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Anne Lamott: 12 truths I learned from life and writing
Anne Lamott: 我从生活与写作中学到的12个真理
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在61岁生日的前夕，作家Anne Lamott决定写下她所知道的一切。她潜心了解生活在一个混乱、美丽、情感世界中的人的微妙情绪，给予她特有的对家庭、写作、上帝和死亡意义等的人生智慧和幽默。
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayist
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
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My seven-year-old grandson
sleeps just down the hall from me,
sleeps just down the hall from me,
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我七岁大的孙子就睡在我隔壁的房间，
他常常在清晨醒来，
00:16
and he wakes up a lot of mornings
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然后说，
00:18
and he says,
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“你知道，今天也许会是最棒的一天。”
00:19
"You know, this could be
the best day ever."
the best day ever."
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And other times,
in the middle of the night,
in the middle of the night,
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也有的时候，在午夜时分，
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he calls out in a tremulous voice,
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他会怯生生的问我，
“奶奶，你也会生病和死亡吗？“
00:27
"Nana, will you ever get sick and die?"
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I think this pretty much says it for me
and most of the people I know,
and most of the people I know,
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我想，我和大多数我认识的人
可能都是这样，
可能都是这样，
00:35
that we're a mixed grill
of happy anticipation
of happy anticipation
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我们同时拥有着乐观
与恐惧的情绪。
00:38
and dread.
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00:40
So I sat down a few days
before my 61st birthday,
before my 61st birthday,
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所以在我61岁生日的前几天，我坐下来，
决定把我确信的一切都列出来。
00:44
and I decided to compile a list
of everything I know for sure.
of everything I know for sure.
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00:50
There's so little truth
in the popular culture,
in the popular culture,
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流行文化中的真理太少了，
00:53
and it's good to be sure of a few things.
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能看清一些事实是有益的。
00:57
For instance, I am no longer 47,
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比方说，我已经不再是47岁了，
01:00
although this is the age I feel,
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虽然我依然觉得自己才47岁，
01:03
and the age I like to think
of myself as being.
of myself as being.
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我也希望自己一直是47岁。
01:06
My friend Paul used to say in his late 70s
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我的朋友保罗在他80岁将至时曾说，
01:09
that he felt like a young man
with something really wrong with him.
with something really wrong with him.
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他觉得自己是个
身体出了点故障的年轻人。
身体出了点故障的年轻人。
（笑声）
01:13
(Laughter)
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真正的我们不因时间和空间而改变，
01:17
Our true person is outside
of time and space,
of time and space,
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但是当我看到那些文书，
01:19
but looking at the paperwork,
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事实上，我能认识到自己是1954年出生的。
01:21
I can, in fact, see
that I was born in 1954.
that I was born in 1954.
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01:25
My inside self is outside
of time and space.
of time and space.
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我的内在不因时间和空间而改变，
01:28
It doesn't have an age.
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它没有年龄。
我存在于我所活过的每一个年龄，你也一样，
01:30
I'm every age I've ever been,
and so are you,
and so are you,
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虽然我不得不提一句
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although I can't help
mentioning as an aside
mentioning as an aside
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如果我当时没有遵循60年代那一套护肤理论
01:36
that it might have been helpful
if I hadn't followed
if I hadn't followed
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可能会对我大有好处，
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the skin care rules of the '60s,
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那会建议你尽可能多晒太阳，
01:41
which involved getting
as much sun as possible
as much sun as possible
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并涂抹厚厚的婴儿油
01:45
while slathered in baby oil
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然后拿锡箔反光板来吸收更多阳光。
01:47
and basking in the glow
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
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（笑声）
01:51
(Laughter)
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不过，面对现实也是一种解脱，
01:53
It was so liberating, though,
to face the truth
to face the truth
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我再也不用在中年之际作最后的挣扎，
01:56
that I was no longer
in the last throes of middle age,
in the last throes of middle age,
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我也决定写下我所知道的每一件真相。
01:59
that I decided to write down
every single true thing I know.
every single true thing I know.
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近来，人们感到非常绝望和茫然，
02:04
People feel really doomed
and overwhelmed these days,
and overwhelmed these days,
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他们不断问我什么是真的。
02:07
and they keep asking me what's true.
