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Soraya Chemaly: The power of women's anger
Soraya Chemaly: Snaga ženskog bijesa
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Bijes je snažna emocija - upozorava nas na opasnost, uvredu, poniženost i povredu. Usprkos tome, u cijelom svijetu djevojčice i žene uči se da je njihov bijes najbolje ne izražavati, kaže autorica Soraya Chemaly. Zašto se to događa i što gubimo tom tišinom? Ovim provokativnim, promišljenim govorom propituje opasnu laž da ljutnja nije ženstvena, dokazuje da je ženski bijes opravdan, zdrav i potencijalni katalist promjena.
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00:12
So sometimes I get angry,
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Ponekad se razljutim
00:15
and it took me many years
to be able to say just those words.
to be able to say just those words.
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i trebalo mi je mnogo godina
da svjesno izgovorim te riječi.
da svjesno izgovorim te riječi.
00:20
In my work,
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Na poslu,
tijelo mi ponekad pulsira od bijesa.
00:21
sometimes my body thrums, I'm so enraged.
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00:26
But no matter how justified
my anger has been,
my anger has been,
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Ipak, bez obzira koliko
opravdan bio moj bijes,
opravdan bio moj bijes,
00:30
throughout my life,
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čitavog su me života učili
00:31
I've always been led to understand
that my anger is an exaggeration,
that my anger is an exaggeration,
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da je moj bijes samo pretjerivanje,
00:36
a misrepresentation,
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da daje krivu sliku,
00:38
that it will make me rude and unlikable.
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zbog koje ću ispasti
nepristojna i bezobrazna.
nepristojna i bezobrazna.
00:42
Mainly as a girl, I learned, as a girl,
that anger is an emotion
that anger is an emotion
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Još kao djevojčica naučila sam
da je, za djevojčice, bijes emocija
da je, za djevojčice, bijes emocija
00:47
better left entirely unvoiced.
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koju je najbolje ne izražavati.
00:51
Think about my mother for a minute.
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Razmislite o mojoj majci na trenutak.
00:53
When I was 15, I came home
from school one day,
from school one day,
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Kad sam imala 15 godina,
jednom sam se vratila iz škole,
jednom sam se vratila iz škole,
00:56
and she was standing on a long veranda
outside of our kitchen,
outside of our kitchen,
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a ona je stajala na terasi ispred kuhinje
01:00
holding a giant stack of plates.
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držeći hrpu tanjura u rukama.
01:02
Imagine how dumbfounded I was when she
started to throw them like Frisbees...
started to throw them like Frisbees...
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Zamislite koliko sam bila zbunjena
kad ih je počela bacati kao frizbije
kad ih je počela bacati kao frizbije
01:08
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
01:09
into the hot, humid air.
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u vrući, vlažni zrak.
01:12
When every single plate had shattered
into thousands of pieces
into thousands of pieces
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Nakon što je i posljednji tanjur
razbijen u tisuću komadića
razbijen u tisuću komadića
01:16
on the hill below,
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na brdu ispod kuće,
01:17
she walked back in and she said to me,
cheerfully, "How was your day?"
cheerfully, "How was your day?"
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ušla je natrag u kuću i pitala me
s osmijehom, "Kako je bilo u školi?"
s osmijehom, "Kako je bilo u školi?"
(Smijeh)
01:21
(Laughter)
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01:25
Now you can see how a child
would look at an incident like this
would look at an incident like this
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Jasno je kako dijete iz ovakvog incidenta
01:31
and think that anger is silent, isolating,
destructive, even frightening.
destructive, even frightening.
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zaključi da je bijes nijemi, izolirajući,
razarajući, čak zastrašujući osjećaj.
razarajući, čak zastrašujući osjećaj.
01:37
Especially though when the person
who's angry is a girl or a woman.
who's angry is a girl or a woman.
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Posebno ako je bijesna osoba
djevojčica ili žena.
djevojčica ili žena.
