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Darieth Chisolm: How revenge porn turns lives upside down
Darieth Chisolm: Bagaimana porno balas dendam bisa mengubah kehidupan
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Bagaimana jika Anda menjadi korban porno balas dengam atau penganiayaan dunia maya. Hanya sedikit, kata wartawan dan aktivis Darieth Chisolm, yang mengalami skenario mengerikan dari foto vulgar yang diambil tanpa sepengetahuannya atau konten yang dibagikan di internet. Beliau menjelaskan bagaimana beliau bekerja untuk membantu para korban serta memberi penjelasan tentang undang-undang terkini yang bertujuan untuk memidana para pelaku kejahatan.
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activist
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
Darieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach. Full bio
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00:12
I had about five minutes
before I was set to deliver a talk
before I was set to deliver a talk
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Ada waktu sekitar lima menit
sebelum saya memberi ceramah
sebelum saya memberi ceramah
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to a bunch of business owners
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kepada pemilik perusahaan
00:17
about visibility and being on camera.
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tentang tampil dan direkam kamera.
00:20
After all, I was
the so-called expert there,
the so-called expert there,
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Lagi pula, saya ahli dalam topik itu,
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the former 20-year television news anchor
and life and business coach.
and life and business coach.
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mantan pembaca berita televisi 20 tahun,
serta pelatih kehidupan dan bisnis.
serta pelatih kehidupan dan bisnis.
00:28
I happened to take a look down
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
at my cell phone just to catch the time,
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Suatu kali saya melihat ponsel
untuk melihat jam,
untuk melihat jam,
dan melihat ada panggilan
tak terjawab dari mantan suami saya.
tak terjawab dari mantan suami saya.
00:32
and I noticed that I had a missed call
from my ex-husband.
from my ex-husband.
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00:36
I can still hear his voice.
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Saya masih ingat nada suaranya.
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"Darieth, what is going on?
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"Darieth, apa yang terjadi?
00:43
I just got a call from some strange man
who told me to go to this website,
who told me to go to this website,
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Barusan ada orang aneh menghubungiku,
dia menyuruhku melihat suatu situs,
dia menyuruhku melihat suatu situs,
00:47
and now I'm looking at
all of these photos of you naked.
all of these photos of you naked.
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dan sekarang aku melihat
semua fotomu tanpa busana.
semua fotomu tanpa busana.
00:52
Your private parts
are all over this website.
are all over this website.
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Bagian tubuhmu muncul di situs itu.
00:55
Who's seen this?"
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Siapa yang melihat ini?"
00:58
I couldn't think. I couldn't breathe.
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Saya tidak bisa berpikir.
Saya tidak bisa bernafas.
Saya tidak bisa bernafas.
01:02
I was so humiliated
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
and so embarrassed and so ashamed.
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Saya sangat terhina, malu, dan bingung.
01:06
I felt like my world was coming to an end.
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Rasanya seperti semua akan berakhir.
01:09
And yet, this began for me
months of pain and depression
months of pain and depression
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Inilah awal depresi lama yang menyakitkan,
01:13
and anger and confusion and silence.
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kemarahan, kebingungan, dan kebungkaman.
01:16
My manipulative, jealous,
stalker ex-boyfriend
stalker ex-boyfriend
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Mantan pacar saya yang manipulatif,
cemburuan dan penguntit
cemburuan dan penguntit
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did exactly what he said he would do:
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melakukan ancamannya:
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he put up a website with my name on it,
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dia membuat situs dengan nama saya,
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and he posted this.
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lalu membagikan foto-foto itu.
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And this.
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Dan ini.
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And several explicit photos
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Serta beberapa foto vulgar lain
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that he had taken of me
while I was asleep,
while I was asleep,
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yang diambilnya saat saya tertidur,
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living with him in Jamaica.
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waktu kami tinggal bersama di Jamaika.
01:37
For months prior to that,
he had been sending me
he had been sending me
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Beberapa bulan sebelum ini,
dia mengirimi saya
dia mengirimi saya
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threatening text messages like this.
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SMS ancaman seperti ini.
01:42
He was trying to make me out to be
some sleazy, low-life slut.
some sleazy, low-life slut.
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Dia berniat membuat saya menjadi
seperti pelacur murahan dan rendah.
seperti pelacur murahan dan rendah.
Bahkan mengancam akan membunuh saya.
01:47
He had even threatened to kill me.
