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Luvvie Ajayi: Get comfortable with being uncomfortable
卢维耶 · 阿杰伊: 走出你的舒适区
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卢维耶 · 阿杰伊不怕说出自己心中的想法，也不怕成为众矢之的。同样的，你也不应该害怕。“你的沉默不会帮助任何人。”本视频的演讲者，一个自称是专业麻烦制造者的活动家说道。在这个欢乐又振奋人心的演说中，阿杰伊分享了三个当你在选择发言还是沉默的边缘犹豫不决时要问自己的问题——并且鼓励我们所有人从不适的方式中得到舒适。
Luvvie Ajayi - Creator
Luvvie Ajayi is an author, speaker and digital strategist who thrives at the intersection of comedy, technology and activism. Full bio
Luvvie Ajayi is an author, speaker and digital strategist who thrives at the intersection of comedy, technology and activism. Full bio
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我是个专业的麻烦制造者。
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I'm a professional troublemaker.
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(笑声)
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(Laughter)
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因为我的工作就是批判世界，
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As my job is to critique the world,
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批判劣质的系统与不求上进的人，
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the shoddy systems and the people
who refuse to do better,
who refuse to do better,
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作为一名作家、演讲家
以及一名“臭名昭著”的尼日利亚人——
以及一名“臭名昭著”的尼日利亚人——
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as a writer, as a speaker,
as a shady Nigerian --
as a shady Nigerian --
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（笑声）
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(Laughter)
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我觉得我的工作
就和图中这只猫差不多。
就和图中这只猫差不多。
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I feel like my purpose is to be this cat.
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（笑声）
（图片：自认清高的艺术家）
（图片：自认清高的艺术家）
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(Laughter)
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我就是那种挑剔别人生活的人，
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I am the person
who is looking at other people,
who is looking at other people,
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like, "I need you to fix it."
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总想着 “我需要你改一改。”
这就是我。
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That is me.
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我希望我们可以
让这个世界变得更好。
让这个世界变得更好。
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I want us to leave this world
better than we found it.
better than we found it.
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And how I choose to effect change
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我选择改变世界的方式
是畅所欲言，
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is by speaking up,
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通过当第一张多米诺骨牌。
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by being the first
and by being the domino.
and by being the domino.
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为了让一排骨牌倒下，
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For a line of dominoes to fall,
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one has to fall first,
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必须有一个先倒下，
剩下的骨牌别无选择，
就会跟着倒下。
就会跟着倒下。
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which then leaves the other
choiceless to do the same.
choiceless to do the same.
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有了那张倒下的骨牌，
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And that domino that falls,
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我们希望
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we're hoping that, OK,
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下个看到这个情况的人会被激励，
也成为一张骨牌。
也成为一张骨牌。
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the next person that sees this
is inspired to be a domino.
is inspired to be a domino.
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对我而言，作为骨牌就要公开表态，
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Being the domino, for me,
looks like speaking up
looks like speaking up
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就要迎难而上，
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and doing the things
that are really difficult,
that are really difficult,
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特别是当人们需要
有人挺身而出的时候，
有人挺身而出的时候，
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especially when they are needed,
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希望其他人也能效仿。
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with the hope that others
will follow suit.
will follow suit.
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此外还有一点：
我就是那种会说出
我就是那种会说出
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And here's the thing:
I'm the person who says
I'm the person who says
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想说但不敢说的话的人。
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what you might be thinking
but dared not to say.
but dared not to say.
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人们经常会觉得
我们这种人是无所畏惧的，
我们这种人是无所畏惧的，
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A lot of times people think
that we're fearless,
that we're fearless,
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做这种事的人是无所畏惧的。
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the people who do this, we're fearless.
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我们并不是无所畏惧。
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We're not fearless.
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我们并不是不怕这些后果，
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We're not unafraid of the consequences
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也不是不惧怕
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or the sacrifices that we have to make
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宣扬真理后的牺牲。
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by speaking truth to power.
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事实上，我们觉得这是我们的义务，
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What happens is, we feel like we have to,
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because there are too few
people in the world
people in the world
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因为在这个世界
愿意当骨牌的人太少，
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willing to be the domino,
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鲜有人愿意第一个倒下。
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too few people willing to take that fall.
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我们这么做不是不会恐惧。
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We're not doing it without fear.
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现在，我们讲一讲恐惧。
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Now, let's talk about fear.
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我曾经很清楚长大后想做什么，
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I knew exactly what I wanted
to be when I grew up.
to be when I grew up.
