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Brian Little: Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality
Brajan Litl (Brian Little): Ko ste zaista vi? Zagonetka ličnosti
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Zbog čega vi ste vi? Psiholozi vole da govore o našim osobinama, iliti definisanim karakteristikama koje nas čine onim što jesmo. No Brajana Litla više interesuju trenuci kad prekoračimo te osobine - ponekad jer kultura to zahteva od nas, a ponekad zato što to mi zahtevamo od sebe samih. Pridružite se Litlu dok secira iznenađujuće razlike između introverta i ekstraverta, i objašnjava zašto je vaša ličnost možda nestalnija nego što mislite.
Brian Little - Personality researcher
Cambridge research professor Brian Little analyzes and redefines the threads of our personalities -- and suggests ways we can transform ourselves. Full bio
Cambridge research professor Brian Little analyzes and redefines the threads of our personalities -- and suggests ways we can transform ourselves. Full bio
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00:13
What an intriguing
group of individuals you are ...
group of individuals you are ...
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Kakva ste vi grupa
fascinantnih pojedinaca...
fascinantnih pojedinaca...
00:17
to a psychologist.
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za psihologa.
00:18
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:20
I've had the opportunity
over the last couple of days
over the last couple of days
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Imao sam priliku
tokom prethodnih nekoliko dana
tokom prethodnih nekoliko dana
00:23
of listening in on some
of your conversations
of your conversations
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da prisluškujem neke od vaših razgovora
i da vas gledam kako
interagujete jedni s drugima.
interagujete jedni s drugima.
00:26
and watching you interact with each other.
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00:29
And I think it's fair to say, already,
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I mislim da je pošteno reći, već,
00:31
that there are 47 people in this audience,
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da ima 47 ljudi u ovoj publici,
00:37
at this moment,
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u ovom momentu,
00:39
displaying psychological symptoms
I would like to discuss today.
I would like to discuss today.
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koji ispoljavaju psihološke simptome
o kojima ću danas da raspravljam.
o kojima ću danas da raspravljam.
00:43
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:44
And I thought you might
like to know who you are.
like to know who you are.
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I smatrao sam da biste voleli
da znate ko ste.
da znate ko ste.
00:47
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:49
But instead of pointing at you,
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No umesto da upirem prstom u vas,
00:51
which would be gratuitous and intrusive,
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što bi bilo nepravedno i nametljivo.
00:54
I thought I would tell you
a few facts and stories,
a few facts and stories,
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Mislio sam da vam ispričam
nekoliko činjenica i priča,
nekoliko činjenica i priča,
00:57
in which you may catch
a glimpse of yourself.
a glimpse of yourself.
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u kojima biste mogli da uhvatite
nagoveštaj samih sebe.
nagoveštaj samih sebe.
01:02
I'm in the field of research
known as personality psychology,
known as personality psychology,
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Radim u oblasti istraživanja
poznatoj kao psihologija ličnosti,
poznatoj kao psihologija ličnosti,
01:06
which is part of a larger
personality science
personality science
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koja je deo veće nauke o ličnosti
01:09
which spans the full spectrum,
from neurons to narratives.
from neurons to narratives.
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koja se proteže čitavim rasponom
od neurona do pripovedanja.
od neurona do pripovedanja.
01:15
And what we try to do,
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A mi pokušavamo,
01:17
in our own way,
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na svoj način,
01:19
is to make sense of how each of us --
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da shvatimo kako svako od nas -
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each of you --
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svako od vas -
01:24
is, in certain respects,
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je na neki način
01:26
like all other people,
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nalik svim drugim ljudima,
01:28
like some other people
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liči na neke druge ljude
01:31
and like no other person.
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i ne liči na bilo koga drugog.
01:34
Now, already you may
be saying of yourself,
be saying of yourself,
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Sad, već možda govorite sebi:
01:37
"I'm not intriguing.
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"Nisam fascinantan.
01:41
I am the 46th most boring person
in the Western Hemisphere."
in the Western Hemisphere."
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Na 46. mestu sam najdosadnijih osoba
na zapadnoj hemisferi."
na zapadnoj hemisferi."
