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Anne Lamott: 12 truths I learned from life and writing
Anne Lamott: 12 istina koje sam naučila od života i pisanja
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Nekoliko dana prije svojeg 61. rođendana, spisateljica Anne Lamott odlučila je zapisati sve u što je bila sigurna. Zadire u nijanse ljudskog života u ovom konfuznom, prekrasnom, emotivnom svijetu te nudi svoje tipične životne mudrosti o obitelji, pisanju, značenju pojma Boga, smrti i mnogočega drugoga.
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayist
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
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Moj sedmogodišnji unuk
spava vrata dalje u hodniku
spava vrata dalje u hodniku
00:13
My seven-year-old grandson
sleeps just down the hall from me,
sleeps just down the hall from me,
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and he wakes up a lot of mornings
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i budi se često ujutro
00:18
and he says,
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te kaže,
"Znaš, ovo bi mogao biti
najbolji dan ikad."
najbolji dan ikad."
00:19
"You know, this could be
the best day ever."
the best day ever."
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And other times,
in the middle of the night,
in the middle of the night,
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A ponekad, usred noći,
00:24
he calls out in a tremulous voice,
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priziva drhtavim glasom,
00:27
"Nana, will you ever get sick and die?"
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"Bako, hoćeš li ti oboljeti i umrijeti?"
00:31
I think this pretty much says it for me
and most of the people I know,
and most of the people I know,
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Mislim da ovo jasno govori,
za mene i za većinu ljudi koje poznajem,
za mene i za većinu ljudi koje poznajem,
00:35
that we're a mixed grill
of happy anticipation
of happy anticipation
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da sve nas čini primjesa
sretnog predviđanja
sretnog predviđanja
00:38
and dread.
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i isprepadanosti.
00:40
So I sat down a few days
before my 61st birthday,
before my 61st birthday,
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Stoga sam nekoliko dana
prije svojeg 61. rođendana sjela
prije svojeg 61. rođendana sjela
00:44
and I decided to compile a list
of everything I know for sure.
of everything I know for sure.
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i odlučila sastaviti popis svega
u što sam sigurna.
u što sam sigurna.
00:50
There's so little truth
in the popular culture,
in the popular culture,
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Toliko je malo istine
u popularnoj kulturi,
u popularnoj kulturi,
00:53
and it's good to be sure of a few things.
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dobro je biti siguran u nekoliko stvari.
00:57
For instance, I am no longer 47,
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Primjerice, više nemam 47 godina,
01:00
although this is the age I feel,
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iako se tako osjećam
01:03
and the age I like to think
of myself as being.
of myself as being.
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i volim misliti da mi je toliko godina.
01:06
My friend Paul used to say in his late 70s
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Moj prijatelj Paul znao je reći
u svojim kasnim 70-ima
u svojim kasnim 70-ima
01:09
that he felt like a young man
with something really wrong with him.
with something really wrong with him.
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da se osjeća poput mladića
s kojim nešto ozbiljno nije u redu.
s kojim nešto ozbiljno nije u redu.
01:13
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
01:17
Our true person is outside
of time and space,
of time and space,
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Naša je stvarna osoba izvan
vremena i prostora,
vremena i prostora,
01:19
but looking at the paperwork,
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ali iz dokumenata
01:21
I can, in fact, see
that I was born in 1954.
that I was born in 1954.
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vidim da sam uistinu rođena 1954.
01:25
My inside self is outside
of time and space.
of time and space.
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Moja je unutarnja osoba
izvan vremena i prostora.
izvan vremena i prostora.
01:28
It doesn't have an age.
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Nema dob.
01:30
I'm every age I've ever been,
and so are you,
and so are you,
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Ja sam svih onih dobi koje sam
dosad prošla, a tako i vi,
dosad prošla, a tako i vi,
01:33
although I can't help
mentioning as an aside
mentioning as an aside
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iako ne mogu, a da usput ne spomenem
01:36
that it might have been helpful
if I hadn't followed
if I hadn't followed
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da bi možda bilo dobro da nisam pratila
01:39
the skin care rules of the '60s,
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pravila o njezi kože iz 60-ih,
01:41
which involved getting
as much sun as possible
as much sun as possible
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po kojima se trebalo što više sunčati,
01:45
while slathered in baby oil
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okupani uljem za njegu bebine kože
01:47
and basking in the glow
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
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i pržiti na bljesku
odraza aluminijske folije.
odraza aluminijske folije.
