I wanted to die there.
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Zato sam prvih noći u New Yorku
htjela tamo umrijeti.
htjela tamo umrijeti.
06:08
I was just like, "Kill me now.
I'm good. This is beautiful."
I'm good. This is beautiful."
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Mislila sam, "Ubijte me sada.
Dobro sam. Ovo je prekrasno."
Dobro sam. Ovo je prekrasno."
06:13
Some of you in the room
will understand what happened next.
will understand what happened next.
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Neki od vas ovdje će razumjeti
što se sljedeće dogodilo.
što se sljedeće dogodilo.
06:16
First, they took me to the offices
of Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
of Farrar, Straus and Giroux.
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Prvo su me odveli u urede
Farrar, Straus i Girouxa.
Farrar, Straus i Girouxa.
06:21
Farrar, Straus and Giroux
was like my mega-dream press.
was like my mega-dream press.
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Farrar, Straus i Giroux su
mi bili izdavači iz snova.
mi bili izdavači iz snova.
06:25
I mean, T.S. Eliot and Flannery O'Connor
were published there.
were published there.
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Mislim, objavili su knjige
T. S. Elliota i Flannery O'Connor.
T. S. Elliota i Flannery O'Connor.
06:29
The main editor guy sat me down
and talked to me for a long time,
and talked to me for a long time,
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Glavni urednik me posjeo i
dugo razgovarao sa mnom,
dugo razgovarao sa mnom,
06:33
trying to convince me I had a book in me
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pokušavajući me uvjeriti
da mogu napisati knjigu
da mogu napisati knjigu
06:36
about my life as a swimmer.
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o svom životu kao plivačice.
06:38
You know, like a memoir.
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Znate, poput memoara.
06:40
The whole time he was talking to me,
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Cijelo vrijeme kada je pričao,
06:42
I sat there smiling and nodding
like a numb idiot,
like a numb idiot,
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ja sam sjedila, smiješila se i
kimala glavom poput idiota,
kimala glavom poput idiota,
06:47
with my arms crossed over my chest,
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ruku prekriženih na prsima,
06:49
while nothing, nothing, nothing
came out of my throat.
came out of my throat.
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bez da sam ispustila ijedan jedini zvuk.
06:55
So in the end, he patted me
on the shoulder
on the shoulder
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Na kraju me samo potapšao po ramenu,
06:59
like a swim coach might.
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poput trenera plivanja.
07:01
And he wished me luck
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Poželio mi je sreću,
07:03
and he gave me some free books
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dao mi nekoliko knjiga
07:05
and he showed me out the door.
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i otpratio me do vrata.
07:09
Next, they took me
to the offices of W.W. Norton,
to the offices of W.W. Norton,
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Zatim sam bila u uredima W. W. Nortona
07:12
where I was pretty sure
I'd be escorted from the building
I'd be escorted from the building
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i mislila sam da će me izbaciti iz zgrade
07:15
just for wearing Doc Martens.
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zato jer sam nosila marte.
07:18
But that didn't happen.
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No, to se nije dogodilo.
07:20
Being at the Norton offices
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U Nortonovim uredima
07:22
felt like reaching up into the night sky
and touching the moon
and touching the moon
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osjećala sam se kao da sam posegnula
prema noćnom nebu i dotakla mjesec,
prema noćnom nebu i dotakla mjesec,
07:27
while the stars stitched your name
across the cosmos.
across the cosmos.
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dok su zvijezde ispisivale moje ime
preko cijelog svemira.
preko cijelog svemira.
07:31
I mean, that's how big
a deal it was to me.
a deal it was to me.
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Toliko mi je to bilo nevjerojatno.
07:33
You get it?
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Shvaćate?
07:35
Their lead editor, Carol Houck Smith,
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Njihova glavna urednica,
Carol Houck Smith,
Carol Houck Smith,
07:38
leaned over right in my face
with these beady, bright, fierce eyes
with these beady, bright, fierce eyes
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unesla mi se u lice svojim
velikim, svijetlim, divljim očima
velikim, svijetlim, divljim očima
07:42
and said, "Well, send me
something then, immediately!"
something then, immediately!"