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所以我希望这些我确信的事情
02:10
So I hope that my list of things
I'm almost positive about
I'm almost positive about
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可以向那些不知所措或陷入困境的人
02:16
might offer some basic
operating instructions
operating instructions
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提供一些基本的指引。
02:19
to anyone who is feeling
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
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02:24
Number one:
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第一：
02:26
the first and truest thing
is that all truth is a paradox.
is that all truth is a paradox.
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第一个也是最真实的事情就是，
所有真相都是有对立面的。
所有真相都是有对立面的。
生命是精美绝伦的无价之宝，
02:29
Life is both a precious,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
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同时从另一方面看，它又是完全相反的。
02:34
and it's impossible here,
on the incarnational side of things.
on the incarnational side of things.
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这对我们这些天生敏感的人来说，
02:38
It's been a very bad match
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02:40
for those of us who were born
extremely sensitive.
extremely sensitive.
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真是不相匹配啊。
人生如此艰辛，
以至于有时候我们怀疑
以至于有时候我们怀疑
02:43
It's so hard and weird
that we sometimes wonder
that we sometimes wonder
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自己是不是被耍了。
02:46
if we're being punked.
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02:49
It's filled simultaneously
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
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生命同时充满了令人心碎的甜蜜和美丽，
02:53
desperate poverty,
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令人绝望的贫困，
以及洪水、婴儿、粉刺和莫扎特，
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floods and babies and acne and Mozart,
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全都缠绕在一起。
02:59
all swirled together.
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我不认为这是一个理想的体系。
03:01
I don't think it's an ideal system.
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（笑声）
03:04
(Laughter)
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第二：如果你把插头拔掉几分钟，
03:07
Number two: almost
everything will work again
everything will work again
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几乎所有事情都能恢复运转——
03:10
if you unplug it for a few minutes --
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03:13
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
（掌声）
03:15
(Applause)
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03:19
including you.
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你们也是。
第三：几乎不存在什么外在的力量
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Three: there is almost
nothing outside of you
nothing outside of you
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可以长久的帮助你自己，
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that will help in any kind of lasting way,
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除非你在等器官移植。
03:29
unless you're waiting for an organ.
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你无法买到或获取心灵的安宁。
03:31
You can't buy, achieve or date
serenity and peace of mind.
serenity and peace of mind.
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这是最可怕的事实，我非常憎恨它。
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This is the most horrible truth,
and I so resent it.
and I so resent it.
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但这是一项自身的工作，
03:41
But it's an inside job,
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03:43
and we can't arrange peace
or lasting improvement
or lasting improvement
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我们无法为世上最爱的人
03:46
for the people we love most in the world.
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去安排一份宁静或持续的改善。
他们必须找到自己的路
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They have to find their own ways,
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和自己的答案。
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their own answers.
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你不能在孩子成为英雄的征程中
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You can't run alongside
your grown children
your grown children
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替他们挡风遮雨。
03:56
with sunscreen and ChapStick
on their hero's journey.
on their hero's journey.
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你必须给他们自由。
04:01
You have to release them.
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不这么做就是不尊重他们。
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It's disrespectful not to.
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更何况当别人遇到问题的时候，
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And if it's someone else's problem,
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你可能也不知道到底该怎么办。
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you probably don't have
the answer, anyway.
the answer, anyway.
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04:11
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
我们的帮助常常没什么用，
04:12
Our help is usually not very helpful.
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04:15
Our help is often toxic.
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往往还是有害的。
所谓“帮助”就是“控制”的褒义词。
04:18
And help is the sunny side of control.
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04:22
Stop helping so much.
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别老是帮忙啦。
别再老是施以你的援手和友善。
04:25
Don't get your help and goodness
all over everybody.
all over everybody.
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04:28
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
（掌声）
04:31
(Applause)
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04:33
This brings us to number four:
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这也牵引出第四条：
每个人都是糟糕的、破碎的、依赖的、胆小的，
04:35
everyone is screwed up,
broken, clingy and scared,
broken, clingy and scared,
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甚至有的人同时拥有这些负面情绪，
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even the people who seem
to have it most together.
to have it most together.