01:51
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
01:53
It was so liberating, though,
to face the truth
to face the truth
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No, bilo je toliko oslobađajuće
suočiti se s istinom
suočiti se s istinom
01:56
that I was no longer
in the last throes of middle age,
in the last throes of middle age,
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da više nisam u posljednjim
srednjim godinama,
srednjim godinama,
01:59
that I decided to write down
every single true thing I know.
every single true thing I know.
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da sam odlučila napisati
sve meni poznate istinite činjenice.
sve meni poznate istinite činjenice.
02:04
People feel really doomed
and overwhelmed these days,
and overwhelmed these days,
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Ljudi se danas osjećaju
osuđenima i preopterećenima
osuđenima i preopterećenima
02:07
and they keep asking me what's true.
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i stalno me pitaju što je istina.
02:10
So I hope that my list of things
I'm almost positive about
I'm almost positive about
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Stoga se nadam da moj popis istina
u koje sam gotovo sigurna,
u koje sam gotovo sigurna,
02:16
might offer some basic
operating instructions
operating instructions
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može pružiti svojevrsna osnovna uputstva
02:19
to anyone who is feeling
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
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svima koji se osjećaju
preopterećenima ili zatočenima.
preopterećenima ili zatočenima.
02:24
Number one:
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Broj jedan:
02:26
the first and truest thing
is that all truth is a paradox.
is that all truth is a paradox.
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Prva i najveća istina jest
da je cijela istina paradoks.
da je cijela istina paradoks.
02:29
Life is both a precious,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
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Život je dragocjen,
nezamislivo prekrasan dar
nezamislivo prekrasan dar
02:34
and it's impossible here,
on the incarnational side of things.
on the incarnational side of things.
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i nemoguće je ovdje,
na utjelovljenoj strani stvari.
na utjelovljenoj strani stvari.
02:38
It's been a very bad match
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Sklopili su loš posao
02:40
for those of us who were born
extremely sensitive.
extremely sensitive.
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oni među nama
koji su izuzetno osjetljivi.
koji su izuzetno osjetljivi.
02:43
It's so hard and weird
that we sometimes wonder
that we sometimes wonder
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Toliko je težak i čudan
da se ponekad pitamo
da se ponekad pitamo
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if we're being punked.
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šale li se s nama.
02:49
It's filled simultaneously
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
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Istovremeno je ispunjen
neopisivom slatkoćom i ljepotom,
neopisivom slatkoćom i ljepotom,
02:53
desperate poverty,
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očajnom bijedom,
02:55
floods and babies and acne and Mozart,
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poplavama i bebama i aknama i Mozartom,
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all swirled together.
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sve ispremiješano.
03:01
I don't think it's an ideal system.
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Ne mislim da je to idealan sustav.
03:04
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
03:07
Number two: almost
everything will work again
everything will work again
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Broj dva: gotovo sve će ponovno raditi
03:10
if you unplug it for a few minutes --
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ako to isključiš iz struje na par minuta -
03:13
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
03:15
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
03:19
including you.
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uključujući vas.
03:22
Three: there is almost
nothing outside of you
nothing outside of you
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Tri: Ne postoji gotovo ništa
što je izvan vas,
što je izvan vas,
03:26
that will help in any kind of lasting way,
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a što vam može trajnije pomoći,
03:29
unless you're waiting for an organ.
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osim ako čekate na organ.
03:31
You can't buy, achieve or date
serenity and peace of mind.
serenity and peace of mind.
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Spokoj i duševni mir ne mogu se kupiti,
dosegnuti ili naći.
dosegnuti ili naći.
03:36
This is the most horrible truth,
and I so resent it.
and I so resent it.
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To je najgora istina i stoga je prezirem.
03:41
But it's an inside job,
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Na tome radimo iznutra
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and we can't arrange peace
or lasting improvement
or lasting improvement
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i ne možemo postići mir
ili dugotrajno poboljšanje
ili dugotrajno poboljšanje
03:46
for the people we love most in the world.
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za ljude do kojih nam je najviše stalo.
03:49
They have to find their own ways,
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Oni moraju sami pronaći svoj put,
03:51
their own answers.
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svoje odgovore.
