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Elizabeth Dunn: Helping others makes us happier -- but it matters how we do it
Elizabet Dan (Elizabeth Dunn): Pružanje pomoći drugima nas čini srećnijim, ali je važno kako ćemo to uraditi
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Istraživanja pokazuju da nas pomaganje drugima čini srećnijim. Ali u svom revolucionarnom radu o darežljivosti i radosti, socijalni psiholog Elizabet Dan je otkrila da postoji kvaka - važno je kako pomažemo. Saznajte kako možemo ostvariti veći uticaj i usput povećati sopstvenu sreću ako promenimo jednu ključnu stvar u vezi sa time kako pomažemo drugima. „Prestanimo da razmišljamo o davanju kao o moralnoj obavezi i počnimo da razmišljamo o tome kao o izvoru zadovoljstva“, kaže Dan.
Elizabeth Dunn - Happiness researcher
Elizabeth Dunn discovers ways that people can optimize their use of time, money and technology in order to maximize their own happiness. Full bio
Elizabeth Dunn discovers ways that people can optimize their use of time, money and technology in order to maximize their own happiness. Full bio
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00:12
So, I have a pretty fun job,
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Imam prilično zabavan posao,
00:15
which is to figure out
what makes people happy.
what makes people happy.
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a to je da otkrijem
šta ljude čini srećnim.
šta ljude čini srećnim.
00:19
It's so fun, it might almost seen
a little frivolous,
a little frivolous,
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Toliko je zabavan da bi se mogao
gotovo smatrati pomalo neozbiljnim,
gotovo smatrati pomalo neozbiljnim,
00:24
especially at a time where
we're being confronted
we're being confronted
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naročito u vreme kada smo suočeni
00:26
with some pretty depressing headlines.
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sa prilično depresivnim
naslovima u novinama.
naslovima u novinama.
00:30
But it turns out that studying happiness
might provide a key
might provide a key
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Ali, ispada da proučavanje sreće
može pružiti ključne odgovore
može pružiti ključne odgovore
00:34
to solving some of the toughest
problems we're facing.
problems we're facing.
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pri rešavanju nekih od najtežih problema
sa kojima se suočavamo.
sa kojima se suočavamo.
00:39
It's taken me almost a decade
to figure this out.
to figure this out.
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Trebala mi je skoro decenija
da to shvatim.
da to shvatim.
00:43
Pretty early on in my career,
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Prilično rano u karijeri,
00:45
I published a paper in "Science"
with my collaborators,
with my collaborators,
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objavila sam rad u „Nauci“
sa svojim saradnicima
sa svojim saradnicima
00:48
entitled, "Spending Money
on Others Promotes Happiness."
on Others Promotes Happiness."
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pod naslovom „Trošenje novca
na druge podstiče sreću“.
na druge podstiče sreću“.
00:52
I was very confident in this conclusion,
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Bila sam veoma sigurna u ovaj zaključak,
00:55
except for one thing:
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osim jedne stvari -
00:57
it didn't seem to apply to me.
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nije se činilo da ovo važi za mene.
01:00
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:01
I hardly ever gave money to charity,
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Jedva da ikad dajem novac
u dobrotvorne svrhe,
u dobrotvorne svrhe,
01:04
and when I did,
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a i kada jesam,
01:05
I didn't feel that warm glow
I was expecting.
I was expecting.
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nisam osetila taj topli sjaj
koji sam očekivala.
koji sam očekivala.
Počela sam da se pitam da li možda nešto
nije u redu sa mojim istraživanjem
nije u redu sa mojim istraživanjem
01:08
So I started to wonder if maybe
there was something wrong with my research
there was something wrong with my research
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01:14
or something wrong with me.
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ili nešto nije u redu sa mnom.
01:19
My own lackluster emotional response
to giving was especially puzzling
to giving was especially puzzling
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Moje odsustvo emotivne reakcije na davanje
bilo je naročito zbunjujuće
bilo je naročito zbunjujuće
01:25
because my follow-up studies revealed
that even toddlers exhibited joy
that even toddlers exhibited joy
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jer su moje naknadne studije otkrile
da čak i deca ispod dve godine
pokazuju radost kada daju drugima.
pokazuju radost kada daju drugima.
01:30
from giving to others.
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01:32
In one experiment, my colleagues
Kiley Hamlin, Lara Aknin and I
Kiley Hamlin, Lara Aknin and I
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U jednom eksperimentu smo moje koleginice
Kajli Hamlin, Lara Aknin i ja
Kajli Hamlin, Lara Aknin i ja
01:36
brought kids just under
the age of two into the lab.
the age of two into the lab.
