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Monica Lewinsky: The price of shame
Monica Lewinsky: Cena sramu
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"Javno poniževanje kot vrsta krvavega športa se mora končati." Leta 1998, pravi Monica Lewinsky, “sem bila pacient številka nič pri izgubi osebnega ugleda, na globalni ravni in skoraj v trenutku.” Danes je internetno javno poniževanje te vrste stalnica - in je lahko pogubno. V pogumnem govoru brezkompromisno pokaže na našo spletno kulturo poniževanja in zahteva drugačen pristop.
Monica Lewinsky - Social activist
Monica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998. Full bio
Monica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998. Full bio
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00:12
You're looking at a woman
who was publicly silent for a decade.
who was publicly silent for a decade.
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Gledate žensko, ki desetletje
ni spregovorila v javnosti.
ni spregovorila v javnosti.
00:18
Obviously, that's changed,
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To se je očitno spremenilo,
00:20
but only recently.
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a le pred kratkim.
00:23
It was several months ago
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Pred nekaj meseci
00:24
that I gave my very first
major public talk
major public talk
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sem imela svoj prvi veliki javni nastop
00:27
at the Forbes 30 Under 30 summit:
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na Forbesovem srečanju
30 ljudi pod 30 let.
30 ljudi pod 30 let.
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1,500 brilliant people,
all under the age of 30.
all under the age of 30.
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1500 brilijantnih ljudi,
vsi stari manj kot 30 let.
vsi stari manj kot 30 let.
00:35
That meant that in 1998,
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To pomeni, da so bili leta 1998
00:37
the oldest among the group were only 14,
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najstarejši v tej skupini stari le 14 let
00:41
and the youngest, just four.
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in najmlajši le 4.
00:45
I joked with them that some
might only have heard of me
might only have heard of me
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Pohecala sem se,
da so nekateri slišali zame
da so nekateri slišali zame
00:48
from rap songs.
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le v rap pesmih.
00:50
Yes, I'm in rap songs.
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Tako je, v rap pesmih sem.
00:53
Almost 40 rap songs. (Laughter)
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V skoraj 40 rap pesmih.
00:58
But the night of my speech,
a surprising thing happened.
a surprising thing happened.
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A na večer mojega govora
se je zgodilo nekaj presenetljivega.
se je zgodilo nekaj presenetljivega.
01:02
At the age of 41, I was hit on
by a 27-year-old guy.
by a 27-year-old guy.
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Pri mojih 41 letih
me je osvajal 27-letnik.
me je osvajal 27-letnik.
01:09
I know, right?
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Vem.
01:12
He was charming and I was flattered,
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Bil je očarljiv in bila sem polaskana
01:14
and I declined.
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in zavrnila sem ga.
01:17
You know what his
unsuccessful pickup line was?
unsuccessful pickup line was?
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Veste, s čim me je
neuspešno poskušal očarati?
neuspešno poskušal očarati?
01:21
He could make me feel 22 again.
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Da se bom z njim
počutila spet kot 22-letnica.
počutila spet kot 22-letnica.
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(Laughter) (Applause)
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(Smeh) (Aplavz)
01:30
I realized later that night,
I'm probably the only person over 40
I'm probably the only person over 40
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Kasneje sem spoznala, da sem najbrž
edina oseba nad 40,
edina oseba nad 40,
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who does not want to be 22 again.
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ki noče imeti spet 22 let.
01:38
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:41
(Applause)
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(Aplavz)
01:47
At the age of 22,
I fell in love with my boss,
I fell in love with my boss,
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Pri 22 letih sem se zaljubila
v svojega šefa,
v svojega šefa,
01:52
and at the age of 24,
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in pri 24-ih
01:55
I learned the devastating consequences.
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sem spoznala uničujoče posledice.
01:59
Can I see a show of hands of anyone here
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Lahko dvignete roke tisti,
02:02
who didn't make a mistake
or do something they regretted at 22?
or do something they regretted at 22?
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ki niste naredili napake ali nečesa,
kar obžalujete, pri 22-ih?
kar obžalujete, pri 22-ih?
02:09
Yep. That's what I thought.
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Ja. Se mi je kar zdelo.
02:12
So like me, at 22, a few of you
may have also taken wrong turns
may have also taken wrong turns
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Tako ste, kot jaz, naredili
nekaj napačnih stvari,
nekaj napačnih stvari,
02:18
and fallen in love with the wrong person,
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se zaljubili v napačno osebo,
02:21
maybe even your boss.
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morda celo v svojega šefa.
02:24
Unlike me, though, your boss
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A za razliko od mene vaš šef
02:26
probably wasn't the president
of the United States of America.
of the United States of America.
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najbrž ni bil predsednik
Združenih držav Amerike.
Združenih držav Amerike.
02:31
Of course, life is full of surprises.
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Seveda, življenje je polno presenečenj.
02:36
Not a day goes by that I'm not
reminded of my mistake,
reminded of my mistake,
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Ne mine dan, da me ne bi
opomnili na to napako,
opomnili na to napako,
02:41
and I regret that mistake deeply.
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in to napako globoko obžalujem.
