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Deeyah Khan: What we don't know about Europe's Muslim kids
Deeyah Khan: Det vi ikke ved om Europas muslimske børn
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Som barn af en afghansk mor og en pakistansk far og opvokset i Norge ved Deeyah Khan, hvordan det er at være et ungt menneske fanget mellem dit fællesskab og dit land. I denne kraftfulde, følelsesmæssige tale afdækker filmskaberen den afvisning og isolation mange muslimske børn oplever, når de vokser op i Vesten - og de dødelige konsekvenser af ikke at favne de unge, før ekstremistiske grupper gør det.
Deeyah Khan - Filmmaker
Deeyah Khan is working to create intercultural dialogue and understanding by confronting the world's most complex and controversial topics. Full bio
Deeyah Khan is working to create intercultural dialogue and understanding by confronting the world's most complex and controversial topics. Full bio
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00:13
When I was a child,
I knew I had superpowers.
I knew I had superpowers.
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Som barn vidste jeg,
at jeg havde superkræfter
at jeg havde superkræfter
00:18
That's right.
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Det er sandt.
00:20
(Laughter)
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(Latter)
00:21
I thought I was absolutely amazing
because I could understand
because I could understand
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Jeg mente, jeg var fantastisk,
fordi jeg kunne forstå og relatere
fordi jeg kunne forstå og relatere
00:25
and relate to the feelings
of brown people,
of brown people,
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til følelserne hos
brune mennesker,
brune mennesker,
00:27
like my grandfather,
a conservative Muslim guy.
a conservative Muslim guy.
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såsom min bedstefar,
en konservativ muslim.
en konservativ muslim.
00:31
And also, I could understand
my Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
my Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
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Jeg kunne også forstå min
afghanske mor og pakistanske far,
afghanske mor og pakistanske far,
00:36
not so religious
but laid-back, fairly liberal.
but laid-back, fairly liberal.
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ikke videre religiøse, men
afslappede og ret liberale.
afslappede og ret liberale.
00:40
And of course, I could understand
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Og selvfølgelig kunne jeg forstå
00:42
and relate to the feelings
of white people.
of white people.
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og relatere til følelserne
hos hvide mennesker.
hos hvide mennesker.
00:44
The white Norwegians of my country.
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De hvide nordmænd i mit land.
00:47
You know, white, brown, whatever --
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I ved, hvide, brune, ligemeget
00:50
I loved them all.
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Jeg holdt af dem alle.
00:51
I understood them all,
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Jeg forstod dem alle,
00:53
even if they didn't always
understand each other,
understand each other,
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selv når de ikke altid forstod hinanden;
00:55
they were all my people.
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de var alle som mig.
00:57
My father, though,
was always really worried.
was always really worried.
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Min far var dog altid bekymret.
01:00
He kept saying that
even with the best education,
even with the best education,
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Han sagde altid at selv med
den bedste uddannelse,
den bedste uddannelse,
01:03
I was not going to get a fair shake.
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ville jeg ikke få en fair chance.
01:07
I would still face discrimination,
according to him.
according to him.
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Jeg ville stadig blive
diskrimineret, ifølge ham.
diskrimineret, ifølge ham.
01:10
And that the only way
to be accepted by white people
to be accepted by white people
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Og at den eneste måde at blive
accepteret på af hvide,
accepteret på af hvide,
01:13
would be to become famous.
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var at blive berømt.
01:15
Now, mind you, he had this conversation
with me when I was seven years old.
with me when I was seven years old.
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Den samtale tog han med mig,
da jeg var syv år gammel.
da jeg var syv år gammel.
01:20
So while I'm seven years old, he said,
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Så til mig på syv, sagde han
01:23
"Look, so it's either got to be sports,
or it's got to be music."
or it's got to be music."
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"Hør, det skal enten være noget
med sport eller indenfor musik."
med sport eller indenfor musik."
01:26
He didn't know anything about sports --
bless him -- so it was music.
bless him -- so it was music.
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Han vidste intet om sport ...
så det blev altså musikken.
så det blev altså musikken.
01:31
So when I was seven years old,
he gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
he gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
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Så da jeg var syv, samlede han alt
mit legetøj, alle mine dukker sammen
mit legetøj, alle mine dukker sammen
01:35
and he threw them all away.
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og smed dem ud.
01:38
In exchange he gave me
a crappy little Casio keyboard and --
a crappy little Casio keyboard and --
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I bytte fik jeg et elendigt
lille Casio keyboard og ...
lille Casio keyboard og ...
01:42
(Laughter)
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(Latter)
01:43
Yeah. And singing lessons.
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Jo! Og sangtimer.
01:45
And he forced me, basically, to practice
for hours and hours every single day.
for hours and hours every single day.
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Og han tvang mig til at øve
i timevis hver eneste dag.
i timevis hver eneste dag.
01:50
Very quickly, he also had me performing
for larger and larger audiences,
for larger and larger audiences,
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Ganske hurtigt fik han mig også til at
optræde for større og større publikum,
optræde for større og større publikum,
01:54
and bizarrely, I became
almost a kind of poster child
almost a kind of poster child
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og mærkeligt nok blev jeg
nærmest indbegrebet af
nærmest indbegrebet af
01:58
for Norwegian multiculturalism.
