Sheryl Sandberg: So we leaned in ... now what?
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, Facebook
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
as I know anyone else's.
that you had very much on your mind
in the sector of technology and social media.
this stage and talk about women,
world, as I think so many of us did.
someone might notice that you're a woman, right?
people on the other end of the table
treatment, or complaining.
And so I went through -- (Laughter)
never spoke about it publicly.
20 years ago, and I thought
all the people above me were all men,
an amazing job fighting for equality,
about women, and they said, oh no, no.
cannot be a serious business executive
You'll never be taken seriously again.
Mark Zuckerberg might --
would I do if I wasn't afraid?
afraid is I would get on the TED stage,
And I did, and survived. (Applause)
I'm thinking of that moment, Sheryl,
together, and you turned to me,
you really should share that story.
PM: What was that story?
journey. So I had -- TEDWomen --
so I had gotten on a plane the day before,
clinging to my leg: "Mommy, don't go."
to the speech I was planning on giving,
figures, and nothing personal,
I'm having a hard day.
to my leg, and "Don't go."
you have to tell that story.
my daughter was clinging to my leg?
about getting more women into leadership roles,
important part of the journey.
I started writing the book. I wrote a first chapter,
chock-full of data and figures,
tribes, and their sociological patterns.
is like eating your Wheaties. (Laughter)
someone -- no one, no one will read this book.
had to be more honest and more open,
not feeling as self-confident as I should,
failed marriage. Crying at work.
feeling guilty to this day.
going to "Lean In," going to the foundation,
honest about those challenges,
striking parts about the book,
a nerve and is resonating around the world,
and that you do make it clear that,
very important for other women to know,
that many others of us have,
possibly the people who don't believe the same.
you'd go public with the private part,
the position of something of an expert
a book, I'm not an author, I'm not a writer,
started impacting people's lives.
letters I got was from a woman
promotion at work, and she turned it down,
it down, and her best friend said,
went back the next day, she took the job,
husband the grocery list. (Laughter)
only women in the corporate world,
them, and it did impact a lot of them,
attending physician at Johns Hopkins,
Talk, it never really occurred to him
his med school classes were women,
the men as he did his rounds.
raised hands, he realized the men's hands were up.
women to raise their hands more,
hand raising, I'm cold-calling.
And what he proved to himself was that
to them and tell them that.
mom, lives in a really difficult neighborhood,
Talk -- she's never had a corporate job,
and fight for a better teacher for her child.
men could find their voice through it,
voice, which is clear and strong in the book,
in terms of putting yourself in a --
become like in your life?
a best-selling, best-viewed talk,
literally describe their actions at work as,
I'm happy, and it's the very beginning.
an expert. I certainly have done a lot of research.
pored over the materials,
Because here's what we know:
back from leadership roles all over the world.
I've been all over the world,
to Korea, to China, to Asia, Europe,
assertive, aggressive, have voice;
when spoken to, help others.
There is a word for "bossy,"
there's no negative word for it,
men here, but bear with me.
to represent your gender.
told you're too aggressive at work.
five percent. Okay, get ready, gentlemen.
ever been told you're too aggressive at work.
said in every country in the world,
aggressive than men? Of course not.
exhibit to perform at work, to get results, to lead,
can change this by acknowledging it.
I had in this whole journey is,
with John Chambers, the CEO of Cisco.
invited me in front of his whole management team,
were good at this. I thought I was good at this.
realized that we -- my company --
senior women too aggressive,
never going to do it again.
people that we know? (Applause)
he believes it's good for his company,
of these biases can change it.
someone call a little girl "bossy,"
big smile, and you say,
executive leadership skills." (Laughter)
the reason, as you said, in writing it,
face the fact that women are --
doors, and more opportunities --
many of them we have to own within ourselves
dialogue, which is great.
and I think all of us, is action.
they're mostly men, say to me,
be paid as much as the men.
be paid as much as the men.
better relationships with their spouses,
promotions they should be getting at work,
themselves. Even little things.
that he didn't realize that more women were, in fact,
of the room, which they are,
on his staff need to sit at the table.
with the book "Lean In"
you want, which meet once a month.
about 500 circles. That would've been great.
in 50 countries in the world.
are meeting every single month.
they started the first Lean In circle in Beijing,
their society that they are "left over,"
once a month at a meeting
kind of partners they want, if at all.
and introduced ourselves,
and where they're from,
and this was my dream.
I've talked about it before.
the world, who grew up in a rural village,
she doesn't want to marry,
a group of people and refuse that,
the global nature of the message?
came out, many people thought,
for young women on their way up.
the barriers, and recognize them,
Doing that. Pursuing the corporate world.
say, in rural and developing countries.
perhaps led to a new perspective on your part?
and about equality.
women need more self-confidence,
a world where the men get "and,"
asked how he does it all. (Laughter)
been asked, how do you do it all?
if you've been asked how you do it all?
slash -- have jobs and children.
in the world, including the United States,
how broad the message is.
for rescued sex workers in Miami.
people make the transition
them from their pimps, and using it.
in Texas which are using the book,
all the way to Ethiopia.
are told they can't have what men can have --
how we assume that voice is for men,
think they are very universal.
make another TEDWomen talk,
of this experience, for you personally,
not changing quickly enough.
another year of data came out from the U.S. Census.
for women in the United States.
time those numbers went up?
stagnating in so many ways.
hard to talk about gender.
a word I really think we need to embrace.
word bossy and bring back --
we need to get rid of the word "bossy"
because we need it.
About the speaker:Sheryl Sandberg - COO, Facebook
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged.
Why you should listen
Long before Sheryl Sandberg left Google to join Facebook as its Chief Operating Ofﬁcer in 2008, she was a fan. Today she manages Facebook’s sales, marketing, business development, human resources, public policy and communications. It’s a massive job, but one well suited to Sandberg, who not only built and managed Google’s successful online sales and operations program but also served as an economist for the World Bank and Chief of Staff at the US Treasury Department. Sandberg’s experience navigating the complex and socially sensitive world of international economics has proven useful as she and Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg work to strike a balance between helping Facebook users control privacy while ﬁnding ways to monetize its most valuable asset: data.
At TEDWomen in 2010 Sandberg made the bold decision to talk about the experience of being one of very few women at the C-level of business. She noted that many women, in anticipating having a family, "lean back" from leading at work. After her TED Talk took off, Sandberg wrote the book Lean In, which has spent nearly a year on the New York Times Bestseller list. Sandberg plans to release a version of the book for graduates.
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