01:47
Or you may say of yourself,
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Ili možda govorite sebi:
01:50
"I am intriguing,
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"Fascinantan sam,
01:53
even if I am regarded by most people
as a great, thundering twit."
as a great, thundering twit."
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čak iako većina drugih ljudi misli
da sam veliki, gromoglasni glupan."
da sam veliki, gromoglasni glupan."
01:57
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:58
But it is your self-diagnosed boringness
and your inherent "twitiness"
and your inherent "twitiness"
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Ali ta je vaša dijagnoza sebe kao dosade
i vaša urođena "budalastost"
i vaša urođena "budalastost"
02:04
that makes me, as a psychologist,
really fascinated by you.
really fascinated by you.
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ono zbog čega sam ja, kao psihoog,
fasciniran vama.
fasciniran vama.
02:09
So let me explain why this is so.
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Dozvolite da vam objasnim zašto je tako.
02:12
One of the most influential approaches
in personality science
in personality science
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Jedan od najuticajnijih pristupa
u nauci o ličnosti
u nauci o ličnosti
je poznat kao psihologija karaktera
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is known as trait psychology,
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02:18
and it aligns you along five dimensions
which are normally distributed,
which are normally distributed,
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i ona vas svrstava u pet dimenzija
koje su obično rasprostranjene,
koje su obično rasprostranjene,
02:23
and that describe universally held aspects
of difference between people.
of difference between people.
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i koje opisuju univerzalno shvaćene
aspekte razlika među ljudima.
aspekte razlika među ljudima.
02:31
They spell out the acronym OCEAN.
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One ispisuju akronim OKEAN.
02:34
So, "O" stands for "open to experience,"
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Dakle, "O" stoji za
"otvoreni za iskustva",
"otvoreni za iskustva",
02:37
versus those who are more closed.
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nasuprot onima koji su zatvoreniji.
02:39
"C" stands for "conscientiousness,"
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"K" stoji za "kulturni pojedinci",
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in contrast to those with a more
lackadaisical approach to life.
lackadaisical approach to life.
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nasuprot onima krajnje nekulturnim.
02:46
"E" -- "extroversion," in contrast
to more introverted people.
to more introverted people.
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"E" - "ekstravertnost", nasuprot
introvertnijim ljudima.
introvertnijim ljudima.
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"A" -- "agreeable individuals,"
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"A" - "akribičnost",
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in contrast to those
decidedly not agreeable.
decidedly not agreeable.
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nasuprot onima
s nešto apatičnijem pristupom životu.
s nešto apatičnijem pristupom životu.
02:57
And "N" -- "neurotic individuals,"
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I "N" - neurotični pojedinci",
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in contrast to those who are more stable.
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nasuprot onima koji su stabilniji.
03:04
All of these dimensions have
implications for our well-being,
implications for our well-being,
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Sve ove dimenzije
nagoveštavaju naše stanje,
nagoveštavaju naše stanje,
03:07
for how our life goes.
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kako teče naš život.
03:10
And so we know that, for example,
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Te znamo, na primer,
03:13
openness and conscientiousness
are very good predictors of life success,
are very good predictors of life success,
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otvorenost i akribičnost
su dobri predskazivači uspeha u životu,
su dobri predskazivači uspeha u životu,
03:18
but the open people achieve that success
through being audacious
through being audacious
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ali otvoreni ljudi postižu uspeh
putem odvažnosti
putem odvažnosti
03:23
and, occasionally, odd.
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i, ponekad, čudaštva.
03:26
The conscientious people
achieve it through sticking to deadlines,
achieve it through sticking to deadlines,
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Savesni ljudi to postižu držeći se rokova,
03:30
to persevering, as well as
having some passion.
having some passion.
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upornošću, kao i uz posedovanje strasti.
03:35
Extroversion and agreeableness
are both conducive
are both conducive
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Ekstravertnost i prijatnost pogoduju
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to working well with people.
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dobroj saradnji s ljudima.
03:42
Extroverts, for example,
I find intriguing.
I find intriguing.
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Na primer, fascinantni su mi ekstraverti.