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01:49
He told me that he would shoot me
in my head and stab me in my heart,
in my head and stab me in my heart,
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Akan menembak kepala saya
dan menikam jantung saya,
dan menikam jantung saya,
01:54
simply because I wanted to end
the controlling relationship.
the controlling relationship.
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hanya karena saya ingin mengakhiri
hubungan yang dikendalikannya.
hubungan yang dikendalikannya.
01:58
I couldn't believe
this was happening to me.
this was happening to me.
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Saya sangat kaget setelah mengalami ini.
02:01
I didn't even know what to call it.
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Saya bahkan tidak tahu apa sebutannya.
02:03
You might know it as
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
cyberharassment or cyberbullying.
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Mungkin disebut sebagai pelecehan
atau perundungan dunia maya.
atau perundungan dunia maya.
02:07
The media calls it "revenge porn."
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Media menyebutnya "porno balas dendam."
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I now call it "digital domestic violence."
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Saya menyebutnya "kekerasan digital."
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It typically stems from
a relationship gone bad,
a relationship gone bad,
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Ini biasanya disebabkan
oleh hubungan yang berakhir buruk,
oleh hubungan yang berakhir buruk,
02:17
where a controlling, jilted ex-lover
can't handle rejection,
can't handle rejection,
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saat mantan yang dominan
tidak terima karena dicampakkan,
tidak terima karena dicampakkan,
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so when they can't physically
put their hands on you,
put their hands on you,
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jadi saat mereka tidak bisa
menyentuh Anda secara fisik,
menyentuh Anda secara fisik,
02:24
they use different weapons:
cell phones and laptops.
cell phones and laptops.
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mereka menggunakan senjata lain:
ponsel dan laptop.
ponsel dan laptop.
02:28
The ammunition?
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Amunisinya?
02:29
Photos, videos, explicit information,
content -- all posted online,
content -- all posted online,
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Foto, video, informasi
konten vulgar, semua dibagikan online
konten vulgar, semua dibagikan online
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without your consent.
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tanpa persetujuan Anda.
02:37
I mean, let's face it --
we all live our lives online.
we all live our lives online.
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Harus disadari,
kita semua hidup di internet.
kita semua hidup di internet.
02:40
And the internet is a really small world.
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Internet adalah dunia yang kecil.
02:43
We show off our baby photos,
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Kita memamerkan foto bayi,
memulai dan mengembangkan usaha,
membuat hubungan baru,
membuat hubungan baru,
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we start and grow our businesses,
we make new relationships,
we make new relationships,
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02:47
we let the world in,
one Facebook like at a time.
one Facebook like at a time.
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kita menyampaikan pada seluruh dunia,
dengan satu "suka" di Facebook.
dengan satu "suka" di Facebook.
Apa yang saya temukan?
02:53
And you know what I found?
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Dunia yang lebih kecil.
02:54
An even smaller world.
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02:56
One in 25 women say
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
they have been impacted by revenge porn.
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Satu dari 25 wanita
mengalami porno balas dendam.
mengalami porno balas dendam.
03:01
For women under the age of 30,
that number looks like one in 10.
that number looks like one in 10.
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Bagi wanita di bawah umur 30,
menjadi 1 dari 10.
menjadi 1 dari 10.
03:06
And that leaves a few of you
in this audience as potential victims.
in this audience as potential victims.
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Artinya beberapa dari Anda sekalian
bisa menjadi calon korban.
bisa menjadi calon korban.
03:10
You want to know
what's even more alarming?
what's even more alarming?
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Dan yang lebih menakutkan?
03:12
Lack of legislation and laws
to adequately protect victims
to adequately protect victims
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Kurangnya hukum dan undang-undang
untuk melindungi korban,
untuk melindungi korban,
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and punish perpetrators.
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dan menghukum pelaku.
03:18
There's only one federal bill pending;
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Hanya ada satu hukum yang tertunda:
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it's called the ENOUGH Act,
by Senator Kamala Harris.
by Senator Kamala Harris.
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Namanya Akta ENOUGH
oleh anggota dewan Kamala Harris.
oleh anggota dewan Kamala Harris.
03:24
It would criminalize revenge porn.
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Akta itu bisa memperkarakan
porno balas dendam.
porno balas dendam.
Tapi makan waktu lama
sampai akta itu menjadi hukum.
sampai akta itu menjadi hukum.
03:27
But that could take years to pass.
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03:29
So what are we left with in the meantime?