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norsk multikulturalisme
02:00
I felt very proud, of course.
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Jeg var naturligvis meget stolt.
02:02
Because even the newspapers at this point
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For nu var selv aviserne
02:05
were starting to write
nice things about brown people,
nice things about brown people,
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begyndt at skrive pæne ting
om brune mennesker,
om brune mennesker,
02:08
so I could feel
that my superpower was growing.
that my superpower was growing.
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så jeg følte mine
superkræfter vokse.
superkræfter vokse.
02:12
So when I was 12 years old,
walking home from school,
walking home from school,
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Da jeg var tolv år gammel
på vej hjem fra skole,
på vej hjem fra skole,
02:15
I took a little detour
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tog jeg en lille omvej,
02:17
because I wanted to buy
my favorite sweets called "salty feet."
my favorite sweets called "salty feet."
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fordi jeg ville købe noget af mit
favoritslik kaldet "salte fødder."
favoritslik kaldet "salte fødder."
02:20
I know they sound kind of awful,
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Jeg ved godt navnet er frastødende,
02:23
but I absolutely love them.
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men jeg er helt vild med dem.
02:25
They're basically these little
salty licorice bits in the shape of feet.
salty licorice bits in the shape of feet.
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De er egentlig bare små
fodformede saltlakridser.
fodformede saltlakridser.
02:30
And now that I say it out loud,
I realize how terrible that sounds,
I realize how terrible that sounds,
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Og nu jeg siger det højt, indser jeg,
hvor forfærdeligt det lyder,
hvor forfærdeligt det lyder,
02:36
but be that as it may,
I absolutely love them.
I absolutely love them.
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men sådan er det altså.
Jeg elsker dem.
Jeg elsker dem.
02:38
So on my way into the store,
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På vej ind i butikken,
02:40
there was this grown white guy
in the doorway blocking my way.
in the doorway blocking my way.
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står der en fuldvoksen hvid fyr
i døråbningen og blokerer den.
i døråbningen og blokerer den.
02:45
So I tried to walk around him,
and as I did that, he stopped me
and as I did that, he stopped me
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Jeg prøver at gå udenom ham
og da jeg gør det, stopper han mig
og da jeg gør det, stopper han mig
02:51
and he was staring at me,
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og han stirrer på mig,
02:54
and he spit in my face, and he said,
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og spytter mig i ansigtet og siger
02:56
"Get out of my way
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"Flyt dig ...
02:57
you little black bitch,
you little Paki bitch,
you little Paki bitch,
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din lille sorte tæve,
din lille Paki tæve,
din lille Paki tæve,
03:00
go back home where you came from."
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rejs hjem til hvor du kommer fra"
03:03
I was absolutely horrified.
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Jeg var fuldstændig i chok.
03:06
I was staring at him.
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Jeg stirrede på ham.
03:08
I was too afraid
to wipe the spit off my face,
to wipe the spit off my face,
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Jeg var for bange til at
tørre spyttet af mit ansigt,
tørre spyttet af mit ansigt,
03:11
even as it was mixing with my tears.
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selv da det blandede sig med mine tårer.
03:14
I remember looking around,
hoping that any minute now,
hoping that any minute now,
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Jeg husker jeg kiggede rundt og
håbede på at der snart
håbede på at der snart
03:17
a grown-up is going to come
and make this guy stop.
and make this guy stop.
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ville komme en voksen
og stoppe denne fyr.
og stoppe denne fyr.
03:21
But instead, people kept hurrying past me
and pretended not to see me.
and pretended not to see me.
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Men i stedet skyndte folk sig forbi mig
og lod som om de ikke så mig.
og lod som om de ikke så mig.
03:26
I was very confused
because I was thinking, well,
because I was thinking, well,
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Jeg var meget forvirret,
for jeg tænkte jo
for jeg tænkte jo
03:30
"My white people, come on!
Where are they? What's going on?
Where are they? What's going on?
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"Mit hvide folk, kom nu!
Hvor er I? Hvad sker der?
Hvor er I? Hvad sker der?
03:33
How come they're not
coming and rescuing me?
coming and rescuing me?
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Hvorfor kommer de ikke og redder mig?"
03:36
So, needless to say,
I didn't buy the sweets.
I didn't buy the sweets.
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Behøver jeg sige
at jeg ikke købte slikket.
at jeg ikke købte slikket.
03:39
I just ran home as fast as I could.
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Jeg løb bare hjem så hurtigt jeg kunne.
03:42
Things were still OK, though, I thought.
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Livet var stadig OK, tænkte jeg.
03:44
As time went on,
the more successful I became,
the more successful I became,
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Som tiden gik og jo mere succes jeg fik,
03:47
I eventually started also
attracting harassment from brown people.
attracting harassment from brown people.
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begyndte jeg også at blive
chikaneret af brune mennesker.
chikaneret af brune mennesker.