03:45
With my classes, I sometimes
give them a basic fact
give them a basic fact
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Na mojim predavanjima
ponekad iznosim osnovne činjenice
ponekad iznosim osnovne činjenice
03:48
that might be revealing
with respect to their personality:
with respect to their personality:
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koje mogu da razotkriju njihove ličnosti:
03:52
I tell them that it is virtually
impossible for adults
impossible for adults
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kažem im da je odraslima
praktično nemoguće
praktično nemoguće
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to lick the outside of their own elbow.
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da liznu spoljašnjost njihovog lakta.
04:01
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:02
Did you know that?
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Da li ste to znali?
04:05
Already, some of you have tried
to lick the outside of your own elbow.
to lick the outside of your own elbow.
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Već su neki od vas pokušali
da liznu spoljašnjost svog lakta.
da liznu spoljašnjost svog lakta.
04:09
But extroverts amongst you
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No ekstraverti među vama
04:11
are probably those
who have not only tried,
who have not only tried,
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ne samo da su probali,
04:14
but they have successfully
licked the elbow
licked the elbow
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već su uspešno liznuli lakat
04:16
of the person sitting next to them.
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osobe koja sedi pored njih.
04:18
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:19
Those are the extroverts.
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To su ekstraverti.
04:21
Let me deal in a bit more detail
with extroversion,
with extroversion,
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Dozvolite da se osvrnem podrobnije
na ekstravertnost
na ekstravertnost
04:24
because it's consequential
and it's intriguing,
and it's intriguing,
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jer je važna i fascinantna
04:27
and it helps us understand
what I call our three natures.
what I call our three natures.
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i pomaže nam da razumemo
nešto što nazivam našim trima prirodama.
nešto što nazivam našim trima prirodama.
04:31
First, our biogenic nature --
our neurophysiology.
our neurophysiology.
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Prvo, našu biogenetičku prirodu -
našu neurofiziologiju.
našu neurofiziologiju.
04:34
Second, our sociogenic or second nature,
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Drugo, našu sociogenetičku
ili drugu prirodu,
ili drugu prirodu,
04:38
which has to do with the cultural
and social aspects of our lives.
and social aspects of our lives.
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koja je u vezi sa kulturološkim
i društvenim aspektima naših života.
i društvenim aspektima naših života.
04:42
And third, what makes you
individually you -- idiosyncratic --
individually you -- idiosyncratic --
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I treće, ono što vas pojedinačno
čini vama - idiosinkratičnost -
čini vama - idiosinkratičnost -
04:50
what I call your "idiogenic" nature.
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nešto što nazivam
vašom "idiogenetičkom" prirodom.
vašom "idiogenetičkom" prirodom.
04:53
Let me explain.
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Dozvolite da objasnim.
04:56
One of the things that characterizes
extroverts is they need stimulation.
extroverts is they need stimulation.
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Jedna od stvari koja karakteriše
ekstraverte je potreba za stimulacijom.
ekstraverte je potreba za stimulacijom.
05:00
And that stimulation can be achieved
by finding things that are exciting:
by finding things that are exciting:
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A ta stimulacija se postiže
otkrivanjem uzbudljivih stvari:
otkrivanjem uzbudljivih stvari:
05:05
loud noises, parties
and social events here at TED --
and social events here at TED --
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buka, žurke
i društveni događaji ovde na TED-u -
i društveni događaji ovde na TED-u -
05:09
you see the extroverts
forming a magnetic core.
forming a magnetic core.
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zapažate ekstraverte
kako obrazuju magnetna jezgra.
kako obrazuju magnetna jezgra.
05:13
They all gather together.
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Svi se okupljaju.
05:14
And I've seen you.
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I video sam vas.
05:16
The introverts are more likely
to spend time in the quiet spaces
to spend time in the quiet spaces
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Introverti su skloniji
da provode vreme na tihim mestima
da provode vreme na tihim mestima
05:19
up on the second floor,
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gore na drugom spratu,
05:21
where they are able
to reduce stimulation --
to reduce stimulation --
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gde mogu da umanje stimulanse -
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and may be misconstrued
as being antisocial,
as being antisocial,
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te mogu da budu pogrešno shvaćeni
kao nedruštveni,
kao nedruštveni,
05:29
but you're not necessarily antisocial.