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“我要成为一位医生!”
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I was like, "I'm going to be a doctor!"
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当上医生是我曾经的梦想，
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Doctor Luvvie was the dream.
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在《小医师大玩偶》流行起来之前
我就在扮演医师。
我就在扮演医师。
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I was Doc McStuffins
before it was a thing.
before it was a thing.
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(Laughter)
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（笑声）
我记得我上大学的时候，
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And I remember when I went to college,
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我大一的时候，
必须上化学基础这门课，
必须上化学基础这门课，
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my freshman year,
I had to take Chemistry 101
I had to take Chemistry 101
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为了我的预科主修做准备。
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for my premed major.
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我拿了学术生涯中唯一的一个D。
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I got the first and last D
of my academic career.
of my academic career.
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（笑声）
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(Laughter)
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于是我去找学校辅导员说：
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So I went to my advisor, and I was like,
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“我放弃医学院预科了，
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"OK, let's drop the premed,
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因为我不是当医生的料，
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because this doctor thing
is not going to work,
is not going to work,
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因为我根本就不喜欢医院。
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because I don't even like hospitals.
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所以...“
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So ..."
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（笑声）
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(Laughter)
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“还是算了吧。”
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"Let's just consider that done for."
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也是在那个学期，我开始写博客。
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And that same semester,
I started blogging.
I started blogging.
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那是2003年。
02:34
That was 2003.
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当一个梦想结束的时候，
另外一个梦想开始了。
另外一个梦想开始了。
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So as that one dream was ending,
another was beginning.
another was beginning.
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后来，当我2010年失去了
市场营销工作的时候，
市场营销工作的时候，
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And then what was a cute hobby
became my full-time job
became my full-time job
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这个可爱的爱好
就成为了我全职的工作。
就成为了我全职的工作。
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when I lost my marketing job in 2010.
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但我花了两年多时间才能说：
“我是个作家。”
“我是个作家。”
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But it still took me two more years
to say, "I'm a writer."
to say, "I'm a writer."
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在我写作了九年之后我才说，
“我是个作家。“
“我是个作家。“
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Nine years after I had started writing,
before I said, "I'm a writer,"
before I said, "I'm a writer,"
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因为我害怕
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because I was afraid of what happens
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没有退休金的后果，
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without 401ks,
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我害怕我不能
继续保持买鞋的习惯，
继续保持买鞋的习惯，
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without, "How am I going
to keep up my shoe habit?
to keep up my shoe habit?
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那对我很重要。
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That's important to me."
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（笑声）
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(Laughter)
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所以我需要花很长的时间
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So it took me that long to own this thing
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去了解我的目的是什么。
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that was what my purpose was.
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然后我意识到，
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And then I realized,
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恐惧是一股非常具体的力量，
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fear has a very concrete power
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会阻止我们说出和践行
我们真正的目的。
我们真正的目的。
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of keeping us from doing and saying
the things that are our purpose.
the things that are our purpose.
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于是我想，“你知道吗？
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And I was like, "You know what?
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我不会让恐惧主宰我的生活。
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I'm not going to let fear rule my life.
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I'm not going to let fear
dictate what I do."
dictate what I do."
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我不会让恐惧支配我的所作所为。”
于是所有奇妙的事情开始发生了，
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And then all of these
awesome things started happening,
awesome things started happening,
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骨牌开始倒下了。
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and dominoes started to fall.
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当我意识到的时候，
我开始想，“好，2015年
我开始想，“好，2015年
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So when I realized that,
I was like, "OK, 2015,
I was like, "OK, 2015,
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我30岁了，
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I turned 30,
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这将是我 ‘不顾一切‘ 的一年
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it's going to be my year
of 'Do it anyway.'
of 'Do it anyway.'
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我会积极地去追求
任何令我恐惧的事情。”
任何令我恐惧的事情。”
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Anything that scares me,
I'm going to actively pursue it."
I'm going to actively pursue it."
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我是个摩羯座，
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So, I'm a Capricorn.
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I like my feel solidly on the ground.
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我喜欢脚踏实地的感觉。
我决定开启人生的首次个人旅行，
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I decided to take
my first-ever solo vacation,
my first-ever solo vacation,
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and it was out of the country
to the Dominican Republic.
to the Dominican Republic.
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我决定去多米尼加共和国。
那么在我生日的那一天，
我做了什么？
我做了什么？
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So on my birthday, what did I do?
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我通过索道
穿越蓬塔·卡纳森林。
穿越蓬塔·卡纳森林。
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I went ziplining through
the forests of Punta Cana.
the forests of Punta Cana.