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要相信他们其实和你差不多，
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They are much more like you
than you would believe,
than you would believe,
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所以不要拿自己的内在与别人的外表比较，
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so try not to compare your insides
to other people's outsides.
to other people's outsides.
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04:49
It will only make you worse
than you already are.
than you already are.
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这只会让你感到雪上加霜。
04:51
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
同时，你无法拯救他们
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Also, you can't save, fix
or rescue any of them
or rescue any of them
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04:59
or get anyone sober.
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或是让他们认清事实。
05:01
What helped me get clean
and sober 30 years ago
and sober 30 years ago
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30年前帮助我变得清醒的
是我行为和思想带来的巨大灾难。
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was the catastrophe
of my behavior and thinking.
of my behavior and thinking.
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05:08
So I asked some sober friends for help,
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当时我请求一些理智的朋友帮我，
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and I turned to a higher power.
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我也求助于更强大的力量。
“上帝”一词可以看做是
“绝望中的礼物”的缩写，
“绝望中的礼物”的缩写，
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One acronym for God
is the "gift of desperation,"
is the "gift of desperation,"
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G-O-D,
（两者拼写的首字母相同）
（两者拼写的首字母相同）
05:16
G-O-D,
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or as a sober friend put it,
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或者像一个清醒的朋友说的，
到头来，我堕落的速度
比我降低底线的速度还要快。
比我降低底线的速度还要快。
05:19
by the end I was deteriorating faster
than I could lower my standards.
than I could lower my standards.
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（笑声）
05:24
(Laughter)
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05:31
So God might mean, in this case,
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所以在这种情况下，“上帝”的意思是，
“我已经没什么好主意了。”
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"me running out of any more good ideas."
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当修复、挽救、和拯救都变成徒劳，
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While fixing and saving
and trying to rescue is futile,
and trying to rescue is futile,
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积极的自我保护就是量子，
05:41
radical self-care is quantum,
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05:45
and it radiates out from you
into the atmosphere
into the atmosphere
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这种力量被你激发后飘散在空气中，
就像新鲜空气一样。
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like a little fresh air.
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05:50
It's a huge gift to the world.
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这是给世界的一份大礼。
05:53
When people respond by saying,
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
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当人们回应说，
“好吧，她是不是太自我了？”
“好吧，她是不是太自我了？”
05:57
just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa
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只要像蒙娜丽莎一样微微一笑，
06:00
and make both of you a nice cup of tea.
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然后给彼此都倒杯好茶就好。
06:04
Being full of affection
for one's goofy, self-centered,
for one's goofy, self-centered,
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能包容一个人的憨傻、自我中心、
暴躁、讨厌
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cranky, annoying self
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是家。
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is home.
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家是让世界和平开始的地方。
06:13
It's where world peace begins.
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第五：
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Number five:
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可可含量75%的巧克力不可以称作是食物。
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chocolate with 75 percent cacao
is not actually a food.
is not actually a food.
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06:23
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
06:27
Its best use is as a bait in snake traps
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它的最佳用途是作为蛇陷阱里的诱饵
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or to balance the legs of wobbly chairs.
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或者用来垫椅子腿来防止晃动。
它从未被认为是可以食用的。
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It was never meant
to be considered an edible.
to be considered an edible.
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06:41
Number six --
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第六——
06:43
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
写作。
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writing.
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06:48
Every writer you know writes
really terrible first drafts,
really terrible first drafts,
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你认识的每一个作家，
初稿写得都很糟糕，
初稿写得都很糟糕，
06:53
but they keep their butt in the chair.
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但他们会坚持钉坐在椅子上。
这就是生活的秘密。
06:55
That's the secret of life.
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这也许就是你们之间的主要区别。
06:57
That's probably the main difference
between you and them.
between you and them.
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他们想做就去做了。
07:00
They just do it.
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他们在做之前就预先准备好了。
07:01
They do it by prearrangement
with themselves.
with themselves.
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他们把这当做一种义务。
07:04
They do it as a debt of honor.
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07:07
They tell stories that come through them
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他们讲述自己曾经历过的故事，
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one day at a time, little by little.
