TEDWomen 2018
Soraya Chemaly: The power of women's anger
Soraja Čemali (Soraya Chemaly): Moć ženskog besa
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Bes je snažna emocija - upozorava nas na pretnje, uvrede, poniženje i zlo. Ali, širom sveta, devojčice i žene se uče da je njihov bes bolje ne izražavati, kaže autorka Soraja Čemali. Zašto je to tako i šta možemo da izgubimo u ovoj tišini? U provokativnom i promišljenom govoru, Čemali istražuje opasnu laž da bes nije ženstven, i pokazuje kako je ženski bes opravdan, zdrav i potencijalni pokretač promena.
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00:12
So sometimes I get angry,
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Ponekad se naljutim,
00:15
and it took me many years
to be able to say just those words.
to be able to say just those words.
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i trebalo mi je mnogo godina
samo da bih mogla da to izgovorim.
samo da bih mogla da to izgovorim.
00:20
In my work,
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U mom poslu,
00:21
sometimes my body thrums, I'm so enraged.
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ponekad mi se telo trese koliko sam besna.
00:26
But no matter how justified
my anger has been,
my anger has been,
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Ali bez obzira na to
koliko je moj bes opravdan,
koliko je moj bes opravdan,
00:30
throughout my life,
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čitavog života
00:31
I've always been led to understand
that my anger is an exaggeration,
that my anger is an exaggeration,
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su me uvek navodili da mislim
da je moj bes preterivanje,
da je moj bes preterivanje,
00:36
a misrepresentation,
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pogrešno predstavljanje,
00:38
that it will make me rude and unlikable.
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zbog kojeg ću delovati
nepristojno i nedopadljivo.
nepristojno i nedopadljivo.
00:42
Mainly as a girl, I learned, as a girl,
that anger is an emotion
that anger is an emotion
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Uglavnom kao devojčica, kako sam naučila,
za devojčicu je bes emocija
za devojčicu je bes emocija
00:47
better left entirely unvoiced.
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koju je bolje uopšte ne izražavati.
00:51
Think about my mother for a minute.
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Razmislite o mojoj majci na trenutak.
00:53
When I was 15, I came home
from school one day,
from school one day,
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Kada sam imala 15 godina,
jednog dana sam došla kući iz škole,
jednog dana sam došla kući iz škole,
00:56
and she was standing on a long veranda
outside of our kitchen,
outside of our kitchen,
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a ona je stajala na dugoj verandi
ispred naše kuhinje.
ispred naše kuhinje.
01:00
holding a giant stack of plates.
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i držala gomilu tanjira.
01:02
Imagine how dumbfounded I was when she
started to throw them like Frisbees...
started to throw them like Frisbees...
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Zamislite kako sam bila zapanjena
kada je počela da ih baca kao frizbi...
kada je počela da ih baca kao frizbi...
01:08
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:09
into the hot, humid air.
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u vruć, vlažan vazduh.
01:12
When every single plate had shattered
into thousands of pieces
into thousands of pieces
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Kada se svaki tanjir
razbio na hiljade komada
razbio na hiljade komada
01:16
on the hill below,
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na uzvišici ispod,
01:17
she walked back in and she said to me,
cheerfully, "How was your day?"
cheerfully, "How was your day?"
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ušla je unutra i pitala me, veselo:
„Kako si provela dan?“
„Kako si provela dan?“
01:21
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:25
Now you can see how a child
would look at an incident like this
would look at an incident like this
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Možete videti kako bi dete
gledalo na ovaj incident
gledalo na ovaj incident
01:31
and think that anger is silent, isolating,
destructive, even frightening.
destructive, even frightening.
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i pomislilo da je bes tih, da izoluje,
da je destruktivan, čak i strašan.
da je destruktivan, čak i strašan.
01:37
Especially though when the person
who's angry is a girl or a woman.
who's angry is a girl or a woman.