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Lalu saat ini bagaimana?
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Flimsy civil misdemeanors.
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Ada hukuman ringan.
03:33
Currently, only 40 states and DC
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
have some laws in place for revenge porn.
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Saat ini, hanya 40 negara bagian dan DC
mempunyai hukum bagi porno balas dendam.
mempunyai hukum bagi porno balas dendam.
03:40
And those penalties vary --
we're talking $500 fines.
we're talking $500 fines.
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Dan hukuman itu berbeda-beda --
yaitu denda 500 dolar.
yaitu denda 500 dolar.
03:44
Five hundred dollars?
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Lima ratus dolar?
03:45
Are you kidding me?
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Apa-apaan itu?
Para wanita kehilangan pekerjaannya.
03:46
Women are losing their jobs.
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03:47
They're suffering
from damaged relationships
from damaged relationships
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Mereka menderita karena hubungan
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and damaged reputations.
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dan reputasi yang buruk.
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They're falling into illness
and depression.
and depression.
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Mereka jatuh sakit dan depresi.
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And the suicide rates are climbing.
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Dan angka bunuh diri naik.
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You're looking at a woman
who spent 11 months in court,
who spent 11 months in court,
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Saya adalah seorang wanita
yang menjalani proses pengadilan 11 bulan,
yang menjalani proses pengadilan 11 bulan,
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thirteen trips to the courthouse
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13 kali bolak-balik ke pengadilan,
04:04
and thousands of dollars in legal fees,
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dan ribuan dolar untuk biaya hukum,
04:06
just to get two things:
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hanya demi dua hal:
04:08
a protection from cyberstalking
and cyberabuse,
and cyberabuse,
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perlindungan dari pelecehan
dan penganiayaan dunia maya,
dan penganiayaan dunia maya,
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otherwise known as a PFA,
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yang disebut PFA,
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and language from a judge
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dan perintah dari hakim
04:15
that would force a third-party
internet company
internet company
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yang memaksa
perusahaan internet pihak ketiga
perusahaan internet pihak ketiga
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to remove the content.
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untuk menghapus semua isinya.
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It's expensive, complicated and confusing.
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Ini sangat mahal, rumit,
dan membingungkan.
dan membingungkan.
04:23
And worse, legal loopholes
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
and jurisdictional issues drag this out
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Celah hukum dan isu yurisdiksi
juga mengulur-ulur proses ini
juga mengulur-ulur proses ini
selama berbulan-bulan,
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for months,
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04:29
while my private parts
were on display for months.
were on display for months.
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sementara bagian tubuh saya
sudah dipajang berbulan-bulan.
sudah dipajang berbulan-bulan.
04:34
How would you feel if your naked body
was exposed for the world to see,
was exposed for the world to see,
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Bagaimana rasanya
jika foto tanpa busana Anda dipajang,
jika foto tanpa busana Anda dipajang,
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and you waited helplessly
for the content to be removed?
for the content to be removed?
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dan Anda hanya bisa menunggu
tanpa daya sampai semua itu dihapus?
tanpa daya sampai semua itu dihapus?
04:42
Eventually, I stumbled upon
a private company
a private company
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Akhirnya, saya menemukan
perusahaan swasta
perusahaan swasta
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to issue a DMCA notice
to shut the website down.
to shut the website down.
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yang bisa mengeluarkan
pemberitahuan DMCA untuk menutup situsnya.
pemberitahuan DMCA untuk menutup situsnya.
04:49
DMCA -- Digital Millennium Copyright Act.
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DMCA -- Digital Millennium Copyright Act.
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It's a law that regulates
digital material and content.
digital material and content.
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Ini adalah hukum yang mengatur
materi dan konten digital.
materi dan konten digital.
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Broadly, the aim of the DMCA is to protect
both copyright owners and consumers.
both copyright owners and consumers.
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Secara umum, tujuan DMCA adalah
melindungi pemilik hak cipta dan konsumen.
melindungi pemilik hak cipta dan konsumen.
05:01
So get this:
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Jadi begini:
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people who take and share nude photos
own the rights to those selfies,
own the rights to those selfies,
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orang yang mengambil dan membagi
foto telanjang memiliki hak ciptanya,
foto telanjang memiliki hak ciptanya,
05:07
so they should be able to issue a DMCA
to have the content removed.
to have the content removed.
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jadi mereka bisa mengeluarkan pemberitahuan
DMCA untuk menghapus kontennya.