01:43
The question is why.
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Pitanje je zašto?
01:45
Anger is a human emotion,
neither good nor bad.
neither good nor bad.
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Bijes je emocija, nije ni dobra ni loša.
01:49
It is actually a signal emotion.
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Signalna je emocija.
01:50
It warns us of indignity, threat,
insult and harm.
insult and harm.
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Upozorava nas na poniženost,
opasnost, uvredu i povredu.
opasnost, uvredu i povredu.
01:55
And yet, in culture after culture,
anger is reserved as the moral property
anger is reserved as the moral property
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Usprkos tome, iz kulture u kulturu,
ljutnja se smatra karakternom osobinom
ljutnja se smatra karakternom osobinom
02:01
of boys and men.
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dječaka i muškaraca.
02:03
Now, to be sure, there are differences.
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Naravno, postoje razlike.
02:05
So in the United States, for example,
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U Sjedinjenim Američkim
Državama, na primjer,
Državama, na primjer,
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an angry black man
is viewed as a criminal,
is viewed as a criminal,
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na bijesnog crnog muškarca
gleda se kao na kriminalca,
gleda se kao na kriminalca,
02:12
but an angry white man has civic virtue.
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dok je bijes kod bijelaca
građanska vrlina.
građanska vrlina.
02:15
Regardless of where we are, however,
the emotion is gendered.
the emotion is gendered.
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Ipak, gdje god se nalazili,
ova je emocija rodno obilježena.
ova je emocija rodno obilježena.
02:19
And so we teach children to disdain anger
in girls and women,
in girls and women,
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Pa učimo djecu neodobravanju
bijesa kod djevojčica i žena
bijesa kod djevojčica i žena
02:24
and we grow up to be adults
that penalize it.
that penalize it.
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i odrastamo u osobe koje ga kažnjavaju.
02:29
So what if we didn't do that?
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A kad to ne bismo činili?
02:32
What if we didn't sever
anger from femininity?
anger from femininity?
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Kad ne bismo suprotstavljali
bijes i ženstvenost?
bijes i ženstvenost?
02:36
Because severing anger from femininity
means we sever girls and women
means we sever girls and women
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Jer suprotstavljajući bijes i ženstvenost
udaljavamo djevojke i žene
udaljavamo djevojke i žene
02:40
from the emotion that best
protects us from injustice.
protects us from injustice.
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od emocije koja nas
najbolje štiti od nepravde.
najbolje štiti od nepravde.
02:43
What if instead we thought about
developing emotional competence
developing emotional competence
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Što kada bismo umjesto toga
kod djece razvijali
kod djece razvijali
sposobnost nošenja s emocijama?
02:47
for boys and girls?
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02:49
The fact is we still
remarkably socialize children
remarkably socialize children
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Činjenica je da još uvijek,
nevjerojatno, odgajamo djecu
nevjerojatno, odgajamo djecu
02:53
in very binary and oppositional ways.
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na izrazito binarne
i suprotstavljene načine.
i suprotstavljene načine.
02:56
Boys are held to absurd,
rigid norms of masculinity --
rigid norms of masculinity --
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Dječaci se trebaju držati
apsurdnih, strogih normi muškosti.
apsurdnih, strogih normi muškosti.
03:01
told to renounce the feminine emotionality
of sadness or fear
of sadness or fear
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Uči ih se da odbace
ženstvene osjećaje tuge ili straha
ženstvene osjećaje tuge ili straha
03:05
and to embrace aggression and anger
as markers of real manhood.
as markers of real manhood.
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i prigrle agresivnost i bijes
kao obilježja pravih muškaraca.
kao obilježja pravih muškaraca.
03:10
On the other hand,
girls learn to be deferential,
girls learn to be deferential,
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S druge strane,
djevojčice se uče pristojnosti,
djevojčice se uče pristojnosti,
03:14
and anger is incompatible with deference.
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a bijes je nespojiv s pristojnošću.