03:53
Some men in my parent's community
felt that it was unacceptable
felt that it was unacceptable
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Visse mænd i mine forældres
omgangskreds fandt det uacceptabelt
omgangskreds fandt det uacceptabelt
03:56
and dishonorable for a woman
to be involved in music
to be involved in music
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og æreskrænkende for en kvinde
at være indenfor musikken
at være indenfor musikken
04:01
and to be so present in the media.
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og være så synlig i medierne.
04:05
So very quickly, I was starting
to become attacked at my own concerts.
to become attacked at my own concerts.
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Kort tid efter, begyndte jeg også at blive
angrebet under mine egne koncerter.
angrebet under mine egne koncerter.
04:10
I remember one of the concerts,
I was onstage, I lean into the audience
I was onstage, I lean into the audience
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Jeg husker en af koncerterne. Jeg er på
scenen og læner mig ud mod publikum,
scenen og læner mig ud mod publikum,
04:15
and the last thing I see
is a young brown face
is a young brown face
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og det sidste jeg ser er
et ungt brunt ansigt,
et ungt brunt ansigt,
04:19
and the next thing I know is some sort
of chemical is thrown in my eyes
of chemical is thrown in my eyes
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og i næste øjeblik får jeg kastet
et eller andet kemikalie i øjnene,
et eller andet kemikalie i øjnene,
04:23
and I remember I couldn't really see
and my eyes were watering
and my eyes were watering
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og jeg husker at jeg nærmest intet kan se
og mine øjne løber i vand
og mine øjne løber i vand
04:26
but I kept singing anyway.
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men jeg fortsætter med at synge.
04:28
I was spit in the face in the streets
of Oslo, this time by brown men.
of Oslo, this time by brown men.
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Jeg blev spyttet i ansigtet på gaden i
Oslo, denne gang af brune mænd.
Oslo, denne gang af brune mænd.
04:34
They even tried to kidnap me at one point.
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De forsøgte endda at kidnappe mig en gang.
04:37
The death threats were endless.
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Jeg fik dødstrusler konstant.
04:39
I remember one older bearded guy
stopped me in the street one time,
stopped me in the street one time,
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Jeg husker en ældre mand med skæg,
der stoppede mig på gaden og sagde
der stoppede mig på gaden og sagde
04:42
and he said, "The reason
I hate you so much
I hate you so much
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"Årsagen til at jeg hader dig så meget er
04:45
is because you make our daughters think
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at du får vores døtre til at tro at
04:47
they can do whatever they want."
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de kan gøre hvad der passer dem"
04:50
A younger guy warned me to watch my back.
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En yngre fyr advarede mig
at jeg skulle passe på.
at jeg skulle passe på.
04:53
He said music is un-Islamic
and the job of whores,
and the job of whores,
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Han sagde musik brød med
islamisk lære og var et job for ludere,
islamisk lære og var et job for ludere,
04:56
and if you keep this up,
you are going to be raped
you are going to be raped
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og at hvis jeg fortsatte,
ville jeg blive voldtaget
ville jeg blive voldtaget
04:59
and your stomach will be cut out so that
another whore like you will not be born.
another whore like you will not be born.
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og få min mave skåret op, så jeg ikke
kunne føde horeunger som mig.
kunne føde horeunger som mig.
05:05
Again, I was so confused.
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Igen var jeg virkelig forvirret.
05:07
I couldn't understand what was going on.
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Jeg forstod ikke hvad der foregik.
05:09
My brown people now starting
to treat me like this -- how come?
to treat me like this -- how come?
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Mit eget folk var begyndt at behandle
mig sådan her - hvorfor dog det?
mig sådan her - hvorfor dog det?
05:13
Instead of bridging the worlds,
the two worlds,
the two worlds,
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I stedet for at bygge bro mellem verdener,
mine to verdener,
mine to verdener,
05:16
I felt like I was falling
between my two worlds.
between my two worlds.
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følte jeg, at jeg faldt ned mellem dem.
05:20
I suppose, for me, spit was kryptonite.
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På en måde var spyt mit kryptonit.
05:24
So by the time I was 17 years old,
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Så da jeg var fyldt 17 år,
05:26
the death threats were endless,
and the harassment was constant.
and the harassment was constant.
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var dødstruslerne endeløse
og chikanen konstant.
og chikanen konstant.
05:29
It got so bad, at one point
my mother sat me down and said,
my mother sat me down and said,
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Det blev så slemt på et tidspunkt,
at min mor sagde til mig
at min mor sagde til mig
05:32
"Look, we can no longer protect you,
we can no longer keep you safe,
we can no longer keep you safe,
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"Hør, vi kan ikke længere beskytte dig
eller garantere din sikkerhed,
eller garantere din sikkerhed,
05:35
so you're going to have to go."
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så du må afsted."
05:37
So I bought a one-way ticket to London,
I packed my suitcase and I left.
I packed my suitcase and I left.
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Jeg købte en enkeltbillet til London,
pakkede min kuffert og rejste.
pakkede min kuffert og rejste.
05:44
My biggest heartbreak at that point
was that nobody said anything.
was that nobody said anything.