DMCA untuk menghapus kontennya.
05:12
But not so fast --
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Tapi tidak semudah itu --
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because the other fight we're dealing with
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karena masalah lain yang kita hadapi
05:16
is noncompliant and nonresponsive
third-party internet companies.
third-party internet companies.
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adalah perusahaan internet pihak ketiga
yang tidak patuh dan tidak responsif.
yang tidak patuh dan tidak responsif.
05:21
And oh -- by the way,
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Sedikit menambahkan,
walaupun Anda
dan pasangan saling menyetujui,
dan pasangan saling menyetujui,
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even in consenting relationships,
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05:24
just because you get
a nude photo or a naked pic,
a nude photo or a naked pic,
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jika Anda memiliki foto telanjang,
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does not give you the right to share it,
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bukan berarti Anda berhak membagikannya,
sekali pun Anda tidak punya niat buruk.
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even [without] the intent to do harm.
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05:34
Back to my case,
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Kembali ke kasus saya,
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which happens to be further complicated
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yang lebih rumit,
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because he was stalking and harassing me
from another country,
from another country,
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karena dia menguntit
dan mengganggu saya dari negara lain,
dan mengganggu saya dari negara lain,
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making it nearly impossible
to get help here.
to get help here.
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jadi, itu menjadikannya sulit
untuk mendapat bantuan di sini.
untuk mendapat bantuan di sini.
05:45
But wait a minute --
isn't the internet international?
isn't the internet international?
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Tapi tunggu --
bukannya internet itu internasional?
bukannya internet itu internasional?
05:48
Shouldn't we have
some sort of policy in place
some sort of policy in place
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Bukankah seharusnya ada kebijakan
05:50
that broadly protects us,
regardless to borders or restrictions?
regardless to borders or restrictions?
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yang melindungi kita, tanpa
batasan negara atau pembatasan lainnya?
batasan negara atau pembatasan lainnya?
Saya tidak mungkin menyerah;
saya harus tetap berjuang.
saya harus tetap berjuang.
05:55
I just couldn’t give up;
I had to keep fighting.
I had to keep fighting.
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05:59
So I willingly, on three occasions,
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Jadi, tiga kali saya merelakan
06:02
allowed for the invasion
of both my cell phone and my laptop
of both my cell phone and my laptop
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ponsel dan laptop saya digeledah
06:07
by the Department of Homeland Security
and the Jamaican Embassy
and the Jamaican Embassy
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oleh Departemen Keamanan Dalam Negeri
dan Kedutaan Jamaika
dan Kedutaan Jamaika
06:11
for thorough forensic investigation,
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untuk investigasi forensik,
06:13
because I had maintained
all of the evidence.
all of the evidence.
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karena saya masih mempunyai buktinya.
06:17
I painstakingly shared my private parts
with the all-male investigative team.
with the all-male investigative team.
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Bagian pribadi saya terpaksa dibagikan
pada tim investigasi yang kesemuanya pria.
pada tim investigasi yang kesemuanya pria.
06:23
And it was an embarrassing, humiliating
additional hoop to jump through.
additional hoop to jump through.
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Ini rintangan tambahan yang memalukan.
06:29
But then something happened.
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Tapi sesuatu terjadi.
06:31
Jamaican authorities
actually arrested him.
actually arrested him.
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Pihak berwenang Jamaika menahannya.
06:35
He's now facing charges
under their malicious communications act,
under their malicious communications act,
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Dia menghadapi tuduhan
atas tindakan komunikasi jahat,
atas tindakan komunikasi jahat,
06:40
and if found guilty, could face
thousands of dollars in fines
thousands of dollars in fines
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dan jika ternyata bersalah,
bisa mendapat denda ribuan dolar,
bisa mendapat denda ribuan dolar,
06:44
and up to 10 years in prison.
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dan dipenjara sekitar 10 tahun.
06:46
And I've also learned that my case
is making history --
is making history --
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Saya juga menyadari
bahwa kasus saya menjadi sejarah --
bahwa kasus saya menjadi sejarah --
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it is the first international case
under this new crime.
under this new crime.
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sebagai kasus kejahatan baru pertama
dalam dunia internasional.
dalam dunia internasional.
06:54
Wow, finally some justice.
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Akhirnya, ada keadilan.
06:58
But this got me to thinking.
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Tetapi ini membuat saya berpikir.
07:00
Nobody deserves this.