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ali niste nužno nedruštveni.
05:33
It may be that you simply realize
that you do better
that you do better
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Možda ste prosto shvatili
da više postižete
da više postižete
05:37
when you have a chance
to lower that level of stimulation.
to lower that level of stimulation.
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kad imate priliku
da umanjite nivo stimulansa.
da umanjite nivo stimulansa.
05:42
Sometimes it's an internal
stimulant, from your body.
stimulant, from your body.
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Ponekad je to unutrašnji stimulans,
iz vašeg tela.
iz vašeg tela.
05:47
Caffeine, for example, works much better
with extroverts than it does introverts.
with extroverts than it does introverts.
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Kofein, na primer, bolje deluje
kod ekstraverta nego kod introverta.
kod ekstraverta nego kod introverta.
05:52
When extroverts come into the office
at nine o'clock in the morning
at nine o'clock in the morning
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Kad ekstravert dođe u kancelariju
u devet sati ujutru
u devet sati ujutru
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and say, "I really need a cup of coffee,"
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i kaže: "Stvarno mi treba šolja kafe",
05:58
they're not kidding --
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ne šali se -
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they really do.
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stvarno im treba.
06:01
Introverts do not do as well,
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Kod introverta ne deluje tako dobro,
06:03
particularly if the tasks
they're engaged in --
they're engaged in --
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naročito ako je zadatak kojim se bave -
06:06
and they've had some coffee --
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a popili su nešto kafe -
06:08
if those tasks are speeded,
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ako su ti zadaci ubrzani
06:10
and if they're quantitative,
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i ako su kvantitativni,
06:12
introverts may give the appearance
of not being particularly quantitative.
of not being particularly quantitative.
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introverti mogu da odaju utisak
da nisu naročito kvantitativni.
da nisu naročito kvantitativni.
06:17
But it's a misconstrual.
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No to je pogrešno tumačenje.
06:19
So here are the consequences
that are really quite intriguing:
that are really quite intriguing:
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Dakle, ovo su posledice
koje su zaista prilično fascinantne:
koje su zaista prilično fascinantne:
06:22
we're not always what seem to be,
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nismo uvek ono što se činimo da jesmo,
06:24
and that takes me to my next point.
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a to me dovodi do sledećeg zaključka.
06:28
I should say, before getting to this,
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Rekao bih, pre nego stignem do toga,
06:30
something about sexual intercourse,
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nešto o seksualnom opštenju,
06:33
although I may not have time.
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iako možda nemam vremena.
06:35
And so, if you would like me to --
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pa, ako biste voleli -
06:38
yes, you would?
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da, voleli biste?
06:39
OK.
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U redu.
06:40
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
06:41
There are studies done
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Rađena su istraživanja
06:43
on the frequency with which
individuals engage in the conjugal act,
individuals engage in the conjugal act,
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o učestalosti kojom se pojedinci
bave supružničkim obavezama,
bave supružničkim obavezama,
06:49
as broken down by male, female;
introvert, extrovert.
introvert, extrovert.
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razloženi su na muškarce, žene;
introverte, ekstraverte.
introverte, ekstraverte.
06:53
So I ask you:
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Pa vas pitam:
06:54
How many times per minute --
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koliko puta u minuti -
oh, izvinite,
to je istraživanje na pacovima -
to je istraživanje na pacovima -
06:57
oh, I'm sorry, that was a rat study --
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06:59
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:02
How many times per month
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Koliko puta mesečno
07:06
do introverted men engage in the act?
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introvertni muškarci obavljaju taj čin?
07:10
3.0.
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3.0.
07:11
Extroverted men?
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Ekstravertni muškarci?
07:13
More or less?
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Više ili manje?
07:15
Yes, more.
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Da, više.
07:17
5.5 -- almost twice as much.
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5.5 - skoro dvostruko više.
07:21
Introverted women: 3.1.
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Introvertne žene: 3.1.
07:23
Extroverted women?
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Ekstravertne ežene?
07:25
Frankly, speaking as an introverted male,
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Iskreno, govoreći
kao introvertni muškarac,
kao introvertni muškarac,
07:28
which I will explain later --
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objasniću to kasnije -
07:30
they are heroic.