03:18
In the same way that we learned
to cross our legs and tame our hair,
to cross our legs and tame our hair,
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Kao što nas uče da treba
prekrižiti noge i ukrotiti kosu,
prekrižiti noge i ukrotiti kosu,
03:24
we learned to bite our tongues
and swallow our pride.
and swallow our pride.
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tako naučimo držati jezik
za zubima i progutati ponos.
za zubima i progutati ponos.
03:28
What happens too often
is that for all of us,
is that for all of us,
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Kao rezultat, prečesto, kod svih nas
03:32
indignity becomes imminent
in our notions of femininity.
in our notions of femininity.
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ogorčenost postaje neizbježan dio
naše percepcije ženstvenosti.
naše percepcije ženstvenosti.
03:36
There's a long personal and political
tale to that bifurcation.
tale to that bifurcation.
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Ta je podvojenost rezultat duge
osobne i političke priče.
osobne i političke priče.
03:42
In anger, we go from being
spoiled princesses and hormonal teens,
spoiled princesses and hormonal teens,
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Bijesne, od razmaženih princeza
prerastamo u hormonalne tinejdžerice,
prerastamo u hormonalne tinejdžerice,
03:47
to high maintenance women
and shrill, ugly nags.
and shrill, ugly nags.
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pa u prezahtjevne žene
i stara zanovijetala.
i stara zanovijetala.
03:52
We have flavors, though; pick your flavor.
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Imamo mi i nijansi.
Odaberite najdražu:
Odaberite najdražu:
03:55
Are you a spicy hot Latina
when you're mad?
when you're mad?
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Kad ste ljuti, jeste li vatrena Latina?
03:58
Or a sad Asian girl? An angry black woman?
Or a crazy white one?
Or a crazy white one?
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Ili tužna Azijatkinja?
Ili bijesna crnkinja? Luda bjelkinja?
Ili bijesna crnkinja? Luda bjelkinja?
04:05
You can pick.
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Možete birati.
04:07
But in fact, the effect is
that when we say what's important to us,
that when we say what's important to us,
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Ali zapravo, kada izrazimo ono
do čega nam je stalo,
do čega nam je stalo,
04:11
which is what anger is conveying,
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zašto smo bijesne,
04:14
people are more likely
to get angry at us for being angry.
to get angry at us for being angry.
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veća je vjerojatnost da će se ljudi
naljutiti na nas jer smo ljute.
naljutiti na nas jer smo ljute.
04:18
Whether we're at home or in school
or at work or in a political arena,
or at work or in a political arena,
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Bilo da smo kod kuće, u školi,
na poslu ili u političkoj areni,
na poslu ili u političkoj areni,
ljutnja potvrđuje muškost
i proturječi ženstvenosti.
i proturječi ženstvenosti.
04:24
anger confirms masculinity,
and it confounds femininity.
and it confounds femininity.
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04:29
So men are rewarded for displaying it,
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Stoga, muškarce se nagrađuje
za njeno izražavanje,
za njeno izražavanje,
04:31
and women are penalized
for doing the same.
for doing the same.
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a žene kažnjava za isto.
04:35
This puts us at an enormous disadvantage,
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Ovo nas stavlja
u izrazito nepovoljan položaj,
u izrazito nepovoljan položaj,
04:38
particularly when we have to defend
ourselves and our own interests.
ourselves and our own interests.
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posebno kada trebamo
braniti sebe i svoje interese.
braniti sebe i svoje interese.
04:43
If we're faced with a threatening
street harasser, predatory employer,
street harasser, predatory employer,
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Suočene s napasnikom na ulici,
predatorskim poslodavcem,
predatorskim poslodavcem,
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a sexist, racist classmate,
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seksističkim ili rasističkim kolegom,
04:50
our brains are screaming,
"Are you kidding me?"
"Are you kidding me?"
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u glavi nam odzvanja:
"Jesi li ti normalan?"