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dovele u laboratoriju decu
koja su bila malo mlađa od dve godine.
koja su bila malo mlađa od dve godine.
Kao što možete pretpostaviti,
01:40
Now, as you might imagine,
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01:41
we had to work with a resource
that toddlers really care about,
that toddlers really care about,
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morali smo da radimo sa sredstvima
do kojih je deci zaista bilo stalo,
do kojih je deci zaista bilo stalo,
01:45
so we used the toddler equivalent of gold,
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pa smo koristili dečji ekvivalent zlata,
01:49
namely, Goldfish crackers.
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naime, krekere u obliku zlatnih ribica.
01:51
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:53
We gave kids this windfall
of Goldfish for themselves
of Goldfish for themselves
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Dali smo deci neočekivano blago
zlatnih ribica da uzmu za sebe
zlatnih ribica da uzmu za sebe
01:56
and a chance to give
some of their Goldfish away
some of their Goldfish away
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i priliku da daju deo zlatnih ribica
01:59
to a puppet named Monkey.
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lutku po imenu Majmun.
02:02
(Video) Researcher: I found
even more treats,
even more treats,
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(Video) Istraživač: Našla sam još slatkiša
02:04
and I'm going to give them all to you.
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i sve ću ih dati tebi.
02:06
Toddler: Ooh. Thank you.
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Dete: Uuu. Hvala.
02:10
Researcher: But, you know,
I don't see any more treats.
I don't see any more treats.
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Istraživač: Ali, znaš,
ne vidim više slatkiša.
ne vidim više slatkiša.
02:13
Will you give one to Monkey?
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Hoćeš li dati jedan Majmunu?
02:16
Toddler: Yeah.
Researcher: Yeah?
Researcher: Yeah?
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Dete: Da. Istraživač: Da?
02:18
Toddler: Yeah.
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Dete: Da.
02:24
Here.
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Izvoli.
02:26
Researcher: Ooh, yummy. Mmmm.
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Istraživač: Uuu, ukusno. Mmmm.
02:30
Toddler: All gone, he ate it.
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Dete: Nema više, sve je pojeo.
02:34
Elizabeth Dunn: Now, we trained
research assistants to watch these videos
research assistants to watch these videos
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Elizabet Dan: Obučile smo istraživačke
asistente da gledaju ove video-snimke
asistente da gledaju ove video-snimke
02:37
and code toddlers' emotional reactions.
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i kodiraju emocionalne reakcije dece.
02:40
Of course, we didn't tell them
our hypotheses.
our hypotheses.
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Naravno, nismo im rekle
koja je naša hipoteza.
koja je naša hipoteza.
02:43
The data revealed that toddlers
were pretty happy
were pretty happy
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Podaci su pokazali
da su mališani bili prilično srećni
da su mališani bili prilično srećni
02:46
when they got this pile
of Goldfish for themselves,
of Goldfish for themselves,
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kada su dobili gomilu ribica,
02:49
but they were actually even happier
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ali su zapravo bili srećniji
02:50
when they got to give
some of their Goldfish away.
some of their Goldfish away.
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kada su mogli da poklone
deo svojih ribica.
deo svojih ribica.
02:54
And this warm glow of giving
persists into adulthood.
persists into adulthood.
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Ova toplina zadovoljstva zbog davanja
i dalje postoji u odraslom dobu.
i dalje postoji u odraslom dobu.
02:58
When we analyzed surveys
from more than 200,000 adults
from more than 200,000 adults
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Kada smo analizirali upitnike
više od 200 000 odraslih
više od 200 000 odraslih
03:03
across the globe,
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širom planete,
03:04
we saw that nearly a third
of the world's population
of the world's population
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videli smo da skoro trećina
svetskog stanovništva
svetskog stanovništva
03:07
reported giving at least some money
to charity in the past month.
to charity in the past month.
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izveštava da je dala bar malo novca
u dobrotvorne svrhe tokom prošlog meseca.
u dobrotvorne svrhe tokom prošlog meseca.
03:12
Remarkably, in every
major region of the world,
major region of the world,
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Neverovatno je da su u svim
većim regionima sveta
većim regionima sveta
ljudi koji su davali novac
u dobrotvorne svrhe
u dobrotvorne svrhe
03:16
people who gave money to charity
were happier than those who did not,
were happier than those who did not,
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bili su srećniji od onih koji nisu,
03:21
even after taking into account
their own personal financial situation.
their own personal financial situation.
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čak i nakon što uzmemo u obzir
njihovu ličnu finansijsku situaciju.
njihovu ličnu finansijsku situaciju.