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one su heroji.
07:32
7.5.
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7.5.
07:35
They not only handle
all the male extroverts,
all the male extroverts,
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Ne samo da se izbore
sa svim muškim ekstravertima,
sa svim muškim ekstravertima,
07:38
they pick up a few introverts as well.
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već pokupe i po nekog introverta.
07:40
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:42
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
07:48
We communicate differently,
extroverts and introverts.
extroverts and introverts.
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Različito komuniciramo,
ekstraverti i introverti.
ekstraverti i introverti.
07:54
Extroverts, when they interact,
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Ekstraverti, kad interaguju,
07:56
want to have lots of social encounter
punctuated by closeness.
punctuated by closeness.
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žele da imaju što više društvenih
susreta s naglaskon na bliskost.
susreta s naglaskon na bliskost.
08:00
They'd like to stand close
for comfortable communication.
for comfortable communication.
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Vole da stoje blizu
radi ugodne komunikacije.
radi ugodne komunikacije.
08:04
They like to have a lot of eye contact,
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Vole da imaju mnogo kontakta očima,
08:06
or mutual gaze.
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iliti uzajamnog zurenja.
Otkrili smo u nekim istraživanjima
08:09
We found in some research
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08:10
that they use more diminutive terms
when they meet somebody.
when they meet somebody.
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da koriste više deminutiv
kad upoznaju nekoga.
kad upoznaju nekoga.
08:13
So when an extrovert meets a Charles,
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Pa kad ekstravert upozna Čarlsa,
08:16
it rapidly becomes "Charlie,"
and then "Chuck,"
and then "Chuck,"
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on brzo postaje "Čarli", a potom "Čak",
08:19
and then "Chuckles Baby."
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a onda "Čakls Bejbi".
08:21
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
08:23
Whereas for introverts,
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Dok za introverte
08:24
it remains "Charles," until he's given
a pass to be more intimate
a pass to be more intimate
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on ostaje "Čarls", sve dok dobije
dozvolu za veću prisnost
dozvolu za veću prisnost
08:29
by the person he's talking to.
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od osobe s kojom razgovara.
08:32
We speak differently.
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Govorimo različito.
08:36
Extroverts prefer black-and-white,
concrete, simple language.
concrete, simple language.
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Ekstraverti više vole crno-beli
konkretan, jednostavan jezik.
konkretan, jednostavan jezik.
08:43
Introverts prefer --
and I must again tell you
and I must again tell you
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Introverti više vole -
i moram da vam ponovim
i moram da vam ponovim
08:47
that I am as extreme an introvert
as you could possibly imagine --
as you could possibly imagine --
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da sam najekstremniji oblik introverta
koji možete da zamislite -
koji možete da zamislite -
08:52
we speak differently.
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mi govorimo različito.
08:54
We prefer contextually complex,
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Nama se više sviđaju
kontekstualno složene,
kontekstualno složene,
08:58
contingent,
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nepredvidljive,
09:00
weasel-word sentences --
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rečenice s izvijenim rečima -
09:02
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:03
More or less.
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Manje-više.
09:05
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:06
As it were.
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Tako je to.
09:08
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:09
Not to put too fine a point upon it --
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Da ne pravim suviše prefinjenu poentu -
09:11
like that.
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poput te.
09:13
When we talk,
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Kada razgovaramo,
09:15
we sometimes talk past each other.
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ponekad govorimo jedni mimo drugih.
09:17
I had a consulting contract
I shared with a colleague
I shared with a colleague
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Imao sam konsultativni ugovor
koji sam delio sa kolegom,
koji sam delio sa kolegom,
09:20
who's as different from me
as two people can possibly be.
as two people can possibly be.
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koji se razlikuje od mene
koliko ljudi mogu da se razlikuju.
koliko ljudi mogu da se razlikuju.
09:23
First, his name is Tom.
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Pre svega, zove se Tom.
09:26
Mine isn't.
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Ja se ne zovem tako.
09:27
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:29
Secondly, he's six foot five.
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Zatim, visok je 195,5 cm.
09:30
I have a tendency not to be.
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To nije moje svojstvo.