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Posebno kad je osoba
koja je besna devojka ili žena.
koja je besna devojka ili žena.
01:43
The question is why.
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Pitanje je zašto.
01:45
Anger is a human emotion,
neither good nor bad.
neither good nor bad.
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Bes je ljudska emocija, ni dobra ni loša.
01:49
It is actually a signal emotion.
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Zapravo je signalna emocija.
01:50
It warns us of indignity, threat,
insult and harm.
insult and harm.
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Upozorava nas na poniženje,
pretnje, uvrede i zlo.
pretnje, uvrede i zlo.
01:55
And yet, in culture after culture,
anger is reserved as the moral property
anger is reserved as the moral property
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Pa ipak, u mnogim kulturama,
bes je rezervisan kao moralna svojina
bes je rezervisan kao moralna svojina
02:01
of boys and men.
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dečaka i muškaraca.
02:03
Now, to be sure, there are differences.
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Doduše, ima razlika.
02:05
So in the United States, for example,
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U Sjedinjenim Državama, na primer,
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an angry black man
is viewed as a criminal,
is viewed as a criminal,
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ljutitog crnca vide kao kriminalca,
02:12
but an angry white man has civic virtue.
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ali ljutiti belac
poseduje građanske vrline.
poseduje građanske vrline.
02:15
Regardless of where we are, however,
the emotion is gendered.
the emotion is gendered.
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Međutim, bez obzira na to gde se nalazimo,
ova emocija je rodno određena.
ova emocija je rodno određena.
02:19
And so we teach children to disdain anger
in girls and women,
in girls and women,
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Tako učimo decu da preziru bes
kod devojčica i žena,
kod devojčica i žena,
02:24
and we grow up to be adults
that penalize it.
that penalize it.
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i postajemo odrasli
koji zbog njega kažnjavaju.
koji zbog njega kažnjavaju.
02:29
So what if we didn't do that?
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Šta ako to ne bismo radili?
02:32
What if we didn't sever
anger from femininity?
anger from femininity?
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Šta da ne odvajamo bes od ženstvenosti?
02:36
Because severing anger from femininity
means we sever girls and women
means we sever girls and women
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Jer razdvajanje besa i ženstvenosti
znači da odvajamo devojčice i žene
znači da odvajamo devojčice i žene
02:40
from the emotion that best
protects us from injustice.
protects us from injustice.
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od emocije koja nas najbolje
štiti od nepravde.
štiti od nepravde.
02:43
What if instead we thought about
developing emotional competence
developing emotional competence
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Šta ako bismo umesto toga razmišljali
o razvijanju emocionalnih kompetencija
o razvijanju emocionalnih kompetencija
02:47
for boys and girls?
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kod dečaka i devojčica?
02:49
The fact is we still
remarkably socialize children
remarkably socialize children
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Činjenica je da još uvek
upadljivo socijalizujemo decu
upadljivo socijalizujemo decu
02:53
in very binary and oppositional ways.
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na razdvojene i suprotstavljene načine.
02:56
Boys are held to absurd,
rigid norms of masculinity --
rigid norms of masculinity --
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Dečacima su zadate apsurdne,
rigidne norme muškosti -
rigidne norme muškosti -
03:01
told to renounce the feminine emotionality
of sadness or fear
of sadness or fear
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govore im da se odreknu
ženske emocionalnosti tuge i straha
ženske emocionalnosti tuge i straha
03:05
and to embrace aggression and anger
as markers of real manhood.
as markers of real manhood.
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i da prihvate agresiju i bes
kao znake prave muškosti.
kao znake prave muškosti.
03:10
On the other hand,
girls learn to be deferential,
girls learn to be deferential,
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S druge strane,
devojke uče da budu poslušne,
devojke uče da budu poslušne,
03:14
and anger is incompatible with deference.
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a bes je nespojiv sa poslušnošću.