"Jesi li ti normalan?"
04:54
And our mouths say, "I'm sorry, what?"
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A usta nam izgovaraju: "Oprostite?"
04:58
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
05:00
Right?
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Zar ne?
05:03
And it's conflicting because
the anger gets all tangled up
the anger gets all tangled up
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Zbunjujuće je jer se ljutnja isprepliće
05:06
with the anxiety and the fear
and the risk and retaliation.
and the risk and retaliation.
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s tjeskobom, strahom
i opasnošću od posljedica.
i opasnošću od posljedica.
05:09
If you ask women what they fear the most
in response to their anger,
in response to their anger,
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Kad pitate žene čega se najviše boje
kao odgovora na njihovu ljutnju,
kao odgovora na njihovu ljutnju,
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they don't say violence.
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ne kažu - nasilja.
05:15
They say mockery.
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Kažu - izrugivanja.
05:17
Think about what that means.
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Razmislite o tome.
05:20
If you have multiple marginalized
identities, it's not just mockery.
identities, it's not just mockery.
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Kod višestruko marginaliziranih,
ne radi se samo o izrugivanju.
ne radi se samo o izrugivanju.
05:25
If you defend yourself,
if you put a stake in the ground,
if you put a stake in the ground,
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Ako se krenete braniti,
ako odbijete odstupiti,
ako odbijete odstupiti,
može biti ozbiljnih posljedica.
05:29
there can be dire consequences.
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05:32
Now we reproduce these patterns
not in big, bold and blunt ways,
not in big, bold and blunt ways,
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Ove uzorke ne usvajamo
kroz velike, upadljive i glasne geste,
kroz velike, upadljive i glasne geste,
05:37
but in the everyday banality of life.
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već kroz svakodnevne banalne situacije.
05:41
When my daughter was in preschool,
every single morning
every single morning
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Dok je bila u vrtiću,
moja bi kćer svakoga jutra
moja bi kćer svakoga jutra
05:44
she built an elaborate castle --
ribbons and blocks --
ribbons and blocks --
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izgradila veliki dvorac,
s vrpcama, od kockica,
s vrpcama, od kockica,
05:47
and every single morning the same boy
knocked it down gleefully.
knocked it down gleefully.
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i svakog bi ga jutra isti dječak
s oduševljenjem srušio.
s oduševljenjem srušio.
05:51
His parents were there, but they never
intervened before the fact.
intervened before the fact.
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Roditelji su mu bili prisutni,
ali nikad ga nisu pokušali spriječiti.
ali nikad ga nisu pokušali spriječiti.
05:56
They were happy to provide
platitudes afterwards:
platitudes afterwards:
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Bez ustručavanja su
poslije nudili opravdanja:
poslije nudili opravdanja:
06:00
"Boys will be boys."
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"Takvi su dečki."
06:02
"It's so tempting, he just
couldn't help himself."
couldn't help himself."
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"Nije se mogao suzdržati."
06:06
I did what many girls
and women learn to do.
and women learn to do.
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Postupila sam kako su mnoge
djevojčice i žene naučene.
djevojčice i žene naučene.
06:10
I preemptively kept the peace,
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Održala sam mir
06:12
and I taught my daughter
to do the same thing.
to do the same thing.
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i naučila svoju kćer da čini isto.
06:15
She used her words.
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Pokušala se izboriti riječima.
06:18
She tried to gently body block him.
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Pokušavala mu je lagano zapriječiti put.
06:20
She moved where she was building
in the classroom, to no effect.
in the classroom, to no effect.
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Promijenila je mjesto gradnje
u drugi dio učionice. Bezuspješno.
u drugi dio učionice. Bezuspješno.
06:25
So I and the other adults mutually
constructed a particular male entitlement.
constructed a particular male entitlement.
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Dakle, mi odrasli izgradili smo
poseban oblik muškog privilegija.
poseban oblik muškog privilegija.