09:32
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:34
And thirdly, he's as extroverted
a person as you could find.
a person as you could find.
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I pod tri: on je najekstravertnija osoba
koju možete da sretnete.
koju možete da sretnete.
09:37
I am seriously introverted.
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Ja sam ozbiljno introvertan.
09:40
I overload so much,
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Tako lako se preopteretim,
09:42
I can't even have a cup of coffee
after three in the afternoon
after three in the afternoon
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da ne mogu da popijem šolju kafe
nakon tri sata popodne
nakon tri sata popodne
09:47
and expect to sleep in the evening.
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i da se nadam snu uveče.
09:50
We had seconded to this project
a fellow called Michael.
a fellow called Michael.
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Imali smo pomoćnika na ovom projektu,
kolegu po imenu Majkl.
kolegu po imenu Majkl.
09:55
And Michael almost brought
the project to a crashing halt.
the project to a crashing halt.
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I Majkl je umalo doveo projekat
do potpunog zastoja.
do potpunog zastoja.
10:00
So the person who seconded him
asked Tom and me,
asked Tom and me,
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Pa je osoba koja je njemu bila pomoćnik
upitala Toma i mene:
upitala Toma i mene:
10:05
"What do you make of Michael?"
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"Kako vam se čini Majkl?"
10:06
Well, I'll tell you
what Tom said in a minute.
what Tom said in a minute.
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Pa, reći ću vam ubrzo šta je Tom rekao.
10:09
He spoke in classic "extrovert-ese."
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Govorio je klasičnom "ekstravertnošću".
10:11
And here is how extroverted ears
heard what I said,
heard what I said,
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I evo kako je ekstravertovano uho
čulo šta sam rekao,
čulo šta sam rekao,
10:15
which is actually pretty accurate.
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što je prilično tačno.
10:17
I said, "Well Michael does have
a tendency at times
a tendency at times
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Rekao sam:
"Pa, Majkl ima tendenciju ponekad
"Pa, Majkl ima tendenciju ponekad
10:22
of behaving in a way
that some of us might see
that some of us might see
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da se ponaša na način
koji bi neki od nas videli
koji bi neki od nas videli
10:26
as perhaps more assertive
than is normally called for."
than is normally called for."
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kao možda preteranu samouverenost
koja je inače bez pokrića."
koja je inače bez pokrića."
10:30
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:33
Tom rolled his eyes and he said,
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Tom je prevrnuo očima i rekao:
10:35
"Brian, that's what I said:
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"Brajane, to sam ja rekao:
10:38
he's an asshole!"
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on je šupak!"
10:40
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:42
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
10:45
Now, as an introvert,
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Sad, kao introvert,
10:46
I might gently allude to certain
"assholic" qualities
"assholic" qualities
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mogao bih blago da aludiram
na izvesne "šupkolike" kvalitete
na izvesne "šupkolike" kvalitete
10:52
in this man's behavior,
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u ponašanju ovog čoveka,
10:53
but I'm not going to lunge for the a-word.
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ali neću posegnuti za rečju na š.
10:56
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:59
But the extrovert says,
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Ali ekstravert bi rekao:
11:00
"If he walks like one, if he talks
like one, I call him one."
like one, I call him one."
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"Ako hoda tako, ako govori tako,
ja ga tako i zovem."
ja ga tako i zovem."
11:03
And we go past each other.
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I mi se mimoilazimo.
11:05
Now is this something
that we should be heedful of?
that we should be heedful of?
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Sad, da li bismo zbog ovoga
trebali da budemo obazrivi?
trebali da budemo obazrivi?
11:09
Of course.
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Naravno.
11:10
It's important that we know this.
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Važno je da znamo ovo.
11:12
Is that all we are?
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Da li se na to svodimo?
11:14
Are we just a bunch of traits?
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Da li smo samo gomila osobina?
11:17
No, we're not.
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Ne, nismo.
11:20
Remember, you're like some other people
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Zapamtite, vi ste poput drugih ljudi,
11:23
and like no other person.
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i kao niko drugi.
11:25
How about that idiosyncratic you?
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Šta je sa vašom idiosinkratičnošću?