03:25
And this correlation wasn't trivial.
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A ova korelacija nije bila trivijalna.
Delovalo je da je davanje
u dobrotvorne svrhe
u dobrotvorne svrhe
03:28
It looked like giving to charity
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03:31
made about the same
difference for happiness
difference for happiness
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imalo otprilike isti uticaj na sreću
03:33
as having twice as much income.
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kao da imaju duplo više prihoda.
03:37
Now, as a researcher,
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Kao istraživač,
03:39
if you're lucky enough
to stumble on an effect
to stumble on an effect
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ako imate dovoljno sreće
da naletite na efekat
da naletite na efekat
03:42
that replicates around the world
in children and adults alike,
in children and adults alike,
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koji se ponavlja širom sveta
kod dece i kod odraslih,
kod dece i kod odraslih,
03:46
you start to wonder:
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počinjete da se pitate
03:48
Could this be part of human nature?
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da li bi to mogao biti
deo ljudske prirode.
deo ljudske prirode.
03:51
We know that pleasure
reinforces adaptive behaviors
reinforces adaptive behaviors
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Znamo da zadovoljstvo
učvršćuje adaptivno ponašanje
učvršćuje adaptivno ponašanje
03:56
like eating and sex
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kao što su obedovanje i seks,
03:58
that help perpetuate our species,
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koji pomažu očuvanju naše vrste,
04:01
and it looked to me like giving
might be one of those behaviors.
might be one of those behaviors.
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i izgledalo mi je da bi davanje
moglo biti jedno od takvih ponašanja.
moglo biti jedno od takvih ponašanja.
04:06
I was really excited about these ideas,
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Bila sam baš uzbuđena zbog tih ideja
04:09
and I wrote about them
in the "New York Times."
in the "New York Times."
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i pisala sam o njima u „Njujork tajmsu.“
04:12
One of the people who read this article
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Među ljudima koji su čitali ovaj članak
04:14
was my accountant.
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bio je moj računovođa.
04:16
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:19
Yeah.
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Da.
04:20
At tax time, I found myself
seated across from him,
seated across from him,
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U vreme za obračun poreza,
našla bih se naspram njega
našla bih se naspram njega
04:24
watching as he slowly tapped his pen
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i posmatrala ga kako polako lupka olovkom
na liniji za davanja u dobrotvorne svrhe
na mom obrascu za povraćaj poreza
na mom obrascu za povraćaj poreza
04:27
on the charitable giving line
of my tax return
of my tax return
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04:30
with this look of, like,
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uz pogled loše skrivenog negodovanja.
04:32
poorly concealed disapproval.
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04:34
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:36
Despite building my career
by showing how great giving can feel,
by showing how great giving can feel,
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Uprkos tome što sam izgradila karijeru
pokazujući koliko je dobar osećaj davati,
pokazujući koliko je dobar osećaj davati,
04:41
I actually wasn't doing very much of it.
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zapravo to baš i nisam mnogo radila.
04:45
So I resolved to give more.
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Zato sam rešila da dajem više.
04:48
Around that time,
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U to vreme,
04:50
devastating stories about
the Syrian refugee crisis
the Syrian refugee crisis
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poražavajuće priče
o sirijskoj izbegličkoj krizi
o sirijskoj izbegličkoj krizi
04:54
were everywhere.
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bile su svuda.
04:56
I really wanted to help,
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Zaista sam želela da pomognem,
04:58
so I pulled out my credit card.
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pa sam izvadila svoju kreditnu karticu.
05:01
I knew my donations would probably
make a difference for someone somewhere,
make a difference for someone somewhere,
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Znala sam da će moje donacije
verovatno za nekoga negde imati značaj,
verovatno za nekoga negde imati značaj,
05:06
but going to the website
of an effective charity
of an effective charity
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ali kada sam otišla na veb-sajt
uspešne dobrotvorne organizacije
uspešne dobrotvorne organizacije
05:09
and entering my Visa number
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i unela broj svoje kartice,
05:11
still just didn't feel like enough.
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to se još uvek nije činilo kao dovoljno.
05:15
That's when I learned
about the Group of Five.
about the Group of Five.
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Tako sam saznala za Grupu od petoro.
05:19
The Canadian government
allows any five Canadians
allows any five Canadians
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Kanadska vlada dozvoljava
da bilo kojih petoro Kanađana
da bilo kojih petoro Kanađana
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to privately sponsor a family of refugees.
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privatno sponzoriše porodicu izbeglica.
