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The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children.

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Colin Stokes divides his time between parenting and building the brand of Citizen Schools, a non-profit that reimagines the school day for middle school students in low-income communities in eight states. As Managing Director of Brand & Communications, Colin helps people within the organization find the ideas, words and stories that will connect with more and more people. He believes that understanding the human mind is a force that can be used for good and seeks to take advantage of our innate and learned tendencies to bring out the best in each other and our culture.

Before starting a family, Colin was an actor and graphic designer in New York City. He starred in the long-running off-Broadway musical I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change, as well is in several musicals and Shakespeare stagings. But he jokes that he seems to have achieved more renown (and considerably more revenue) for his brief appearances on two Law & Order episodes.

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Colin Stokes: How movies teach manhood

科林·斯托克斯(Colin Stokes):电影中的男子气概

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当科林·斯托克斯(Colin Stokes)三岁大的儿子看到《星球大战》,就立刻沉迷其中了。但是他从中学到了什么?科林·斯托克斯希望电影向男孩子们传递更多的好的信息:注重合作,尊重女性,战胜邪恶。(录制于 TEDxBeaconStreet)。
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The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children. Full bio

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You know, my favorite喜爱 part部分 of being存在 a dad
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身为父亲最让我开心的,
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is the movies电影 I get to watch.
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就是可以看自己喜欢的电影。
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I love sharing分享 my favorite喜爱 movies电影 with my kids孩子,
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我喜欢跟我的孩子分享我的电影,
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and when my daughter女儿 was four,
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当我的女儿四岁的时候,
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we got to watch "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹" together一起.
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我们一起看了《绿野仙踪》。
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It totally完全 dominated占主导地位 her imagination想像力 for months个月.
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接下来几个月她完全被迷住了。
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Her favorite喜爱 character字符 was Glinda格林达, of course课程.
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她最喜欢的角色,当然是葛琳达(Glinda)。
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It gave her a great excuse借口 to wear穿 a sparkly闪闪发光的 dress连衣裙
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这让她把自己打扮的像仙女一样
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and carry携带 a wand棍棒.
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还拿着魔杖。
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But you watch that movie电影 enough足够 times,
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但是当你看了几遍之后,
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and you start开始 to realize实现 how unusual异常 it is.
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你就会发现这部电影是多么的与众不同。
00:43
Now we live生活 today今天, and are raising提高 our children孩子,
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现在, 我们生活,抚养小孩,
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in a kind of children's-fantasy-spectacular-industrialchildren's幻想壮观工业 complex复杂.
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都是沉浸在一种儿童奇幻般复杂的世界里。
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But "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹" stood站在 alone单独.
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但是《绿野仙踪》独树一帜。
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It did not start开始 that trend趋势.
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它并不属于那一类。
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Forty四十 years年份 later后来 was when the trend趋势 really caught抓住 on,
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这种趋势是四十年后的今天才流行的.
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with, interestingly有趣, another另一个 movie电影
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很有意思的是, 另外一部电影
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that featured精选 a metal金属 guy
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里面有一个铁大个儿
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and a furry毛茸茸 guy
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和一个毛绒绒的家伙
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rescuing营救 a girl女孩 by dressing敷料 up as the enemy's敌人的 guards卫士.
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伪装成敌人的守卫去解救一个女孩。
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Do you know what I'm talking about? (Laughter笑声)
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你猜到这是哪部电影了么?(观众笑声)
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Yeah.
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对的。
01:15
Now, there's a big difference区别 between之间 these two movies电影,
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这两部电影有很多不同,
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a couple一对 of really big differences分歧 between之间 "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹"
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《绿野仙踪》跟我们近年来看到的所有电影
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and all the movies电影 we watch today今天.
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在两三方面存在巨大的差异。
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One is there's very little violence暴力 in "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹."
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首先,《绿野仙踪》没有什么暴力成分。
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The monkeys猴子 are rather aggressive侵略性, as are the apple苹果 trees树木.
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猴子算是里面比较暴力的了,类似的还有苹果树。
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But I think if "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹" were made制作 today今天,
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但是我想如果我们今天拍摄《绿野仙踪》,
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the wizard巫师 would say, "Dorothy多萝西, you are the savior救主 of Oz奥兹
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巫师会说:“多萝西(Dorothy),你是预言中
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that the prophecy预言 foretold预言.