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一天一点、一点一点地讲出来。
在我哥哥上四年级的时候，
07:12
When my older brother was in fourth grade,
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有次有一篇关于鸟类的学期论文，
第二天就要交，
第二天就要交，
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he had a term paper on birds
due the next day,
due the next day,
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然而他还没有开始写。
07:18
and he hadn't started.
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于是我爸爸在他身旁坐下来，
拿着一本Audubon的书、
拿着一本Audubon的书、
07:20
So my dad sat down with him
with an Audubon book,
with an Audubon book,
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一些纸张、铅笔和两脚钉——
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paper, pencils and brads --
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知道两脚钉的都不再年轻了吧——
07:27
for those of you who have gotten
a little less young and remember brads --
a little less young and remember brads --
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然后他对我哥哥说，
07:32
and he said to my brother,
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“一只鸟一只鸟的写，孩子。
07:35
"Just take it bird by bird, buddy.
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先读一些关于鹈鹕的东西
07:38
Just read about pelicans
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然后用你自己的理解
把鹈鹕的知识写下来。
把鹈鹕的知识写下来。
07:40
and then write about pelicans
in your own voice.
in your own voice.
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接着找到山雀，
07:44
And then find out about chickadees,
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然后用你自己的理解
告诉我们山雀的知识。
告诉我们山雀的知识。
07:47
and tell us about them in your own voice.
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再然后是鹅。”
07:50
And then geese."
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所以写作最重要的两点：一只鸟一只鸟的写
07:52
So the two most important things
about writing are: bird by bird
about writing are: bird by bird
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和惨不忍睹的初稿。
07:56
and really god-awful first drafts.
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07:59
If you don't know where to start,
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如果你不知道从哪开始，
08:01
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours,
that happened to you is yours,
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记得那些发生在你身上的事，
它们每件都属于你，
它们每件都属于你，
你就直接说出来。
08:04
and you get to tell it.
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08:06
If people wanted you to write
more warmly about them,
more warmly about them,
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如果人们希望你把他们写得更温和一些，
08:10
they should've behaved better.
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那他们应该表现得更好。
（笑声）
08:11
(Laughter)
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（掌声）
08:14
(Applause)
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08:19
You're going to feel like hell
if you wake up someday
if you wake up someday
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也许某天你清醒了会觉得糟糕透了，
08:22
and you never wrote the stuff
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因为你发现你从来没写过那些
一直牵扯着你的内心的东西，
08:23
that is tugging on the sleeves
of your heart:
of your heart:
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比如你的故事，回忆，幻想，与歌曲--
08:27
your stories, memories,
visions and songs --
visions and songs --
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你的真实，
08:30
your truth,
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你对事物的看法－－
08:32
your version of things --
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用你自己的声音，
08:34
in your own voice.
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那些都是你必须要带给我们的东西，
08:35
That's really all you have to offer us,
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也是你生命的意义。
08:38
and that's also why you were born.
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08:42
Seven: publication and temporary
creative successes
creative successes
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第七：你必须要从出版发行
和短暂创造出的成就中
和短暂创造出的成就中
08:46
are something you have to recover from.
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恢复过来。
08:49
They kill as many people as not.
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这些名利杀死了迷失其中的人。
08:52
They will hurt, damage and change you
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它们会以你无法想象的方式
伤害你、改变你。
08:55
in ways you cannot imagine.
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08:57
The most degraded
and evil people I've ever known
and evil people I've ever known
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我所认识的最堕落和邪恶的人
09:01
are male writers who've had
huge best sellers.
huge best sellers.
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是一些出版过超级畅销书的男作家。
09:05
And yet, returning to number one,
that all truth is paradox,
that all truth is paradox,
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这又说回第一点：
所有事都是有对立面的。
所有事都是有对立面的。
09:09
it's also a miracle
to get your work published,
to get your work published,
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把你的作品出版当然也是一个奇迹，
可以让你的故事被世人阅读和听闻。
09:11
to get your stories read and heard.
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但要努力让自己从出版发行的幻想中抽身，
09:14
Just try to bust yourself
gently of the fantasy
gently of the fantasy
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你以为出版发行可以治愈你，
09:17
that publication will heal you,
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可以填满你内心一个个
如同瑞士干酪的洞。
如同瑞士干酪的洞。
09:19
that it will fill the Swiss-cheesy
holes inside of you.
holes inside of you.