03:52
You can't run alongside
your grown children
your grown children
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Ne možete trčati uza svoju odraslu djecu
03:56
with sunscreen and ChapStick
on their hero's journey.
on their hero's journey.
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s losionom za sunčanje i labelom
na njihovu junačkom pothvatu.
na njihovu junačkom pothvatu.
04:01
You have to release them.
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Morate ih pustiti da odu.
04:03
It's disrespectful not to.
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Ne učiniti to značilo bi
manjak poštovanja.
manjak poštovanja.
04:07
And if it's someone else's problem,
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A ako se radi o problemu nekog drugog,
04:08
you probably don't have
the answer, anyway.
the answer, anyway.
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ionako vjerojatno nemate odgovor.
04:11
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
04:12
Our help is usually not very helpful.
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Naša pomoć obično nije od velike pomoći.
04:15
Our help is often toxic.
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Često je toksična.
04:18
And help is the sunny side of control.
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A pomoć je i svjetla strana kontrole.
04:22
Stop helping so much.
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Prestanite toliko pomagati.
04:25
Don't get your help and goodness
all over everybody.
all over everybody.
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Nemojte svakoga zasipati
svojom dobrotom i pomoći.
svojom dobrotom i pomoći.
04:28
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
04:31
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
04:33
This brings us to number four:
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To nas dovodi do broja četiri:
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everyone is screwed up,
broken, clingy and scared,
broken, clingy and scared,
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svi su zeznuti, slomljeni,
ovisni o drugima i uplašeni,
ovisni o drugima i uplašeni,
04:38
even the people who seem
to have it most together.
to have it most together.
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čak i ljudi koji su naizgled pribrani.
04:41
They are much more like you
than you would believe,
than you would believe,
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Sličniji su vama nego što
biste vjerovali,
biste vjerovali,
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so try not to compare your insides
to other people's outsides.
to other people's outsides.
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stoga nemojte svoju nutrinu
uspoređivati s tuđom vanjštinom.
uspoređivati s tuđom vanjštinom.
04:49
It will only make you worse
than you already are.
than you already are.
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Samo će vas učiniti gorima
nego što već jeste.
nego što već jeste.
04:51
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
04:56
Also, you can't save, fix
or rescue any of them
or rescue any of them
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Osim toga, nikoga od njih
ne možete spasiti ni popraviti,
ne možete spasiti ni popraviti,
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or get anyone sober.
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niti koga otrijezniti.
05:01
What helped me get clean
and sober 30 years ago
and sober 30 years ago
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Prije 30 godina pomoglo mi je
da se otrijeznim i očistim
da se otrijeznim i očistim
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was the catastrophe
of my behavior and thinking.
of my behavior and thinking.
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upravo moje katastrofalno
ponašanje i razmišljanje.
ponašanje i razmišljanje.
05:08
So I asked some sober friends for help,
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Pomoć sam zatražila
od trijeznih prijatelja
od trijeznih prijatelja
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and I turned to a higher power.
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i okrenula se višoj sili.
05:12
One acronym for God
is the "gift of desperation,"
is the "gift of desperation,"
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Jedan od akronima za Boga
je i "dar očaja",
je i "dar očaja",
05:16
G-O-D,
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G-O-D
("gift of desperation"),
("gift of desperation"),
05:17
or as a sober friend put it,
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ili, kako je rekao moj trijezni prijatelj,
05:19
by the end I was deteriorating faster
than I could lower my standards.
than I could lower my standards.
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na kraju sam propadao brže
nego što sam mogao snižavati standarde.
nego što sam mogao snižavati standarde.
05:24
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
05:31
So God might mean, in this case,
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Bog bi, u ovom slučaju, mogao značiti
05:33
"me running out of any more good ideas."
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"kad mi ponestane dobrih ideja".
05:37
While fixing and saving
and trying to rescue is futile,
and trying to rescue is futile,
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Dok je pokušaj popravljanja
i spašavanja beskoristan,
i spašavanja beskoristan,
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radical self-care is quantum,
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radikalna briga o sebi je neophodna,
05:45
and it radiates out from you
into the atmosphere
into the atmosphere
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te se iz vas isijava u atmosferu
05:48
like a little fresh air.
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poput daška svježeg zraka.
05:50
It's a huge gift to the world.
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To je ogroman dar svijetu.