06:32
He could run rampant
and control the environment,
and control the environment,
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On je mogao raditi što hoće
i vladati okolinom,
i vladati okolinom,
a ona je potisnula svoje osjećaje
i sklanjala mu se s puta.
i sklanjala mu se s puta.
06:35
and she kept her feelings to herself
and worked around his needs.
and worked around his needs.
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06:41
We failed both of them
by not giving her anger the uptake
by not giving her anger the uptake
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Iznevjerili smo oboje
kad njenoj ljutnji nismo dozvolili
kad njenoj ljutnji nismo dozvolili
06:45
and resolution that it deserved.
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da bude prepoznata i razriješena.
06:48
Now that's a microcosm
of a much bigger problem.
of a much bigger problem.
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Ovo je tek mali primjer
mnogo većeg problema.
mnogo većeg problema.
06:51
Because culturally, worldwide,
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Jer kulturološki, u cijelom svijetu,
06:55
we preference the performance
of masculinity --
of masculinity --
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stavljamo izvedbu muškosti
06:59
and the power and privilege
that come with that performance --
that come with that performance --
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te moć i privilegije
koji uz tu izvedbu dolaze,
koji uz tu izvedbu dolaze,
07:03
over the rights and needs and words
of children and women.
of children and women.
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iznad prava, potreba
i glasova žena i djece.
i glasova žena i djece.
07:08
So it will come as absolutely no surprise,
probably, to the people in this room
probably, to the people in this room
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Stoga vas vjerojatno
neće ni najmanje iznenaditi,
neće ni najmanje iznenaditi,
07:13
that women report being angrier in more
sustained ways and with more intensity
sustained ways and with more intensity
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da po istraživanjima žene
ljutnju osjećaju intenzivnije i duže
ljutnju osjećaju intenzivnije i duže
07:19
than men do.
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od muškaraca.
07:21
Some of that comes from the fact
that we're socialized to ruminate,
that we're socialized to ruminate,
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Razlog je dijelom u tome
što smo odgajane da promišljamo,
što smo odgajane da promišljamo,
07:24
to keep it to ourselves and mull it over.
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držimo jezik za zubima i promišljamo.
07:27
But we also have to find
socially palatable ways
socially palatable ways
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Osim toga, moramo pronaći
društveno prihvatljive načine
društveno prihvatljive načine
07:31
to express the intensity
of emotion that we have
of emotion that we have
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izražavanja intenziteta
emocija koje osjećamo
emocija koje osjećamo
07:35
and the awareness
that it brings of our precarity.
that it brings of our precarity.
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i biti svjesne dojma koji ostavljaju.
07:39
So we do several things.
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Zato radimo sljedeće.
07:42
If men knew how often women were filled
with white hot rage when we cried,
with white hot rage when we cried,
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Kada bi muškarci znali koliko često
žene ključaju od bijesa kad plaču,
žene ključaju od bijesa kad plaču,
07:47
they would be staggered.
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zaprepastili bi se.
07:49
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
07:51
We use minimizing language.
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Riječima umanjujemo važnost.
07:53
"We're frustrated. No, really, it's OK."
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"Frustrirane smo.
Ne, stvarno, u redu je."
Ne, stvarno, u redu je."
07:55
(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
07:57
We self-objectify and lose the ability
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Same sebe objektificiramo
i nismo u stanju
i nismo u stanju
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to even recognize the physiological
changes that indicate anger.
changes that indicate anger.
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prepoznati fiziološke promjene
koje ukazuju na ljutnju.
koje ukazuju na ljutnju.
08:07
Mainly, though, we get sick.
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Najvažnije, razbolimo se.
08:11
Anger has now been implicated
in a whole array of illnesses
in a whole array of illnesses
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Ljutnja je dovedena u vezu
s cijelim nizom bolesti
s cijelim nizom bolesti
08:15
that are casually dismissed
as "women's illnesses."
as "women's illnesses."
