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Anne Lamott: 12 truths I learned from life and writing
安．拉莫特: 我從生活和寫作學到的 12 個真相
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在 61 歲生日前夕，作家安．拉莫特決定寫下她確切知道的每件事。她深入從細節談到身為生活在令人困惑、美麗、情緒化世界中的人，並帶給大家她著名的肯定人生之智慧和幽默，來面對家庭、寫作、神的意義、死亡等等議題。
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayist
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
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從我房間走過大廳，
就是我七歲孫子睡覺的地方，
就是我七歲孫子睡覺的地方，
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My seven-year-old grandson
sleeps just down the hall from me,
sleeps just down the hall from me,
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他早上常常會醒來，
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and he wakes up a lot of mornings
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and he says,
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他會說：
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"You know, this could be
the best day ever."
the best day ever."
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「今天搞不好是最棒的一天！」
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And other times,
in the middle of the night,
in the middle of the night,
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其他時候，在大半夜時，
他會用顫抖的聲音大喊：
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he calls out in a tremulous voice,
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"Nana, will you ever get sick and die?"
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「奶奶，你會不會生病死掉？」
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I think this pretty much says it for me
and most of the people I know,
and most of the people I know,
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我想他說出了我和多數人的心聲，
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that we're a mixed grill
of happy anticipation
of happy anticipation
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我們是快樂預期和懼怕的
混合體。
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and dread.
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So I sat down a few days
before my 61st birthday,
before my 61st birthday,
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所以我在六十一歲生日的
前幾天坐下來，
前幾天坐下來，
決定匯整一份清單，
列出所有我確切知道的事。
列出所有我確切知道的事。
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and I decided to compile a list
of everything I know for sure.
of everything I know for sure.
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There's so little truth
in the popular culture,
in the popular culture,
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在流行文化中的真相太少了，
若能有幾件確定的事會很好。
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and it's good to be sure of a few things.
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For instance, I am no longer 47,
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比如，我不再是四十七歲了，
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although this is the age I feel,
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雖然我感覺像是四十七歲，
我也希望自己是四十七歲。
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and the age I like to think
of myself as being.
of myself as being.
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My friend Paul used to say in his late 70s
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我朋友保羅在快要八十歲時會說，
他覺得自己是個
身體很有問題的年輕人。
身體很有問題的年輕人。
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that he felt like a young man
with something really wrong with him.
with something really wrong with him.
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01:13
(Laughter)
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( 笑聲 )
01:17
Our true person is outside
of time and space,
of time and space,
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真正的我們，是超越時間與空間的，
01:19
but looking at the paperwork,
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但看看書面文件，
01:21
I can, in fact, see
that I was born in 1954.
that I was born in 1954.
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我知道事實上我生於 1954 年。
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My inside self is outside
of time and space.
of time and space.
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我的內在自我是超越時間與空間的。
它並沒有年齡。
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It doesn't have an age.
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01:30
I'm every age I've ever been,
and so are you,
and so are you,
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我的年齡是我活過的
任何年齡，你也一樣，
任何年齡，你也一樣，
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although I can't help
mentioning as an aside
mentioning as an aside
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不過我忍不住順道一提，
如果我當初沒有聽信六〇年代的
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that it might have been helpful
if I hadn't followed
if I hadn't followed
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the skin care rules of the '60s,
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護膚原則，可能會有點幫助，
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which involved getting
as much sun as possible
as much sun as possible
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那時的原則是盡可能多曬太陽，
同時要大量塗抹嬰兒油，
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while slathered in baby oil
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and basking in the glow
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
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在一塊錫製反光板
所反射的陽光中做日光浴。
所反射的陽光中做日光浴。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
不過，面對真相的感覺很解放，
01:53
It was so liberating, though,
to face the truth
to face the truth
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that I was no longer
in the last throes of middle age,
in the last throes of middle age,
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面對我的中年已經過去的事實，
01:59
that I decided to write down
every single true thing I know.
every single true thing I know.