03:18
In the same way that we learned
to cross our legs and tame our hair,
to cross our legs and tame our hair,
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Isto kao što smo naučile
da prekrstimo noge i ukrotimo kosu,
da prekrstimo noge i ukrotimo kosu,
03:24
we learned to bite our tongues
and swallow our pride.
and swallow our pride.
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naučile smo da pregrizemo jezik
i progutamo ponos.
i progutamo ponos.
03:28
What happens too often
is that for all of us,
is that for all of us,
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Previše često se desi da za sve nas
03:32
indignity becomes imminent
in our notions of femininity.
in our notions of femininity.
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poniženje postaje neizbežno
u našem poimanju ženstvenosti.
u našem poimanju ženstvenosti.
03:36
There's a long personal and political
tale to that bifurcation.
tale to that bifurcation.
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Duga je lična i politička priča
o tom račvanju.
o tom račvanju.
03:42
In anger, we go from being
spoiled princesses and hormonal teens,
spoiled princesses and hormonal teens,
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U besu se krećemo od razmaženih princeza
i tinejdžerki pod hormonima,
i tinejdžerki pod hormonima,
03:47
to high maintenance women
and shrill, ugly nags.
and shrill, ugly nags.
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do žena koje su teške za održavanje
i kreštavih, ružnih zakerala.
i kreštavih, ružnih zakerala.
03:52
We have flavors, though; pick your flavor.
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Imamo i ukuse; odaberite svoj ukus.
03:55
Are you a spicy hot Latina
when you're mad?
when you're mad?
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Da li ste vrela pikantna
Latinoamerikanka kada se naljutite?
Latinoamerikanka kada se naljutite?
03:58
Or a sad Asian girl? An angry black woman?
Or a crazy white one?
Or a crazy white one?
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Ili ste tužna Azijatkinja?
Ili ljutita crkinja? Ili luda belkinja?
Ili ljutita crkinja? Ili luda belkinja?
04:05
You can pick.
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Možete da birate.
04:07
But in fact, the effect is
that when we say what's important to us,
that when we say what's important to us,
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Ali u stvari, efekat koji se javlja je da,
kada kažemo ono što nam je bitno,
kada kažemo ono što nam je bitno,
04:11
which is what anger is conveying,
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a što se saopštava besom,
04:14
people are more likely
to get angry at us for being angry.
to get angry at us for being angry.
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veće su šanse da će se ljudi
naljutiti na nas zato što smo ljute.
naljutiti na nas zato što smo ljute.
04:18
Whether we're at home or in school
or at work or in a political arena,
or at work or in a political arena,
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Bilo da smo kod kuće, u školi,
na poslu ili u političkoj areni,
na poslu ili u političkoj areni,
04:24
anger confirms masculinity,
and it confounds femininity.
and it confounds femininity.
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bes potvrđuje muškost
i osujećuje ženstvenost.
i osujećuje ženstvenost.
04:29
So men are rewarded for displaying it,
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Muškarce nagrađuju kada ga pokazuju,
04:31
and women are penalized
for doing the same.
for doing the same.
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a žene se kažnjavaju za to isto.
04:35
This puts us at an enormous disadvantage,
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To nas stavlja u veoma nepovoljan položaj,
04:38
particularly when we have to defend
ourselves and our own interests.
ourselves and our own interests.
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naročito kada moramo
da branimo sebe i svoje interese.
da branimo sebe i svoje interese.
Ako se suočimo sa pretnjom
nekog ko nas uznemirava na ulici,
nekog ko nas uznemirava na ulici,
04:43
If we're faced with a threatening
street harasser, predatory employer,
street harasser, predatory employer,
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poslodavcem koji nas ugrožava,
04:47
a sexist, racist classmate,
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sa seksističkim, rasističkim
drugom iz odeljenja,
drugom iz odeljenja,
04:50
our brains are screaming,
"Are you kidding me?"
"Are you kidding me?"
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naš mozak vrišti: „Šta ti pada na pamet!“
04:54
And our mouths say, "I'm sorry, what?"