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koje se olako otpisuje
kao "ženske boljke".
kao "ženske boljke".
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Higher rates of chronic pain,
autoimmune disorders, disordered eating,
autoimmune disorders, disordered eating,
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Češće pojave kronične boli,
autoimunih i poremećaja u prehrani,
autoimunih i poremećaja u prehrani,
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mental distress, anxiety,
self harm, depression.
self harm, depression.
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mentalnih poteškoća, tjeskobe,
samoozljeđivanja, depresije.
samoozljeđivanja, depresije.
08:29
Anger affects our immune systems,
our cardiovascular systems.
our cardiovascular systems.
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Ljutnja utječe na imunološki
i krvožilni sustav.
i krvožilni sustav.
08:33
Some studies even indicate
that it affects mortality rates,
that it affects mortality rates,
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Neka istraživanja pokazuju
da utječe i na stope smrtnosti,
da utječe i na stope smrtnosti,
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particularly in black women with cancer.
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posebno od raka kod crnih žena.
08:42
I am sick and tired of the women
I know being sick and tired.
I know being sick and tired.
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Sita sam gledati oko sebe
umorne i bolesne žene.
umorne i bolesne žene.
08:49
Our anger brings great discomfort,
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Naš je bijes neugodan.
08:52
and the conflict comes because
it's our role to bring comfort.
it's our role to bring comfort.
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Do konflikta dolazi jer je naša uloga
stvarati osjećaj ugode.
stvarati osjećaj ugode.
08:57
There is anger that's acceptable.
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Ima i prihvatljivih oblika.
08:58
We can be angry when we stay in our lanes
and buttress the status quo.
and buttress the status quo.
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Smijemo se razljutiti ako ostanemo
u zadanim okvirima i održavamo status quo.
u zadanim okvirima i održavamo status quo.
09:05
As mothers or teachers,
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Kao majke ili učiteljice,
09:08
we can be mad, but we can't be angry
about the tremendous costs of nurturing.
about the tremendous costs of nurturing.
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smijemo se razljutiti,
ali ne zbog visoke cijene odgoja.
ali ne zbog visoke cijene odgoja.
09:13
We can be angry at our mothers.
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Možemo se ljutiti na naše majke.
Recimo, kao tinejdžerice,
za patrijarhalna pravila i ograničenja
za patrijarhalna pravila i ograničenja
09:15
Let's say, as teenagers --
patriarchal rules and regulations --
patriarchal rules and regulations --
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ne krivimo sustav, već njih.
09:19
we don't blame systems, we blame them.
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09:21
We can be angry at other women,
because who doesn't love a good catfight?
because who doesn't love a good catfight?
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Možemo bijesniti na druge žene,
jer tko ne voli kad se žene potuku?
jer tko ne voli kad se žene potuku?
09:26
And we can be angry at men with
lower status in an expressive hierarchy
lower status in an expressive hierarchy
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Možemo bijesniti na muškarce
nižeg statusa u društvenoj hijerarhiji
nižeg statusa u društvenoj hijerarhiji
09:32
that supports racism or xenophobia.
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koja potiče rasizam ili ksenofobiju.
09:35
But we have an enormous power in this.
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Ali u tome je naša nevjerojatna moć.
09:38
Because feelings are the purview
of our authority,
of our authority,
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Budući da su osjećaji naše područje,
09:43
and people are uncomfortable
with our anger.
with our anger.
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a ljudima je naša ljutnja neugodna,
09:46
We should be making people comfortable
with the discomfort they feel
with the discomfort they feel
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trebale bismo ljude navikavati
na osjećaj neugode koji osjećaju
na osjećaj neugode koji osjećaju
09:51
when women say no, unapologetically.
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kad žene, bez ustručavanja, kažu "ne".
09:55
We can take emotions and think in terms
of competence and not gender.
of competence and not gender.
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Možemo na emocije gledati
iz perspektive sposobnosti, ne roda.
iz perspektive sposobnosti, ne roda.