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Det der gjorde mest ondt på mig
dengang, var at ingen sagde noget.
dengang, var at ingen sagde noget.
05:47
I had a very public exit from Norway.
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Det var offentlig kendt
at jeg rejste fra Norge.
at jeg rejste fra Norge.
05:51
My brown people, my white people --
nobody said anything.
nobody said anything.
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Mit brune folk, mit hvide folk -
ingen sagde noget.
ingen sagde noget.
05:54
Nobody said, "Hold on, this is wrong.
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Ingen sagde "Stop, det her er forkert.
05:57
Support this girl, protect this girl,
because she is one of us."
because she is one of us."
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Støt denne pige, beskyt denne pige,
for hun er en af os."
for hun er en af os."
06:01
Nobody said that.
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Det var der ingen der sagde.
06:03
Instead, I felt like --
you know at the airport,
you know at the airport,
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I stedet følte jeg mig som ...
I ved nok ude i lufthavnen
I ved nok ude i lufthavnen
06:07
on the baggage carousel
you have these different suitcases
you have these different suitcases
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på bagagebåndet er der
alle disse kufferter,
alle disse kufferter,
06:10
going around and around,
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der kører rundt og rundt,
06:11
and there's always
that one suitcase left at the end,
that one suitcase left at the end,
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og der er altid en efterladt kuffert,
06:13
the one that nobody wants,
the one that nobody comes to claim.
the one that nobody comes to claim.
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som ingen vil have,
ingen kommer og henter.
ingen kommer og henter.
06:16
I felt like that.
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Sådan følte jeg mig.
06:19
I'd never felt so alone.
I'd never felt so lost.
I'd never felt so lost.
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Jeg havde aldrig følt mig så alene.
Aldrig følt mig så fortabt.
Aldrig følt mig så fortabt.
06:24
So, after coming to London,
I did eventually resume my music career.
I did eventually resume my music career.
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Så efter min ankomst til London,
genoptog jeg min musikkarriere.
genoptog jeg min musikkarriere.
06:29
Different place, but unfortunately
the same old story.
the same old story.
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Et nyt sted, men desværre
den samme gamle historie.
den samme gamle historie.
06:32
I remember a message sent to me
saying that I was going to be killed
saying that I was going to be killed
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Jeg husker en besked jeg modtog,
at jeg ville blive dræbt
at jeg ville blive dræbt
06:36
and that rivers of blood
were going to flow
were going to flow
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og at floder af blod ville flyde
06:39
and that I was going to be raped
many times before I died.
many times before I died.
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og at jeg ville blive voldtaget
mange gange før jeg døde.
mange gange før jeg døde.
06:43
By this point, I have to say,
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På det tidspunkt
06:44
I was actually getting used
to messages like this,
to messages like this,
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var jeg faktisk vant til at
få beskeder som den,
få beskeder som den,
06:47
but what became different was that
now they started threatening my family.
now they started threatening my family.
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men det var nyt at de også
truede min familie.
truede min familie.
06:52
So once again, I packed my suitcase,
I left music and I moved to the US.
I left music and I moved to the US.
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Endnu engang pakkede jeg kufferten,
forlod musikken og flyttede til USA.
forlod musikken og flyttede til USA.
06:58
I'd had enough.
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Jeg havde fået nok.
06:59
I didn't want to have anything
to do with this anymore.
to do with this anymore.
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Jeg ville ikke have noget
med det at gøre mere.
med det at gøre mere.
07:02
And I was certainly not
going to be killed for something
going to be killed for something
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Og jeg ville helt sikkert
ikke dø for noget,
ikke dø for noget,
07:05
that wasn't even my dream --
it was my father's choice.
it was my father's choice.
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der ikke engang var min drøm -
det var min fars valg.
det var min fars valg.
07:10
So I kind of got lost.
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Jeg mistede mig selv.
07:13
I kind of fell apart.
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Jeg gik i stykker indeni.
07:14
But I decided that what I wanted to do
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Men så besluttede jeg
at det jeg ville
at det jeg ville
07:17
is spend the next
however many years of my life
however many years of my life
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var at bruge de næste år, uanset
hvor mange, af mit liv
hvor mange, af mit liv
07:20
supporting young people
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på at støtte unge mennesker
07:22
and to try to be there in some small way,
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og være der for dem, bare en smule
07:25
whatever way that I could.
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på alle de måder jeg kunne.
07:27
I started volunteering
for various organizations
for various organizations
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Jeg lavede frivilligt arbejde
for mange organisationer,
for mange organisationer,
07:30
that were working
with young Muslims inside of Europe.
with young Muslims inside of Europe.
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der arbejdede med unge muslimer i Europa.
07:36
And, to my surprise, what I found was
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Til min store overraskelse, opdagede jeg
07:39
so many of these young people
were suffering and struggling.
were suffering and struggling.
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at mange af disse unge mennesker
både kæmpede og led.
både kæmpede og led.