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我決定寫下每一件
我確定是真實的事情。
我確定是真實的事情。
最近，人們感到不幸、無法承受，
02:04
People feel really doomed
and overwhelmed these days,
and overwhelmed these days,
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and they keep asking me what's true.
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他們一直問我，什麼才是真實的。
02:10
So I hope that my list of things
I'm almost positive about
I'm almost positive about
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所以我希望在這份清單中
列出我幾乎可肯定的事情，
列出我幾乎可肯定的事情，
02:16
might offer some basic
operating instructions
operating instructions
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也許可以提供些基本的操作指引，
給那些感到無法承受
或身陷困境的人。
或身陷困境的人。
02:19
to anyone who is feeling
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
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02:24
Number one:
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第一條：
第一件事也是最真實的一件事：
所有的真相都是矛盾。
所有的真相都是矛盾。
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the first and truest thing
is that all truth is a paradox.
is that all truth is a paradox.
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人生是個珍貴的禮物，
其美麗深不可測，
其美麗深不可測，
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Life is both a precious,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
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而從事物的體現面來看，
它是很難忍受的。
它是很難忍受的。
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and it's impossible here,
on the incarnational side of things.
on the incarnational side of things.
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02:38
It's been a very bad match
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對於生來就極度敏感的人來說，
它是個很糟的配對。
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for those of us who were born
extremely sensitive.
extremely sensitive.
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02:43
It's so hard and weird
that we sometimes wonder
that we sometimes wonder
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它是如此艱難和怪異，
以致於我們有時會想，
以致於我們有時會想，
我們是否被耍了。
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if we're being punked.
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It's filled simultaneously
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
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它同時充滿了
讓人心碎甜蜜與美麗、
讓人心碎甜蜜與美麗、
絕望的貧困、
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desperate poverty,
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洪水、寶寶、青春痘，以及莫札特，
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floods and babies and acne and Mozart,
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all swirled together.
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全都攪和在一起。
我不認為它是個理想的系統。
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I don't think it's an ideal system.
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（笑聲）
03:04
(Laughter)
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03:07
Number two: almost
everything will work again
everything will work again
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第二條：任何東西不運轉了，
只要你把插頭拔掉幾分鐘，
只要你把插頭拔掉幾分鐘，
它幾乎都會再次動起來。
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if you unplug it for a few minutes --
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03:13
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
03:15
(Applause)
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（掌聲）
03:19
including you.
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包括你也一樣。
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Three: there is almost
nothing outside of you
nothing outside of you
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第三條：幾乎沒有任何外在的人事物
能夠長久地幫助你，
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that will help in any kind of lasting way,
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除非你在等器官捐贈。
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unless you're waiting for an organ.
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You can't buy, achieve or date
serenity and peace of mind.
serenity and peace of mind.
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你無法買到、達到，
或約到寧靜以及安寧。
或約到寧靜以及安寧。
這是最糟的真相，我很討厭它。
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This is the most horrible truth,
and I so resent it.
and I so resent it.
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03:41
But it's an inside job,
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但它是內在的工作，
我們無法為世界上我們最愛的人
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and we can't arrange peace
or lasting improvement
or lasting improvement
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for the people we love most in the world.
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安排平靜或是持續的改善。
他們得要自己找出方法，
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They have to find their own ways,
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找到自己的答案。
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their own answers.
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03:52
You can't run alongside
your grown children
your grown children
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當你長大的孩子踏上
他們自己的英雄之旅時，
他們自己的英雄之旅時，
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with sunscreen and ChapStick
on their hero's journey.
on their hero's journey.
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你不能帶著防曬油
和唇膏跑在他們身邊。
和唇膏跑在他們身邊。
你得要放開他們。
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You have to release them.
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這是對他們的尊重。
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It's disrespectful not to.