05:27
You have to raise enough money
to support the family
to support the family
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Morate prikupiti dovoljno novca
da izdržavate porodicu
da izdržavate porodicu
05:29
for their first year in Canada,
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tokom njene prve godine u Kanadi,
05:31
and then they literally
get on a plane to your city.
get on a plane to your city.
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i onda se oni bukvalno ukrcaju
na avion do vašeg grada.
na avion do vašeg grada.
05:36
One of the things that I think
is so cool about this program
is so cool about this program
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Jedna od stvari za koju mislim da je super
u vezi sa ovim programom
u vezi sa ovim programom
05:40
is that no one is allowed to do it alone.
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je da niko ne može to da uradi sam.
05:42
And instead of a Group of Five,
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I umesto Grupe od petoro,
05:45
we ended up partnering
with a community organization
with a community organization
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na kraju smo se udružili
sa mesnom organizacijom
sa mesnom organizacijom
05:47
and forming a group of 25.
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i formirali grupu od 25.
05:51
After almost two years
of paperwork and waiting,
of paperwork and waiting,
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Nakon skoro dve godine
papirologije i čekanja,
papirologije i čekanja,
05:55
we learned that our family
would be arriving in Vancouver
would be arriving in Vancouver
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saznali smo da će naša porodica
stići u Vankuver
stići u Vankuver
05:58
in less than six weeks.
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za manje od šest nedelja.
06:00
They had four sons and a daughter,
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Imali su četiri sina i ćerku,
06:03
so we raced to find them a place to live.
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pa smo pojurili da im nađemo
mesto za život.
mesto za život.
06:06
We were very lucky to find them a house,
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Imali smo sreće da im nađemo kuću,
ali trebalo joj je mnogo doterivanja.
06:09
but it needed quite a bit of work.
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06:11
So my friends came out
on evenings and weekends
on evenings and weekends
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Zato su moji prijatelji
dolazili uveče i vikendom
dolazili uveče i vikendom
06:13
and painted and cleaned
and assembled furniture.
and assembled furniture.
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da kreče, čiste i sklapaju nameštaj.
06:17
When the big day came,
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Kada je došao veliki dan,
06:19
we filled their fridge
with milk and fresh fruit
with milk and fresh fruit
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napunili smo im frižider
mlekom i svežim voćem
mlekom i svežim voćem
06:22
and headed to the airport
to meet our family.
to meet our family.
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i krenuli na aerodrom
da se nađemo sa porodicom.
da se nađemo sa porodicom.
06:26
It was a little overwhelming for everyone,
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Bilo je malo emotivno za sve,
06:30
especially the four-year-old.
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pogotovo za mališana od četiri godine.
06:32
His mother was reunited with her sister
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Njegova majka se ponovo sastala
sa svojom sestrom
sa svojom sestrom
06:35
who had come to Canada earlier
through the same program.
through the same program.
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koja je ranije došla u Kanadu
preko istog programa.
preko istog programa.
06:39
They hadn't seen each other in 15 years.
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Nisu se videle 15 godina.
06:43
When you hear that more than
5.6 million refugees have fled Syria,
5.6 million refugees have fled Syria,
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Kada čujete da je više od 5,6 miliona
izbeglica pobeglo iz Sirije,
izbeglica pobeglo iz Sirije,
06:50
you're faced with this tragedy
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suočeni ste sa tragedijom
06:52
that the human brain hasn't really
evolved to comprehend.
evolved to comprehend.
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za čije razumevanje ljudski mozak
nije dovoljno razvijen.
nije dovoljno razvijen.
06:57
It's so abstract.
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Toliko je apstraktna.
07:00
Before, if any of us had been asked
to donate 15 hours a month
to donate 15 hours a month
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Da nam je pre neko tražio
da volontiramo 15 sati mesečno
da volontiramo 15 sati mesečno
07:03
to help out with the refugee crisis,
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da bismo pomogli u izbegličkoj krizi,
07:06
we probably would have said no.
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verovatno bismo odbili.
07:09
But as soon as we took our family
to their new home in Vancouver,
to their new home in Vancouver,
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Ali čim smo odveli našu porodicu
u novi dom u Vankuveru,
u novi dom u Vankuveru,
07:13
we all had the same realization:
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svi smo shvatili isto -
07:15
we were just going to do whatever it took
to help them be happy.
to help them be happy.
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uradićemo šta god da je potrebno
da bismo im pomogli da budu srećni.
da bismo im pomogli da budu srećni.
07:19
This experience made me think
a little more deeply about my research.
a little more deeply about my research.