07:44
They were facing so many problems
with their families and their communities
with their families and their communities
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De kæmpede med problemer i deres
familier og samfundet omkring dem,
familier og samfundet omkring dem,
07:48
who seemed to care more
about their honor and their reputation
about their honor and their reputation
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som tilsyneladende gik mere
op i deres ære og omdømme
op i deres ære og omdømme
07:51
than the happiness
and the lives of their own kids.
and the lives of their own kids.
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end deres egne børns liv og lykke.
07:55
I started feeling like maybe I wasn't
so alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.
so alone, maybe I wasn't so weird.
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Jeg følte snart at jeg måske ikke var helt
alene og måske ikke så anderledes.
alene og måske ikke så anderledes.
08:00
Maybe there are more
of my people out there.
of my people out there.
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Måske der var flere af min slags derude.
08:03
The thing is, what most people
don't understand
don't understand
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Det som de fleste mennesker ikke forstår
08:05
is that there are so many of us
growing up in Europe
growing up in Europe
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er at så mange af os,
der vokser op i Europa,
der vokser op i Europa,
08:09
who are not free to be ourselves.
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ikke er frie til at være os selv.
08:12
We're not allowed to be who we are.
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Vi må ikke være dem vi er.
08:15
We are not free to marry
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Vi kan ikke gifte os frit
08:19
or to be in relationships
with people that we choose.
with people that we choose.
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eller være i forhold med dem vi vælger.
08:22
We can't even pick our own career.
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Vi kan ikke vælge vores karrierer.
08:24
This is the norm in the Muslim
heartlands of Europe.
heartlands of Europe.
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Det er normen i de muslimske
højborge i Europa.
højborge i Europa.
08:27
Even in the freest societies
in the world, we're not free.
in the world, we're not free.
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Selv i verdens mest frie samfund,
er vi ikke frie.
er vi ikke frie.
08:31
Our lives, our dreams, our future
does not belong to us,
does not belong to us,
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Vores liv, vores drømme, vores fremtid
tilhører ikke os selv,
tilhører ikke os selv,
08:35
it belongs to our parents
and their community.
and their community.
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de tilhører vores forældre
og samfundet omkring dem.
og samfundet omkring dem.
08:38
I found endless stories of young people
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Jeg fandt utallige historier om unge,
08:42
who are lost to all of us,
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som er tabt af os alle,
08:45
who are invisible to all of us
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som er usynlige for os,
08:47
but who are suffering,
and they are suffering alone.
and they are suffering alone.
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og som lider - helt alene.
08:51
Kids we are losing to forced marriages,
to honor-based violence and abuse.
to honor-based violence and abuse.
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Unge vi mister til tvangsægteskaber,
til æresrelateret vold og misbrug.
til æresrelateret vold og misbrug.
08:57
Eventually, I realized after several
years of working with these young people,
years of working with these young people,
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Til sidst indså jeg efter mange års
arbejde med disse unge mennesker,
arbejde med disse unge mennesker,
09:01
that I will not be able to keep running.
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at jeg ikke kan blive ved med at flygte.
09:03
I can't spend the rest of my life
being scared and hiding
being scared and hiding
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Jeg kan ikke bruge resten af mit liv
på at være bange og gemme mig
på at være bange og gemme mig
09:07
and that I'm actually
going to have to do something.
going to have to do something.
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og at jeg er nødt til at gøre noget.
09:11
And I also realized
that my silence, our silence,
that my silence, our silence,
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Og jeg indså også at
min tavshed, vores tavshed
min tavshed, vores tavshed
09:14
allows abuse like this to continue.
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tillader misbruget at fortsætte.
09:18
So I decided that I wanted to put
my childhood superpower to some use
my childhood superpower to some use
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Så jeg besluttede mig for at bruge min
barndoms superkræfter til noget
barndoms superkræfter til noget
09:22
by trying to make people on the different
sides of these issues understand
sides of these issues understand
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ved at prøve at få folk på begge sider
af disse udfordringer til at forstå
af disse udfordringer til at forstå
09:27
what it's like to be a young person stuck
between your family and your country.
between your family and your country.
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hvordan det er at være et ungt menneske
fanget mellem sin familie og sit land.
fanget mellem sin familie og sit land.
09:32
So I started making films,
and I started telling these stories.
and I started telling these stories.
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Så jeg begyndte at lave film
og fortælle disse historier.
og fortælle disse historier.
09:36
And I also wanted people to understand
the deadly consequences of us
the deadly consequences of us
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Og jeg ønskede også at folk skulle forstå
de fatale konsekvenser
de fatale konsekvenser
09:41
not taking these problems seriously.
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ved ikke at tage problemerne alvorligt.
09:44
So the first film I made was about Banaz.
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Min første film handlede om Banaz.
09:47
She was a 17-year-old
Kurdish girl in London.
Kurdish girl in London.
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Hun var en kurdisk pige på 17 år,
der boede i London
der boede i London
09:51
She was obedient, she did
whatever her parents wanted.
whatever her parents wanted.
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Hun var lydig, hun gjorde alt
hvad hendes forældre bad om.
hvad hendes forældre bad om.
09:54
She tried to do everything right.
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Hun forsøgte at gøre alting rigtigt.