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04:07
And if it's someone else's problem,
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如果是別人的問題，
反正你八成也不會有答案。
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you probably don't have
the answer, anyway.
the answer, anyway.
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04:11
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
04:12
Our help is usually not very helpful.
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我們的幫助通常都不是很有幫助。
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Our help is often toxic.
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我們的幫助通常是有害的。
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And help is the sunny side of control.
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幫助，是控制的陽光面。
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Stop helping so much.
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別再幫這麼多忙了。
別把你的幫助和善意
硬塞給每一個人。
硬塞給每一個人。
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Don't get your help and goodness
all over everybody.
all over everybody.
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04:28
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
（掌聲）
04:31
(Applause)
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This brings us to number four:
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這就帶我們來到第四條：
每個人都是一團糟、破碎的、
依賴的、害怕的，
依賴的、害怕的，
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everyone is screwed up,
broken, clingy and scared,
broken, clingy and scared,
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even the people who seem
to have it most together.
to have it most together.
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即使是身心狀態看似
都很好的人也一樣。
都很好的人也一樣。
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They are much more like you
than you would believe,
than you would believe,
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他們比你想像的還要像你，
所以試著不要拿你的內在
和其他人的外在做比較。
和其他人的外在做比較。
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so try not to compare your insides
to other people's outsides.
to other people's outsides.
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It will only make you worse
than you already are.
than you already are.
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那樣只會讓你的狀況再下一層樓。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
04:56
Also, you can't save, fix
or rescue any of them
or rescue any of them
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此外，你也無法拯救、
照應，或援助他們，
照應，或援助他們，
也無法讓任何人戒酒過來。
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or get anyone sober.
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05:01
What helped me get clean
and sober 30 years ago
and sober 30 years ago
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三十年前協助我戒毒戒酒的，
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was the catastrophe
of my behavior and thinking.
of my behavior and thinking.
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是我的行為與思想所帶來的大災難。
我向清醒的朋友們尋求協助，
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So I asked some sober friends for help,
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and I turned to a higher power.
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我轉向更高的力量。
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One acronym for God
is the "gift of desperation,"
is the "gift of desperation,"
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「絕望的禮物」的字首縮寫正是神，
G - O - D，
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G-O-D,
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or as a sober friend put it,
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或是借用我清醒的朋友的說法，
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by the end I was deteriorating faster
than I could lower my standards.
than I could lower my standards.
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到最後，我惡化的速度比我
降低標準的速度還要快。
降低標準的速度還要快。
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
05:31
So God might mean, in this case,
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所以在這個例子中，神可能意味著
「我用光了所有的好點子。」
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"me running out of any more good ideas."
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05:37
While fixing and saving
and trying to rescue is futile,
and trying to rescue is futile,
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雖然照應、拯救、
試圖援助，都是無益的，
試圖援助，都是無益的，
極端的自我照顧可說是量子，
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radical self-care is quantum,
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and it radiates out from you
into the atmosphere
into the atmosphere
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從你散發出來，進入大大氣中，
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like a little fresh air.
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就像一點新鮮的空氣。
它是一份給予世界的大禮。
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It's a huge gift to the world.
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05:53
When people respond by saying,
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
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當人們的回應是說：
「她很自以為是，不是嗎？」
「她很自以為是，不是嗎？」
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just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa
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只要像蒙娜麗莎
那樣傾斜地微笑即可，
那樣傾斜地微笑即可，
然後為你們兩人泡杯茶。
06:00
and make both of you a nice cup of tea.
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06:04
Being full of affection
for one's goofy, self-centered,
for one's goofy, self-centered,
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對你那愚蠢、自我中心、
怪脾氣、又惱人的
怪脾氣、又惱人的
自我充滿情感，
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cranky, annoying self
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就是家。
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is home.
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06:13
It's where world peace begins.
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那就是世界和平開始的地方。
06:17
Number five:
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第五條：
有 75% 可可的巧克力
其實算不上是食物。
其實算不上是食物。
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chocolate with 75 percent cacao
is not actually a food.
is not actually a food.