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因为某些奇怪的原因，
我穿了商务装。
我穿了商务装。
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And for some odd reason,
I had on business casual.
I had on business casual.
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不要问我为什么。
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Don't ask why.
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（笑声）
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(Laughter)
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我度过了特别棒的时光。
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And I had an incredible time.
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我不喜欢潜水。
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Also, I don't like being
submerged in water.
submerged in water.
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再说一次，
我喜欢脚踏实地。
我喜欢脚踏实地。
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I like to be, again, on solid ground.
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So I went to Mexico
and swam with dolphins underwater.
and swam with dolphins underwater.
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所以我去了墨西哥，
在水下和海豚游泳。
在水下和海豚游泳。
那一年，我还做了一件超酷的事情，
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And then the cool thing
that I did also that year
that I did also that year
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那是我的人生巅峰——
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that was my mountain
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was I wrote my book,
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我写了一本书，
《我在评判你：如何做得更好》
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"I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual,"
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所以我现在应该算——
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And I had to own --
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（掌声）
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(Applause)
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掌握写作的能力了，对吧？
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that whole writing thing now, right?
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是的。
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Yes.
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但在那一年，我做的
最非常“反我”的事情，
最非常“反我”的事情，
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But the very anti-me thing
that I did that year
that I did that year
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简直要吓死我了——
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that scared the crap out of me --
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04:34
I went skydiving.
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我去跳伞了。
我们正要从飞机里跳下去的时候,
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We're about to fall out of the plane.
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我在想，
“这绝对是我这辈子做过的蠢事之一。”
“这绝对是我这辈子做过的蠢事之一。”
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I was like, "I've done some stupid
things in life. This is one of them."
things in life. This is one of them."
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（笑）
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(Laughter)
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接下来我们就向地面坠落，
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And then we come falling down to Earth,
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我看着地面，
我简直无法呼吸，
我简直无法呼吸，
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and I literally lose my breath
as I see Earth, and I was like,
as I see Earth, and I was like,
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我在想，“我刚刚故意从一架
完好无损的飞机上跳下来了！”
完好无损的飞机上跳下来了！”
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"I just fell out of a perfectly good
plane on purpose."
plane on purpose."
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（笑）
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(Laughter)
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“我有毛病吗？！”
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"What is wrong with me?!"
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但当我俯视地表美景时，
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But then I looked down at the beauty,
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我在想，
‘“这是我做过的最好的事情，
‘“这是我做过的最好的事情，
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and I was like, "This is
the best thing I could have done.
the best thing I could have done.
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这是一个超棒的决定。”
04:58
This was an amazing decision."
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And I think about the times
when I have to speak truth.
when I have to speak truth.
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我回想起需要
说出实话的那些时刻。
说出实话的那些时刻。
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It feels like I am falling
out of that plane.
out of that plane.
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那感觉就像正从飞机上掉下来，
就像我在飞机边缘的那一刻，
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It feels like that moment
when I'm at the edge of the plane,
when I'm at the edge of the plane,
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我告诉自己，“你不应该这么做，”
05:10
and I'm like, "You shouldn't do this,"
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但无论如何我还是做了，
因为我意识到自己必须去做。
因为我意识到自己必须去做。
05:12
but then I do it anyway,
because I realize I have to.
because I realize I have to.
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对我来说，坐在飞机边缘，
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Sitting at the edge of that plane
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或者说呆在飞机上是很舒服的。
05:17
and kind of staying on that plane
is comfort to me.
is comfort to me.
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我感觉，在我诉说真相，
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And I feel like every day
that I'm speaking truth
that I'm speaking truth
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和那些比我强大的机构和人，
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against institutions and people
who are bigger than me
who are bigger than me
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以及那些更强大的势力抗衡的每一天。
05:25
and just forces that are
more powerful than me,
more powerful than me,
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都仿佛从那架飞机上掉下来一般。
05:27
I feel like I'm falling out of that plane.
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但我意识到，
舒适感其实被高估了。
舒适感其实被高估了。
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But I realize comfort is overrated.
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因为沉默是最舒适的。
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Because being quiet is comfortable.
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不去改变才是舒适的。
05:34
Keeping things the way
they've been is comfortable.
they've been is comfortable.
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但是舒适感能带给我们的
只有维护现状而已。
只有维护现状而已。
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And all comfort has done
is maintain the status quo.
is maintain the status quo.