09:57
She married some guy
that her parents chose for her,
that her parents chose for her,
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Hun giftede sig med den mand
hendes forældre havde valgt
hendes forældre havde valgt
09:59
even though he beat
and raped her constantly.
and raped her constantly.
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selvom han slog og voldtog hende konstant.
10:03
And when she tried to go
to her family for help, they said,
to her family for help, they said,
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Og da hun søgte hjælp
hos sin familie, sagde de
hos sin familie, sagde de
10:06
"Well, you got to go back
and be a better wife."
and be a better wife."
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"Gå tilbage og vær en bedre hustru."
10:09
Because they didn't want
a divorced daughter on their hands
a divorced daughter on their hands
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For de ville ikke have en
fraskilt datter i familien,
fraskilt datter i familien,
10:11
because, of course, that would
bring dishonor on the family.
bring dishonor on the family.
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fordi, selvfølgelig, det ville
kaste skam over familien.
kaste skam over familien.
10:15
She was beaten so badly
her ears would bleed,
her ears would bleed,
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Hun blev tævet til hendes ører blødte,
10:19
and when she finally left
and she found a young man that she chose
and she found a young man that she chose
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og da hun endelig gik fra ham og
fandt en ung mand efter eget valg
fandt en ung mand efter eget valg
10:24
and she fell in love with,
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og blev forelsket i ham,
10:26
the community and the family found out
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fandt samfundet og familien ud af det
10:28
and she disappeared.
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og hun forsvandt.
10:30
She was found three months later.
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Hun blev fundet 3 måneder senere.
10:33
She'd been stuffed into a suitcase
and buried underneath the house.
and buried underneath the house.
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Hun var mast ned i en kuffert
og begravet under huset.
og begravet under huset.
10:40
She had been strangled,
she had been beaten to death
she had been beaten to death
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Hun var blevet kvalt
og tævet til døde
og tævet til døde
10:44
by three men, three cousins,
on the orders of her father and uncle.
on the orders of her father and uncle.
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af tre mænd, hendes tre fætre,
efter ordre fra faren og onklen.
efter ordre fra faren og onklen.
10:49
The added tragedy of Banaz's story
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Hendes historie bliver kun mere tragisk af
10:52
is that she had gone to the police
in England five times asking for help,
in England five times asking for help,
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at hun havde været hos det engelske politi
5 gange for at bede om hjælp,
5 gange for at bede om hjælp,
10:58
telling them that she was
going to be killed by her family.
going to be killed by her family.
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hvor hun fortalte dem at hendes
familie ville slå hende ihjel.
familie ville slå hende ihjel.
11:01
The police didn't believe her
so they didn't do anything.
so they didn't do anything.
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Politiet troede ikke på hende,
så de gjorde ingenting.
så de gjorde ingenting.
11:05
And the problem with this
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Og problemet ved det
11:06
is that not only are so many of our kids
facing these problems
facing these problems
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er at ikke bare har mange af
vores unge de samme problemer
vores unge de samme problemer
11:10
within their families
and within their families' communities,
and within their families' communities,
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med deres familier og
deres familiers omgangskreds,
deres familiers omgangskreds,
11:13
but they're also meeting misunderstandings
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men de møder også misforståelser
11:18
and apathy in the countries
that they grow up in.
that they grow up in.
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og ligegyldighed i de lande,
de vokser op i.
de vokser op i.
11:23
When their own families betray them,
they look to the rest of us,
they look to the rest of us,
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Når deres egne familier svigter dem,
så vender de sig mod os andre
så vender de sig mod os andre
11:28
and when we don't understand,
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og når vi ikke forstår dem,
11:30
we lose them.
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så mister vi dem.
11:33
So while I was making this film,
several people said to me,
several people said to me,
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Mens jeg lavede denne film,
var der mange der sagde til mig
var der mange der sagde til mig
11:36
"Well, Deeyah, you know,
this is just their culture,
this is just their culture,
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"Jamen, Deeyah, du ved jo
at sådan er deres kultur,
at sådan er deres kultur,
11:38
this is just what those people
do to their kids
do to their kids
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det er bare sådan de behandler deres børn
11:41
and we can't really interfere."
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og vi bør ikke blande os."
11:43
I can assure you
being murdered is not my culture.
being murdered is not my culture.
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Jeg kan love jer at mord
ikke er en del af min kultur.
ikke er en del af min kultur.
11:48
You know?
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Forstår I?
11:49
And surely people who look like me,
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Selvfølgelig skal folk som mig,
11:51
young women who come
from backgrounds like me,
from backgrounds like me,
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unge kvinder med samme baggrund som jeg,
11:53
should be subject to the same rights,
the same protections
the same protections
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have de samme rettigheder
og den samme beskyttelse
og den samme beskyttelse
11:57
as anybody else in our country, why not?
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som alle andre i vores land - hvad ellers?
12:02
So, for my next film,
I wanted to try and understand
I wanted to try and understand
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Så i min næste film
ville jeg prøve at forstå
ville jeg prøve at forstå
12:07
why some of our young
Muslim kids in Europe
Muslim kids in Europe
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hvorfor nogle af vores
unge muslimer i Europa
unge muslimer i Europa
12:10
are drawn to extremism and violence.