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06:23
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
06:27
Its best use is as a bait in snake traps
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它最好的用途是
當作捕蛇陷阱中的餌，
當作捕蛇陷阱中的餌，
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or to balance the legs of wobbly chairs.
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或是墊在不穩定的椅子
腳下來讓它平衡。
腳下來讓它平衡。
06:36
It was never meant
to be considered an edible.
to be considered an edible.
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它從來就不該被認為是可食用的。
06:41
Number six --
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第六條：
（笑聲）
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(Laughter)
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writing.
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寫作。
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Every writer you know writes
really terrible first drafts,
really terrible first drafts,
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你認識的每一位作家，
寫出的初稿都非常糟，
寫出的初稿都非常糟，
但他們坐在椅子上繼續寫下去。
06:53
but they keep their butt in the chair.
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那就是人生的秘密。
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That's the secret of life.
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06:57
That's probably the main difference
between you and them.
between you and them.
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那可能就是你和他們
之間的主要差異。
之間的主要差異。
07:00
They just do it.
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他們只管去做。
他們用預先安排的方式去做。
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They do it by prearrangement
with themselves.
with themselves.
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07:04
They do it as a debt of honor.
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他們把這事當作信譽債去做。
07:07
They tell stories that come through them
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他們訴說透過他們來體現的故事，
一次一天，一點一點來。
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one day at a time, little by little.
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07:12
When my older brother was in fourth grade,
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當我哥哥小學四年級時，
07:14
he had a term paper on birds
due the next day,
due the next day,
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他有一份關於鳥的
學期報告隔天就要交出，
學期報告隔天就要交出，
他都還沒開始寫。
07:18
and he hadn't started.
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所以我爸爸和他一起坐下來，
拿著一本奧杜邦的書、
拿著一本奧杜邦的書、
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So my dad sat down with him
with an Audubon book,
with an Audubon book,
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07:24
paper, pencils and brads --
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紙、筆、和曲頭釘──
07:27
for those of you who have gotten
a little less young and remember brads --
a little less young and remember brads --
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在座應該有些人沒有那麼年輕，
所以還記得曲頭釘是什麼──
所以還記得曲頭釘是什麼──
07:32
and he said to my brother,
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他對我哥哥說：
「伙計，只要一次一隻鳥就好。
07:35
"Just take it bird by bird, buddy.
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07:38
Just read about pelicans
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只管去閱讀鵜鶘的資訊，
07:40
and then write about pelicans
in your own voice.
in your own voice.
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然後用你自己的
表達方式來寫出鵜鶘。
表達方式來寫出鵜鶘。
接著去研究山雀，
07:44
And then find out about chickadees,
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再用你自己的表達方式
來告訴我們山雀。
來告訴我們山雀。
07:47
and tell us about them in your own voice.
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07:50
And then geese."
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接著是鵝。」
07:52
So the two most important things
about writing are: bird by bird
about writing are: bird by bird
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所以關於寫作最重要的
兩點是：一次一隻鳥，
兩點是：一次一隻鳥，
以及糟透了的初稿。
07:56
and really god-awful first drafts.
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07:59
If you don't know where to start,
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如果你不知道從何開始，
切記，發生在你身上的
每一件事，都是屬於你的，
每一件事，都是屬於你的，
08:01
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours,
that happened to you is yours,
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而你可以訴說它們。
08:04
and you get to tell it.
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08:06
If people wanted you to write
more warmly about them,
more warmly about them,
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如果人們要你用比較
溫暖的方式來寫他們，
溫暖的方式來寫他們，
那他們早就該表現好些。
08:10
they should've behaved better.