02:45
In 1998, after having been swept up
into an improbable romance,
into an improbable romance,
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Leta 1998, ko me je poneslo
v neverjetno romanco,
v neverjetno romanco,
02:52
I was then swept up into the eye
of a political, legal and media maelstrom
of a political, legal and media maelstrom
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me je poneslo tudi v politični,
pravni in medijski vrtinec,
pravni in medijski vrtinec,
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like we had never seen before.
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kot ga še nismo videli.
03:01
Remember, just a few years earlier,
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Spomnite se, samo nekaj let prej
03:03
news was consumed from just three places:
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smo novice dobili iz treh virov:
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reading a newspaper or magazine,
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z branjem časopisa ali revije,
03:09
listening to the radio,
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poslušanjem radia
03:11
or watching television.
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ali gledanjem televizije.
03:13
That was it.
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To je bilo vse.
03:14
But that wasn't my fate.
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A to ni bila moja usoda.
03:18
Instead, this scandal was brought to you
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Namesto tega vam je ta škandal prinesla
03:21
by the digital revolution.
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digitalna revolucija.
03:24
That meant we could access
all the information we wanted,
all the information we wanted,
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To je pomenilo, da smo lahko dostopali
do informacij, ki smo jih želeli,
do informacij, ki smo jih želeli,
03:27
when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere,
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ko smo jih želeli, kadarkoli, kjerkoli
03:32
and when the story broke in January 1998,
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in ko je zgodba januarja 1998 izbruhnila,
03:36
it broke online.
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je izbruhnila na internetu.
03:39
It was the first time the traditional news
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Prvič je tradicionalne novice
03:42
was usurped by the Internet
for a major news story,
for a major news story,
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izpodrinil internet pri veliki novici,
03:47
a click that reverberated
around the world.
around the world.
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klik, ki je odmeval po vsem svetu.
03:52
What that meant for me personally
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To je zame osebno pomenilo,
03:54
was that overnight I went
from being a completely private figure
from being a completely private figure
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da sem se čez noč prelevila
iz popolnoma zasebne osebe
iz popolnoma zasebne osebe
04:00
to a publicly humiliated one worldwide.
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v javno ponižano po vsem svetu.
04:05
I was patient zero
of losing a personal reputation
of losing a personal reputation
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Bila sem pacient številka nič
pri izgubi osebnega ugleda
pri izgubi osebnega ugleda
04:09
on a global scale almost instantaneously.
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na globalni ravni skoraj v trenutku.
04:15
This rush to judgment,
enabled by technology,
enabled by technology,
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Ta poziv k obsojanju,
ki ga je omogočala tehnologija,
ki ga je omogočala tehnologija,
04:17
led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.
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je tolpam omogočil, da so me
virtualno kamenjale.
virtualno kamenjale.
04:22
Granted, it was before social media,
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Res je, to je bilo
pred družabnimi omrežji,
pred družabnimi omrežji,
04:25
but people could still comment online,
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a ljudje so še vedno lahko
komentirali na spletu,
komentirali na spletu,
04:28
email stories, and, of course,
email cruel jokes.
email cruel jokes.
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si pošiljali zgodbe
in seveda, pošiljali krute šale.
in seveda, pošiljali krute šale.
04:34
News sources plastered
photos of me all over
photos of me all over
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Moje fotografije so bile povsod v novicah,
04:37
to sell newspapers, banner ads online,
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za prodajo časopisov, spletne oglase
04:41
and to keep people tuned to the TV.
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in da so bili ljudje pred televizijo.
04:45
Do you recall a particular image of me,
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Se spominjate kakšne določene moje slike,
04:49
say, wearing a beret?
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na primer z baretko?
04:53
Now, I admit I made mistakes,
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Priznam, naredila sem veliko napak,
04:56
especially wearing that beret.
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še posebej, da sem nosila tisto baretko.
05:00
But the attention and judgment
that I received, not the story,
that I received, not the story,
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A pozornost in obsojanje,
ki sem ju prejela jaz, ne zgodba,
ki sem ju prejela jaz, ne zgodba,
05:04
but that I personally received,
was unprecedented.
was unprecedented.
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ki sem ju prejela jaz osebno,
je bil brez primere.
je bil brez primere.
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I was branded as a tramp,
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Označili so me za vlačugo,
05:12
tart, slut, whore, bimbo,
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cipo, kurbo, lovačo, trapo.
05:18
and, of course, that woman.
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In seveda, za "tisto žensko".
05:22
I was seen by many
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Videli so me mnogi,
05:25
but actually known by few.
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a poznali le redki.
05:28
And I get it: it was easy to forget
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Saj razumem, lahko je bilo pozabiti,
05:32
that that woman was dimensional,
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da je bila ta oseba iz mesa in krvi,
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had a soul, and was once unbroken.
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da ima dušo, in da nekoč ni bila zlomljena.
05:41
When this happened to me 17 years ago,
there was no name for it.
there was no name for it.
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Ko se mi je to pred 17 leti zgodilo,
ni imelo imena.
ni imelo imena.
05:46
Now we call it cyberbullying
and online harassment.
and online harassment.
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Sedaj to imenujemo spletno nadlegovanje.