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bliver tiltrukket af ekstremisme og vold.
12:12
But with that topic,
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Og med valget af det emne
12:14
I also recognized that I was going
to have to face my worst fear:
to have to face my worst fear:
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indså jeg, at jeg selv var nødt
til at se min værste frygt i øjnene:
til at se min værste frygt i øjnene:
12:19
the brown men with beards.
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de brune mænd med skæg.
12:22
The same men, or similar men,
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De samme mænd eller mænd som dem,
12:25
to the ones that have hounded me
for most of my life.
for most of my life.
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der havde forfulgt mig
det meste af mit liv.
det meste af mit liv.
12:29
Men that I've been afraid of
most of my life.
most of my life.
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Mænd jeg havde været bange for
det meste af mit liv.
det meste af mit liv.
12:32
Men that I've also deeply disliked,
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Mænd, jeg havde næret et dybt had til
12:35
for many, many years.
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i mange, mange år.
12:37
So I spent the next two years
interviewing convicted terrorists,
interviewing convicted terrorists,
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Så jeg brugte de næste to år på
at interviewe dømte terrorister,
at interviewe dømte terrorister,
12:41
jihadis and former extremists.
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jihadister og tidligere ekstremister.
12:43
What I already knew,
what was very obvious already,
what was very obvious already,
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Hvad jeg allerede vidste
og tidligt stod klart
og tidligt stod klart
12:47
was that religion, politics,
Europe's colonial baggage,
Europe's colonial baggage,
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var at religion, politik,
Europas fortid som kolonimagt
Europas fortid som kolonimagt
12:52
also Western foreign policy
failures of recent years,
failures of recent years,
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og Vestens udenrigspolitiske
fejltrin i nyere tid,
fejltrin i nyere tid,
12:56
were all a part of the picture.
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alle var en del af billedet.
12:58
But what I was more interested
in finding out was what are the human,
in finding out was what are the human,
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Men jeg var mere interesseret i at
finde ud af hvad de menneskelige,
finde ud af hvad de menneskelige,
13:01
what are the personal reasons
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hvad de personlige årsager var
13:03
why some of our young people
are susceptible to groups like this.
are susceptible to groups like this.
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til at nogle af vores unge mennesker
var modtagelige overfor grupper som disse.
var modtagelige overfor grupper som disse.
13:09
And what really surprised me
was that I found wounded human beings.
was that I found wounded human beings.
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Og hvad der virkeligt overraskede mig,
var at jeg fandt sårede mennesker.
var at jeg fandt sårede mennesker.
13:15
Instead of the monsters
that I was looking for,
that I was looking for,
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I stedet for de monstre
jeg var på udkig efter,
jeg var på udkig efter,
13:18
that I was hoping to find --
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som jeg håbede at finde -
13:19
quite frankly because
it would have been very satisfying --
it would have been very satisfying --
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for, ærligt talt, ville det
være meget tilfredsstillende -
være meget tilfredsstillende -
13:22
I found broken people.
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fandt jeg nedbrudte mennesker.
13:25
Just like Banaz,
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Ligesom Banaz,
13:27
I found that these young men
were torn apart
were torn apart
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var disse unge mænd dybt splittede
13:30
from trying to bridge the gaps
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i forsøget på at bygge bro
13:32
between their families
and the countries that they were born in.
and the countries that they were born in.
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mellem deres familier og
de lande, som de var født i.
de lande, som de var født i.
13:37
And what I also learned
is that extremist groups, terrorist groups
is that extremist groups, terrorist groups
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Og jeg lærte også at ekstremistgrupper,
terroristgrupper
terroristgrupper
13:41
are taking advantage
of these feelings of our young people
of these feelings of our young people
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udnytter disse følelser hos
vores unge til deres fordel
vores unge til deres fordel
13:44
and channeling that -- cynically --
channeling that toward violence.
channeling that toward violence.
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og styrer dem - kyniskt -
styrer dem mod vold.
styrer dem mod vold.
13:48
"Come to us," they say.
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"Kom til os", siger de.
13:50
"Reject both sides,
your family and your country
your family and your country
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"Afvis begge sider,
din familie og dit land,
din familie og dit land,
13:53
because they reject you.
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for de afviser dig.
13:54
For your family, their honor
is more important than you
is more important than you
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For din familie, er deres ære
vigtigere end dig
vigtigere end dig
13:57
and for your country,
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og for dit land,
13:59
a real Norwegian, Brit or a French person
will always be white and never you."
will always be white and never you."
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vil en ægte nordmand, englænder eller
franskmand altid være hvid og ikke dig."
franskmand altid være hvid og ikke dig."
14:06
They're also promising our young people
the things that they crave:
the things that they crave:
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De lover også vores unge
de ting de higer efter:
de ting de higer efter:
14:09
significance, heroism,
a sense of belonging and purpose,
a sense of belonging and purpose,
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at betyde noget, heltemod,
tilhørsforhold og mening,
tilhørsforhold og mening,
14:13
a community that loves and accepts them.