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08:11
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
08:14
(Applause)
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（掌聲）
08:19
You're going to feel like hell
if you wake up someday
if you wake up someday
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你將會覺得很悲慘，
如果有一天你醒來，
如果有一天你醒來，
發現你始終沒有寫下
08:22
and you never wrote the stuff
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那些觸動到你心的事物：
08:23
that is tugging on the sleeves
of your heart:
of your heart:
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08:27
your stories, memories,
visions and songs --
visions and songs --
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你的故事、記憶、所見、歌曲──
08:30
your truth,
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你的真相，
你對事物的說法──
08:32
your version of things --
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08:34
in your own voice.
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用你自己的表達方式。
08:35
That's really all you have to offer us,
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那就是你能給予我們的一切，
那也是你為什麼出生的原因。
08:38
and that's also why you were born.
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08:42
Seven: publication and temporary
creative successes
creative successes
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第七條：你得從出版
以及暫時的創意成功
以及暫時的創意成功
當中恢復。
08:46
are something you have to recover from.
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08:49
They kill as many people as not.
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如果你沒有，你就會被它們扼殺。
它們會用你無法想像的方式
08:52
They will hurt, damage and change you
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傷害、損毀、改變你。
08:55
in ways you cannot imagine.
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08:57
The most degraded
and evil people I've ever known
and evil people I've ever known
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我所知道最墮落、最邪惡的人，
是有過大賣暢銷書的男作家。
09:01
are male writers who've had
huge best sellers.
huge best sellers.
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09:05
And yet, returning to number one,
that all truth is paradox,
that all truth is paradox,
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但回到第一條，
所有真相都是矛盾，
所有真相都是矛盾，
能讓你的作品被出版，
09:09
it's also a miracle
to get your work published,
to get your work published,
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09:11
to get your stories read and heard.
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讓你的故事被人閱讀、聽見，
也是一項奇蹟。
也是一項奇蹟。
09:14
Just try to bust yourself
gently of the fantasy
gently of the fantasy
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只要試著輕輕將空想給打破，
別再認為出版會治癒你、
09:17
that publication will heal you,
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09:19
that it will fill the Swiss-cheesy
holes inside of you.
holes inside of you.
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會填滿你內心像瑞士起司
表面一樣布滿的洞。
表面一樣布滿的洞。
09:23
It can't.
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它不能。
它不會。
09:25
It won't.
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09:26
But writing can.
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但寫作可以做到這些。
在合唱團或藍草鄉村樂團中
唱歌也可以。
唱歌也可以。
09:28
So can singing in a choir
or a bluegrass band.
or a bluegrass band.
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09:32
So can painting community
murals or birding
murals or birding
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在社區牆壁上作畫或是賞鳥，
或是領養沒人要的老狗也可以。
09:35
or fostering old dogs
that no one else will.
that no one else will.
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09:40
Number eight: families.
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第八條：家人。
09:44
Families are hard, hard, hard,
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家人很不容易，
很不容易，很不容易，
很不容易，很不容易，
不論他們也是多麼
被珍惜及令人驚訝。
被珍惜及令人驚訝。
09:48
no matter how cherished
and astonishing they may also be.
and astonishing they may also be.
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09:51
Again, see number one.
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同樣的，再看一下第一條。
09:53
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
09:54
At family gatherings where you suddenly
feel homicidal or suicidal --
feel homicidal or suicidal --
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若在家庭聚會中，你突然
覺得想殺人或是自殺──
覺得想殺人或是自殺──
（笑聲）
09:58
(Laughter)
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10:00
remember that in all cases,
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要記得，在所有的情況中，
10:02
it's a miracle that any of us,
specifically, were conceived and born.
specifically, were conceived and born.
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我們每一個人能被生出來，
都是一個奇蹟。
都是一個奇蹟。
10:08
Earth is forgiveness school.
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地球是一所教寬恕的學校。
它始於寬恕你自己，
10:10
It begins with forgiving yourself,
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接著你不妨就從餐桌開始。
10:12
and then you might as well
start at the dinner table.
start at the dinner table.