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拯救奥兹(Oz)的人,
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Use your magic魔法 slippers拖鞋 to defeat打败
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用你的魔法拖鞋去打败
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the computer-generated计算机生成的 armies军队 of the Wicked邪恶 Witch巫婆."
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坏巫婆的(电脑生成的)军队吧。”
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But that's not how it happens发生.
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但是,不是这样子的。
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Another另一个 thing that's really unique独特 about "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹"
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《绿野仙踪》的独特性还体现在
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to me is that all of the most heroic英勇
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片中绝大多数的英勇角色、
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and wise明智的 and even villainous流氓 characters人物
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智者、甚至坏人
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are female.
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都是女性。
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Now I started开始 to notice注意 this
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我是在几年之后,
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when I actually其实 showed显示 "Star Wars战争" to my daughter女儿,
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跟我的女儿一起看《星球大战》的时候
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which哪一个 was years年份 later后来, and the situation情况 was different不同.
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意识到这点的,那时候情况有些不同。
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At that point I also had a son儿子.
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那时我添了一个儿子。
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He was only three at the time.
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当时三岁。
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He was not invited邀请 to the screening筛查. He was too young年轻 for that.
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他还太小,所以我们没叫他一起看
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But he was the second第二 child儿童,
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但是作为家里第二个孩子,
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and the level水平 of supervision监督 had plummeted暴跌. (Laughter笑声)
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对他的照看一下子就松了很多。(笑声)
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So he wandered逛到 in,
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结果他也跑了进来,
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and it imprinted on him
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然后就入迷了
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like a mommy妈妈 duck does to its duckling小鸭,
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就像是小鸭子一出生见到鸭妈妈一样,
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and I don't think he understands理解 what's going on,
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我不认为他看懂了这部电影的内容
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but he is sure soaking浸水 in it.
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但是他显然已经沉迷其中了。
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And I wonder奇迹 what he's soaking浸水 in.
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我很好奇他喜欢这部电影的原因。
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Is he picking选择 up on the themes主题 of courage勇气
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是影片主题体现出来的勇气、
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and perseverance毅力 and loyalty忠诚?
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毅力与忠诚?
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Is he picking选择 up on the fact事实 that Luke卢克
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亦或是卢克(Luke)加入军队
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joins加入 an army军队 to overthrow推翻 the government政府?
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推翻政府的事实?
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Is he picking选择 up on the fact事实 that
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还是说他意识到了
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there are only boys男孩 in the universe宇宙
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整部电影中除了贝鲁阿姨(Aunt Beru)之外
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except for Aunt姑妈 Beru贝鲁, and of course课程 this princess公主,
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都是男孩?哦,当然还有公主是女性,
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who's谁是 really cool, but who kind of waits等待 around through通过 most of the movie电影
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很冷艳,但是她基本上只是跑个龙套
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so that she can award the hero英雄 with a medal勋章 and a wink眨眼
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在故事最后给英雄发放一个奖章,抛个媚眼
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to thank him for saving保存 the universe宇宙, which哪一个 he does
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感谢他拯救了世界,
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by the magic魔法 that he was born天生 with?
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用他与生俱来的魔力。
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Compare比较 this to 1939 with "The Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹."
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对比一下1939年的《绿野仙踪》。
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How does Dorothy多萝西 win赢得 her movie电影?
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多萝西是如何取得胜利的?
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By making制造 friends朋友 with everybody每个人
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她通过跟每个人都成为好朋友
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and being存在 a leader领导.
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变成他们的领袖。
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That's kind of the world世界 I'd rather raise提高 my kids孩子 in --
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我更希望自己孩子可以在这样的环境中——
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Oz奥兹, right? -- and not the world世界 of dudes帅哥 fighting战斗,
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奥兹的世界——长大,而不是打来打去的世界,
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which哪一个 is where we kind of have to be.
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——这种世界倒是很贴近现实。
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Why is there so much Force -- capital首都 F, Force --