11:28
As Elizabeth or as George,
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Kao Elizabet ili kao Džordž
11:31
you may share your extroversion
or your neuroticism.
or your neuroticism.
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možda delite svoju ekstravertovanost
ili svoju neurotičnost.
ili svoju neurotičnost.
11:36
But are there some distinctively
Elizabethan features of your behavior,
Elizabethan features of your behavior,
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Ali postoje li neke jedinstvene
elizabetanske crte vašeg ponašanja
elizabetanske crte vašeg ponašanja
11:40
or Georgian of yours,
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ili džordžijanskog,
11:43
that make us understand you
better than just a bunch of traits?
better than just a bunch of traits?
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zbog kojih vas razumemo bolje
nego gomilu osobina?
nego gomilu osobina?
11:48
That make us love you?
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Zbog kojih vas volimo?
11:51
Not just because you're
a certain type of person.
a certain type of person.
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Ne samo zato što ste određeni tip osobe.
11:55
I'm uncomfortable putting
people in pigeonholes.
people in pigeonholes.
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Neugodno mi je da klasifikujem ljude.
11:59
I don't even think pigeons
belong in pigeonholes.
belong in pigeonholes.
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Ne verujem čak ni da je krompiru
mesto u klasama.
mesto u klasama.
12:03
So what is it that makes us different?
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Pa šta nas to čini drugačijim?
12:06
It's the doings that we have
in our life -- the personal projects.
in our life -- the personal projects.
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To su naša dela koja činimo u životu -
lični projekti.
lični projekti.
12:11
You have a personal project right now,
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Trenutno imate lični projekat,
12:13
but nobody may know it here.
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ali možda niko ovde ne zna za to.
12:17
It relates to your kid --
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Odnosi se na vaše dete -
12:19
you've been back three times
to the hospital,
to the hospital,
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tri puta ste se vraćali u bolnicu,
12:21
and they still don't know what's wrong.
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a oni i dalje ne znaju šta nije u redu.
12:25
Or it could be your mom.
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Ili možda vašu majku.
12:28
And you'd been acting out of character.
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I vi biste izneverili svoj karakter.
12:30
These are free traits.
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To su slobodne osobine.
12:33
You're very agreeable,
but you act disagreeably
but you act disagreeably
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Veoma ste kulturni,
ali ponašate se nekulturno
ali ponašate se nekulturno
12:36
in order to break down those barriers
of administrative torpor
of administrative torpor
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kako biste srušili te barijere
administrativne tromosti
administrativne tromosti
12:40
in the hospital,
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u bolnici,
12:41
to get something
for your mom or your child.
for your mom or your child.
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da biste nabavili nešto
za majku ili svoje dete.
za majku ili svoje dete.
12:45
What are these free traits?
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Šta su ove slobodne osobine?
12:47
They're where were enact a script
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Tu odigravamo scenario
12:49
in order to advance
a core project in our lives.
a core project in our lives.
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kako bi napredovao
ključni projekat u našim životima.
ključni projekat u našim životima.
12:53
And they are what matters.
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I one su važne.
12:55
Don't ask people what type you are;
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Ne pitajte ljude koji su tip;
12:58
ask them, "What are your core
projects in your life?"
projects in your life?"
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pitajte ih: "Koji su ključni projekti
u vašem životu?"
u vašem životu?"
13:01
And we enact those free traits.
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I mi odigravamo te slobodne osobine.
13:03
I'm an introvert,
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Ja sam introvert,
13:04
but I have a core project,
which is to profess.
which is to profess.
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ali moj ključni projekat je podučavanje.
13:09
I'm a professor.
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Ja sam profesor.
13:11
And I adore my students,
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I ja obožavam svoje studente,
13:15
and I adore my field.
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i obožavam svoju oblast.
13:16
And I can't wait to tell them
about what's new, what's exciting,
about what's new, what's exciting,
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I jedva čekam da im kažem
šta je novo, šta je uzbudljivo,
šta je novo, šta je uzbudljivo,
13:23
what I can't wait to tell them about.
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što jedva čekam da im kažem.