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Siapa pun tak pantas mengalami ini.
07:02
Nobody deserves this level of humiliation
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Siapa pun tak pantas dipermalukan,
07:06
and having to jump through
all of these hoops.
all of these hoops.
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dan harus menghadapi semua masalah ini.
07:10
Our cyber civil rights are at stake.
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Hak dunia maya kita dipertaruhkan.
07:14
Here in the United States,
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
we need to have clear, tough enforcement;
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Di Amerika Serikat, harus ada
penegakan yang jelas dan tegas;
penegakan yang jelas dan tegas;
07:19
we need to demand the accountability
and responsiveness from online companies;
and responsiveness from online companies;
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kita harus minta pertanggungjawaban
dan keterlibatan dari perusahaan online;
dan keterlibatan dari perusahaan online;
07:24
we need to promote social responsibilities
for posting, sharing and texting;
for posting, sharing and texting;
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pertanggungjawaban sosial dalam membagi
dan mengirim pesan harus digalakkan;
dan mengirim pesan harus digalakkan;
07:28
and we need to restore dignity to victims.
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dan martabat korban harus dipulihkan.
07:33
And what about victims
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Lalu bagaimana dengan korban
yang tidak punya waktu, uang,
sumber daya untuk memerangi masalah ini,
sumber daya untuk memerangi masalah ini,
07:36
who neither have the time,
money or resources to wage war,
money or resources to wage war,
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07:39
who are left disempowered,
mislabeled and broken?
mislabeled and broken?
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yang tidak berdaya,
sudah dianggap kotor, dan buruk?
sudah dianggap kotor, dan buruk?
07:44
Two things:
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Ada dua hal:
07:46
release the shame and end the silence.
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hilangkan rasa malu dan jangan bungkam.
Rasa malu adalah inti semua ini.
07:50
Shame is at the core of all of this.
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07:53
And for every silent prisoner of shame,
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Setiap korban rasa malu yang bungkam,
07:56
it's the fear of judgment
that's holding you hostage.
that's holding you hostage.
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takut akan anggapan
orang yang menghakimi.
orang yang menghakimi.
08:00
And the price to pay
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
is the stripping away of your self-worth.
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Dan harga yang harus dibayar
adalah kehilangan harga diri Anda.
adalah kehilangan harga diri Anda.
08:05
The day I ended my silence,
I freed myself from shame.
I freed myself from shame.
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Saat saya buka suara,
saya membebaskan diri dari rasa malu.
saya membebaskan diri dari rasa malu.
08:09
And I freed myself
from the fear of judgment
from the fear of judgment
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Dan saya membebaskan diri
dari takut akan anggapan satu orang
dari takut akan anggapan satu orang
08:12
from the one person who I thought
would judge me the most --
would judge me the most --
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yang saya kira
akan paling menghakimi saya --
akan paling menghakimi saya --
08:16
my son,
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yaitu putra saya,
08:17
who actually told me,
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yang berkata kepada saya,
08:19
"Mom, you are the strongest
person that I know.
person that I know.
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"Ibu adalah orang
paling kuat yang kukenal.
paling kuat yang kukenal.
08:24
You can get through this.
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Ibu pasti bisa melalui ini.
08:26
And besides, mom -- he chose
the wrong woman to mess with."
the wrong woman to mess with."
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Pria itu belum tahu dia sedang berurusan
dengan wanita seperti apa."
dengan wanita seperti apa."
08:31
(Laughter)
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(Tertawa)
08:32
(Applause)
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(Tepuk tangan)
08:37
It was on that day that I decided
to use my platform
to use my platform
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Pada hari itulah saya memutuskan
untuk menggunakan peran saya,
untuk menggunakan peran saya,
08:41
and my story and my voice.
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serta cerita dan suara saya.
08:44
And to get started, I asked myself
this one simple question:
this one simple question:
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Untuk memulainya,
saya bertanya pada diri sendiri:
saya bertanya pada diri sendiri:
08:48
Who do I need to become now?
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Sekarang saya harus jadi siapa?
08:50
That question, in the face of everything
that I was challenged with,
that I was challenged with,
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Atas semua rintangan
yang harus saya hadapi,
yang harus saya hadapi,
pertanyaan itu mengubah hidup saya,
membuka berbagai kemungkinan bagi saya.
membuka berbagai kemungkinan bagi saya.
08:54
transformed my life and had me thinking
about all kinds of possibilities.
about all kinds of possibilities.