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10:16
That way, you can do this work
in comfortable pants.
in comfortable pants.
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這樣，你就可以穿著
舒適的褲子來做這項工作。
舒適的褲子來做這項工作。
10:20
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
10:23
When William Blake said that we are here
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威廉．布萊克說，我們在這裡，
是要學習去忍受愛的光芒，
10:25
to learn to endure the beams of love,
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他知道你的家庭會是
這其中很親密的一部分，
這其中很親密的一部分，
10:28
he knew that your family would be
an intimate part of this,
an intimate part of this,
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即使你想要為你可愛的
小小人生邊跑邊大叫。
小小人生邊跑邊大叫。
10:31
even as you want to run screaming
for your cute little life.
for your cute little life.
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10:35
But I promise you are up to it.
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但我保證，你可以勝任它。
你可以做到，灰姑娘，你可以做到，
10:38
You can do it, Cinderella, you can do it,
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而你將會感到驚奇。
10:41
and you will be amazed.
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10:45
Nine: food.
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第九條：食物。
10:48
Try to do a little better.
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試著做好一點點。
10:51
I think you know what I mean.
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我想你知道我的意思。
（笑聲）
10:53
(Laughter)
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11:03
Number 10 --
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第十條：
（笑聲）
11:04
(Laughter)
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11:06
grace.
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優雅。
11:08
Grace is spiritual WD-40,
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優雅是靈性的 WD-40，
（譯註：知名的防鏽潤滑油）
或學習游泳的浮袋。
11:11
or water wings.
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優雅之謎是：神愛亨利．季辛吉
及佛拉迪米爾．普丁，
及佛拉迪米爾．普丁，
11:13
The mystery of grace is that God loves
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
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11:19
and me
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還有我，
11:20
exactly as much as He or She
loves your new grandchild.
loves your new grandchild.
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愛的程度就完全跟
祂愛你的新生孫子一樣。
祂愛你的新生孫子一樣。
11:24
Go figure.
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自己去想。
（笑聲）
11:26
(Laughter)
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11:28
The movement of grace
is what changes us, heals us
is what changes us, heals us
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是優雅的動作在
改變我們、治癒我們，
改變我們、治癒我們，
11:31
and heals our world.
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及治癒我們的世界。
要召喚優雅，喊聲「救命」，
然後繫好安全帶。
然後繫好安全帶。
11:33
To summon grace, say, "Help,"
and then buckle up.
and then buckle up.
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11:37
Grace finds you exactly where you are,
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優雅會找到你的所在，
11:39
but it doesn't leave you
where it found you.
where it found you.
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但它不會把你丟在它找到你的地方。
11:42
And grace won't look
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
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優雅看起來並不像鬼馬小精靈，
很遺憾。
11:45
regrettably.
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11:47
But the phone will ring
or the mail will come
or the mail will come
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但電話會響起，或信件會寄來，
11:49
and then against all odds,
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接著，儘管困難重重，
你會找回對你自己的幽默感。
11:51
you'll get your sense of humor
about yourself back.
about yourself back.
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11:54
Laughter really is carbonated holiness.
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笑，其實就是含二氧化碳的神聖。
11:58
It helps us breathe again and again
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它協助我們一而再再而三地呼吸，
並把我們還給我們自己，
12:01
and gives us back to ourselves,
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這給予了我們對人生
以及對彼此的信念。
以及對彼此的信念。
12:03
and this gives us faith
in life and each other.
in life and each other.
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12:08
And remember -- grace always bats last.
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切記──優雅總是最後才出擊。
12:13
Eleven: God just means goodness.
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第十一條：神只意味著善良。
它並沒有那麼可怕。
12:16
It's really not all that scary.