05:52
Today, I want to share
some of my experience with you,
some of my experience with you,
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Danes želim z vami deliti
nekaj svojih izkušenj,
nekaj svojih izkušenj,
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talk about how that experience has helped
shape my cultural observations,
shape my cultural observations,
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govoriti o tem, kako so moje izkušnje
izoblikovale moja kulturna opažanja,
izoblikovale moja kulturna opažanja,
06:00
and how I hope my past experience
can lead to a change that results
can lead to a change that results
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in kako upam, da bodo moje izkušnje
vodile v spremembo,
vodile v spremembo,
06:05
in less suffering for others.
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ki bo povzročila manj trpljenja drugim.
06:10
In 1998, I lost my reputation
and my dignity.
and my dignity.
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Leta 1998 sem izgubila svoj ugled
in dostojanstvo.
in dostojanstvo.
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I lost almost everything,
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Izgubila sem skoraj vse
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and I almost lost my life.
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in skoraj izgubila življenje.
06:24
Let me paint a picture for you.
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Naj vam naslikam sliko.
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It is September of 1998.
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September leta 1998 je.
06:32
I'm sitting in a windowless office room
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Sedim v pisarni brez oken,
06:35
inside the Office
of the Independent Counsel
of the Independent Counsel
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znotraj Urada posebnega tožilca,
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underneath humming fluorescent lights.
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pod brnečo fluorescentno lučjo.
06:43
I'm listening to the sound of my voice,
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Poslušam svoj glas,
06:46
my voice on surreptitiously
taped phone calls
taped phone calls
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moj glas na na skrivaj posnetih
telefonskih klicih,
telefonskih klicih,
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that a supposed friend
had made the year before.
had made the year before.
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ki jih je moja "prijateljica"
posnela leto prej.
posnela leto prej.
06:53
I'm here because
I've been legally required
I've been legally required
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Tu sem, ker sem morala po zakonu
06:57
to personally authenticate
all 20 hours of taped conversation.
all 20 hours of taped conversation.
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osebno identificirati
vseh 20 ur posnetega pogovora.
vseh 20 ur posnetega pogovora.
07:05
For the past eight months,
the mysterious content of these tapes
the mysterious content of these tapes
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Preteklih osem mesecev
je skrivnostna vsebina teh kaset
je skrivnostna vsebina teh kaset
07:09
has hung like the Sword
of Damocles over my head.
of Damocles over my head.
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kot Damoklejev meč visela nad mojo glavo.
07:13
I mean, who can remember
what they said a year ago?
what they said a year ago?
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Mislim, kdo se lahko spominja,
kaj je rekel pred letom dni?
kaj je rekel pred letom dni?
07:17
Scared and mortified, I listen,
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Prestrašena in osramočena sem poslušala,
07:23
listen as I prattle on
about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;
about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;
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poslušala, kako blebetam
o vsakodnevnih stvareh;
o vsakodnevnih stvareh;
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listen as I confess my love
for the president,
for the president,
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poslušala, kako priznam
svojo ljubezen do predsednika
svojo ljubezen do predsednika
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and, of course, my heartbreak;
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in seveda, moje zlomljeno srce;
07:34
listen to my sometimes catty,
sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self
sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self
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poslušam se, kako sem včasih zajedljiva,
včasih sitna, včasih trapasta,
včasih sitna, včasih trapasta,
07:39
being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;
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kruta, neodpuščajoča, neotesana;
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listen, deeply, deeply ashamed,
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poslušam, globoko, globoko osramočena,
07:48
to the worst version of myself,
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najslabšo verzijo sebe,
07:50
a self I don't even recognize.
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ki je sploh ne prepoznam.
07:56
A few days later, the Starr Report
is released to Congress,
is released to Congress,
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Nekaj dni kasneje je
Starr poročilo predal Kongresu
Starr poročilo predal Kongresu
08:00
and all of those tapes and transcripts,
those stolen words, form a part of it.
those stolen words, form a part of it.
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in vse te kasete in prepisi,
te ukradene besede, so del tega.
te ukradene besede, so del tega.
08:06
That people can read the transcripts
is horrific enough,
is horrific enough,
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Da lahko ljudje preberejo prepise,
je že dovolj grozno,
je že dovolj grozno,
08:10
but a few weeks later,
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a nekaj tednov kasneje
08:13
the audio tapes are aired on TV,
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vrtijo avdio kasete po televiziji
08:17
and significant portions
made available online.
made available online.
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in velik del je dosegljiv na spletu.
08:22
The public humiliation was excruciating.
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Javno ponižanje je bilo neznosno.
08:27
Life was almost unbearable.
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Življenje je bilo skoraj nevzdržno.
08:32
This was not something that happened
with regularity back then in 1998,
with regularity back then in 1998,
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Leta 1998 se kaj takega ni redno dogajalo
08:38
and by this, I mean the stealing
of people's private words, actions,
of people's private words, actions,
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in s tem mislim na krajo
zasebnih besed, dejanj,
zasebnih besed, dejanj,
08:43
conversations or photos,
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pogovorov in fotografij,
08:46
and then making them public --
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ki so nato postale javne --
08:49
public without consent,
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javne brez privolitve,
08:51
public without context,
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javne brez konteksta
08:53
and public without compassion.
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in javne brez sočutja.
08:58
Fast forward 12 years to 2010,
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Zavrtimo 12 let naprej v 2010
09:01
and now social media has been born.