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i rekla "Pa onda mi pošalji nešto. Odmah!"
07:46
See, now most people,
especially TED people,
especially TED people,
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Sada bi većina ljudi, pogotovo TED ljudi,
07:48
would have run to the mailbox, right?
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otrčala do sandučića, zar ne?
07:51
It took me over a decade to even imagine
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Trebalo mi je više od
desetljeća da uopće zamislim
desetljeća da uopće zamislim
07:54
putting something in an envelope
and licking a stamp.
and licking a stamp.
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kako nešto stavljam u
kuvertu i lijepim markicu.
kuvertu i lijepim markicu.
08:00
On the last night,
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Posljednje večeri
08:02
I gave a big reading
at the National Poetry Club.
at the National Poetry Club.
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održala sam čitalačku večer
u Nacionalnom klubu poezije.
u Nacionalnom klubu poezije.
08:06
And at the end of the reading,
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Na kraju večeri prišla mi je
08:08
Katharine Kidde of Kidde,
Hoyt & Picard Literary Agency,
Hoyt & Picard Literary Agency,
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Katharine Kidde iz izdavačke
kuće Kidde, Hoyt & Picard,
kuće Kidde, Hoyt & Picard,
08:12
walked straight up to me and shook my hand
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rukovala se sa mnom
08:15
and offered me representation,
like, on the spot.
like, on the spot.
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i odmah mi na licu mjesta
ponudila da me zastupaju.
ponudila da me zastupaju.
08:20
I stood there and I kind of went deaf.
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Stajala sam tamo i sve
je utihnulo na trenutak.
je utihnulo na trenutak.
08:23
Has this ever happened to you?
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Je li vam se to ikada dogodilo?
08:25
And I almost started crying
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Zamalo sam počela plakati
08:27
because all the people in the room
were dressed so beautifully,
were dressed so beautifully,
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jer su svi u prostoriji
bili tako lijepo obučeni,
bili tako lijepo obučeni,
08:31
and all that came out of my mouth was:
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a sve što sam ja uspjela reći bilo je:
08:34
"I don't know. I have to think about it."
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"Ne znam. Moram razmisliti o tome."
08:38
And she said, "OK, then," and walked away.
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Rekla je "U redu onda." i otišla.
08:44
All those open hands out to me,
that small, sad stone in my throat ...
that small, sad stone in my throat ...
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Sve te raširene ruke preda mnom,
ona mala tužna knedla u mom grlu...
ona mala tužna knedla u mom grlu...
08:51
You see, I'm trying to tell you something
about people like me.
about people like me.
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Pokušavam vam reći nešto
o ljudima poput mene.
o ljudima poput mene.
08:55
Misfit people -- we don't always know
how to hope or say yes
how to hope or say yes
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Autsajderi - ne znamo uvijek
kako se nadati ili reći "da",
kako se nadati ili reći "da",
08:59
or choose the big thing,
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ili odabrati nešto odlično,
09:01
even when it's right in front of us.
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čak i kad nam je pred nosom.
09:03
It's a shame we carry.
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To je sram koji nosimo.
09:04
It's the shame of wanting something good.
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Sram zbog toga što želimo nešto dobro.
09:06
It's the shame of feeling something good.
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Sram zbog toga što osjećamo nešto dobro.
09:08
It's the shame of not really believing
we deserve to be in the room
we deserve to be in the room
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Sram jer zapravo ne vjerujemo
da zaslužujemo biti u istoj sobi
da zaslužujemo biti u istoj sobi
09:13
with the people we admire.
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s ljudima kojima se divimo.
09:16
If I could, I'd go back
and I'd coach myself.
and I'd coach myself.
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Da mogu, vratila bih se u
prošlost i poučila samu sebe.
prošlost i poučila samu sebe.