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它不能。
09:23
It can't.
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它也不会。
09:25
It won't.
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但是写作本身可以。
09:26
But writing can.
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在合唱团或蓝草乐队（乡村音乐）
唱歌也可以。
唱歌也可以。
09:28
So can singing in a choir
or a bluegrass band.
or a bluegrass band.
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在社区作壁画或观鸟也可以。
09:32
So can painting community
murals or birding
murals or birding
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或者养一条其他人都不想养的老狗
也可以治愈你。
也可以治愈你。
09:35
or fostering old dogs
that no one else will.
that no one else will.
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09:40
Number eight: families.
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第八：家庭。
09:44
Families are hard, hard, hard,
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无论家人有多么珍贵和精彩，
09:48
no matter how cherished
and astonishing they may also be.
and astonishing they may also be.
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家庭生活都是难、难、难。
参见第一条。
09:51
Again, see number one.
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（笑声）
09:53
(Laughter)
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如果在家庭聚会上，你突然很想杀人或自杀--
09:54
At family gatherings where you suddenly
feel homicidal or suicidal --
feel homicidal or suicidal --
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（笑声）
09:58
(Laughter)
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记住，在所有情况下，
10:00
remember that in all cases,
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我们每一个人的孕育和诞生都是一个奇迹。
10:02
it's a miracle that any of us,
specifically, were conceived and born.
specifically, were conceived and born.
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10:08
Earth is forgiveness school.
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地球是一个教会我们宽恕的学校。
10:10
It begins with forgiving yourself,
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从原谅自己开始，
你最好从坐在餐桌前开始。
10:12
and then you might as well
start at the dinner table.
start at the dinner table.
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10:16
That way, you can do this work
in comfortable pants.
in comfortable pants.
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这样，你还能穿着舒服的裤子来做这件事。
10:20
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
当William Blake说，
10:23
When William Blake said that we are here
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我们在这世上是要学会承受爱的光芒，
10:25
to learn to endure the beams of love,
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10:28
he knew that your family would be
an intimate part of this,
an intimate part of this,
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他想说，你的家人会成为密不可分的一部分，
即使你要为了你可爱的人生尖叫奔跑，
10:31
even as you want to run screaming
for your cute little life.
for your cute little life.
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10:35
But I promise you are up to it.
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但我保证，你能行。
10:38
You can do it, Cinderella, you can do it,
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你能做到，灰姑娘，你能做到，
然后你会感到大为惊奇。
10:41
and you will be amazed.
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10:45
Nine: food.
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第九：食物。
10:48
Try to do a little better.
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试着做得更好一些。
10:51
I think you know what I mean.
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我想你明白我的意思。
10:53
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
11:03
Number 10 --
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第十——
11:04
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
恩泽。
11:06
grace.
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11:08
Grace is spiritual WD-40,
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恩泽是精神上的WD-40
（一种除锈润剂）
（一种除锈润剂）
11:11
or water wings.
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或者是游泳圈。
恩泽的神秘之处在于，
上帝爱Henry Kissinger和Vladimir Putin，
上帝爱Henry Kissinger和Vladimir Putin，
11:13
The mystery of grace is that God loves
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
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也爱我，
11:19
and me
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就像他或她也爱你们刚出生的小孙子。
11:20
exactly as much as He or She
loves your new grandchild.
loves your new grandchild.
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11:24
Go figure.
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想想看吧！
11:26
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
是恩泽改变了我们，治愈了我们，
11:28
The movement of grace
is what changes us, heals us
is what changes us, heals us
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它也治愈了我们的世界。
11:31
and heals our world.
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想要受到恩泽，就说“救命“，
然后系好安全带。
然后系好安全带。
11:33
To summon grace, say, "Help,"
and then buckle up.
and then buckle up.
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恩泽会在你需要的时候出现，
11:37
Grace finds you exactly where you are,
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但它不会将你遗弃那里。
11:39
but it doesn't leave you
where it found you.
where it found you.
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遗憾的是，
11:42
And grace won't look
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
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恩泽不会像鬼马小精灵一样。
11:45
regrettably.