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所以我们应该通过
在必要的时候说出严峻的现实
在必要的时候说出严峻的现实
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So we've got to get comfortable
with being uncomfortable
with being uncomfortable
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来学会走出自己的舒适区。
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by speaking these hard truths
when they're necessary.
when they're necessary.
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而且我——
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And I --
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（掌声）
05:48
(Applause)
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我也意识到了坦白真相的重要性，
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And for me, though, I realize
that I have to speak these truths,
that I have to speak these truths,
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因为诚实对于我来说非常重要。
05:55
because honesty is so important to me.
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我珍惜我的正直。
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My integrity is something I hold dear.
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正义——
我不认为正义是一个选项。
我不认为正义是一个选项。
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Justice -- I don't think justice
should be an option.
should be an option.
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我们需要一直保持公平正义。
06:01
We should always have justice.
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不过，我相信
乳木果油也十分重要——
乳木果油也十分重要——
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Also, I believe in shea butter
as a core value, and --
as a core value, and --
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（笑声）
06:06
(Laughter)
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and I think the world would be better
if we were more moisturized.
if we were more moisturized.
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因为如果我们更加滋润，
世界就会变得更好。
世界就会变得更好。
06:12
But besides that, with these
as my core values,
as my core values,
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但除此之外，
我的核心价值观是：
我必须讲出事实。
我必须讲出事实。
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I have to speak the truth.
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在这个问题上我没有其他的选择。
06:16
I have no other choice in the matter.
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但像我这样的人，
专业的麻烦制造者，
专业的麻烦制造者，
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But people like me,
the professional troublemakers,
the professional troublemakers,
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不应该只有我们为成为骨牌献身，
06:20
should not be the only ones who are
committed to being these dominoes
committed to being these dominoes
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不应该只有我们
总是从飞机上跳下来，
总是从飞机上跳下来，
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who are always falling out of planes
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不应该只有我们成为靶子。
06:25
or being the first one to take this hit.
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人们惧怕严重的后果，
06:27
People are so afraid
of these acute consequences,
of these acute consequences,
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所以没有意识到，很多时候，
当我们走进房间时，
当我们走进房间时，
06:30
not realizing that there are many times
when we walk in rooms
when we walk in rooms
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我们是房间里最强大的一批人——
06:33
and we are some of the most
powerful people in those rooms --
powerful people in those rooms --
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或者可能是第二强大、
第三强大的人。
第三强大的人。
06:36
we might be the second-most powerful,
third-most powerful.
third-most powerful.
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并且我坚信那时我们的任务
06:39
And I firmly believe
that our job in those times
that our job in those times
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是去中止正在发生的事。
06:42
is to disrupt what is happening.
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如果我们不是最强大的人，
06:44
And then if we're not the most powerful,
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只要有更多的人加入我们，
06:46
if two more of us band together,
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我们就会变得更强大。
06:48
it makes us powerful.
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06:49
It's like cosigning
the woman in the meeting,
the woman in the meeting,
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比如在开会时联合所有女性，
我们要让那些不敢发声的女性，
06:52
you know, the woman
who can't seem to get her word out,
who can't seem to get her word out,
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那些不敢发表看法的人
06:55
or just making sure that other person
who can't make a point
who can't make a point
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能被倾听。
06:58
is being heard.
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Our job is to make sure
they have room for that.
they have room for that.
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我们的任务是为了
确保她们的这一权益。
确保她们的这一权益。
社会的目标就是确保每个人的幸福。
07:03
Everyone's well-being
is community business.
is community business.
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如果我们明确了这一点，
我们就会了解到，
我们就会了解到，
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If we made that a point,
we're understand that,
we're understand that,
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当我们需要帮助的时候，
07:07
for the times when we need help,
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如果我们曾经对他人施以援手，
07:09
we wouldn't have to look around so hard
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就不必艰难地四处求助。
07:11
if we made sure
we were somebody else's help.
we were somebody else's help.
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有时候，我在公共场合
07:14
And there are times when I feel like
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会感到十分受挫，
07:16
I have taken very public
tumbles and falls,
tumbles and falls,
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比如有一次，
我受邀去会议上发表演讲，
我受邀去会议上发表演讲，
07:20
like the time when I was asked
to speak at a conference,
to speak at a conference,
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07:22
and they wanted me to pay my way there.
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他们想让我自付差旅费。
07:26
And then I did some research
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然后我做了些调查，
发现在那儿演讲的
白人男性都拿到了酬劳，
白人男性都拿到了酬劳，
07:27
and found out the white men
who spoke there got compensated
who spoke there got compensated
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并报销了他们的差旅费。
07:30
and got their travel paid for.