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in rodila so se družabna omrežja.
09:05
The landscape has sadly become much
more populated with instances like mine,
more populated with instances like mine,
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Ta pokrajina je bila veliko bolj poseljena
s primeri, kot je bil moj,
s primeri, kot je bil moj,
09:10
whether or not someone
actually make a mistake,
actually make a mistake,
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ne glede na to, ali je nekdo
dejansko naredil napako,
dejansko naredil napako,
09:13
and now it's for both public
and private people.
and private people.
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in je sedaj tako za javno
kot za zasebno življenje.
kot za zasebno življenje.
09:18
The consequences for some
have become dire, very dire.
have become dire, very dire.
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Posledice so bile za nekatere
hude, zelo hude.
hude, zelo hude.
09:25
I was on the phone with my mom
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Po telefonu sem govorila svojo mamo,
09:28
in September of 2010,
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septembra leta 2010,
09:31
and we were talking about the news
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in pogovarjali sva se o novici
09:32
of a young college freshman
from Rutgers University
from Rutgers University
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o študentu prvega letnika
z Univerze Rutgers
z Univerze Rutgers
09:35
named Tyler Clementi.
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po imenu Tyler Clementi.
09:38
Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler
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Prijaznega, nežnega,
ustvarjalnega Tylerja
ustvarjalnega Tylerja
09:41
was secretly webcammed by his roommate
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je na skrivaj posnel njegov sostanovalec,
09:44
while being intimate with another man.
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medtem ko je bil intimen z moškim.
09:48
When the online world
learned of this incident,
learned of this incident,
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Ko je splet izvedel za ta incident,
09:51
the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.
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se je začelo norčevanje
in spletno nadlegovanje.
in spletno nadlegovanje.
09:56
A few days later,
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Čez nekaj dni
09:57
Tyler jumped from
the George Washington Bridge
the George Washington Bridge
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je Tyler skočil
z mostu Georgea Washingtona
z mostu Georgea Washingtona
10:01
to his death.
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v smrt.
10:03
He was 18.
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Bil je star 18 let.
10:07
My mom was beside herself about
what happened to Tyler and his family,
what happened to Tyler and his family,
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Mama je bila razburjena zaradi tega,
kar se je zgodilo Tylerju in družini,
kar se je zgodilo Tylerju in družini,
10:12
and she was gutted with pain
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in bila je polna bolečine
10:14
in a way that I just couldn't
quite understand,
quite understand,
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na način, ki ga nisem čisto razumela,
10:18
and then eventually I realized
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a sčasoma sem spoznala,
10:20
she was reliving 1998,
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da je podoživljala leto 1998,
10:23
reliving a time when she sat
by my bed every night,
by my bed every night,
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podoživljala čas, ko je vsako noč
sedela ob moji postelji,
sedela ob moji postelji,
10:30
reliving a time when she made me shower
with the bathroom door open,
with the bathroom door open,
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podoživljala čas, ko sem se morala
tuširati z odprtimi vrati,
tuširati z odprtimi vrati,
10:36
and reliving a time
when both of my parents feared
when both of my parents feared
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in podoživljala čas,
ko so se moji starši bali,
ko so se moji starši bali,
10:40
that I would be humiliated to death,
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da bi bila ponižana do smrti,
10:43
literally.
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dobesedno.
10:48
Today, too many parents
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Danes vse preveč staršev
10:51
haven't had the chance to step in
and rescue their loved ones.
and rescue their loved ones.
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nima možnosti ukrepati
in rešiti svojih dragih.
in rešiti svojih dragih.
10:54
Too many have learned
of their child's suffering and humiliation
of their child's suffering and humiliation
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Preveč jih je izvedelo za trpljenje
in ponižanje svojega otroka,
in ponižanje svojega otroka,
10:58
after it was too late.
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ko je bilo že prepozno.
11:01
Tyler's tragic, senseless death
was a turning point for me.
was a turning point for me.
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Tylerjeva tragična, nesmiselna smrt
je bila zame prelomna točka.
je bila zame prelomna točka.
11:06
It served to recontextualize
my experiences,
my experiences,
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Moje izkušnje je postavila v nov kontekst
11:10
and I then began to look at the world
of humiliation and bullying around me
of humiliation and bullying around me
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in nato sem začela gledati na svet
poniževanja in nasilništva okrog sebe
poniževanja in nasilništva okrog sebe
11:14
and see something different.
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in videla nekaj drugega.
11:18
In 1998, we had no way of knowing
where this brave new technology
where this brave new technology
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Leta 1998 nismo mogli vedeti,
kam nas bo ta krasna nova tehnologija,
kam nas bo ta krasna nova tehnologija,
11:23
called the Internet would take us.
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imenovana internet, ponesla.
11:26
Since then, it has connected people
in unimaginable ways,
in unimaginable ways,
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Od takrat je povezala ljudi
na nepredstavljive načine,
na nepredstavljive načine,
11:30
joining lost siblings,
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združila izgubljene brate in sestre,
11:32
saving lives, launching revolutions,
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rešila življenja, sprožila revolucije,
11:36
but the darkness, cyberbullying,
and slut-shaming that I experienced
and slut-shaming that I experienced
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a tema, spletno nasilje in zmerjanje
z vlačugo, ki sem jih izkusila jaz,
z vlačugo, ki sem jih izkusila jaz,
11:41
had mushroomed.