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为什么我们给小孩子的电影中
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in the movies电影 we have for our kids孩子,
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有那么多的暴力
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and so little yellow黄色 brick road?
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那么少的黄砖路(绿野仙踪中的道路)?
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There is a lot of great writing写作 about the impact碰撞
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关于男性暴力电影对于女性的影响,
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that the boy-violent男孩暴力 movie电影 has on girls女孩,
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有很多出色的分析文章,
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and you should do that reading. It's very good.
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你应该去看看。写的很好。
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I haven't没有 read as much on how boys男孩 are picking选择 up on this vibe盛传.
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这种氛围对男孩的影响,我读的文章不多。
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I know from my own拥有 experience经验 that
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就我自己的经验而言,
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Princess公主 Leia累啊 did not provide提供 the adequate充足 context上下文
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从莱娅公主所处环境中得到的经验
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that I could have used in navigating导航 the adult成人 world世界
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不足以指导我在现实生活中引导孩子进入成人世界
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that is co-ed男女同校. (Laughter笑声)
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成人世界是"男女混居的"。(笑声)
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I think there was a first-kiss初吻 moment时刻
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我认为荧幕上的初吻
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when I really expected预期 the credits学分 to start开始 rolling压延
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应该发生在电影的最后,最好是演员表出现的时候,
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because that's the end结束 of the movie电影, right?
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因为这是电影的结局,对么?
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I finished my quest寻求, I got the girl女孩.
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我完成了使命,赢得芳心。
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Why are you still standing常设 there?
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为什么还要呆站在这里?
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I don't know what I'm supposed应该 to do.
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我不知道应该做什么。
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The movies电影 are very, very focused重点 on defeating击败 the villain恶棍
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这些电影把重点放在打败坏人
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and getting得到 your reward奖励, and there's not a lot of room房间
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获得奖励上,以至于没有多少时间
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for other relationships关系 and other journeys旅程.
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处理其他关系和经历。
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It's almost几乎 as though虽然 if you're a boy男孩,
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基本上,如果你是男孩
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you are a dopey呆笨的 animal动物,
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你就是一个呆笨的动物,
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and if you are a girl女孩, you should bring带来 your warrior战士 costume服装.
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如果你是女孩,你就应该穿上战袍。
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There are plenty丰富 of exceptions例外,
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当然反例也很多,
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and I will defend保卫 the Disney迪士尼 princesses公主们 in front面前 of any you.
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而且我会在你们面前为迪斯尼的公主们辩护。
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But they do send发送 a message信息 to boys男孩,
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但是这些电影给男孩子的感觉是
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that they are not, the boys男孩 are not really the target目标 audience听众.
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他们不是这些电影预期的观众
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They are doing a phenomenal非凡的 job工作 of teaching教学 girls女孩
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这些电影有很大的一个功劳
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how to defend保卫 against反对 the patriarchy父权制,
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就是教会女孩子如何反抗父权社会,
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but they are not necessarily一定 showing展示 boys男孩
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但是这些电影并没有
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how they're supposed应该 to defend保卫 against反对 the patriarchy父权制.
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向男孩子们展示如何反抗父权社会。
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There's no models楷模 for them.
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孩子们没有偶像可寻。
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And we also have some terrific了不起 women妇女
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我们也有一些了不起的女性
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who are writing写作 new stories故事 for our kids孩子,
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开始为我们的孩子写新的故事
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and as three-dimensional三维 and delightful愉快 as Hermione赫敏 and Katniss凯特尼斯 are,
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包括像赫敏和凯特里斯这样生动形象的角色,
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these are still war战争 movies电影.
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但是还是属于战争电影。
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And, of course课程, the most successful成功 studio工作室 of all time
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当然,史上最成功的电影工作室(皮克斯)
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continues继续 to crank曲柄 out classic经典 after classic经典,
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连续不断的创造经典电影
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every一切 single one of them about
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每部电影都讲述一段故事
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the journey旅程 of a boy男孩, or a man,
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一个小男孩的,或一个大男人的,