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Ovo iskustvo me je nateralo da razmislim
malo dublje o svom istraživanju.
malo dublje o svom istraživanju.
07:25
Back in my lab,
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we'd seen the benefits of giving spike
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bismo videli kako se povećavaju
dobrobiti darivanja
dobrobiti darivanja
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when people felt a real sense
of connection with those they were helping
of connection with those they were helping
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kada su ljudi imali pravi osećaj
povezanosti sa onima kojima su pomagali
povezanosti sa onima kojima su pomagali
07:34
and could easily envision
the difference they were making
the difference they were making
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i kada su mogli da lako zamisle
uticaj koji ostvaruju
uticaj koji ostvaruju
u životima tih pojedinaca.
07:36
in those individuals' lives.
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07:39
For example, in one experiment,
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Na primer, u jednom eksperimentu,
07:41
we gave participants an opportunity
to donate a bit of money
to donate a bit of money
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dali smo učesnicima priliku
da doniraju nešto novca
da doniraju nešto novca
07:44
to either UNICEF or Spread the Net.
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UNICEF-u ili organizaciji „Raširi mrežu“.
Namerno smo odabrali
ove dobrotvorne organizacije
ove dobrotvorne organizacije
07:46
We chose these charities intentionally,
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because they were partners and shared
the same critically important goal
the same critically important goal
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jer su partneri i zajednički
im je isti ključan cilj
im je isti ključan cilj
07:52
of promoting children's health.
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unapređenja zdravlja dece.
07:55
But I think UNICEF is just
such a big, broad charity
such a big, broad charity
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Ali mislim da je UNICEF toliko velika,
široka dobrotvorna organizacija
široka dobrotvorna organizacija
08:00
that it can be a little hard to envision
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da može biti malo teže zamisliti
kako će vaša mala donacija
biti od nekog značaja.
biti od nekog značaja.
08:02
how your own small donation
will make a difference.
will make a difference.
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In contrast, Spread the Net
offers donors a concrete promise:
offers donors a concrete promise:
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Nasuprot tome, „Raširi mrežu“
nudi donatorima konkretno obećanje:
nudi donatorima konkretno obećanje:
08:11
for every 10 dollars donated,
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na svakih doniranih 10 dolara,
08:12
they provide one bed net
to protect a child from malaria.
to protect a child from malaria.
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obezbeđuju jednu mrežu za krevet
da bi zaštitili jedno dete od malarije.
da bi zaštitili jedno dete od malarije.
08:17
We saw that the more money
people gave to Spread the Net,
people gave to Spread the Net,
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Videli smo da, što su ljudi
davali više novca za „Raširi mrežu“,
davali više novca za „Raširi mrežu“,
08:20
the happier they reported
feeling afterward.
feeling afterward.
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utoliko su nakon toga navodili
da se osećaju srećnije.
da se osećaju srećnije.
08:24
In contrast, this emotional
return on investment
return on investment
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Nasuprot tome, ovaj emocionalni
povraćaj ulaganja
povraćaj ulaganja
08:28
was completely eliminated
when people gave money to UNICEF.
when people gave money to UNICEF.
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bio je potpuno eliminisan
kada su ljudi davali novac UNICEF-u.
kada su ljudi davali novac UNICEF-u.
08:33
So this suggests that just
giving money to a worthwhile charity
giving money to a worthwhile charity
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Ovo ukazuje da samo davanje novca
valjanoj dobrotvornoj organizaciji
valjanoj dobrotvornoj organizaciji
08:38
isn't always enough.
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nije uvek dovoljno.
08:39
You need to be able to envision
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Morate biti u stanju da zamislite
08:42
how, exactly, your dollars
are going to make a difference.
are going to make a difference.
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kako će tačno vaš novac biti od koristi.
08:46
Of course, the Group of Five program
takes this idea to a whole new level.
takes this idea to a whole new level.
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Naravno, program Grupe od petoro
prenosi tu ideju na potpuno novi nivo.
prenosi tu ideju na potpuno novi nivo.
08:51
When we first took on this project,
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Kada smo započeli ovaj projekat,
08:53
we would talk about when
the refugees would arrive.
the refugees would arrive.
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razgovarali bismo o tome
kada će izbeglice stići.
kada će izbeglice stići.
08:57
Now, we just refer to them as our family.
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Sada samo govorimo o njima
kao o našoj porodici.
kao o našoj porodici.
09:00
Recently, we took the kids ice skating,
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Nedavno smo vodili decu na klizanje,
09:03
and later that day,
my six-year-old, Oliver, asked me,
my six-year-old, Oliver, asked me,
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a kasnije tog dana me je moj sin Oliver
od šest godina pitao:
od šest godina pitao:
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"Mommy, who is the oldest
kid in our family?"
kid in our family?"