13:25
And so I act in an extroverted way,
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Te delujem ekstravertovano
13:27
because at eight in the morning,
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jer u osam ujutru
13:29
the students need a little bit of humor,
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studentima je potrebna mala doza humora,
13:31
a little bit of engagement
to keep them going
to keep them going
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malo angažovanosti da ih pokrene
13:34
in arduous days of study.
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u napornim danima učenja.
13:36
But we need to be very careful
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Ali moramo da budemo veoma oprezni
13:38
when we act protractedly out of character.
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kad predugo izneveravamo karakter.
13:42
Sometimes we may find
that we don't take care of ourselves.
that we don't take care of ourselves.
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Ponekad možemo da otkrijemo
da ne vodimo računa o sebi.
da ne vodimo računa o sebi.
13:49
I find, for example, after a period
of pseudo-extroverted behavior,
of pseudo-extroverted behavior,
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Otkrio sam, na primer, nakon perioda
kvazi-ekstravertnog ponašanja,
kvazi-ekstravertnog ponašanja,
13:53
I need to repair somewhere on my own.
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da moram negde da se samoobnovim.
13:57
As Susan Cain said in her "Quiet" book,
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Kako je Suzan Kejn rekla
u svojoj knjizi "Quiet",
u svojoj knjizi "Quiet",
14:01
in a chapter that featured
the strange Canadian professor
the strange Canadian professor
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u poglavlju koje se bavi
čudnim profesorom iz Kanade
čudnim profesorom iz Kanade
14:04
who was teaching at the time at Harvard,
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koji je svojevremeno predavao na Harvardu,
14:07
I sometimes go to the men's room
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ponekad odem do muškog toaleta
14:08
to escape the slings and arrows
of outrageous extroverts.
of outrageous extroverts.
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da izbegnem bičeve i udarce
razuzdanih ekstraverta.
razuzdanih ekstraverta.
14:13
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
14:14
I remember one particular day
when I was retired to a cubicle,
when I was retired to a cubicle,
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Sećam se naročito dana
kad sam se povukao u kabinu,
kad sam se povukao u kabinu,
14:20
trying to avoid overstimulation.
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pokušavajući da izbegnem
preterane stimulanse.
preterane stimulanse.
14:23
And a real extrovert came
in beside me -- not right in my cubicle,
in beside me -- not right in my cubicle,
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A istinski ekstravert je došao -
nije baš ušao u moju kabinu -
nije baš ušao u moju kabinu -
14:28
but in the next cubicle over --
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već u susednu kabinu -
14:30
and I could hear various
evacuatory noises,
evacuatory noises,
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i mogao sam da čujem
neke zvuke pražnjenja,
neke zvuke pražnjenja,
14:32
which we hate -- even our own,
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koje mrzimo - čak i sopstvene,
14:35
that's why we flush
during as well as after.
during as well as after.
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stoga puštamo vodu tokom i nakon nužde.
14:37
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
14:40
And then I heard
this gravelly voice saying,
this gravelly voice saying,
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A onda sam čuo
taj barušnasti glas kako govori:
taj barušnasti glas kako govori:
14:44
"Hey, is that Dr. Little?"
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"Hej, da li je to dr Litl?"
14:47
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
14:50
If anything is guaranteed
to constipate an introvert for six months,
to constipate an introvert for six months,
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Ako nešto garantuje
šestomesečnu konstipaciju kod introverta,
šestomesečnu konstipaciju kod introverta,
14:57
it's talking on the john.
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to je pričanje na šolji.
14:58
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
15:00
That's where I'm going now.
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Sad idem tamo.
15:02
Don't follow me.
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Ne pratite me.
15:04
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
15:05
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Brian Little - Personality researcherCambridge research professor Brian Little analyzes and redefines the threads of our personalities -- and suggests ways we can transform ourselves.
Why you should listen
Brian Little is an unapologetic introvert -- but in front of a classroom or a lecture hall, he delivers impassioned and witty explorations of contemporary personality psychology. In Little's view, we are as driven by spontaneous, "out of character" moments (and the projects we are passionate about) as we are by innate and learned traits.
Little's book Me, Myself and Us not only beautifully outlines Little's personality theories, but also imparts potentially life-changing advice for readers, while it warns of the hidden costs of hiding your true personality.
Brian Little | Speaker | TED.com