Jia Jiang: What I learned from 100 days of rejection
Jia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine. Full bio
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had this brilliant idea.
of complimenting each other.
come to the front of the classroom,
and stacked them in the corner.
and compliment each other?
someone's name called,
say anything nice about these people?"
go get your gift and sit down.
something nice about you."
I remember this really well.
that she turned a team-building event
for three six-year-olds.
people get roasted on TV,
being in that situation again --
I know what I want to do now.
company in the world,
of conquering the world --
I did write that letter.
but I did highlight some key words.
to come to the United States.
where Bill Gates lived, right?
of my entrepreneur journey.
for a Fortune 500 company.
who wrote that letter?
in front of people in a group --
and the six-year-old.
after I started my own company.
my own company when I was 30 --
sooner or later, right?
with an investment opportunity,
that I wanted to quit right there.
after a simple investment rejection?
entrepreneur quit like that?
team or better product,
keep dictating my life anymore.
and looked for help.
the fear of rejection?"
of psychology articles
and pain are coming from.
of "rah-rah" inspirational articles
just overcome it."
invented by this Canadian entrepreneur.
you go out and look for rejection,
you desensitize yourself from the pain.
I'm going to do this.
getting rejected 100 days."
to where I was working.
sitting behind a desk.
walk of my life --
of my neck standing up,
100 dollars from you?"
and I just ran.
myself getting rejected,
in "The Sixth Sense."
I could've negotiated.
the microcosm of my life.
and I went to the cashier and said,
like, "What's a burger refill?"
a drink refill but with a burger."
we don't do burger refill, man."
and I could have run, but I stayed.
I'll tell my manager about it,
but sorry, we can't do this today."
ever done burger refill.
I was feeling the first time
I'm already learning things.
Getting Olympic Doughnuts.
was turned upside down.
of the United States.
that look like Olympic symbols?
five doughnuts together ... "
they could say yes, right?
the colors and the rings,
that looked like Olympic rings.
over five million views on Youtube.
I was in newspapers,
started writing emails to me
doing is awesome."
did not do anything to me.
of my 100 days of rejection
I had this flower in my hand,
in your backyard?"
anything I put in the backyard.
go across the street and talk to Connie.
on Connie's door.
in Connie's backyard.
after the initial rejection,
the guy didn't trust me,
I didn't look good.
did not fit what he wanted.
to offer me a referral,
actually say certain things
one day I went to a Starbucks,
"Hey, can I be a Starbucks greeter?"
those Walmart greeters?
'hi' to you before you walk in the store,
don't steal stuff, basically?
to Starbucks customers."
that's a good thing, actually --
it's a bad thing.
his name is Eric --
his whole demeanor changed.
all the doubt on the floor.
I was the Starbucks greeter.
that walked in,
what your career trajectory is,
because I mentioned, "Is that weird?"
that means I wasn't weird.
thinking just like him,
some doubt people might have
I could fulfill my life dream ...
from four generations of teachers,
if you became a teacher."
an entrepreneur, so I didn't.
to actually teach something.
of Texas at Austin,
and said, "Can I teach your class?"
the first couple of times.
I kept doing it --
the professor was very impressed.
has done this before."
with powerpoints and my lesson.
I'll fit you in my curriculum."
I was teaching a class.
this is a bad picture.
rejected by lighting, you know?
I walked out crying,
just by simply asking.
all these things --
or get a PhD to teach --
which you can't see --
that people who really change the world,
and the way we think,
with initial and often violent rejections.
let rejection define them.
after rejection define themselves.
to learn about rejection,
because I was running away from it.
the biggest gift in my life.
how to turn rejections into opportunities.
people overcome their fear of rejection.
ABOUT THE SPEAKERJia Jiang - Author, blogger, entrepreneur
Jia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine.
Why you should listen
Jia Jiang is the owner of Rejection Therapy, a website that provides inspiration, knowledge and products for people to overcome their fear of rejection. He is also the CEO of Wuju Learning, a company that teaches people and trains organizations to become fearless through rejection training. In 2015, he authored a bestselling book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection.
Several years after Jiang began his career in the corporate world, he took a life-altering risk and stepped into the unknown world of entrepreneurship. His result was everyone's biggest fear: rejection. This was the catalyst that set Jiang on the path to his true calling.
To conquer the fear of rejection, Jiang embarked on a personal quest and started a blog, 100 Days of Rejection Therapy. His journey revealed a world that was hidden in plain sight -- a world where people are much kinder than we imagine. He discovered that rejection can be much less painful than we believe and that the fear of rejection is much more destructive than we know.
Jiang grew up in Beijing, China and migrated to the United States at age 16. He holds a Bachelor of Computer Science from Brigham Young University and a Master of Business Administration from Duke University.
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