05:53
When people respond by saying,
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
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Kad ljudi reagiraju riječima,
"Nije li puna sebe?",
"Nije li puna sebe?",
05:57
just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa
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samo se lagano nasmijte, poput Mona Lise,
06:00
and make both of you a nice cup of tea.
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i pripremite objema šalicu čaja.
06:04
Being full of affection
for one's goofy, self-centered,
for one's goofy, self-centered,
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Ako volite svoje nezgrapno, egocentrično,
06:09
cranky, annoying self
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čangrizavo, naporno "ja",
06:11
is home.
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kod kuće ste.
06:13
It's where world peace begins.
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Tu počinje mir u svijetu.
06:17
Number five:
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Broj pet:
06:18
chocolate with 75 percent cacao
is not actually a food.
is not actually a food.
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čokolada sa 75% kakaa nije prava hrana.
06:23
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
06:27
Its best use is as a bait in snake traps
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Najbolje se koristi kao mamac
u zamkama za zmije
u zamkama za zmije
06:32
or to balance the legs of wobbly chairs.
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ili kao podloga klimavim stolcima.
06:36
It was never meant
to be considered an edible.
to be considered an edible.
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Nikad nije bila namijenjena prehrani.
06:41
Number six --
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Broj šest --
06:43
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
06:46
writing.
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pisanje.
06:48
Every writer you know writes
really terrible first drafts,
really terrible first drafts,
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Svaki pisac kojeg poznajete
piše grozne prve verzije,
piše grozne prve verzije,
06:53
but they keep their butt in the chair.
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ali i dalje grije stolicu.
06:55
That's the secret of life.
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To je tajna života.
06:57
That's probably the main difference
between you and them.
between you and them.
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To je vjerojatno i jedina razlika
između vas i njih.
između vas i njih.
07:00
They just do it.
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Oni to jednostavno učine.
07:01
They do it by prearrangement
with themselves.
with themselves.
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I to čine u prethodnom dogovoru
sa samima sobom.
sa samima sobom.
07:04
They do it as a debt of honor.
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Čine to iz duga časti.
07:07
They tell stories that come through them
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Pričaju priče koje iz njih dolaze
07:09
one day at a time, little by little.
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svakoga dana, malo po malo.
07:12
When my older brother was in fourth grade,
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Kad je moj stariji brat bio
u četvrtom razredu,
u četvrtom razredu,
07:14
he had a term paper on birds
due the next day,
due the next day,
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trebao je narednog dana
predati esej o pticama
predati esej o pticama
07:18
and he hadn't started.
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koji još nije ni započeo.
07:20
So my dad sat down with him
with an Audubon book,
with an Audubon book,
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Moj je tata sjeo s njime,
uz Audubonovu knjigu,
uz Audubonovu knjigu,
07:24
paper, pencils and brads --
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papir, olovke i čavliće --
07:27
for those of you who have gotten
a little less young and remember brads --
a little less young and remember brads --
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oni među vama koji su nešto
manje mladi sjećaju se čavlića --
manje mladi sjećaju se čavlića --
07:32
and he said to my brother,
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i rekao mu,
07:35
"Just take it bird by bird, buddy.
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"Samo kreni pticu po pticu, kompa.
07:38
Just read about pelicans
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Pročitaj o pelikanima
07:40
and then write about pelicans
in your own voice.
in your own voice.
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i napiši nešto o njima svojim riječima.
07:44
And then find out about chickadees,
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Zatim prouči sjenice
07:47
and tell us about them in your own voice.
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i ispričaj nam o njima svojim riječima.
07:50
And then geese."
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Pa onda guske."
07:52
So the two most important things
about writing are: bird by bird
about writing are: bird by bird
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Dakle, najbitnije su dvije stvari
kod pisanja: ptica po ptica
kod pisanja: ptica po ptica
07:56
and really god-awful first drafts.
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i doista grozne prve verzije.
07:59
If you don't know where to start,
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Ako ne znate odakle početi,
08:01
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours,
that happened to you is yours,
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sjetite se da sve što ste
doživjeli pripada vama
doživjeli pripada vama
08:04
and you get to tell it.
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i vi to imate priliku ispričati.
08:06
If people wanted you to write
more warmly about them,
more warmly about them,
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Ako ljudi žele da o njima ljepše pišete,
08:10
they should've behaved better.
