Monica Lewinsky: The price of shame
Monica Lewinsky - Social activist
Monica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998. Full bio
who was publicly silent for a decade.
major public talk
all under the age of 30.
might only have heard of me
a surprising thing happened.
by a 27-year-old guy.
unsuccessful pickup line was?
I'm probably the only person over 40
I fell in love with my boss,
or do something they regretted at 22?
may have also taken wrong turns
of the United States of America.
reminded of my mistake,
into an improbable romance,
of a political, legal and media maelstrom
all the information we wanted,
for a major news story,
around the world.
from being a completely private figure
of losing a personal reputation
enabled by technology,
email cruel jokes.
photos of me all over
that I received, not the story,
there was no name for it.
and online harassment.
some of my experience with you,
shape my cultural observations,
can lead to a change that results
and my dignity.
of the Independent Counsel
taped phone calls
had made the year before.
I've been legally required
all 20 hours of taped conversation.
the mysterious content of these tapes
of Damocles over my head.
what they said a year ago?
about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;
for the president,
sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self
is released to Congress,
those stolen words, form a part of it.
is horrific enough,
made available online.
with regularity back then in 1998,
of people's private words, actions,
more populated with instances like mine,
actually make a mistake,
and private people.
have become dire, very dire.
from Rutgers University
learned of this incident,
the George Washington Bridge
what happened to Tyler and his family,
by my bed every night,
with the bathroom door open,
when both of my parents feared
and rescue their loved ones.
of their child's suffering and humiliation
was a turning point for me.
of humiliation and bullying around me
where this brave new technology
in unimaginable ways,
and slut-shaming that I experienced
especially young people
equipped to handle this,
to the next day,
on helping young people on various issues,
late last year:
out of the Netherlands
to suicidal ideations
although it shouldn't have,
that determined humiliation
enhanced shaming is amplified,
only as far as your family, village,
and that's a lot of pain,
around how many people
has jacked up that price.
of shame and public humiliation
both on- and offline.
reality programming, politics,
all traffic in shame.
and a permissive environment online
invasion of privacy, and cyberbullying.
what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls
just from the past six months alone.
mainly by younger generations
only have the lifespan
of content that that gets.
use to preserve the lifespan
photos, and videos were leaked online
had their iCloud accounts hacked,
were plastered across the Internet
had over five million hits
the most attention
maximum public embarrassment value.
attached to public shaming.
the cost to the victim,
community have paid,
of those who prey on them.
packaged and sold at a profit.
where public humiliation is a commodity
the more advertising dollars.
to the human lives behind it,
the more we click.
of someone else's suffering.
with public shaming,
humiliation at their cores.
of the culture we've created.
with evolving beliefs.
with racism, homophobia,
today and in the past.
about same-sex marriage,
offered equal freedoms.
of humiliation goes,
as a blood sport has to stop,
on the Internet and in our culture.
but it's not easy.
of compassion -- compassion and empathy.
from my family, friends, professionals,
that saved me.
can make a difference.
we can foster minority influence
instead of bystander apathy,
or report a bullying situation.
help abate the negativity.
by supporting organizations
Foundation in the U.S.,
to freedom of expression,
to freedom of expression.
between speaking up with intention
the superhighway for the id,
a safer and better world.
online with compassion,
in someone else's headline.
asked the most is why.
sticking my head above the parapet?
in those questions,
to do with politics.
because it's time:
and public humiliation
on a different ending to your story.
in a more compassionate world.
About the speaker:Monica Lewinsky - Social activist
Monica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998.
Why you should listen
After becoming the focus of the history-changing federal investigation into her private life, Monica Lewinsky found herself, at 24 years old, one of the first targets of a “culture of humiliation”: a now-familiar cycle of media, political and personal harassment – particularly online.
Lewinsky survived to reclaim her personal narrative. During a decade of silence she received her Masters in Social Psychology from the London School of Economics and Political Science. In 2014, Lewinsky returned to the public eye with an acclaimed essay for Vanity Fair, which has been nominated for a National Magazine Award for best Essay Writing, and with a widely viewed speech at Forbes’ 30 Under 30 Summit.
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