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so se razbohotili.
11:45
Every day online, people,
especially young people
especially young people
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Vsak dan so na spletu ljudje,
še posebej mladi,
še posebej mladi,
11:49
who are not developmentally
equipped to handle this,
equipped to handle this,
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ki še niso tako razviti,
da bi se spoprijeli s tem,
da bi se spoprijeli s tem,
11:52
are so abused and humiliated
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tako zlorabljeni in ponižani,
11:55
that they can't imagine living
to the next day,
to the next day,
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da si ne predstavljajo več življenja
11:57
and some, tragically, don't,
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in nekateri ga, tragično,
tudi ne doživijo
tudi ne doživijo
12:01
and there's nothing virtual about that.
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in v tem ni prav nič virtualnega.
12:05
ChildLine, a U.K. nonprofit that's focused
on helping young people on various issues,
on helping young people on various issues,
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ChildLine (Linija za otroke), neprofitna
organizacija iz VB, ki pomaga mladim,
organizacija iz VB, ki pomaga mladim,
12:11
released a staggering statistic
late last year:
late last year:
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je lani izdala neverjetno statistiko:
12:15
From 2012 to 2013,
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med letoma 2012 in 2013
12:18
there was an 87 percent increase
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so opazili 87-odstotno rast
12:22
in calls and emails related
to cyberbullying.
to cyberbullying.
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klicev in elektronske pošte
glede spletnega nadlegovanja.
glede spletnega nadlegovanja.
12:27
A meta-analysis done
out of the Netherlands
out of the Netherlands
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Meta-analiza, narejena na Nizozemskem,
12:29
showed that for the first time,
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je prvič pokazala,
12:31
cyberbullying was leading
to suicidal ideations
to suicidal ideations
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da spletno nasilje vodi
v samomorilne namene
v samomorilne namene
12:36
more significantly than offline bullying.
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veliko bolj kot nasilje izven spleta.
12:40
And you know what shocked me,
although it shouldn't have,
although it shouldn't have,
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In veste, kaj me je šokiralo,
pa me ne bi smelo:
pa me ne bi smelo:
12:43
was other research last year
that determined humiliation
that determined humiliation
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druga raziskava iz lanskega leta,
ki je dokazala, da je ponižanje
ki je dokazala, da je ponižanje
12:47
was a more intensely felt emotion
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bolj intenzivno čustvo
12:50
than either happiness or even anger.
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kot sreča ali celo jeza.
12:56
Cruelty to others is nothing new,
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Krutost do drugih ni nič novega,
12:59
but online, technologically
enhanced shaming is amplified,
enhanced shaming is amplified,
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a spletno, tehnološko izboljšano
sramočenje je okrepljeno,
sramočenje je okrepljeno,
13:05
uncontained, and permanently accessible.
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neomejeno in trajno dosegljivo.
13:11
The echo of embarrassment used to extend
only as far as your family, village,
only as far as your family, village,
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Odmev sramu je včasih segel
samo do tvoje družine, vasi,
samo do tvoje družine, vasi,
13:16
school or community,
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šole ali skupnosti,
13:19
but now it's the online community too.
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a sedaj gre tudi za spletno skupnost.
13:23
Millions of people, often anonymously,
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Milijoni ljudi, pogosto anonimno,
13:25
can stab you with their words,
and that's a lot of pain,
and that's a lot of pain,
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te lahko zabodejo s svojimi besedami
in to je veliko bolečine
in to je veliko bolečine
13:29
and there are no perimeters
around how many people
around how many people
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in nobene meje ni, koliko ljudi
13:33
can publicly observe you
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te lahko javno opazuje
13:35
and put you in a public stockade.
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in te postavi v javni zapor.
13:39
There is a very personal price
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Cena javnega ponižanja
13:42
to public humiliation,
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je zelo osebna
13:45
and the growth of the Internet
has jacked up that price.
has jacked up that price.
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in rast interneta je dvignila to ceno.
13:51
For nearly two decades now,
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Že skoraj dve desetletji
13:54
we have slowly been sowing the seeds
of shame and public humiliation
of shame and public humiliation
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počasi sejemo semena sramote
in javnega ponižanja
in javnega ponižanja
13:58
in our cultural soil,
both on- and offline.
both on- and offline.
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na na naši kulturni zemlji
na spletu in izven njega.
na spletu in izven njega.
14:04
Gossip websites, paparazzi,
reality programming, politics,
reality programming, politics,
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Rumene strani, paparaci,
resničnostni programi, politika,
resničnostni programi, politika,
14:09
news outlets and sometimes hackers
all traffic in shame.
all traffic in shame.
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novičarske strani in včasih hekerji
preprodajajo sramoto.
preprodajajo sramoto.
14:14
It's led to desensitization
and a permissive environment online
and a permissive environment online
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To je vodilo v razosebljenje
in permisivno spletno okolje,
in permisivno spletno okolje,
14:19
which lends itself to trolling,
invasion of privacy, and cyberbullying.
invasion of privacy, and cyberbullying.
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kar vodi v "trolanje", poseganje
v zasebnost in spletno nedlegovanje.
v zasebnost in spletno nedlegovanje.