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A naša usta kažu: „Izvinite, šta?“
04:58
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
05:00
Right?
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Zar ne?
05:03
And it's conflicting because
the anger gets all tangled up
the anger gets all tangled up
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Nastaje konflikt
jer se ljutnja skroz pomeša
jer se ljutnja skroz pomeša
05:06
with the anxiety and the fear
and the risk and retaliation.
and the risk and retaliation.
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sa anksioznošću, strahom,
rizikom i osvetom.
rizikom i osvetom.
05:09
If you ask women what they fear the most
in response to their anger,
in response to their anger,
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Ako pitate žene čega se najviše boje
kao reakcije na svoj bes,
kao reakcije na svoj bes,
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they don't say violence.
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one ne navode nasilje.
05:15
They say mockery.
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Kažu da je to ismevanje.
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Think about what that means.
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Razmislite šta to znači.
05:20
If you have multiple marginalized
identities, it's not just mockery.
identities, it's not just mockery.
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Ako imate višestruko marginalizovane
identitete, to nije samo ismevanje.
identitete, to nije samo ismevanje.
05:25
If you defend yourself,
if you put a stake in the ground,
if you put a stake in the ground,
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Ako se branite, ako krenete u akciju,
05:29
there can be dire consequences.
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posledice mogu biti kobne.
05:32
Now we reproduce these patterns
not in big, bold and blunt ways,
not in big, bold and blunt ways,
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Mi reprodukujemo ove obrasce
ne na velike, smele i neposredne načine,
ne na velike, smele i neposredne načine,
05:37
but in the everyday banality of life.
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već u svakodnevnoj banalnosti života.
05:41
When my daughter was in preschool,
every single morning
every single morning
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Kada je moja ćerka išla u predškolsko,
svakog jutra bi napravila
složeni zamak od traka i kockica,
složeni zamak od traka i kockica,
05:44
she built an elaborate castle --
ribbons and blocks --
ribbons and blocks --
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05:47
and every single morning the same boy
knocked it down gleefully.
knocked it down gleefully.
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i svakog jutra bi ga isti dečak
srušio s radošću.
srušio s radošću.
05:51
His parents were there, but they never
intervened before the fact.
intervened before the fact.
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Njegovi roditelji su bili tu,
ali nikada nisu intervenisali
pre nego što bi se to desilo.
pre nego što bi se to desilo.
05:56
They were happy to provide
platitudes afterwards:
platitudes afterwards:
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Sa zadovoljstvom su nakon toga
iznosili otrcane fraze:
iznosili otrcane fraze:
06:00
"Boys will be boys."
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„Takvi su dečaci.“
06:02
"It's so tempting, he just
couldn't help himself."
couldn't help himself."
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„Toliko je primamljvo
da prosto nije mogao da izdrži.“
da prosto nije mogao da izdrži.“
06:06
I did what many girls
and women learn to do.
and women learn to do.
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Radila sam ono što mnoge devojčice
i žene nauče da rade.
i žene nauče da rade.
06:10
I preemptively kept the peace,
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Preventivno sam održavala mir
06:12
and I taught my daughter
to do the same thing.
to do the same thing.
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i učila sam svoju ćerku da radi to isto.
06:15
She used her words.
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Birala je reči.
06:18
She tried to gently body block him.
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Pokušala je da ga nežno blokira.
06:20
She moved where she was building
in the classroom, to no effect.
in the classroom, to no effect.
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Promenila je mesto u učionici
gde je pravila zamak, ali nije delovalo.
gde je pravila zamak, ali nije delovalo.
06:25
So I and the other adults mutually
constructed a particular male entitlement.
constructed a particular male entitlement.
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Tako smo ja i druge odrasle osobe
zajedno izgradili naročito muško pravo.
zajedno izgradili naročito muško pravo.