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trebali su se ljepše ponašati.
08:11
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
08:14
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
08:19
You're going to feel like hell
if you wake up someday
if you wake up someday
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Užasno ćete se osjećati
ako se jednog dana probudite,
ako se jednog dana probudite,
08:22
and you never wrote the stuff
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a da nikada niste napisali
08:23
that is tugging on the sleeves
of your heart:
of your heart:
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ono što vas muči i razdire:
08:27
your stories, memories,
visions and songs --
visions and songs --
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svoje priče, uspomene, vizije i pjesme --
08:30
your truth,
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svoju istinu,
08:32
your version of things --
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svoje viđenje stvari --
08:34
in your own voice.
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svojim riječima.
08:35
That's really all you have to offer us,
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I to je zapravo sve što nam
možete ponuditi
možete ponuditi
08:38
and that's also why you were born.
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i to je razlog zbog kojeg ste se rodili.
08:42
Seven: publication and temporary
creative successes
creative successes
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Sedam: objavljivanja i privremeni
kreativni uspjesi
kreativni uspjesi
08:46
are something you have to recover from.
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nešto su od čega se morate oporaviti.
08:49
They kill as many people as not.
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Ubiju onoliko ljudi koliko i ne ubiju.
08:52
They will hurt, damage and change you
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Naudit će vam, oštetiti vas i promijeniti
08:55
in ways you cannot imagine.
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na način koji ne možete ni zamisliti.
08:57
The most degraded
and evil people I've ever known
and evil people I've ever known
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Najdegradiraniji i najzlobniji ljudi
koje sam ikad upoznala
koje sam ikad upoznala
09:01
are male writers who've had
huge best sellers.
huge best sellers.
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upravo su muški pisci, autori
uspješnih bestselera.
uspješnih bestselera.
09:05
And yet, returning to number one,
that all truth is paradox,
that all truth is paradox,
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A opet, ako se vratimo na broj jedan,
da je cijela istina paradoks,
da je cijela istina paradoks,
09:09
it's also a miracle
to get your work published,
to get your work published,
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čudo je i da se vaše djelo objavi,
09:11
to get your stories read and heard.
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a vaše priče čitaju i čuju.
09:14
Just try to bust yourself
gently of the fantasy
gently of the fantasy
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Pokušajte se nježno probuditi iz maštanja
09:17
that publication will heal you,
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da će vas objavljivanje izliječiti,
09:19
that it will fill the Swiss-cheesy
holes inside of you.
holes inside of you.
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ispuniti u vama rupe
poput onih švicarskog sira.
poput onih švicarskog sira.
09:23
It can't.
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Ne može.
09:25
It won't.
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Neće.
09:26
But writing can.
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Ali pisanje može.
09:28
So can singing in a choir
or a bluegrass band.
or a bluegrass band.
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Kao i pjevanje u zboru
ili bluegrass sastavu.
ili bluegrass sastavu.
09:32
So can painting community
murals or birding
murals or birding
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Kao i oslikavanje murala zajednice
ili promatranje ptica,
ili promatranje ptica,
09:35
or fostering old dogs
that no one else will.
that no one else will.
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ili udomljavanje starih pasa
koje nitko drugi ne želi udomiti.
koje nitko drugi ne želi udomiti.
09:40
Number eight: families.
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Broj osam: obitelji.
09:44
Families are hard, hard, hard,
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Obitelji su teške, teške, teške,
09:48
no matter how cherished
and astonishing they may also be.
and astonishing they may also be.
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bez obzira na to koliko mogu biti
pažene ili zapanjujuće.
pažene ili zapanjujuće.
09:51
Again, see number one.
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Opet, vidi broj jedan.
09:53
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
09:54
At family gatherings where you suddenly
feel homicidal or suicidal --
feel homicidal or suicidal --
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Na obiteljskim okupljanjima, kad odjednom
osjetite ubilački ili samoubilački poriv -
osjetite ubilački ili samoubilački poriv -
09:58
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
10:00
remember that in all cases,
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sjetite se da je, u svakom slučaju,
10:02
it's a miracle that any of us,
specifically, were conceived and born.
specifically, were conceived and born.
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čudo što se itko od nas začeo i rodio.
10:08
Earth is forgiveness school.
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Zemlja je škola praštanja.