14:25
This shift has created
what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls
what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls
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Ta premik je ustvaril to,
kar profesor Nicolaus Mills imenuje
kar profesor Nicolaus Mills imenuje
14:29
a culture of humiliation.
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kultura ponižanja.
14:33
Consider a few prominent examples
just from the past six months alone.
just from the past six months alone.
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Pomislite samo na nekaj odmevnih primerov
iz zadnjih šestih mesecev.
iz zadnjih šestih mesecev.
14:38
Snapchat, the service which is used
mainly by younger generations
mainly by younger generations
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Snapchat, ki ga uporablja
predvsem mlajša generacija,
predvsem mlajša generacija,
14:43
and claims that its messages
only have the lifespan
only have the lifespan
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in trdi, da imajo sporočila
tam življenjsko dobo
tam življenjsko dobo
14:46
of a few seconds.
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le nekaj sekund.
14:47
You can imagine the range
of content that that gets.
of content that that gets.
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Lahko si predstavljate
spekter vsebine, ki je tam.
spekter vsebine, ki je tam.
14:51
A third-party app which Snapchatters
use to preserve the lifespan
use to preserve the lifespan
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V zunanjo aplikacijo,
ki jo Snapchaterji uporabljajo
ki jo Snapchaterji uporabljajo
14:55
of the messages was hacked,
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da ohranijo sporočila, so vdrli
14:57
and 100,000 personal conversations,
photos, and videos were leaked online
photos, and videos were leaked online
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in sto tisoč osebnih pogovorov, fotografij
in videov je bilo objavljenih na spletu,
in videov je bilo objavljenih na spletu,
15:04
to now have a lifespan of forever.
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kjer imajo neomejeno življenjsko dobo.
15:09
Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors
had their iCloud accounts hacked,
had their iCloud accounts hacked,
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Jennifer Lawrence in še nekaj
drugim igralcem so v vdrli v račun iCloud
drugim igralcem so v vdrli v račun iCloud
15:13
and private, intimate, nude photos
were plastered across the Internet
were plastered across the Internet
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in njihove zasebne, intimne, gole
fotografije so prekrile internet
fotografije so prekrile internet
15:17
without their permission.
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brez njihovega dovoljenja.
15:19
One gossip website
had over five million hits
had over five million hits
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Neka rumena stran je imela
več kot 5 milijonov zadetkov
več kot 5 milijonov zadetkov
15:23
for this one story.
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za eno samo zgodbo.
15:27
And what about the Sony Pictures
cyberhacking?
cyberhacking?
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Kaj pa vdor v Sony Pictures?
15:30
The documents which received
the most attention
the most attention
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Največ pozornosti je dobila
15:33
were private emails that had
maximum public embarrassment value.
maximum public embarrassment value.
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zasebna elektronska pošta, ki je
povzročila največjo javno sramoto.
povzročila največjo javno sramoto.
15:39
But in this culture of humiliation,
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A v tej kulturi poniževanja
15:42
there is another kind of price tag
attached to public shaming.
attached to public shaming.
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ima javno poniževanje še eno ceno.
15:47
The price does not measure
the cost to the victim,
the cost to the victim,
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Ta cena ne meri škode pri žrtvi,
15:50
which Tyler and too many others,
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ki so jo Tyler in premnogi drugi,
15:53
notably women, minorities,
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še posebej ženske, manjšine
15:55
and members of the LGBTQ
community have paid,
community have paid,
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in člani LGBTQ plačali,
15:59
but the price measures the profit
of those who prey on them.
of those who prey on them.
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ampak meri dobiček tistih,
ki prežijo na njih.
ki prežijo na njih.
16:04
This invasion of others is a raw material,
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Vdor v življenje drugih je surovina,
16:08
efficiently and ruthlessly mined,
packaged and sold at a profit.
packaged and sold at a profit.
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učinkovito in neusmiljeno pridobljena,
zapakirana in prodana za dobiček.
zapakirana in prodana za dobiček.
16:14
A marketplace has emerged
where public humiliation is a commodity
where public humiliation is a commodity
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Pojavil se je trg, kjer je
javno ponižanje dobrina
javno ponižanje dobrina
16:20
and shame is an industry.
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in sramota je industrija.
16:24
How is the money made?
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Kako se dela denar?
16:27
Clicks.
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S kliki.
16:29
The more shame, the more clicks.
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Več je sramote, več je klikov.
16:32
The more clicks,
the more advertising dollars.
the more advertising dollars.
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Več je klikov,
več je oglaševalskega denarja.
več je oglaševalskega denarja.
16:37
We're in a dangerous cycle.
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V nevarnem krogu se vrtimo.
16:39
The more we click on this kind of gossip,
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Več ko klikamo na take vrste tračev,
16:42
the more numb we get
to the human lives behind it,
to the human lives behind it,
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bolj otopeli postajamo
glede življenj za njimi,
glede življenj za njimi,
16:46
and the more numb we get,
the more we click.
the more we click.
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in bolj otopeli kot smo, več klikamo.
16:51
All the while, someone is making money
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In medtem nekdo služi denar
16:54
off of the back
of someone else's suffering.
of someone else's suffering.
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na plečih trpljenja nekoga drugega.