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„Mama, ko je najstarije dete u porodici?“
09:10
I assumed he was talking
about his plethora of cousins,
about his plethora of cousins,
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Pretpostavila sam da je govorio
o mnoštvu svojih rođaka,
o mnoštvu svojih rođaka,
09:14
and he was talking about them,
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a i jeste mislio na njih,
09:16
but also about our Syrian family.
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ali i na našu sirijsku porodicu.
09:19
Since our family arrived,
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Otkad je naša porodica stigla,
09:21
so many people and organizations
have offered to help,
have offered to help,
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toliko ljudi i organizacija
je nudilo pomoć,
je nudilo pomoć,
09:25
providing everything
from free dental fillings
from free dental fillings
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obezbedivši im sve
od besplatnih zubnih plombi
od besplatnih zubnih plombi
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to summer camps.
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do letnjih kampova.
09:32
It's made me see the goodness
that exists in our community.
that exists in our community.
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Time sam uvidela da postoji
dobrota u našoj zajednici.
dobrota u našoj zajednici.
09:36
Thanks to one donation,
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Zahvaljujući jednoj donaciji,
09:38
the kids got to go to bike camp,
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deca su mogla da odu u biciklistički kamp
09:41
and every day of the week,
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i svakoga dana u nedelji
09:42
some member of our group
tried to be there to cheer for them.
tried to be there to cheer for them.
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pojedini članovi naše grupe su nastojali
da budu tamo i navijaju za njih.
da budu tamo i navijaju za njih.
09:46
I happened to be there
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Zatekla sam se tamo
09:47
the day the training wheels
were supposed to come off,
were supposed to come off,
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dana kada je trebalo
da skinu pomoćne točkove,
da skinu pomoćne točkove,
09:50
and let me tell you, the four-year-old
did not think this was a good idea.
did not think this was a good idea.
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i mogu vam reći da dečak od četiri godine
nije mislio da je to dobra ideja.
nije mislio da je to dobra ideja.
09:55
So I went over and talked to him
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Prišla sam i razgovarala sa njim
09:57
about the long-term benefits
of riding without training wheels.
of riding without training wheels.
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o dugoročnim prednostima
vožnje bez pomoćih točkova.
vožnje bez pomoćih točkova.
10:01
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:03
Then I remembered that he was four
and barely spoke English.
and barely spoke English.
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Onda sam se setila da je imao
četiri godine i da je jedva znao engleski.
četiri godine i da je jedva znao engleski.
10:07
So I reverted to two words
he definitely knew:
he definitely knew:
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Zato sam se vratila
na reč koju je definitivno znao:
na reč koju je definitivno znao:
10:11
ice cream.
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sladoled.
10:13
You try without training wheels,
I'll buy you ice cream.
I'll buy you ice cream.
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Ako pokušaš bez pomoćnih točkova,
kupiću ti sladoled.
kupiću ti sladoled.
10:17
Here's what happened next.
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Evo šta se zatim dogodilo.
10:19
(Video) ED: Yes. Yeah!
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(Video) ED: To. To!
10:22
Kid: I'm gonna try.
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Dete: Probaću.
10:23
ED: Oh my God! Look at you go!
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ED: O, Bože! Vidi kako voziš!
10:25
(Squealing) Look at you go!
You're doing it all by yourself!
You're doing it all by yourself!
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(Ciči) Vidi kako voziš! Voziš skroz sam!
10:28
(Audience) (Laughter)
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(Publika) (Smeh)
10:29
(Video) ED: Good job!
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(Video) ED: Odlično!
10:32
(Audience) (Laughter)
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(Publika) (Smeh)
10:33
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
10:38
ED: So this is the kind of helping
that human beings evolved to enjoy,
that human beings evolved to enjoy,
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ED: Dakle, u ovakvoj pomoći
su ljudska bića evoluirala da uživaju,
su ljudska bića evoluirala da uživaju,
10:44
but for 40 years,
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ali je tokom 40 godina
10:46
Canada was the only country in the world
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Kanada bila jedina zemlja u svetu
10:48
that allowed private citizens
to sponsor refugees.
to sponsor refugees.
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koja je omogućavala građanima
da budu sponzori izbeglicama.
da budu sponzori izbeglicama.
10:52
Now -- Canada!
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Sada - Kanada!
10:54
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
10:56
It's pretty great.
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To je baš super.
10:59
Now Australia and the UK
are starting up similar programs.
are starting up similar programs.