10:10
It begins with forgiving yourself,
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Počinje praštanjem samome sebi,
10:12
and then you might as well
start at the dinner table.
start at the dinner table.
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a zatim možete nastaviti
i za stolom za večerom.
i za stolom za večerom.
10:16
That way, you can do this work
in comfortable pants.
in comfortable pants.
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Tako ćete sve obaviti u udobnoj odjeći.
10:20
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
10:23
When William Blake said that we are here
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Kad je William Blake rekao da smo ovdje
10:25
to learn to endure the beams of love,
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kako bismo naučili izdržati
zračenje ljubavi,
zračenje ljubavi,
10:28
he knew that your family would be
an intimate part of this,
an intimate part of this,
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znao je da će naša obitelj biti
intimni dio toga,
intimni dio toga,
10:31
even as you want to run screaming
for your cute little life.
for your cute little life.
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čak i dok želite, vrišteći,
pobjeći i spasiti svoj slatki mali život.
pobjeći i spasiti svoj slatki mali život.
10:35
But I promise you are up to it.
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No, uvjeravam vas da to možete.
10:38
You can do it, Cinderella, you can do it,
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Možeš ti to, Pepeljugo, možeš,
10:41
and you will be amazed.
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i iznenadit ćeš se.
10:45
Nine: food.
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Devet: hrana.
10:48
Try to do a little better.
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Pokušajte malo bolje.
10:51
I think you know what I mean.
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Mislim da znate što želim reći.
10:53
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
11:03
Number 10 --
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Broj 10 --
11:04
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
11:06
grace.
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milost.
11:08
Grace is spiritual WD-40,
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Milost je duhovni odstranjivač mrlja,
11:11
or water wings.
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ili pojas za spašavanje.
11:13
The mystery of grace is that God loves
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
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Misterij milosti je da Bog voli
Henrija Kissingera, Vladimira Putina
Henrija Kissingera, Vladimira Putina
11:19
and me
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i mene,
11:20
exactly as much as He or She
loves your new grandchild.
loves your new grandchild.
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jednako kao i vaše novo unuče.
11:24
Go figure.
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Pa si vi sad mislite.
11:26
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
11:28
The movement of grace
is what changes us, heals us
is what changes us, heals us
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Pokret milosti ono je
što nas mijenja, liječi,
što nas mijenja, liječi,
11:31
and heals our world.
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i liječi naš svijet.
11:33
To summon grace, say, "Help,"
and then buckle up.
and then buckle up.
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Milost dozovite rječju "Upomoć",
a zatim se vežite.
a zatim se vežite.
11:37
Grace finds you exactly where you are,
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Milost će vas pronaći tamo gdje jeste,
11:39
but it doesn't leave you
where it found you.
where it found you.
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ali vas neće ostaviti
tamo gdje vas je pronašla.
tamo gdje vas je pronašla.
11:42
And grace won't look
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
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I neće izgledati kao dobri duh Casper,
11:45
regrettably.
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nažalost.
11:47
But the phone will ring
or the mail will come
or the mail will come
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Ali, zazvonit će telefon,
ili će pristići pošiljka,
ili će pristići pošiljka,
11:49
and then against all odds,
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i, nasuprot svim izgledima,
11:51
you'll get your sense of humor
about yourself back.
about yourself back.
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vratit će vam se smisao za humor
u pogledu vas samih.
u pogledu vas samih.
11:54
Laughter really is carbonated holiness.
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Smijeh je doista gazirana svetost.
11:58
It helps us breathe again and again
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Pomaže nam uvijek iznova disati
12:01
and gives us back to ourselves,
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i vraća nas nama samima,
12:03
and this gives us faith
in life and each other.
in life and each other.
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što nam daje vjeru u život i druge.
12:08
And remember -- grace always bats last.
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I zapamtite - milost uvijek
ima zadnju riječ.
ima zadnju riječ.
12:13
Eleven: God just means goodness.
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Jedanaest: Bog jednostavno znači dobrota.
12:16
It's really not all that scary.
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Doista nije sve tako zastrašujuće.
12:19
It means the divine or a loving,
animating intelligence,
animating intelligence,
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On znači 'božanstveno' ili 'inteligencija
puna ljubavi i poticaja',
puna ljubavi i poticaja',
12:23
or, as we learned
from the great "Deteriorata,"
from the great "Deteriorata,"
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ili, kako smo naučili
iz veličanstvene "Deteriorate",
iz veličanstvene "Deteriorate",
12:27
"the cosmic muffin."