06:32
He could run rampant
and control the environment,
and control the environment,
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On je mogao da se neobuzdano ponaša
i kontroliše sredinu,
i kontroliše sredinu,
06:35
and she kept her feelings to herself
and worked around his needs.
and worked around his needs.
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a ona je držala osećanja u sebi
i funkcionisala na osnovu
njegovih potreba.
njegovih potreba.
06:41
We failed both of them
by not giving her anger the uptake
by not giving her anger the uptake
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Izneverili smo oboje
jer nismo dali polet njenom besu
jer nismo dali polet njenom besu
06:45
and resolution that it deserved.
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i zasluženo razrešenje.
06:48
Now that's a microcosm
of a much bigger problem.
of a much bigger problem.
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To je mikrokosmos mnogo većeg problema.
06:51
Because culturally, worldwide,
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Jer kulturološki, širom sveta,
06:55
we preference the performance
of masculinity --
of masculinity --
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dajemo prednost ispoljavanju muževnosti,
06:59
and the power and privilege
that come with that performance --
that come with that performance --
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kao i moći i privilegijama
koje idu uz to ispoljavanje,
koje idu uz to ispoljavanje,
07:03
over the rights and needs and words
of children and women.
of children and women.
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nad pravima, potrebama
i rečima dece i žena.
i rečima dece i žena.
07:08
So it will come as absolutely no surprise,
probably, to the people in this room
probably, to the people in this room
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Tako da verovatno ljude
u ovoj prostoriji neće iznenaditi
u ovoj prostoriji neće iznenaditi
07:13
that women report being angrier in more
sustained ways and with more intensity
sustained ways and with more intensity
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to što žene navode da osećaju više besa
tokom dužeg perioda i u većem intenzitetu
tokom dužeg perioda i u većem intenzitetu
07:19
than men do.
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nego muškarci.
Deo toga proizlazi iz činjenice
da smo socijalizovane da prežvakavamo,
da smo socijalizovane da prežvakavamo,
07:21
Some of that comes from the fact
that we're socialized to ruminate,
that we're socialized to ruminate,
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07:24
to keep it to ourselves and mull it over.
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da držimo stvari u sebi
i preispitujemo ih.
i preispitujemo ih.
07:27
But we also have to find
socially palatable ways
socially palatable ways
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Ali takođe moramo pronaći
društveno prihvatljive načine
društveno prihvatljive načine
07:31
to express the intensity
of emotion that we have
of emotion that we have
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da izrazimo intenzitet emocija koje imamo
07:35
and the awareness
that it brings of our precarity.
that it brings of our precarity.
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i svest o tome da nas ovo dovodi
u nepovoljan položaj.
u nepovoljan položaj.
07:39
So we do several things.
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I onda radimo nekoliko stvari.
07:42
If men knew how often women were filled
with white hot rage when we cried,
with white hot rage when we cried,
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Kad bi muškarci znali koliko često su žene
pune žestokog besa kada plaču,
pune žestokog besa kada plaču,
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they would be staggered.
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bili bi zapanjeni.
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(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:51
We use minimizing language.
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Koristimo jezik kojim umanjujemo značaj.
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"We're frustrated. No, really, it's OK."
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„Nervozne smo. Ne, stvarno, u redu je.“
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(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
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We self-objectify and lose the ability
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Objektivizujemo sebe i gubimo sposobnost
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to even recognize the physiological
changes that indicate anger.
changes that indicate anger.
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čak i da prepoznamo fiziološke promene
koje ukazuju na bes.
koje ukazuju na bes.
08:07
Mainly, though, we get sick.
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Većinom se razbolimo.
08:11
Anger has now been implicated
in a whole array of illnesses
in a whole array of illnesses
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Bes se danas dovodi u vezu
sa čitavim nizom bolesti
sa čitavim nizom bolesti
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that are casually dismissed
as "women's illnesses."
as "women's illnesses."
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koje se nonšalantno odbacuju
kao „ženske bolesti“.
kao „ženske bolesti“.