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在那儿演讲的白人女性
至少也拿到了差旅费。
至少也拿到了差旅费。
07:32
The white women who spoke there
got their travel paid for.
got their travel paid for.
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而黑人女性，却需要自费演讲。
07:35
The black women who spoke there were
expected to actually pay to speak there.
expected to actually pay to speak there.
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我就在想，“我该怎么办？“
07:40
And I was like, "What do I do?"
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我知道如果将这件事公之于众，
07:42
And I knew that if I spoke up
about this publicly,
about this publicly,
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我可能会面对财务损失。
07:45
I could face financial loss.
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但是我也知道
我的沉默不会帮助任何人。
我的沉默不会帮助任何人。
07:47
But then I also understood
that my silence serves no one.
that my silence serves no one.
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所以尽管心中十分忐忑，
我还是公开地谈论了这件事情。
我还是公开地谈论了这件事情。
07:50
So I fearfully spoke up about it publicly,
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之后其他女性也开始站出来谈论，
07:53
and other women started
coming out to talk about,
coming out to talk about,
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“我也面对过这种不公平的待遇。”
07:56
"I, too, have faced
this type of pay inequality."
this type of pay inequality."
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于是我们开始讨论那个会议的
07:59
And it started a conversation
about discriminatory pay practices
about discriminatory pay practices
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歧视性报酬。
08:02
that this conference was participating in.
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当我读到一位公众人物
08:04
I felt like I was the domino
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带有歧视性的回忆录
并写了一些读后感时，
并写了一些读后感时，
08:07
the time I read a disturbing
memoir by a public figure
memoir by a public figure
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我觉得我成了一张骨牌，
08:09
and wrote a piece about it.
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我知道这个人比我更强大，
他可能会影响我的事业，
他可能会影响我的事业，
08:11
I knew this person was more powerful
than me and could impact my career,
than me and could impact my career,
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但我想，“我得做这件事。
08:15
but I was like, "I've got to do this.
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我得坐在“飞机”的边缘，
想了大概两个小时，
想了大概两个小时，
08:17
I've got to sit at the edge of this plane,
maybe for two hours."
maybe for two hours."
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最后决定放手一搏。
我按了“发布”键，然后溜了。
我按了“发布”键，然后溜了。
08:20
And I did. And I pressed
"Publish," and I ran away.
"Publish," and I ran away.
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（笑声）
08:22
(Laughter)
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然后我发现这篇文章
收到了极高的关注，
收到了极高的关注，
08:23
And I came back to a viral post
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人们在说，“天哪，我很开心
终于有个人说这个了。“
终于有个人说这个了。“
08:25
and people being like, "Oh my God,
I'm so glad somebody finally said this."
I'm so glad somebody finally said this."
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然后它开启了一场
08:29
And it started a conversation
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关于精神健康和自我照顾的讨论，
08:31
about mental health and self-care,
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我想，“好啊，
08:33
and I was like, "OK. Alright.
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08:35
This thing that I'm doing,
I guess, alright, it's doing something."
I guess, alright, it's doing something."
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我猜我正在做的这件事情，
正在产生影响。”
正在产生影响。”
然后当很多人开始讨论
08:39
And then so many people
have been the domino
have been the domino
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自己怎么被位高权重的男性
抨击的时候，他们也成为了骨牌。
抨击的时候，他们也成为了骨牌。
08:43
when they talk about how
they've been assaulted by powerful men.
they've been assaulted by powerful men.
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然后数百万女性也加入进来，
并说出，“我也是。”
并说出，“我也是。”
08:47
And it's made millions of women
join in and say, "Me Too."
join in and say, "Me Too."
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在此，要感谢
塔拉娜·伯克点燃了这场运动。
塔拉娜·伯克点燃了这场运动。
08:52
So, a shout-out to Tarana Burke
for igniting that movement.
for igniting that movement.
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08:55
(Applause)
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（掌声）
大众和体制在依靠
我们的沉默去维持现状。
我们的沉默去维持现状。
09:01
People and systems count on our silence
to keep us exactly where we are.
to keep us exactly where we are.
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但有的时候成为骨牌就是在做自己。
09:08
Now, being the domino sometimes
comes down to being exactly who you are.
comes down to being exactly who you are.
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我从三岁起就是个
名声不怎么样的人。
名声不怎么样的人。
09:14
So, I've been a shady somebody
since I was three.
since I was three.