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"kozmički muffin".
12:29
A good name for God is: "Not me."
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Dobar naziv za Boga jest "Ne ja".
12:33
Emerson said that
the happiest person on Earth
the happiest person on Earth
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Emerson je rekao da je
najsretniji čovjek na Zemlji
najsretniji čovjek na Zemlji
12:36
is the one who learns from nature
the lessons of worship.
the lessons of worship.
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onaj koji od prirode nauči kako štovati.
12:40
So go outside a lot and look up.
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Stoga često izlazite i gledajte uvis.
12:43
My pastor said you can trap bees
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
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Moj je pastor rekao da je pčele moguće
uloviti na dnu staklenke bez poklopca,
uloviti na dnu staklenke bez poklopca,
12:48
because they don't look up,
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jer one uopće ne gledaju uvis,
12:50
so they just walk around bitterly
bumping into the glass walls.
bumping into the glass walls.
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samo hodaju ogorčeno uokolo,
lupajući u staklene zidove.
lupajući u staklene zidove.
12:54
Go outside. Look up.
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Izađite. Pogledajte uvis.
12:57
Secret of life.
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Tajna života.
12:59
And finally: death.
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I konačno: smrt.
13:02
Number 12.
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Broj 12.
13:04
Wow and yikes.
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Jupi i kvragu.
13:07
It's so hard to bear when the few people
you cannot live without die.
you cannot live without die.
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Tako je teško nositi se sa smrću
onih nekoliko ljudi bez kojih ne možete.
onih nekoliko ljudi bez kojih ne možete.
13:11
You'll never get over these losses,
and no matter what the culture says,
and no matter what the culture says,
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Nikad nećete preboljeti te gubitke,
i bez obzira kako na to gleda kultura,
i bez obzira kako na to gleda kultura,
13:15
you're not supposed to.
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ni ne trebate.
13:17
We Christians like to think of death
as a major change of address,
as a major change of address,
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Mi, kršćani, o smrti volimo razmišljati
kao o promjeni adrese,
kao o promjeni adrese,
13:22
but in any case, the person
will live again fully in your heart
will live again fully in your heart
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no, u svakom slučaju, osoba će i dalje
potpuno živjeti u vašem srcu
potpuno živjeti u vašem srcu
13:26
if you don't seal it off.
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ako ga ne zapečatite.
13:28
Like Leonard Cohen said,
"There are cracks in everything,
"There are cracks in everything,
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Kao što je izjavio Leonard Cohen,
"U svemu ima pukotina,
"U svemu ima pukotina,
13:31
and that's how the light gets in."
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na taj način prodire svjetlost."
13:33
And that's how we feel
our people again fully alive.
our people again fully alive.
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I tako mi doživljavamo svoje voljene
opet potpuno živima.
opet potpuno živima.
13:39
Also, the people will make
you laugh out loud
you laugh out loud
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Osim toga, ljudi će vas glasno nasmijati
13:43
at the most inconvenient times,
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u najnezgodnijem trenutku,
13:46
and that's the great good news.
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i to je odlična vijest.
13:48
But their absence will also be a lifelong
nightmare of homesickness for you.
nightmare of homesickness for you.
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No, njihovo će odsustvo za vas
značiti doživotnu nostalgiju za domom.
značiti doživotnu nostalgiju za domom.
13:52
Grief and friends, time and tears
will heal you to some extent.
will heal you to some extent.
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Žaljenje i prijatelji, vrijeme i suze,
do određene će vas mjere izliječiti.
do određene će vas mjere izliječiti.
13:57
Tears will bathe and baptize
and hydrate and moisturize you
and hydrate and moisturize you
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Suze će vas okupati i krstiti,
hidrirati i ovlažiti,
hidrirati i ovlažiti,
14:01
and the ground on which you walk.
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kao i zemlju po kojoj hodate.
14:04
Do you know the first thing
that God says to Moses?
that God says to Moses?
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Znate li što je Bog prvo rekao Mojsiji?
14:08
He says, "Take off your shoes."
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Rekao mu je:"Izuj cipele."
14:11
Because this is holy ground,
all evidence to the contrary.
all evidence to the contrary.