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or two men男人 who are friends朋友, or a man and his son儿子,
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或两个大男人,或父与子,
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or two men男人 who are raising提高 a little girl女孩.
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或是两个男人抚养一个小女孩。
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Until直到, as many许多 of you are thinking思维, this year,
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终于,你们很多人都已经知道,
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when they finally最后 came来了 out with "Brave勇敢."
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今年他们终于推出了《勇敢传说》。
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I recommend推荐 it to all of you. It's on demand需求 now.
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我向你们所有人推荐这部电影。现在正在上映。
06:00
Do you remember记得 what the critics批评者 said when "Brave勇敢" came来了 out?
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你还记得《勇敢传说》刚上映时的批评么?
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"Aw, I can't believe Pixar皮克斯 made制作 a princess公主 movie电影."
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“哦,不敢相信皮克斯也开始做公主电影了。”
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It's very good. Don't let that stop you.
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这很好。别止步。
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Now, almost几乎 none没有 of these movies电影 pass通过 the BechdelBechdel Test测试.
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现在,这些电影几乎都没有通过“贝克德尔测试”(Bechdel Test)。
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I don't know if you've heard听说 of this.
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我不知道你们是否听说过,
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It has not yet然而 caught抓住 on and caught抓住 fire,
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这个测试并不为人所知,
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but maybe today今天 we will start开始 a movement运动.
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但是今天或许我们能做些推动。
06:20
Alison艾莉森 BechdelBechdel is a comic滑稽 book artist艺术家,
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艾莉森·贝克德尔是一个漫画作家,
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and back in the mid-'中-'80s, she recorded记录 this conversation会话
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在80年代中期,,她记录下了她和一个朋友
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she'd had with a friend朋友 about assessing评估 the movies电影 that they saw.
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在评估她们看过的电影时的讨论内容。
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And it's very simple简单. There's just three questions问题 you should ask:
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非常简单,只有三个问题:
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Is there more than one character字符 in the movie电影
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这部电影中是否有一个以上的角色
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that is female who has lines线?
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是女性并且有台词?
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So try to meet遇到 that bar酒吧.
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想想看这个标准。
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And do these women妇女 talk to each other at any point in the movie电影?
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如果是,这些女性角色在电影中是否交谈过?
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And is their conversation会话 about something other than
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如果交谈了,有没有跟她们共同的心上人
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the guy that they both like? (Laughter笑声)
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无关的谈话内容?(笑声)
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Right? Thank you. (Applause掌声)
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明白了?谢谢。(掌声)
07:00
Thank you very much.
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非常感谢。
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Two women妇女 who exist存在 and talk to each other about stuff东东.
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两个女人,有台词,有交谈。
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It does happen发生. I've seen看到 it,
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确实有这样的电影。我看过,
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and yet然而 I very rarely很少 see it in the movies电影
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但是在我们看过的和喜欢的电影中
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that we know and love.
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是很少见的。
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In fact事实, this week I went to see
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事实上,这个星期我刚看过
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a very high-quality高质量 movie电影, "Argo阿尔戈."
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一部质量不错的电影《阿尔戈》(Argo)。
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Right? Oscar奥斯卡 buzz蜂鸣器, doing great at the box office办公室,
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奥斯卡热门电影,票房很好,
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a consensus共识 idea理念 of what a quality质量 Hollywood好莱坞 film电影 is.
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公认的好莱坞电影高品质电影。
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It pretty漂亮 much flunksflunks the BechdelBechdel test测试.
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但是贝尔德尔测试不及格。
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And I don't think it should, because a lot of the movie电影,
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我觉得这不应该。因为电影中的大部分情节
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I don't know if you've seen看到 it, but a lot of the movie电影
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不知道你们看过没有,电影中的大部分情节
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takes place地点 in this embassy大使馆 where men男人 and women妇女
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都发生在发生人质劫持事件的大使馆内,
07:44
are hiding out during the hostage人质 crisis危机.
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男人和女人都躲在里面。
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We've我们已经 got quite相当 a few少数 scenes场景 of the men男人
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我们看到好几个场景,
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having deep, angst-ridden焦虑缠身 conversations对话 in this hideout巢穴,
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男人们在藏身处深刻而充满焦虑的对话。
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and the great moment时刻 for one of the actresses女演员 is