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Sada Australija i Ujedinjeno Kraljevstvo
pokreću slične programe.
pokreću slične programe.
11:03
Just imagine how different
the refugee crisis could look
the refugee crisis could look
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Zamislite samo kako bi drugačije
izgledala izbeglička kriza
izgledala izbeglička kriza
11:07
if more countries made this possible.
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kada bi više zemalja ovo omogućilo.
11:10
Creating these kinds of meaningful
connections between individuals
connections between individuals
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Stvaranje ovakvih značajnih veza
između pojedinaca
između pojedinaca
11:14
provides an opportunity
to deal with challenges
to deal with challenges
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pruža priliku za bavljenje problemima
11:17
that feel overwhelming.
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koji deluju ogromno.
11:20
One of those challenges lies just blocks
from where I'm standing right now,
from where I'm standing right now,
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Jedan od tih problema se nalazi
samo nekoliko blokova
od mesta na kome stojim,
od mesta na kome stojim,
11:25
in the Downtown Eastside of Vancouver.
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u centru istočnog Vankuvera.
11:28
By some measures, it's the poorest
urban postal code in Canada.
urban postal code in Canada.
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Prema nekim merilima,
to je najsiromašnija
urbana oblast u Kanadi.
urbana oblast u Kanadi.
11:32
We actually debated whether
to bring over a family of refugees,
to bring over a family of refugees,
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Zapravo smo raspravljali
da li da dovedemo porodicu izbeglica,
da li da dovedemo porodicu izbeglica,
11:35
because there are so many people
right here already struggling.
right here already struggling.
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jer ovde već ima mnogo ljudi koji se muče.
11:39
My friend Evan told me
that when he was a kid
that when he was a kid
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Moj drug Evan mi je rekao da,
kad je bio dete
kad je bio dete
i kada bi njegovi roditelji
prolazili kolima kroz to naselje,
prolazili kolima kroz to naselje,
11:42
and his parents drove
through this neighborhood,
through this neighborhood,
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11:44
he would duck down in the back seat.
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on bi se sagnuo na zadnjem sedištu.
11:48
But Evan's parents
never would have guessed
never would have guessed
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Ali Evanovi roditelji
nikad ne bi pretpostavili
nikad ne bi pretpostavili
11:50
that when he grew up,
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da će on u odraslom dobu
11:52
he would open up the doors
of a local restaurant
of a local restaurant
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otvoriti vrata lokalnog restorana
11:55
and invite this community inside
to enjoy three-course dinners.
to enjoy three-course dinners.
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i pozvati ovu zajednicu
da uživaju u bogatoj večeri.
da uživaju u bogatoj večeri.
11:59
The program that Evan helped build
is called "Plenty of Plates,"
is called "Plenty of Plates,"
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Program u čijoj je izgradnji Evan pomogao
zove se „Gomila tanjira“,
zove se „Gomila tanjira“,
12:03
and the goal is not just
to provide free meals
to provide free meals
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a cilj je ne samo obezbediti
besplatne obroke,
besplatne obroke,
12:06
but to create moments of connection
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već i stvoriti trenutke povezivanja
12:08
between people who otherwise
might never make eye contact.
might never make eye contact.
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između ljudi koji inače
nikada ne bi ostvarili kontakt očima.
nikada ne bi ostvarili kontakt očima.
12:12
Each night, a local business
sponsors the dinner
sponsors the dinner
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Svake noći lokalna firma finansira večeru
12:15
and sends a team of volunteers
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i pošalje tim volontera
12:17
who help make and serve the meal.
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koji pomažu u spremanju
i posluživanju jela.
i posluživanju jela.
12:19
Afterward, the leftovers get distributed
to people who are out on the street,
to people who are out on the street,
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Nakon toga se ostaci
raspodele ljudima na ulici
raspodele ljudima na ulici
12:24
and importantly, there's enough money left
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i, što je važno, ostane dovoljno novca
12:26
to provide a thousand free lunches
for this community
for this community
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da bi se ovoj zajednici obezbedile
hiljade besplatnih ručkova
hiljade besplatnih ručkova
12:29
in the days that follow.
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u narednim danima.
12:31
But the benefits of this program
extend beyond food.
extend beyond food.
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Ali, koristi ovog programa
prevazilaze hranu.
prevazilaze hranu.
12:35
For the volunteers, it provides
an opportunity to engage with people,
an opportunity to engage with people,
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On za volontere pruža priliku
da komuniciraju sa ljudima,
da komuniciraju sa ljudima,
12:40
to sit down and hear their stories.
