ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Julia Sweeney - Actor, comedian, playwright
Julia Sweeney creates comedic works that tackle deep issues: cancer, family, faith.

Why you should listen

Julia Sweeney is a writer, director, actress, comedian and monologist. She is known for being a cast member on Saturday Night Live from 1990 to 1995, where she created and popularized the androgynous character, Pat. She is also well known for her comedic and dramatic monologues. God Said Ha! is a monologue about serious illness, her brother's lymphoma and her own cancer, and her family's crazy reactions to this crisis as they soldiered their way through struggle, confusion and death. This play was performed all over the U.S. and on Broadway at the Lyceum Theater. It was made into a film produced by Quentin Tarantino, and the comedy album from the show was nominated for a Grammy.

Sweeney's second monologue, In the Family Way, played in theatrical runs in New York and Los Angeles. It was ultimately fashioned into a book, a memoir titled If It's Not One Thing, It's Your Mother. Sweeney's third monologue, Letting Go of God, chronicled her journey from Catholicism to atheism. It was made into a film that played on Showtime.

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Julia Sweeney: It's time for "The Talk"

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Despite her best efforts, comedian Julia Sweeney is forced to tell a little white lie when her 8-year-old begins learning about frog reproduction -- and starts to ask some very smart questions.
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I have a daughter, Mulan.
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And when she was eight, last year,
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she was doing a report for school
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or she had some homework about frogs.
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And we were at this restaurant,
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and she said, "So, basically,
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frogs lay eggs
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and the eggs turn into tadpoles,
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and tadpoles turn into frogs."
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And I said, "Yeah. You know, I'm not really up on my frog reproduction that much.
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It's the females, I think, that lay the eggs,
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and then the males fertilize them.
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And then they become tadpoles and frogs."
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And she says, "What? Only the females have eggs?"
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And I said, "Yeah."
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And she goes, "And what's this fertilizing?"
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So I kind of said, "Oh, it's this extra ingredient,
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you know, that you need
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to create a new frog
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from the mom and dad frog." (Laughter)
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And she said, "Oh, so is that true for humans too?"
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And I thought, "Okay, here we go."
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I didn't know it would happen so quick, at eight.
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I was trying to remember all the guidebooks,
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and all I could remember was,
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"Only answer the question they're asking.
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Don't give any more information." (Laughter)
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So I said, "Yes."
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And she said, "And where do, um,
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where do human women,
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like, where do women lay their eggs?"
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And I said, "Well,
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funny you should ask. (Laughter)
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We have evolved to have our own pond.
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We have our very own pond inside our bodies.
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And we lay our eggs there,
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we don't have to worry about other eggs or anything like that.
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It's our own pond. And that's how it happens."
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And she goes, "Then how do they get fertilized?"
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And I said, "Well,
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Men, through their penis,
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they fertilize the eggs by the sperm coming out.
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And you go through the woman's vagina."
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And so we're just eating, and her jaw just drops,
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and she goes, "Mom!
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Like, where you go to the bathroom?"
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And I said, "I know.
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I know."
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(Laughter)
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That's how we evolved. It does seem odd.
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It is a little bit like having a waste treatment plant
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right next to an amusement park ...
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Bad zoning, but ..." (Laughter)
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She's like, "What?" And she goes, "But Mom,
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but men and women can't ever see each other naked, Mom.
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So how could that ever happen?"
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And then I go, "Well," and then I put my Margaret Mead hat on.
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"Human males and females
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develop a special bond,
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and when they're much older, much, much older than you,
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and they have a very special feeling,
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then they can be naked together."
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And she said, "Mom,
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have you done this before?"
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And I said, "Yes."
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And she said, "But Mom, you can't have kids."
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Because she knows that I adopted her and that I can't have kids.
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And I said, "Yes."
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And she said, "Well, you don't have to do that again."
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And I said, "..."
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And then she said, "But how does it happen when a man and woman are together?
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Like, how do they know that's the time?
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Mom, does the man just say,
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'Is now the time to take off my pants?'"
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(Laughter)
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And I said, "Yes."
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(Laughter)
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"That is exactly right.
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That's exactly how it happens."
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So we're driving home and she's looking out the window, and she goes,
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"Mom. What if two just people saw each other on the street,
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like a man and a woman, they just started doing it. Would that ever happen?"
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And I said, "Oh, no. Humans are so private.
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Oh ..."
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And then she goes, "What if there was like a party,
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and there was just like a whole bunch of girls and a whole bunch of boys,
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and there was a bunch of men and women and they just started doing it, Mom?
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Would that ever happen?"
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And I said, "Oh, no, no.
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That's not how we do it."
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Then we got home and we see the cat. And she goes,
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"Mom, how do cats do it?"
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And I go, "Oh, it's the same. It's basically the same."
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And then she got all caught up in the legs. "But how would the legs go, Mom?
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I don't understand the legs."
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She goes, "Mom, everyone can't do the splits."
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And I go, "I know, but the legs ..."
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and I'm probably like, "The legs get worked out."
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And she goes, "But I just can't understand it."
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So I go, "You know, why don't we go on the Internet,
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and maybe we can see ... like on Wikipedia." (Laughter)
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So we go online, and we put in "cats mating."
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And, unfortunately, on YouTube, there's many cats mating videos.
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And we watched them and I'm so thankful,
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because she's just like, "Wow! This is so amazing."
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She goes, "What about dogs?"
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So we put in dogs mating, and,
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you know, we're watching it, and she's totally absorbed.
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And then she goes, "Mom,
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do you think they would have, on the Internet,
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any humans mating?"
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(Laughter)
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And then I realized that
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I had taken my little eight year old's hand,
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and taken her right into Internet porn. (Laughter)
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And I looked into this
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trusting, loving face,
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and I said,
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"Oh, no.
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That would never happen."
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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Thank you. I'm so happy to be here.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Julia Sweeney - Actor, comedian, playwright
Julia Sweeney creates comedic works that tackle deep issues: cancer, family, faith.

Why you should listen

Julia Sweeney is a writer, director, actress, comedian and monologist. She is known for being a cast member on Saturday Night Live from 1990 to 1995, where she created and popularized the androgynous character, Pat. She is also well known for her comedic and dramatic monologues. God Said Ha! is a monologue about serious illness, her brother's lymphoma and her own cancer, and her family's crazy reactions to this crisis as they soldiered their way through struggle, confusion and death. This play was performed all over the U.S. and on Broadway at the Lyceum Theater. It was made into a film produced by Quentin Tarantino, and the comedy album from the show was nominated for a Grammy.

Sweeney's second monologue, In the Family Way, played in theatrical runs in New York and Los Angeles. It was ultimately fashioned into a book, a memoir titled If It's Not One Thing, It's Your Mother. Sweeney's third monologue, Letting Go of God, chronicled her journey from Catholicism to atheism. It was made into a film that played on Showtime.

More profile about the speaker
Julia Sweeney | Speaker | TED.com