Jason B. Rosenthal: The journey through loss and grief
When Jason B. Rosenthal's wife died, he says: "as clichéd as it sounds, I started working on living each day as it comes, to get through the complexities of life." Full bio
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that explain why I am here.
published an article she wrote
on March 3, 2017.
by over five million people.
about our life together,
Want to Marry My Husband."
on a personal ad for me.
an empty space for me to fill
three wonderful, now grown children,
of our life together.
up until her last day.
with our daughter Paris,
on the "New York Times" bestseller list.
were not that long.
to gather people together.
and adults of all ages
in the sense of it being rather public.
was not my story alone.
and I'm so grateful for that.
into my new life,
part of the process of moving forward
I think it would be important
about the end of life,
emotionally since then.
we could do hospice at home
would shrink to half her body weight,
with her husband again,
would soon feel like running a marathon.
a beautiful environment to die in.
the sounds of machines beeping
as meaningful as we could.
to happen to them, like, for sure,
about it was liberating.
possible to our children in her absence.
she gave me confidence
I had with each one of them,
can make decisions together.
we organized groups of visitors.
even as she began her physical decline.
of Amy and of us.
on her loyal friends.
for the surviving family members.
and tell you that to this date,
final weeks that haunt me.
to the bathroom,
compared to Amy's frail body.
out of my head.
through the hospice experience,
to have those memories
if they ever want to talk about it.
living each day with those lasting images.
but I've never been asked that question.
to experience grief in a public way.
wrote beautiful words of reflection.
was deeper and richer
with the intense grieving process
from a woman reader
but that really is not my issue.
this note from a family friend:
how to make cornbread croutons.
creativity in croutons."
after Amy's death,
with Parkinson's disease.
can the human condition handle?
of dealing with this intense loss
is a lifelong mission,
I have done just that.
and seek the joy and the beauty
is capable of providing.
and events honoring Amy,
that way during those times?"
apply to other surviving spouses,
between life and death
that connects the two.
wonderful, vital parts of life,
we want to get rid of,
as I move forward with grieving.
following Amy's death, though,
would be ever-present,
to receive some promising advice.
lost her life partner kept repeating,
what she was talking about.
very public permission
from time to time.
at an LCD Soundsystem concert,
or with a college buddy on a boys' trip
I never met before.
beating down on it on a cold day,
with an older gentleman
and the caption, "I just met Popeye,"
walking to the train
after graduating college,
back at me and asked,
"You are 100 percent ready. You got this."
through Battersea Park in London,
on our way to yoga.
is also there to discover,
in this category, I want to say,
for you not to share with me."
Manchester Orchestra album,
into "The Sunshine,"
of Luke Sital-Singh's "Killing Me,"
that you're not here with me.
but I'm feeling guilty."
that life has to offer,
that was so much a part of Amy's DNA,
reflecting off of Lake Michigan,
how the light shines
noticing the fresh buildup of snow
that I'm a very fortunate person.
that loves and supports me.
during my time of grief.
with your intentional empty space,
ABOUT THE SPEAKERJason B. Rosenthal - Advocate, artist
When Jason B. Rosenthal's wife died, he says: "as clichéd as it sounds, I started working on living each day as it comes, to get through the complexities of life."
Why you should listen
Jason B. Rosenthal writes: "I have practiced law and developed real estate in Chicago for half of my life. But that is only what I did 9 to 5. What made me better at my profession -- and as a human being getting through each day -- was realizing my thirst for learning and doing. I practiced yoga intensely; I traveled the world with my wife and my family; I learned to paint and made a home studio; and I developed a passion for cooking. I would not have called myself the most passionate student when I was in school, but in my adult life I have read with a thirst for knowledge -- everything from the most meaty fiction, fascinating nonfiction and magazines. My family is what makes me who I am today.
"I was married to the most amazing woman for half of my life. We raised three incredible children in Chicago, a culturally vibrant and livable city with people of good midwestern values. When my bride died of ovarian cancer after 26 years of marriage, I got in touch with real pain. I immediately reevaluated my life's work. I had talked for years about whether my chosen career path gave me real fulfillment. I am now the executive director of a nonprofit organization created in Amy's name, the Amy Krouse Rosenthal Foundation. I am fueled by its mission to provide programs that encourage child literacy and funding for early detection of ovarian cancer. My future is a blank space waiting to be filled."
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