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Jer ovo je sveto tlo,
unatoč dokazima u suprotno.
unatoč dokazima u suprotno.
14:15
It's hard to believe,
but it's the truest thing I know.
but it's the truest thing I know.
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Teško je u to povjerovati,
ali to je najveća istina koju znam.
ali to je najveća istina koju znam.
14:18
When you're a little bit older,
like my tiny personal self,
like my tiny personal self,
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Kad ste malo stariji,
poput moje malenkosti,
poput moje malenkosti,
14:22
you realize that death
is as sacred as birth.
is as sacred as birth.
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shvatite da je smrt
jednako sveta kao i rođenje.
jednako sveta kao i rođenje.
14:26
And don't worry -- get on with your life.
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I ne brinite -- nastavite živjeti.
14:30
Almost every single death
is easy and gentle
is easy and gentle
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Gotovo je svaka smrt laka i blaga
14:34
with the very best people surrounding you
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i okruženi ste najboljim ljudima,
14:37
for as long as you need.
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koliko je god potrebno.
14:39
You won't be alone.
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Nećete biti sami.
14:42
They'll help you cross over
to whatever awaits us.
to whatever awaits us.
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Oni će vam pomoći da prijeđete
do onoga što nas čeka, štogod to bilo.
do onoga što nas čeka, štogod to bilo.
14:46
As Ram Dass said,
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Kako je rekao Ram Dass,
14:48
"When all is said and done,
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"Kada je sve rečeno i učinjeno,
14:50
we're really just all walking
each other home."
each other home."
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samo jedni druge ispraćamo do kuće".
14:55
I think that's it,
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Mislim da je to to,
14:56
but if I think of anything else,
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ali ako smislim štogod drugo,
14:58
I'll let you know.
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javit ću vam.
15:00
Thank you.
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Hvala.
15:01
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
15:03
Thank you.
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Hvala.
15:04
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
15:06
I was very surprised to be asked to come,
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Iznenadilo me kad su me pozvali ovamo,
15:08
because it is not my realm,
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jer to nije moje područje,
15:11
technology or design or entertainment.
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tehnologija, dizajn ili zabava.
15:13
I mean, my realm is sort of
faith and writing
faith and writing
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Želim reći, ja sam na svome
u vjeri i pisanju
u vjeri i pisanju
15:16
and kind of lurching along together.
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i nekakvom zajedničkom teturanju.
15:19
And I was surprised,
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I iznenadilo me,
15:21
but they said I could give a talk,
and I said I'd love to.
and I said I'd love to.
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ali rekli su da mogu održati govor,
i odgovorila sam, drage volje.
i odgovorila sam, drage volje.
15:25
(Video) If you don't know where to start,
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(Video snimka) Ako ne znate odakle početi,
sjetite se da sve što ste
doživjeli pripada vama
doživjeli pripada vama
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remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours
that happened to you is yours
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i imate priliku to ispričati.
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and you get to tell it.
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Anne Lamott: Ljudi su vrlo preplašeni
i osjećaju se osuđenima
i osjećaju se osuđenima
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Anne Lamott: People are very frightened
and feel really doomed
and feel really doomed
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danas u Americi,
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in America these days,
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i samo sam željela pomoći da se
ljudima vrati smisao za humor
ljudima vrati smisao za humor
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and I just wanted to help people
get their sense of humor about it
get their sense of humor about it
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i da shvate koliko to nije problem.
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and to realize how much isn't a problem.
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If you take an action,
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Ako nešto poduzmete,
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take a really healthy or loving
or friendly action,
or friendly action,
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nešto doista zdravo ili puno
ljubavi i prijateljstva,
ljubavi i prijateljstva,
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you'll have loving and friendly feelings.
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obuzet će vas osjećaji
puni ljubavi i prijateljstva.
puni ljubavi i prijateljstva.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayistWith disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos.
Why you should listen
Anne Lamott hooks into our common experience and guides us to an understanding infused with openness. An activist, former alcoholic and Sunday School teacher, Lamott uses humor to weave through loss, parenthood, faith and the cancer diagnosis given to her best friend, in beloved books like Bird by Bird and Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers. She says, "Hope begins in the dark ... if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up."
Her next book, Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy, was released in April 2017.
Anne Lamott | Speaker | TED.com