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Higher rates of chronic pain,
autoimmune disorders, disordered eating,
autoimmune disorders, disordered eating,
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Veća učestalost hroničnih bolova,
autoimunih oboljenja, poremećaja ishrane,
autoimunih oboljenja, poremećaja ishrane,
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mental distress, anxiety,
self harm, depression.
self harm, depression.
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mentalnih problema, anksioznosti,
samopovređivanja, depresije.
samopovređivanja, depresije.
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Anger affects our immune systems,
our cardiovascular systems.
our cardiovascular systems.
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Bes utiče na naš imuni
i kardiovaskularni sistem.
i kardiovaskularni sistem.
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Some studies even indicate
that it affects mortality rates,
that it affects mortality rates,
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Neke studije čak ukazuju
da utiče na stopu smrtnosti,
da utiče na stopu smrtnosti,
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particularly in black women with cancer.
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naročito kod žena crne rase sa rakom.
08:42
I am sick and tired of the women
I know being sick and tired.
I know being sick and tired.
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Dosta mi je više toga da je ženama
koje poznajem dosta svega.
koje poznajem dosta svega.
08:49
Our anger brings great discomfort,
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Naš bes stvara znatnu neprijatnost,
08:52
and the conflict comes because
it's our role to bring comfort.
it's our role to bring comfort.
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a konflikt nastaje jer je naša uloga
da obezbedimo prijatnost.
da obezbedimo prijatnost.
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There is anger that's acceptable.
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Postoji bes koji je prihvatljiv.
08:58
We can be angry when we stay in our lanes
and buttress the status quo.
and buttress the status quo.
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Možemo biti ljute kad se držimo iste staze
i održavamo status kvo.
i održavamo status kvo.
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As mothers or teachers,
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Kao majke ili predavači,
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we can be mad, but we can't be angry
about the tremendous costs of nurturing.
about the tremendous costs of nurturing.
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možemo se ljutiti,
ali ne možemo biti ljute
zbog ogromne cene odgajanja.
zbog ogromne cene odgajanja.
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We can be angry at our mothers.
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Možemo se ljutiti na svoje majke.
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Let's say, as teenagers --
patriarchal rules and regulations --
patriarchal rules and regulations --
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Recimo, kao tinejdžerke -
patrijarhalna pravila i propisi -
patrijarhalna pravila i propisi -
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we don't blame systems, we blame them.
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ne krivimo sistem, već krivimo njih.
09:21
We can be angry at other women,
because who doesn't love a good catfight?
because who doesn't love a good catfight?
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Možemo se ljutiti na druge žene,
jer, ko ne voli kad se žene počupaju?
jer, ko ne voli kad se žene počupaju?
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And we can be angry at men with
lower status in an expressive hierarchy
lower status in an expressive hierarchy
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Možemo se ljutiti na muškarce
nižeg statusa u ekspresivnoj hijerarhiji
nižeg statusa u ekspresivnoj hijerarhiji
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that supports racism or xenophobia.
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koja podržava rasizam ili ksenofobiju.
09:35
But we have an enormous power in this.
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Ali imamo ogromnu moć.
Zato što su osećanja
u našem opsegu delovanja,
u našem opsegu delovanja,
09:38
Because feelings are the purview
of our authority,
of our authority,
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and people are uncomfortable
with our anger.
with our anger.
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a ljudima je neprijatno sa našim besom.
09:46
We should be making people comfortable
with the discomfort they feel
with the discomfort they feel
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Trebalo bi da učinimo da ljudi budu
u redu sa neprijatnošću koju osećaju
u redu sa neprijatnošću koju osećaju
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when women say no, unapologetically.
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kada žene bezrezervno kažu ne.
09:55
We can take emotions and think in terms
of competence and not gender.
of competence and not gender.
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Možemo da razmišljamo o emocijama
u pogledu kompetencija, a ne pola.
u pogledu kompetencija, a ne pola.