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而电影中一个女演员最出彩的情节
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to peek窥视 through通过 the door and say, "Are you coming未来 to bed, honey蜜糖?"
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是隔着一扇门问道,“睡觉么,亲爱的?”
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That's Hollywood好莱坞 for you.
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这就是好莱坞。
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So let's look at the numbers数字.
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来看看统计数字。
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2011, of the 100 most popular流行 movies电影,
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2011年前100部最流行的电影中,
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how many许多 of them do you think actually其实 have female protagonists主角?
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有多少部电影有女主角?
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Eleven十一. It's not bad.
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11部。不算太坏。
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It's not as many许多 percent百分 as the number of women妇女
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就刚刚普选出的国会议员中
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we've我们已经 just elected当选 to Congress国会, so that's good.
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女性议员比例而言,这个比例算好的。
08:24
But there is a number that is greater更大 than this
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接下来这个比例比刚才的要高
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that's going to bring带来 this room房间 down.
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而这个比例会让在座各位震惊。
08:30
Last year, The New York纽约 Times published发表 a study研究
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去年,纽约时报发表了一份
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that the government政府 had doneDONE.
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由政府完成的报告。
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Here's这里的 what it said.
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以下是内容。
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One out of five women妇女 in America美国
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每五名美国女性中就有一位
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say that they have been sexually assaulted殴打 some time in their life.
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曾经遇到过性骚扰。
08:47
Now, I don't think that's the fault故障 of popular流行 entertainment娱乐.
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我不认为是流行娱乐圈的过错。
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I don't think kids'孩子们 movies电影 have anything to do with that.
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我不认为这是由于儿童电影导致的。
08:55
I don't even think that
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我甚至觉得
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music音乐 videos视频 or pornography色情 are really directly related有关 to that,
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色情音乐和电影跟这都没有直接关系,
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but something is going wrong错误,
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但是肯定哪里出问题了。
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and when I hear that statistic统计,
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当我听到这个统计数字,
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one of the things I think of is
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我当时想到的是
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that's a lot of sexual有性 assailants袭击者.
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性骚扰者的数量竟然这么多。
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Who are these guys? What are they learning学习?
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他们是谁?他们怎么被教出来的?
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What are they failing失败 to learn学习?
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他们漏学了什么?
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Are they absorbing吸收 the story故事 that
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他们有没有理解电影的情节,
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a male hero's英雄的 job工作 is to defeat打败 the villain恶棍 with violence暴力
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一个男性英雄打败了残暴的反派
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and then collect搜集 the reward奖励, which哪一个 is a woman女人
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然后获得荣誉和奖励--就是一个没有朋友
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who has no friends朋友 and doesn't speak说话?
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又不说话(没有思想)的女人?
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Are we soaking浸水 up that story故事?
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我们有没有从这些故事中吸取到什么?
09:38
You know,
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你知道,
09:40
as a parent with the privilege特权
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作为一名有着抚养女儿
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of raising提高 a daughter女儿
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义务的父亲,
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like all of you who are doing the same相同 thing,
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我跟你们所有为人父母的人一样,
09:48
we find this world世界 and this statistic统计 very alarming惊人
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对这个统计数字和这个世界存在危机感,
09:52
and we want to prepare准备 them.
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我们要做好防范。
09:53
We have tools工具 at our disposal处置 like "girl女孩 power功率,"
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我们创造了一些类似“少女超人”的角色,
09:57
and we hope希望 that that will help,
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希望能够有所帮助,
10:00
but I gotta总得 wonder奇迹, is girl女孩 power功率 going to protect保护 them
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但是我担心,“女性力量”能否保护她们,
10:04
if, at the same相同 time, actively积极地 or passively被动,
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同时, 有意无意地,
10:06
we are training训练 our sons儿子 to maintain保持 their boy男孩 power功率?
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我们培养我们的儿子们要有英勇气概?
10:11
I mean, I think the NetflixNetflix公司 queue队列
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我的意思是,我觉得 Netflix Queue(一种看电影的服务)
10:15
is one way that we can do something very important重要,
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可以成为非常重要的一种方式,
10:18
and I'm talking mainly主要 to the dads爸爸 here.
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我主要是针对父亲说的。
10:21
I think we have got to show显示 our sons儿子
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我认为我们应该为我们的男孩子们