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12:19
It means the divine or a loving,
animating intelligence,
animating intelligence,
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它意味著神聖或慈愛、
有生氣的智慧，
有生氣的智慧，
12:23
or, as we learned
from the great "Deteriorata,"
from the great "Deteriorata,"
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或是如我們從偉大的詩
「Deteriorata」中所學到的，
「Deteriorata」中所學到的，
「宇宙鬆餅」。
12:27
"the cosmic muffin."
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12:29
A good name for God is: "Not me."
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神有一個好名字：「不是我」。
12:33
Emerson said that
the happiest person on Earth
the happiest person on Earth
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艾默生說，地球上最快樂的人，
是從大自然的崇拜課程學習的人。
12:36
is the one who learns from nature
the lessons of worship.
the lessons of worship.
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所以，要常常出門並向上看。
12:40
So go outside a lot and look up.
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12:43
My pastor said you can trap bees
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
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我的牧師說，你可以把蜜蜂
困在無蓋的寬口玻璃罐底部，
困在無蓋的寬口玻璃罐底部，
因為牠們不會向上看，
12:48
because they don't look up,
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12:50
so they just walk around bitterly
bumping into the glass walls.
bumping into the glass walls.
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所以牠們就痛苦地來回走，
不斷撞著玻璃壁。
不斷撞著玻璃壁。
12:54
Go outside. Look up.
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去外面。向上看。
這就是人生的秘密。
12:57
Secret of life.
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12:59
And finally: death.
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最後：死亡。
13:02
Number 12.
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第十二條。
13:04
Wow and yikes.
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哇，還有，呀。
13:07
It's so hard to bear when the few people
you cannot live without die.
you cannot live without die.
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當那少數你無法失去的人過世，
是非常難承受的。
是非常難承受的。
你永遠無法忘掉這些損失，
不論文化怎麼說，
不論文化怎麼說，
13:11
You'll never get over these losses,
and no matter what the culture says,
and no matter what the culture says,
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13:15
you're not supposed to.
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你本來就不該忘掉。
13:17
We Christians like to think of death
as a major change of address,
as a major change of address,
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我們基督徒偏好將死亡視為是
住址有很大的改變，
住址有很大的改變，
但在任何情況下，這個人都會
再次完全地活在你的心中，
再次完全地活在你的心中，
13:22
but in any case, the person
will live again fully in your heart
will live again fully in your heart
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只要你不把心給封起來。
13:26
if you don't seal it off.
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13:28
Like Leonard Cohen said,
"There are cracks in everything,
"There are cracks in everything,
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如李歐納．柯恩說的：
「萬物皆有裂痕，
「萬物皆有裂痕，
那是光照進來的地方。」
13:31
and that's how the light gets in."
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這就是我們如何感受到
我們的人再次完整地活著。
我們的人再次完整地活著。
13:33
And that's how we feel
our people again fully alive.
our people again fully alive.
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13:39
Also, the people will make
you laugh out loud
you laugh out loud
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此外，這些人會讓你
在最不適宜的時刻
在最不適宜的時刻
大聲笑出來，
13:43
at the most inconvenient times,
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13:46
and that's the great good news.
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而那是很好的消息。
13:48
But their absence will also be a lifelong
nightmare of homesickness for you.
nightmare of homesickness for you.
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但他們不在了，這也會是
你一生懷念的惡夢。
你一生懷念的惡夢。
13:52
Grief and friends, time and tears
will heal you to some extent.
will heal you to some extent.
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悲傷及朋友，時間及眼淚，
能將你治癒到某個程度。
能將你治癒到某個程度。
眼淚將會浸洗、洗禮、
濕潤、滋潤你，
濕潤、滋潤你，
13:57
Tears will bathe and baptize
and hydrate and moisturize you
and hydrate and moisturize you
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14:01
and the ground on which you walk.
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以及你所行走的地面。
14:04
Do you know the first thing
that God says to Moses?
that God says to Moses?
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你們知道神對摩西說的第一句話嗎？
14:08
He says, "Take off your shoes."