16:58
With every click, we make a choice.
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Z vsakim klikom se odločimo.
17:01
The more we saturate our culture
with public shaming,
with public shaming,
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Bolj ko polnimo našo kulturo
z javnim sramotenjem,
z javnim sramotenjem,
17:05
the more accepted it is,
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bolje je sprejeto
17:06
the more we will see behavior
like cyberbullying,
like cyberbullying,
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in več bo obnašanja,
kot so spletno nadlegovanje,
kot so spletno nadlegovanje,
17:10
trolling, some forms of hacking,
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trolanje, vdori v sisteme
17:12
and online harassment.
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in spletno nadlegovanje.
17:15
Why? Because they all have
humiliation at their cores.
humiliation at their cores.
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Zakaj? Ker imajo v svojem jedru
vsi ponižanje.
vsi ponižanje.
17:23
This behavior is a symptom
of the culture we've created.
of the culture we've created.
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To obnašanje je simptom kulture,
ki smo jo ustvarili.
ki smo jo ustvarili.
17:27
Just think about it.
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Samo pomislite.
17:31
Changing behavior begins
with evolving beliefs.
with evolving beliefs.
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Sprememba obnašanja se začne
z razvojem prepričanj.
z razvojem prepričanj.
17:34
We've seen that to be true
with racism, homophobia,
with racism, homophobia,
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To se je zgodilo z rasizmom, homofobijo
17:38
and plenty of other biases,
today and in the past.
today and in the past.
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in drugimi predsodki danes
in v preteklosti.
in v preteklosti.
17:42
As we've changed beliefs
about same-sex marriage,
about same-sex marriage,
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Ko smo spremenili mišljenje
o istospolnih porokah,
o istospolnih porokah,
17:46
more people have been
offered equal freedoms.
offered equal freedoms.
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je več ljudi dobilo enake pravice.
17:50
When we began valuing sustainability,
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Ko smo začeli ceniti obnovljive vire,
17:52
more people began to recycle.
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je več ljudi začelo reciklirati.
17:55
So as far as our culture
of humiliation goes,
of humiliation goes,
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Kar se tiče naše kulture poniževanja,
17:58
what we need is a cultural revolution.
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potrebujemo kulturno revolucijo.
18:02
Public shaming
as a blood sport has to stop,
as a blood sport has to stop,
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Javno poniževanje
kot krvavi šport se mora nehati
kot krvavi šport se mora nehati
18:06
and it's time for an intervention
on the Internet and in our culture.
on the Internet and in our culture.
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in čas je za intervencijo
na internetu in v naši kulturi.
na internetu in v naši kulturi.
18:11
The shift begins with something simple,
but it's not easy.
but it's not easy.
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Premik se začne z nečim preprostim,
a to ni lahko.
a to ni lahko.
18:16
We need to return to a long-held value
of compassion -- compassion and empathy.
of compassion -- compassion and empathy.
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Vrniti se moramo k stari vrlini sočutja --
Sočutje in empatija.
Sočutje in empatija.
18:22
Online, we've got a compassion deficit,
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Na spletu primanjkuje sočutja
18:25
an empathy crisis.
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in vlada kriza empatije.
18:29
Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,
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Raziskovalka Brené Brown
je dejala, citiram:
je dejala, citiram:
18:32
"Shame can't survive empathy."
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"Sramota ne more preživeti empatije."
18:36
Shame cannot survive empathy.
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Sramota ne more preživeti empatije.
18:42
I've seen some very dark days in my life,
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V svojem življenju sem imela
nekaj zelo temnih dni
nekaj zelo temnih dni
18:46
and it was the compassion and empathy
from my family, friends, professionals,
from my family, friends, professionals,
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in prav sočutje in empatija moje družine,
prijateljev, strokovnjakov
prijateljev, strokovnjakov
18:52
and sometimes even strangers
that saved me.
that saved me.
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in včasih celo neznancev, sta me rešila.
18:57
Even empathy from one person
can make a difference.
can make a difference.
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Celo sočutje ene osebe
lahko naredi razliko.
lahko naredi razliko.
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The theory of minority influence,
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Teorija vpliva manjšine,
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proposed by social psychologist
Serge Moscovici,
Serge Moscovici,
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ki jo je predlagal
socialni psiholog Serge Moscovici,
socialni psiholog Serge Moscovici,
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says that even in small numbers,
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pravi, da celo v majhnem številu,
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when there's consistency over time,
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kjer obstaja stabilnost skozi čas,
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change can happen.
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lahko pride do spremembe.
19:15
In the online world,
we can foster minority influence
we can foster minority influence
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Na spletu lahko spodbujamo vpliv manjšine,
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by becoming upstanders.
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tako da postanemo aktivni očividci.
19:21
To become an upstander means
instead of bystander apathy,
instead of bystander apathy,
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Postati aktivni očividec pomeni,
da namesto apatije opazovalca
da namesto apatije opazovalca
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we can post a positive comment for someone
or report a bullying situation.
or report a bullying situation.
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napišemo pozitiven komentar nekomu
ali pa prijavimo nasilje.
ali pa prijavimo nasilje.
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Trust me, compassionate comments
help abate the negativity.
help abate the negativity.