10:24
a new definition定义 of manhood男子气概.
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展示一种新的男子气概。
10:26
The definition定义 of manhood男子气概 is already已经 turning车削 upside上边 down.
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现在的男子气概的定义已经本末倒置了。
10:30
You've read about how the new economy经济
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你已经知道新的经济环境
10:32
is changing改变 the roles角色 of caregiver护理人员 and wage工资 earner收入来源.
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正在改变女性在家男性养家胡口的角色。
10:36
They're throwing投掷 it up in the air空气.
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他们正逐渐被替代。
10:37
So our sons儿子 are going to have to find some way
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我们的儿子需要能够适应这些改变,
10:40
of adapting适应 to this, some new relationship关系 with each other,
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适应相互之间的新关系,
10:43
and I think we really have to show显示 them, and model模型 for them,
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我认为我们需要身先士卒,展示如何成为
10:47
how a real真实 man
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一个真正的男人,
10:51
is someone有人 who trusts信托 his sisters姐妹
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他会信任他的姐妹
10:54
and respects尊重 them, and wants to be on their team球队,
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尊重她们,希望与她们为伍,
10:58
and stands站立 up against反对 the real真实 bad guys,
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对抗真正的坏蛋,
11:01
who are the men男人 who want to abuse滥用 the women妇女.
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那些虐待妇女的大坏蛋。
11:05
And I think our job工作 in the NetflixNetflix公司 queue队列
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而且我认为我们需要在 Netflix Queue 中
11:08
is to look out for those movies电影 that pass通过 the BechdelBechdel Test测试,
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寻找符合贝尔德尔测试的电影,
11:12
if we can find them, and to seek寻求 out the heroines女主角
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找到之后,再找出电影中的
11:16
who are there,
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女英雄们,
11:18
who show显示 real真实 courage勇气, who bring带来 people together一起,
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她们英勇无比,把大家团结起来,
11:22
and to nudge微调 our sons儿子 to identify鉴定 with those heroines女主角
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并且鼓励我们的儿子认识到这些女主人公的英勇
11:25
and to say, "I want to be on their team球队,"
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并且说:“我想加入她的队伍。”
11:29
because they're going to be on their team球队.
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因为他们将来需要与她们合作。
11:33
When I asked my daughter女儿 who her favorite喜爱 character字符 was in "Star Wars战争,"
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当我问我的女儿最喜欢《星球大战》中的哪个角色,
11:37
do you know what she said?
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你猜她说谁?
11:39
Obi-Wan欧比旺.
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欧比-旺(Obi-Wan)
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Obi-Wan欧比旺 Kenobi肯诺比 and Glinda格林达.
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欧比-旺·克诺比和葛琳达
11:45
What do these two have in common共同?
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他们有什么共同点?
11:49
Maybe it's not just the sparkly闪闪发光的 dress连衣裙.
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或许跟漂亮的衣服没有关系。
11:51
I think these people are experts专家.
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我认为他们都是专家。
11:54
I think these are the two people in the movie电影
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两个人在各自的电影中
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who know more than anybody任何人 else其他,
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都拥有比别人更多的知识,
11:57
and they love sharing分享 their knowledge知识 with other people
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并且乐意与他人分享他们的知识
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to help them reach达到 their potential潜在.
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帮助他人挖掘潜能。
12:04
Now, they are leaders领导者.
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现在,他们是领袖。
12:06
I like that kind of quest寻求 for my daughter女儿,
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我希望自己的女儿有这样的追求,
12:08
and I like that kind of quest寻求 for my son儿子.
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也希望自己的儿子有这样的追求。
12:10
I want more quests任务 like that.
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我希望这样的追求越多越好。
12:12
I want fewer quests任务 where my son儿子 is told,
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我希望我的儿子不要被教育成
12:15
"Go out and fight斗争 it alone单独,"
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“冲出去一个人战斗”
12:17
and more quests任务 where he sees看到 that it's his job工作 to join加入 a team球队,
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而是主动的融入一个团队,
12:22
maybe a team球队 led by women妇女,
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或许由一个女性来指挥,
12:26
to help other people become成为 better
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帮助其他人成就自己,
12:32
and be better people,
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变得更好,
12:34
like the Wizard巫师 of Oz奥兹.
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就像奥兹仙女一样。
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Thank you.
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谢谢。
Translated by Psycho Decoder
Reviewed by Jing Peng

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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Colin Stokes - Proud dad
The director of communications for the non-profit Citizen Schools, Colin Stokes thinks deeply about the media he shares with his two young children.

Why you should listen

Colin Stokes divides his time between parenting and building the brand of Citizen Schools, a non-profit that reimagines the school day for middle school students in low-income communities in eight states. As Managing Director of Brand & Communications, Colin helps people within the organization find the ideas, words and stories that will connect with more and more people. He believes that understanding the human mind is a force that can be used for good and seeks to take advantage of our innate and learned tendencies to bring out the best in each other and our culture.

Before starting a family, Colin was an actor and graphic designer in New York City. He starred in the long-running off-Broadway musical I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Change, as well is in several musicals and Shakespeare stagings. But he jokes that he seems to have achieved more renown (and considerably more revenue) for his brief appearances on two Law & Order episodes.

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