09:19
I'd be exactly like those
over-50-year-old women who helped me.
over-50-year-old women who helped me.
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Bila bih poput onih žena starijih
od 50 godina koje su mi pomogle.
od 50 godina koje su mi pomogle.
09:23
I'd teach myself how to want things,
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Naučila bih se kako željeti stvari,
09:25
how to stand up, how to ask for them.
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kako se zauzeti za to, kako ih zatražiti.
09:28
I'd say, "You! Yeah, you!
You belong in the room, too."
You belong in the room, too."
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Rekla bih, "Ti!" Da, ti!
I ti pripadaš ovdje."
I ti pripadaš ovdje."
09:32
The radiance falls on all of us,
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Svjetlost pada na sve nas
09:34
and we are nothing without each other.
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i nismo ništa jedni bez drugih.
09:39
Instead, I flew back to Oregon,
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Umjesto toga, odletjela
sam natrag u Oregon
sam natrag u Oregon
09:42
and as I watched the evergreens
and rain come back into view,
and rain come back into view,
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i dok sam gledala kako se
pojavljuje zimzeleno drveće i kiša,
pojavljuje zimzeleno drveće i kiša,
09:48
I just drank many tiny bottles
of airplane "feel sorry for yourself."
of airplane "feel sorry for yourself."
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pila sam bočice onog
"žalim samu sebe" napitka.
"žalim samu sebe" napitka.
09:53
I thought about how, if I was a writer,
I was some kind of misfit writer.
I was some kind of misfit writer.
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Razmišljala sam, ako sam spisateljica,
onda sam neka autsajder spisateljica.
onda sam neka autsajder spisateljica.
09:59
What I'm saying is,
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Što želim reći,
vratila sam se u Oregon
bez dogovora za knjigu,
bez dogovora za knjigu,
10:00
I flew back to Oregon without a book deal,
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10:02
without an agent,
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bez agenta
10:03
and with only a headful
and heart-ful of memories
and heart-ful of memories
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i samo s puno uspomena u glavi i srcu
10:06
of having sat so near
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kako sam sjedila tako blizu
10:09
the beautiful writers.
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tih prekrasnih pisaca.
10:12
Memory was the only prize
I allowed myself.
I allowed myself.
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Sjećanje je bila jedina
nagrada koju sam si dopustila.
nagrada koju sam si dopustila.
10:17
And yet, at home in the dark,
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No, kod kuće, u mraku,
10:21
back in my underwear,
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ponovno u donjem rublju,
10:23
I could still hear their voices.
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mogla sam čuti njihove glasove.
10:26
They said, "Don't listen to anyone
who tries to get you to shut up
who tries to get you to shut up
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Govorili su, "Nemoj slušati
nikoga tko te pokušava ušutkati
nikoga tko te pokušava ušutkati
10:30
or change your story."
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ili promijeniti tvoju priču."
10:32
They said, "Give voice to the story
only you know how to tell."
only you know how to tell."
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Govorili su, "Ispričaj priču
koju samo ti možeš ispričati."
koju samo ti možeš ispričati."
10:36
They said, "Sometimes telling the story
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Govorili su, "Ponekad je pričanje priče
10:39
is the thing that saves your life."
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ono što ti spasi život."
10:43
Now I am, as you can see,
the woman over 50.
the woman over 50.
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Kao što vidite, ja sam žena starija od 50.
10:48
And I'm a writer.
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I ja sam spisateljica.
10:50
And I'm a mother.
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I majka.
10:52
And I became a teacher.
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I postala sam učiteljica.
10:54
Guess who my favorite students are.
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Pogodite tko su mi najdraži učenici.
10:58
Although it didn't happen the day
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Iako se to nije dogodilo onda
11:00
that dream letter came through my mailbox,
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kada je ono pismo iz snova
došlo u moj sandučić,
došlo u moj sandučić,
11:02
I did write a memoir,
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napisala sam memoare
11:04
called "The Chronology of Water."