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Verjemite mi, sočutni komentarji
lahko pomagajo zmanjšati negativnost.
lahko pomagajo zmanjšati negativnost.
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We can also counteract the culture
by supporting organizations
by supporting organizations
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Lahko nasprotujemo tej kulturi tako,
da podpiramo organizacije,
da podpiramo organizacije,
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that deal with these kinds of issues,
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ki se ukvarjajo s takimi problemi,
19:41
like the Tyler Clementi
Foundation in the U.S.,
Foundation in the U.S.,
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kot je Fundacija Tyler Clementija v ZDA,
19:44
In the U.K., there's Anti-Bullying Pro,
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v VB je to Anti-Bullying Pro
19:47
and in Australia, there's Project Rockit.
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in v Avstraliji je to Project Rockit.
19:52
We talk a lot about our right
to freedom of expression,
to freedom of expression,
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Veliko govorimo o pravici
do svobode izražanja,
do svobode izražanja,
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but we need to talk more about
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a več bi morali govoriti
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our responsibility
to freedom of expression.
to freedom of expression.
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o odgovornosti pri svobodi izražanja.
20:03
We all want to be heard,
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Vsi želimo biti slišani,
20:06
but let's acknowledge the difference
between speaking up with intention
between speaking up with intention
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a priznajmo razliko med
govorjenjem z namenom
govorjenjem z namenom
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and speaking up for attention.
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in govorjenjem za pozornost.
20:15
The Internet is
the superhighway for the id,
the superhighway for the id,
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Internet je kot super avtocesta za id,
20:19
but online, showing empathy to others
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a na spletu izkazovanje sočutja drugim
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benefits us all and helps create
a safer and better world.
a safer and better world.
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pomaga vsem in pomaga
ustvariti varnejši in boljši svet.
ustvariti varnejši in boljši svet.
20:27
We need to communicate
online with compassion,
online with compassion,
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Na spletu moramo komunicirati s sočutjem,
20:31
consume news with compassion,
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brati novice s sočutjem
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and click with compassion.
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in klikati s sočutjem.
20:36
Just imagine walking a mile
in someone else's headline.
in someone else's headline.
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Predstavljate si hojo
z naslovom nekoga drugega.
z naslovom nekoga drugega.
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I'd like to end on a personal note.
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Rada bi končala z osebnim sporočilom.
20:47
In the past nine months,
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V zadnjih devetih mesecih
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the question I've been
asked the most is why.
asked the most is why.
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je bilo vprašanje,
ki sem ga največkrat prejela, zakaj.
ki sem ga največkrat prejela, zakaj.
20:53
Why now? Why was I
sticking my head above the parapet?
sticking my head above the parapet?
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Zakaj sedaj? Zakaj sem vznemirjala ljudi?
20:57
You can read between the lines
in those questions,
in those questions,
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Lahko berete med vrsticami
pri teh vprašanjih
pri teh vprašanjih
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and the answer has nothing
to do with politics.
to do with politics.
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in odgovor nima nič s politiko.
21:03
The top note answer was and is
because it's time:
because it's time:
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Glavni odgovor je, da zato, ker je čas:
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time to stop tip-toeing around my past;
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čas, da neham okolišiti
okrog svoje preteklosti,
okrog svoje preteklosti,
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time to stop living a life of opprobrium;
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čas, da neham živeti življenje v sramoti,
21:15
and time to take back my narrative.
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in čas, da vzamem svojo zgodbo
v svoje roke.
v svoje roke.
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It's also not just about saving myself.
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Tu ne gre samo za reševanje same sebe.
21:23
Anyone who is suffering from shame
and public humiliation
and public humiliation
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Vsakdo, ki trpi zaradi sramote
in javnega ponižanja,
in javnega ponižanja,
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needs to know one thing:
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mora vedeti eno stvar:
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You can survive it.
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to lahko preživiš.
21:32
I know it's hard.
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Vem, da je težko.
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It may not be painless, quick or easy,
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Morda ne bo neboleče, hitro ali lahko,
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but you can insist
on a different ending to your story.
on a different ending to your story.
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ampak lahko vztrajaš
pri drugačnem koncu tvoje zgodbe.
pri drugačnem koncu tvoje zgodbe.
21:43
Have compassion for yourself.
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Bodi sočuten sam s sabo.
21:46
We all deserve compassion,
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Vsi si zaslužimo sočutje
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and to live both online and off
in a more compassionate world.
in a more compassionate world.
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in živeti na spletu in izven njega
v bolj sočutnem svetu.
v bolj sočutnem svetu.
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Thank you for listening.
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Hvala, da ste me poslušali.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Monica Lewinsky - Social activistMonica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998.
Why you should listen
After becoming the focus of the history-changing federal investigation into her private life, Monica Lewinsky found herself, at 24 years old, one of the first targets of a “culture of humiliation”: a now-familiar cycle of media, political and personal harassment – particularly online.
Lewinsky survived to reclaim her personal narrative. During a decade of silence she received her Masters in Social Psychology from the London School of Economics and Political Science. In 2014, Lewinsky returned to the public eye with an acclaimed essay for Vanity Fair, which has been nominated for a National Magazine Award for best Essay Writing, and with a widely viewed speech at Forbes’ 30 Under 30 Summit.
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