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da sednu i saslušaju njihove priče.
12:43
After this experience,
one volunteer changed his commute
one volunteer changed his commute
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Nakon ovog iskustva, jedan volonter
je promenio svoju putanju do posla
je promenio svoju putanju do posla
12:47
so that instead of avoiding
this neighborhood,
this neighborhood,
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tako da, umesto da izbegava ovo naselje,
12:50
he walks through it,
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prođe kroz njega,
12:52
smiling or making eye contact
as he passes familiar faces.
as he passes familiar faces.
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nasmejan ili gledajući u oči ljude
dok nailazi na poznata lica.
dok nailazi na poznata lica.
12:57
All of us are capable
of finding joy in giving.
of finding joy in giving.
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Svi mi smo u stanju
da nađemo radost u davanju.
da nađemo radost u davanju.
13:01
But we shouldn't expect this
to happen automatically.
to happen automatically.
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Ali ne treba očekivati
da se to desi automatski.
da se to desi automatski.
13:05
Spending money helping others
doesn't necessarily promote happiness.
doesn't necessarily promote happiness.
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Trošenje novca na pružanje pomoći drugima
ne mora nužno podstaći sreću.
ne mora nužno podstaći sreću.
13:09
Instead, it matters how we do it.
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Umesto toga, važno je kako to radimo.
13:13
And if we want people to give more,
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A ako želimo da ljudi daju više,
13:15
we need to subvert the way we think
about charitable giving.
about charitable giving.
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moramo preokrenuti način razmišljanja
o davanju u dobrotvorne svrhe.
o davanju u dobrotvorne svrhe.
13:20
We need to create opportunities to give
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Moramo stvoriti prilike za davanje
13:22
that enable us to appreciate
our shared humanity.
our shared humanity.
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koje nam omogućavaju
da cenimo našu zajedničku ljudskost.
da cenimo našu zajedničku ljudskost.
13:26
If any of you work for a charity,
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Ako neko od vas radi
za dobrotvornu organizaciju,
za dobrotvornu organizaciju,
13:29
don't reward your donors
with pens or calendars.
with pens or calendars.
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ne nagrađujte svoje donatore
olovkama ili kalendarima.
olovkama ili kalendarima.
13:33
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
13:37
Reward them with the opportunity
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Nagradite ih prilikom
13:39
to see the specific impact
that their generosity is having
that their generosity is having
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da vide konkretan uticaj
svoje darežljivosti
svoje darežljivosti
13:43
and to connect with the individuals
and communities they're helping.
and communities they're helping.
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i da se povežu sa pojedincima
i zajednicama kojima pomažu.
i zajednicama kojima pomažu.
13:49
We're used to thinking about giving
as something we should do.
as something we should do.
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Navikli smo da razmišljamo o davanju
kao o nečemu što treba da radimo.
kao o nečemu što treba da radimo.
13:54
And it is.
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I jeste tako.
13:56
But in thinking about it this way,
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Ali kada razmišljamo o tome na ovaj način,
13:59
we're missing out on one of
the best parts of being human:
the best parts of being human:
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propuštamo jedan od najboljih delova
postojanja kao ljudskog bića,
postojanja kao ljudskog bića,
14:03
that we have evolved to find joy
in helping others.
in helping others.
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da smo evoluirali da se radujemo
u pomaganju drugima.
u pomaganju drugima.
14:09
Let's stop thinking about giving
as just this moral obligation
as just this moral obligation
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Prestanimo da razmišljamo o davanju
kao o moralnoj obavezi
kao o moralnoj obavezi
14:14
and start thinking of it
as a source of pleasure.
as a source of pleasure.
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i počnimo da razmišljamo o tome
kao o izvoru zadovoljstva.
kao o izvoru zadovoljstva.
14:18
Thank you.
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Hvala.
14:20
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Elizabeth Dunn - Happiness researcherElizabeth Dunn discovers ways that people can optimize their use of time, money and technology in order to maximize their own happiness.
Why you should listen
When Elizabeth Dunn got her first job, she wondered what to do with the money that was suddenly appearing in her bank account. So she teamed up with her friend Mike Norton (at Harvard) to figure out how people could use money to buy the most happiness. She and Norton wrote a book called Happy Money, which presents five research-based principles designed to help individuals and organizations use their money in happier ways. It was selected by the Washington Post as one of the "top 20 books every leader should read."
Recently, her work has focused on how people navigate trade-offs between time and money, and how mobile technology can both support and undermine human happiness. Dunn is an avid skier and surfer, and she survived a shark attack.
Elizabeth Dunn | Speaker | TED.com