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（笑声）
09:17
(Laughter)
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这是我三岁生日时的照片。
09:18
This is me on my third birthday.
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但我这一生从未改变，
09:20
But I've been this girl all my life,
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我始终觉得应该去当那一张骨牌，
09:23
and I feel like
even that's been the domino,
even that's been the domino,
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因为上帝想让我们去
09:25
because in a world
that wants us to walk around
that wants us to walk around
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为自己发声，
09:27
as representatives of ourselves,
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活出自我是一种革命性的行为。
09:29
being yourself can be a revolutionary act.
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在一个想让我们谨言慎行的世界里，
09:32
And in a world that wants us to whisper,
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我选择大声呼喊。
09:34
I choose to yell.
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（掌声）
09:37
(Applause)
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当我感到有些事情
让我难以启齿的时候，
让我难以启齿的时候，
09:42
When it's time to say these hard things,
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我会问自己三个问题，
09:44
I ask myself three things.
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09:46
One: Did you mean it?
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第一：你是认真的吗？
第二：你可以为它辩护吗？
09:48
Two: Can you defend it?
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第三：你是为爱发声吗？
09:51
Three: Did you say it with love?
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如果这三个问题的答案都是肯定的，
09:53
If the answer is yes to all three,
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我就会不计后果地说出来。
09:55
I say it and let the chips fall.
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那很重要。
09:59
That's important.
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这三个问题
10:00
That checkpoint with myself
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始终给予我肯定的力量。
10:02
always tells me, "Yes,
you're supposed to do this."
you're supposed to do this."
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说实话——
说出深思熟虑的实话——
说出深思熟虑的实话——
10:06
Telling the truth --
telling thoughtful truths --
telling thoughtful truths --
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不应该成为革命性的举动。
10:09
should not be a revolutionary act.
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对权势说真话不应该
意味着牺牲，但事实却是如此。
意味着牺牲，但事实却是如此。
10:12
Speaking truths to power
should not be sacrificial, but they are.
should not be sacrificial, but they are.
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但是如果更多的人能加入我们，
10:16
But I think if more of us chose
to do this for the greater good,
to do this for the greater good,
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我们的处境会比现在更好。
10:19
we'd be in better spaces
than we are right now.
than we are right now.
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说到更好的世界，
10:23
Speaking of the greater good,
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我认为我们有责任
用真相搭建桥梁，
用真相搭建桥梁，
10:25
I think we commit ourselves
to telling truths to build bridges
to telling truths to build bridges
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去连接共同点，
10:28
to common ground,
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10:30
and bridges that aren't based
on truth will collapse.
on truth will collapse.
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那些没有用真相
搭建起来的桥梁就会崩塌。
搭建起来的桥梁就会崩塌。
所以，这是我们的工作，
10:33
So it is our job,
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我们的义务和责任
10:35
it is our obligation, it is our duty
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不屈从于权贵，去成为骨牌，
10:38
to speak truth to power, to be the domino,
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10:41
not just when it's difficult --
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不只是在艰难的时候——
尤其是在艰难的时候。
10:43
especially when it's difficult.
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10:45
Thank you.
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谢谢。
（掌声）
10:46
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Luvvie Ajayi - CreatorLuvvie Ajayi is an author, speaker and digital strategist who thrives at the intersection of comedy, technology and activism.
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A 14-year blogging veteran, Luvvie Ajayi is the voice behind the blog AwesomelyLuvvie.com, where she covers all things pop culture with razor-sharp commentary and wit. Her debut book, I'm Judging You: The Do Better Manual, was released in September 2016, and was an instant New York Times best-seller.
Ajayi is Executive Director and co-founder of The Red Pump Project, a national nonprofit that educates women and girls of color about HIV/AIDS. They’ve earned a Congressional Record from the U.S. House of Representatives and Resolutions by the Illinois State Senate as well as the City Council of Chicago. The University of Illinois alum is a sought-after speaker who has spoken at the Obama White House, MAKERS Conference, SXSW, Social Media Week, among others. She has interviewed bosses like Oprah Winfrey, Geena Davis and Shonda Rhimes. She also runs AwesomelyTechie.com, a site for writers, small business owners and everyday people looking to use technology to make their lives easier as an extension of her marketing expertise.
Ajayi was selected to Oprah Winfrey’s inaugural Supersoul 100 list, voted as the Influencer of the Year at the 2016 Iris Awards and was chosen as a 2015 Black Innovator by XFINITY Comcast. She is committed to using her voice for pop culture critique and gender and racial justice.
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