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nazvane "Kronologija vode."
11:06
In it are the stories of how many times
I've had to reinvent a self
I've had to reinvent a self
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U njima se nalaze priče o tome
koliko puta sam se morala uzdići
koliko puta sam se morala uzdići
11:11
from the ruins of my choices,
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iz ruševina svojih odabira,
11:14
the stories of how my seeming failures
were really just weird-ass portals
were really just weird-ass portals
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priče o tome kako su svi oni
neuspjesi bili samo jako čudni prolazi
neuspjesi bili samo jako čudni prolazi
11:20
to something beautiful.
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do nečega prekrasnog.
11:22
All I had to do
was give voice to the story.
was give voice to the story.
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Sve što sam trebala je ispričati tu priču.
11:27
There's a myth in most cultures
about following your dreams.
about following your dreams.
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U većini kultura postoji mit
da treba slijediti svoje snove.
da treba slijediti svoje snove.
11:32
It's called the hero's journey.
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Zove se putovanje junaka.
11:35
But I prefer a different myth,
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No, ja više volim drugi mit,
11:37
that's slightly to the side of that
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koji je malo drugačiji od ovoga
11:39
or underneath it.
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ili je povezan s time.
11:41
It's called the misfit's myth.
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Zove se mit autsajdera.
11:43
And it goes like this:
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Ide ovako:
11:45
even at the moment of your failure,
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čak i u trenutku neuspjeha,
11:47
right then, you are beautiful.
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upravo tada, vi ste prekrasni.
11:51
You don't know it yet,
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Ne znate to još,
11:52
but you have the ability
to reinvent yourself
to reinvent yourself
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ali imate sposobnost da se beskonačno
11:55
endlessly.
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obnavljate.
11:57
That's your beauty.
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To je vaša ljepota.
11:59
You can be a drunk,
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Možete biti pijanac,
12:01
you can be a survivor of abuse,
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možete biti žrtva nasilja,
12:03
you can be an ex-con,
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možete biti bivši zatvorenik,
12:05
you can be a homeless person,
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možete biti beskućnik,
12:06
you can lose all your money
or your job or your husband
or your job or your husband
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možete izgubiti sav novac,
ili posao, ili muža,
ili posao, ili muža,
12:09
or your wife, or the worst thing of all,
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ili ženu ili, najgore od svega,
12:12
a child.
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dijete.
12:13
You can even lose your marbles.
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Možete čak izgubiti i razum.
12:15
You can be standing dead center
in the middle of your failure
in the middle of your failure
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Možete nepomično stajati
usred svog neuspjeha
usred svog neuspjeha
12:20
and still, I'm only here to tell you,
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i još uvijek ću vam reći,
12:22
you are so beautiful.
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vi ste prekrasni.
12:25
Your story deserves to be heard,
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Zaslužujete da se vaša priča čuje
12:27
because you, you rare
and phenomenal misfit,
and phenomenal misfit,
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jer vi, vi rijetki i izvanredni autsajder,
12:31
you new species,
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vi nova vrsta,
12:34
are the only one in the room
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jedini ste u prostoriji
12:36
who can tell the story
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koji možete ispričati priču
12:38
the way only you would.
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samo onako kako vi to možete.
12:41
And I'd be listening.
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A ja ću slušati.
12:44
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
12:46
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Lidia Yuknavitch - AuthorIn her acclaimed novels and memoir, author Lidia Yuknavitch navigates the intersection of tragedy and violence to draw new roadmaps for self-discovery.
Why you should listen
Writer Lidia Yuknavitch discovered her calling after an interrupted journey as a would-be Olympic swimmer. Her prose erases the boundaries between memoir and fiction, explodes gender binaries and focuses on the visceral minutiae of the body.
She was inspired by Ken Kesey (with whom she collaborated on a collective novel project at Oregon University); her latest book, The Small Backs of Children, stands as a fictional counterpoint to her memoir The Chronology of Water, which has garnered her a cult following for its honesty and intensity.
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