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08:59
I now own my story, I speak my truth,
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Sekarang saya punya cerita saya,
saya membuka kebenarannya,
saya membuka kebenarannya,
09:02
and I'm narrating
a new chapter in my life.
a new chapter in my life.
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dan saya mengisahkan
bagian baru dalam kehidupan saya.
bagian baru dalam kehidupan saya.
09:05
It's called "50 Shades of Silence."
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Namanya "50 Shades of Silence."
09:08
It's a global social justice project,
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Sebuah proyek keadilan sosial global,
09:11
and we're working to film
an upcoming documentary
an upcoming documentary
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dan kami akan membuat film dokumenter baru
09:13
to give voice and dignity to victims.
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untuk memberi suara
dan martabat kepada korban.
dan martabat kepada korban.
09:16
If you are a victim or you know
someone who is, know this:
someone who is, know this:
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Jika Anda adalah korban
atau kenal seorang korban, ketahuilah ini:
atau kenal seorang korban, ketahuilah ini:
09:21
in order to be empowered,
you have to take care of yourself,
you have to take care of yourself,
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agar bisa mempunyai daya,
Anda harus bisa menjaga diri,
Anda harus bisa menjaga diri,
dan Anda harus mencintai diri sendiri.
09:24
and you have to love yourself.
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09:26
You have to turn your anger into action,
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Anda harus mengubah
kemarahan menjadi tindakan,
kemarahan menjadi tindakan,
09:29
your pain into power
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rasa sakit menjadi kekuatan,
09:30
and your setback into a setup
for what's next for your life.
for what's next for your life.
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dan halangan menjadi persiapan
untuk kehidupan di masa yang akan datang.
untuk kehidupan di masa yang akan datang.
09:36
This is a process, and it's a journey
of self-discovery
of self-discovery
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Ini adalah sebuah proses
dan perjalanan pencarian jati diri
dan perjalanan pencarian jati diri
09:40
that might include forgiveness.
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yang mungkin termasuk rasa memaafkan.
09:42
But it definitely requires bravery,
confidence and conviction.
confidence and conviction.
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Ini pasti memerlukan
keberanian, kepercayaan, dan keyakinan.
keberanian, kepercayaan, dan keyakinan.
09:48
I call it:
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Saya menyebutnya:
09:49
finding your everyday courage.
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membentuk kebiasaan berani.
09:54
Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
09:55
(Applause)
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(Tepuk tangan)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Darieth Chisolm - Journalist, activistDarieth Chisolm is an Emmy-winning television personality, former NBC News Anchor, entrepreneur, author, international speaker and life and business coach.
Why you should listen
Darieth Chisolm works with corporate professionals, coaches, authors, speakers and visionaries to develop visibility and multimedia strategies that build brand, influence and income. She leverages her life coaching skills to help victims and survivors of assault and abuse release the shame, live with confidence and find their everyday courage.
Chisolm is also a revenge porn victim turned activist, filmmaker and founder of 50 Shades of Silence, a global movement giving voice and dignity to victims of cyber harassment and abuse. The project aims to advocate for stricter laws and tougher enforcement for cyber sexual crimes; encourage the accountability and responsiveness among online companies; promote social responsibility for texting, posting and sharing online; and restore dignity and respect to victims and survivors. It includes an upcoming feature-length documentary, a website with resources and services, and motivational and empowerment training materials to help victims.
Chisolm is currently the host of CBS's Eye on Health and PBS's Emmy-winning iQ: smartparent. Her YouTube channel and online video podcast series, Hustle & Heart TV, was a top 10 finalist for the 2015 Podcast Awards for Best Video Podcast and was ranked number one on iTunes for more than two months with subscribers and viewers in multiple countries.
Chisolm is also the author of Hustle! Why Now is the Time to Unleash your Passions, a collection of powerful and motivating stories to help readers unlock and unleash their passions and learn how to hustle in business while loving life in the process. She is also a contributing writer for Inspiring Lives and Woman of More magazines.
Chisolm received the 2018 Woman of Influence Award from the Pittsburgh Business Times and has been named Top 10 Trailblazers in Communications by Walker’s Legacy and nominated as Entrepreneur of the Year with Style Week in Pittsburgh. She has received two proclamations from the City of Pittsburgh, two proclamations from Allegheny County and a special recognition from the Senate of Pennsylvania for making an outstanding difference and profound impact in Pittsburgh.
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