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祂說：「脫下你的鞋子。」
14:11
Because this is holy ground,
all evidence to the contrary.
all evidence to the contrary.
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因為這是神聖之地，
所有相反的證據。
所有相反的證據。
很難相信，但這是
我所知道最真實的事。
我所知道最真實的事。
14:15
It's hard to believe,
but it's the truest thing I know.
but it's the truest thing I know.
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14:18
When you're a little bit older,
like my tiny personal self,
like my tiny personal self,
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當你再年長一點，就像
我那小小的個人自我，
我那小小的個人自我，
14:22
you realize that death
is as sacred as birth.
is as sacred as birth.
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你就會明白，死亡
是和出生一樣神聖的。
是和出生一樣神聖的。
14:26
And don't worry -- get on with your life.
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不要擔心──繼續過你的人生。
14:30
Almost every single death
is easy and gentle
is easy and gentle
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幾乎每一個死亡都是寬容且溫柔的，
有著最棒的人們圍繞在你身邊，
14:34
with the very best people surrounding you
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14:37
for as long as you need.
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不論多久，只要你需要。
14:39
You won't be alone.
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你不會孤單。
14:42
They'll help you cross over
to whatever awaits us.
to whatever awaits us.
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他們會協助你穿過任何
等在我們前方的事物。
等在我們前方的事物。
14:46
As Ram Dass said,
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如拉姆．達斯所言：
「當能說的說了，能做的做了，
14:48
"When all is said and done,
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我們其實都只是
在陪著彼此走回家。」
在陪著彼此走回家。」
14:50
we're really just all walking
each other home."
each other home."
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I think that's it,
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我想，就這樣了，
但如果我有想到其他的，
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but if I think of anything else,
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I'll let you know.
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我會讓你們知道。
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Thank you.
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謝謝。
（掌聲）
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(Applause)
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謝謝。
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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（掌聲）
我很意外會被邀請來此，
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I was very surprised to be asked to come,
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因為這不是我的領域，
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because it is not my realm,
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technology or design or entertainment.
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科技或設計或娛樂。
我的意思是，我的領域
算是信仰和寫作，
算是信仰和寫作，
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I mean, my realm is sort of
faith and writing
faith and writing
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有點像是一起蹣跚向前行。
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and kind of lurching along together.
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And I was surprised,
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我很意外，
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but they said I could give a talk,
and I said I'd love to.
and I said I'd love to.
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但他們說我能做一場演說，
我說我很樂意。
我說我很樂意。
（影片）如果你不知道從何開始，
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(Video) If you don't know where to start,
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切記，發生在你身上的
每一件事，都是屬於你的，
每一件事，都是屬於你的，
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remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours
that happened to you is yours
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and you get to tell it.
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而你可以訴說它們。
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Anne Lamott: People are very frightened
and feel really doomed
and feel really doomed
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安．拉莫特：
現今在美國，人們非常害怕，
現今在美國，人們非常害怕，
且覺得在劫難逃，
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in America these days,
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and I just wanted to help people
get their sense of humor about it
get their sense of humor about it
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我只是想要協助人們
找到對此的幽默感，
找到對此的幽默感，
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and to realize how much isn't a problem.
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了解到它其實一點也不是個問題。
如果你採取行動，
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If you take an action,
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採取一個非常健康、
慈愛，或友善的行動，
慈愛，或友善的行動，
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take a really healthy or loving
or friendly action,
or friendly action,
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你就會有慈愛和友善的感受。
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you'll have loving and friendly feelings.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayistWith disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos.
Why you should listen
Anne Lamott hooks into our common experience and guides us to an understanding infused with openness. An activist, former alcoholic and Sunday School teacher, Lamott uses humor to weave through loss, parenthood, faith and the cancer diagnosis given to her best friend, in beloved books like Bird by Bird and Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers. She says, "Hope begins in the dark ... if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up."
Her next book, Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy, was released in April 2017.
Anne Lamott | Speaker | TED.com