10:01
People who are able to process their anger
and make meaning from it
and make meaning from it
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Ljudi koji su u stanju
izraziti ljutnju i izvući pouku
izraziti ljutnju i izvući pouku
10:05
are more creative, more optimistic,
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kreativniji su, optimističniji,
10:08
they have more intimacy,
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otvoreniji su prema intimnosti,
10:10
they're better problem solvers,
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bolji u rješavanju problema,
10:14
they have greater political efficacy.
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imaju veću političku uspješnost.
10:17
Now I am a woman
writing about women and feelings,
writing about women and feelings,
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Ja sam žena koja piše
o ženama i osjećajima.
o ženama i osjećajima.
10:20
so very few men with power
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Zato će malo muškaraca
na pozicijama moći
na pozicijama moći
10:23
are going to take what I'm saying
seriously, as a matter of politics.
seriously, as a matter of politics.
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shvatiti moje riječi
kao ozbiljno političko pitanje.
kao ozbiljno političko pitanje.
10:27
We think of politics and anger in terms
of the contempt and disdain and fury
of the contempt and disdain and fury
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U politici bijes se vezuje uz prijezir,
omalovažavanje i srdžbu,
omalovažavanje i srdžbu,
10:33
that are feeding a rise
of macho-fascism in the world.
of macho-fascism in the world.
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na čijim se temeljima
uzdiže mačizam u svijetu.
uzdiže mačizam u svijetu.
Ali ako bijes i jest taj otrov,
također je i protuotrov.
također je i protuotrov.
10:37
But if it's that poison,
it's also the antidote.
it's also the antidote.
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10:41
We have an anger of hope,
and we see it every single day
and we see it every single day
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Naš je bijes utemeljen u nadi
i vidimo ga svakodnevno
i vidimo ga svakodnevno
10:45
in the resistant anger of women
and marginalized people.
and marginalized people.
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u otpornoj ljutnji žena
i marginaliziranih skupina.
i marginaliziranih skupina.
10:49
It's related to compassion
and empathy and love,
and empathy and love,
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Temelji se na suosjećanju,
empatiji i ljubavi,
empatiji i ljubavi,
10:54
and we should recognize
that anger as well.
that anger as well.
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te moramo prepoznati i taj bijes.
10:59
The issue is that societies that don't
respect women's anger don't respect women.
respect women's anger don't respect women.
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Problem je što društva koja ne poštuju
ženski bijes, ne poštuju ni žene.
ženski bijes, ne poštuju ni žene.
11:07
The real danger of our anger isn't that
it will break bonds or plates.
it will break bonds or plates.
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Stvarna opasnost našeg bijesa
nije u uništavanju veza ili tanjura,
nije u uništavanju veza ili tanjura,
11:14
It's that it exactly shows
how seriously we take ourselves,
how seriously we take ourselves,
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već da jasno pokazuje
koliko držimo do sebe
koliko držimo do sebe
11:19
and we expect other people
to take us seriously as well.
to take us seriously as well.
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i da očekujemo od drugih
da nas shvate ozbiljno.
da nas shvate ozbiljno.
11:24
When that happens, chances are very good
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Kad to postignemo, velike su šanse
11:27
that women will be able to smile
when they want to.
when they want to.
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da će se žene moći smiješiti
samo kada požele.
samo kada požele.
11:33
(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
11:34
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
11:35
(Applause) (Cheers)
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(Pljesak)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Soraya Chemaly - Writer, activistSoraya Chemaly writes and thinks about social justice.
Why you should listen
Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning journalist, essayist and author whose work appears regularly in national and international media. In her writing, she rigorously and irreverently casts a bright, incisive light on what it means to be a woman in world built by men. Her narrative skill, careful research and humor-filled analyses described by the New Yorker as "relentless and revelatory." She brings these skills to bear in a critical examination of the social construction of anger and its effects on women's lives in her first book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger.
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