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但是电话会响的，邮件会来的，
11:47
But the phone will ring
or the mail will come
or the mail will come
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尽管困难重重，
11:49
and then against all odds,
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你会得到属于你自己的幽默感。
11:51
you'll get your sense of humor
about yourself back.
about yourself back.
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11:54
Laughter really is carbonated holiness.
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笑声真的是含着二氧化碳的圣洁。
11:58
It helps us breathe again and again
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它帮助我们一次又一次地呼吸
12:01
and gives us back to ourselves,
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让我们回归最真的自我，
这也带给我们对生活和彼此的信心。
12:03
and this gives us faith
in life and each other.
in life and each other.
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12:08
And remember -- grace always bats last.
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记住，恩泽总是与我们相伴。
12:13
Eleven: God just means goodness.
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十一：上帝就是善良。
12:16
It's really not all that scary.
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他真的不那么可怕。
它意味着神圣或是慈爱的，朝气蓬勃的智慧，
12:19
It means the divine or a loving,
animating intelligence,
animating intelligence,
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就像我们从伟大的Deteriorata中知道的，
宇宙中的松饼
宇宙中的松饼
12:23
or, as we learned
from the great "Deteriorata,"
from the great "Deteriorata,"
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（此处指一首被恶搞的诗词，
里面说到上帝是宇宙中的松饼）。
里面说到上帝是宇宙中的松饼）。
12:27
"the cosmic muffin."
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12:29
A good name for God is: "Not me."
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上帝的美名是：“不是我。”
12:33
Emerson said that
the happiest person on Earth
the happiest person on Earth
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Emerson曾说
地球上最幸福的人
地球上最幸福的人
12:36
is the one who learns from nature
the lessons of worship.
the lessons of worship.
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是那个从自然中学会了尊敬的人。
所以到外面去走走，抬头看看。
12:40
So go outside a lot and look up.
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12:43
My pastor said you can trap bees
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
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我的牧师说你可以将蜜蜂困在
无盖玻璃瓶的底部，
无盖玻璃瓶的底部，
因为它们不会抬头看，
12:48
because they don't look up,
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所以它们只会四处碰壁。
12:50
so they just walk around bitterly
bumping into the glass walls.
bumping into the glass walls.
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走出去，抬头看看，
12:54
Go outside. Look up.
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这是生活的秘密。
12:57
Secret of life.
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12:59
And finally: death.
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最后，死亡。
13:02
Number 12.
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第十二。
13:04
Wow and yikes.
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哇，天哪。
13:07
It's so hard to bear when the few people
you cannot live without die.
you cannot live without die.
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有时候至亲的人死去真的难以承受，
13:11
You'll never get over these losses,
and no matter what the culture says,
and no matter what the culture says,
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你永远无法从悲痛中平复，
无论老话怎么说，
无论老话怎么说，
你不应该如此。
13:15
you're not supposed to.
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我们基督徒喜欢把死亡
想象成只是更换了住址，
想象成只是更换了住址，
13:17
We Christians like to think of death
as a major change of address,
as a major change of address,
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但无论如何，如果你不把心门封锁，
13:22
but in any case, the person
will live again fully in your heart
will live again fully in your heart
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这个人就还将活在你的心中。
13:26
if you don't seal it off.
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就像Leonard Cohen说的，
“万物皆有裂痕，
“万物皆有裂痕，
13:28
Like Leonard Cohen said,
"There are cracks in everything,
"There are cracks in everything,
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那将是光照进来的地方。“
13:31
and that's how the light gets in."
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那也将会是我们感到重获新生的地方。
13:33
And that's how we feel
our people again fully alive.
our people again fully alive.
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13:39
Also, the people will make
you laugh out loud
you laugh out loud
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而且，有些人会让你在不适宜的时候，
13:43
at the most inconvenient times,
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开怀大笑，
那是个超赞的好消息。
13:46
and that's the great good news.
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但他们的缺席也将是你一生的思乡之梦。
13:48
But their absence will also be a lifelong
nightmare of homesickness for you.
nightmare of homesickness for you.
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悲伤和朋友，时间和眼泪，
会在一定程度上治愈你。
会在一定程度上治愈你。
13:52
Grief and friends, time and tears
will heal you to some extent.
will heal you to some extent.