10:01
People who are able to process their anger
and make meaning from it
and make meaning from it
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Ljudi koji su u stanju da prerade svoj bes
i u njemu nađu smisao
i u njemu nađu smisao
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are more creative, more optimistic,
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su kreativniji, optimističniji,
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they have more intimacy,
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zasnuju više prisnih odnosa,
10:10
they're better problem solvers,
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bolje rešavaju probleme,
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they have greater political efficacy.
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politički su efikasniji.
10:17
Now I am a woman
writing about women and feelings,
writing about women and feelings,
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Ja sam žena koja piše
o ženama i osećanjima,
o ženama i osećanjima,
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so very few men with power
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i stoga će retko koji muškarac
na poziciji moći
na poziciji moći
10:23
are going to take what I'm saying
seriously, as a matter of politics.
seriously, as a matter of politics.
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ozbiljno shvatiti ono što govorim,
kao političko pitanje.
kao političko pitanje.
10:27
We think of politics and anger in terms
of the contempt and disdain and fury
of the contempt and disdain and fury
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Mi razmišljamo o politici i besu
u kontekstu prezira, omalovažavanja i besa
u kontekstu prezira, omalovažavanja i besa
10:33
that are feeding a rise
of macho-fascism in the world.
of macho-fascism in the world.
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koji podstiču uspon mačo-fašizma u svetu.
10:37
But if it's that poison,
it's also the antidote.
it's also the antidote.
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Ali ako je to otrov,
takođe je i protivotrov.
takođe je i protivotrov.
10:41
We have an anger of hope,
and we see it every single day
and we see it every single day
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Imamo bes nade i to svakodnevno vidimo
10:45
in the resistant anger of women
and marginalized people.
and marginalized people.
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u besu opiranja kod žena
i marginalizovanih ljudi.
i marginalizovanih ljudi.
10:49
It's related to compassion
and empathy and love,
and empathy and love,
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Povezan je sa saosećanjem,
empatijom i ljubavlju,
empatijom i ljubavlju,
10:54
and we should recognize
that anger as well.
that anger as well.
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i trebalo bi da uvažimo i taj bes.
10:59
The issue is that societies that don't
respect women's anger don't respect women.
respect women's anger don't respect women.
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Problem je u tome što društva
koja ne poštuju ženski bes,
koja ne poštuju ženski bes,
ne poštuju ni žene.
11:07
The real danger of our anger isn't that
it will break bonds or plates.
it will break bonds or plates.
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Prava opasnost našeg besa nije u tome
što će narušti veze ili polomiti tanjire.
što će narušti veze ili polomiti tanjire.
11:14
It's that it exactly shows
how seriously we take ourselves,
how seriously we take ourselves,
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Radi se o tome da on tačno pokazuje
koliko ozbiljno shvatamo same sebe
koliko ozbiljno shvatamo same sebe
11:19
and we expect other people
to take us seriously as well.
to take us seriously as well.
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i očekujemo da nas drugi ljudi
takođe uzmu za ozbiljno.
takođe uzmu za ozbiljno.
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When that happens, chances are very good
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Kada se to dogodi, dobre su šanse
11:27
that women will be able to smile
when they want to.
when they want to.
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da će žene moći da se nasmeju
kada to budu htele.
kada to budu htele.
11:33
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
11:34
Thank you.
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Hvala.
11:35
(Applause) (Cheers)
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(Aplauz) (Ovacije)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Soraya Chemaly - Writer, activistSoraya Chemaly writes and thinks about social justice.
Why you should listen
Soraya Chemaly is an award-winning journalist, essayist and author whose work appears regularly in national and international media. In her writing, she rigorously and irreverently casts a bright, incisive light on what it means to be a woman in world built by men. Her narrative skill, careful research and humor-filled analyses described by the New Yorker as "relentless and revelatory." She brings these skills to bear in a critical examination of the social construction of anger and its effects on women's lives in her first book, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger.
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