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眼泪将沐浴、洗礼、和滋润你
13:57
Tears will bathe and baptize
and hydrate and moisturize you
and hydrate and moisturize you
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以及你一路走来的土地。
14:01
and the ground on which you walk.
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你知道上帝对摩西说的第一件事吗？
14:04
Do you know the first thing
that God says to Moses?
that God says to Moses?
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14:08
He says, "Take off your shoes."
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他说：“脱下你的鞋子。”
14:11
Because this is holy ground,
all evidence to the contrary.
all evidence to the contrary.
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因为你所站之地是圣地，
事实都是相反的。
事实都是相反的。
14:15
It's hard to believe,
but it's the truest thing I know.
but it's the truest thing I know.
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很难相信，但这是我所知道的
最真实的事情。
最真实的事情。
当你再年长一点，像我这般，
14:18
When you're a little bit older,
like my tiny personal self,
like my tiny personal self,
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你会意识到死亡和出生一样神圣。
14:22
you realize that death
is as sacred as birth.
is as sacred as birth.
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14:26
And don't worry -- get on with your life.
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也别担心，继续你的生活。
14:30
Almost every single death
is easy and gentle
is easy and gentle
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只要你需要
14:34
with the very best people surrounding you
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与周围的亲人一起面对死亡，
那么死亡将会是简单而温柔的。
14:37
for as long as you need.
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你不会孤单的。
14:39
You won't be alone.
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14:42
They'll help you cross over
to whatever awaits us.
to whatever awaits us.
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不论等待我们的是什么他们都会帮你一同度过。
14:46
As Ram Dass said,
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正如Ram Dass所说，
14:48
"When all is said and done,
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“说到底，
我们只是互相把对方送回家。”
14:50
we're really just all walking
each other home."
each other home."
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14:55
I think that's it,
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我想说的就是这些，
14:56
but if I think of anything else,
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但如果我想到别的东西，
我会告诉你们的，
14:58
I'll let you know.
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谢谢你们。
15:00
Thank you.
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（掌声）
15:01
(Applause)
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谢谢你们。
15:03
Thank you.
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（掌声）
15:04
(Applause)
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能被邀请到这里我很惊喜，
15:06
I was very surprised to be asked to come,
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因为这儿不是我的领域，
15:08
because it is not my realm,
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技术、设计或娱乐（TED的核心主题）。
15:11
technology or design or entertainment.
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我的意思是，我更擅长谈论信仰和写作，
15:13
I mean, my realm is sort of
faith and writing
faith and writing
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以及相互协作之类的话题。
15:16
and kind of lurching along together.
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所以我很惊讶，
15:19
And I was surprised,
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但是当他们告诉我可以做个演讲，
我说我很愿意。
我说我很愿意。
15:21
but they said I could give a talk,
and I said I'd love to.
and I said I'd love to.
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（视频声）如果你不知道从哪里开始，
15:25
(Video) If you don't know where to start,
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记住发生在你身上的每件事都是你的，
15:27
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours
that happened to you is yours
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你得把它说出来。
15:30
and you get to tell it.
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（演讲者）当今的美国人们都很害怕，
15:32
Anne Lamott: People are very frightened
and feel really doomed
and feel really doomed
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觉得自己真的完蛋了，
15:35
in America these days,
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我只是想帮助人们获得幽默感，
15:36
and I just wanted to help people
get their sense of humor about it
get their sense of humor about it
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明白这不是一个多大的问题。
15:39
and to realize how much isn't a problem.
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如果你采取行动，
15:43
If you take an action,
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采取一个真正明智、友好善意的行动
15:47
take a really healthy or loving
or friendly action,
or friendly action,
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你就会感觉到友爱和友好。
15:51
you'll have loving and friendly feelings.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayistWith disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos.
Why you should listen
Anne Lamott hooks into our common experience and guides us to an understanding infused with openness. An activist, former alcoholic and Sunday School teacher, Lamott uses humor to weave through loss, parenthood, faith and the cancer diagnosis given to her best friend, in beloved books like Bird by Bird and Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers. She says, "Hope begins in the dark ... if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up."
Her next book, Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy, was released in April 2017.
Anne Lamott | Speaker | TED.com