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et fællesskab der elsker
og accepterer dem.
og accepterer dem.
14:17
They make the powerless feel powerful.
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De får de magtesløse
til at føle sig magtfulde.
til at føle sig magtfulde.
14:20
The invisible and the silent
are finally seen and heard.
are finally seen and heard.
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De usynlige og de stumme
bliver pludselig set og hørt.
bliver pludselig set og hørt.
14:27
This is what they're doing
for our young people.
for our young people.
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Det er hvad de gør for vores unge.
14:29
Why are these groups doing this
for our young people and not us?
for our young people and not us?
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Hvorfor er det disse grupper,
der gør det og ikke os?
der gør det og ikke os?
14:34
The thing is,
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Sagen er,
14:36
I'm not trying to justify
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jeg prøver ikke at retfærdiggøre
14:39
or excuse any of the violence.
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eller undskylde for volden.
14:43
What I am trying to say
is that we have to understand
is that we have to understand
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Jeg prøver blot at sige at vi må forstå
14:47
why some of our young people
are attracted to this.
are attracted to this.
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hvorfor nogle af vores unge
bliver tiltrukket af dette.
bliver tiltrukket af dette.
14:51
I would like to also show you, actually --
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these are childhood photos
of some of the guys in the film.
of some of the guys in the film.
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disse barndomsbilleder af
nogle af mændene i filmen.
nogle af mændene i filmen.
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What really struck me
is that so many of them --
is that so many of them --
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Hvad der virkelig slog mig,
var at så mange af dem -
var at så mange af dem -
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I never would have thought this --
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det ville jeg aldrig have troet -
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but so many of them
have absent or abusive fathers.
have absent or abusive fathers.
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at så mange af dem havde fædre,
der var fraværende eller voldelige.
der var fraværende eller voldelige.
15:08
And several of these young guys
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Og adskillige af disse unge mænd
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ended up finding caring
and compassionate father figures
and compassionate father figures
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fandt omsorgsfulde og
medfølende faderfigurer
medfølende faderfigurer
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within these extremist groups.
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i disse ekstremistgrupper.
15:17
I also found men
brutalized by racist violence,
brutalized by racist violence,
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Jeg fandt også mænd,
ofre for racerelateret vold,
ofre for racerelateret vold,
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but who found a way
to stop feeling like victims
to stop feeling like victims
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som brød ud af offerrollen
15:24
by becoming violent themselves.
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ved selv at blive voldelige.
15:25
In fact, I found something,
to my horror, that I recognized.
to my horror, that I recognized.
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Til min store skræk fandt jeg
faktisk noget jeg genkendte.
faktisk noget jeg genkendte.
15:30
I found the same feelings that I felt
as a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.
as a 17-year-old as I fled from Norway.
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Jeg fandt de samme følelser som jeg følte
som 17-årig, da jeg flygtede fra Norge.
som 17-årig, da jeg flygtede fra Norge.
15:38
The same confusion, the same sorrow,
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Den samme forvirring, den samme sorg,
15:41
the same feeling of being betrayed
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den samme følelse af svigt
15:46
and not belonging to anyone.
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og ikke at tilhøre nogen.
15:50
The same feeling of being lost
and torn between cultures.
and torn between cultures.
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Den samme følelse af at være fortabt
og splittet mellem kulturer.
og splittet mellem kulturer.
15:54
Having said that,
I did not choose destruction,
I did not choose destruction,
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Når det så er sagt, så valgte
jeg ikke destruktionen.
jeg ikke destruktionen.
15:57
I chose to pick up a camera
instead of a gun.
instead of a gun.
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Jeg valgte kameraet fremfor våben.
16:00
And the reason I did that
is because of my superpower.
is because of my superpower.
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Og årsagen til at jeg gjorde det,
var mine superkræfter.
var mine superkræfter.
16:03
I could see that understanding
is the answer, instead of violence.
is the answer, instead of violence.
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Jeg kunne se at forståelse
fremfor vold er svaret.
fremfor vold er svaret.
16:08
Seeing human beings
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At se mennesker
16:10
with all their virtues and all their flaws
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med alle deres dyder og fejl
16:13
instead of continuing the caricatures:
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fremfor at holde fast i karikaturerne:
16:15
the us and them, the villains and victims.
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os og dem, forbryderne og ofrene.
16:18
I'd also finally
come to terms with the fact
come to terms with the fact
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Jeg accepterede også til sidst det faktum
16:20
that my two cultures
didn't have to be on a collision course
didn't have to be on a collision course
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at mine to kulturer ikke behøvede
at være på kollisionkurs,
at være på kollisionkurs,
16:24
but instead became a space
where I found my own voice.
where I found my own voice.
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men i stedet blev et rum hvor
jeg fandt min egen stemme.
jeg fandt min egen stemme.
16:27
I stopped feeling
like I had to pick a side,
like I had to pick a side,
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Jeg holdt op med at føle
at jeg skulle vælge side,
at jeg skulle vælge side,
16:30
but this took me many, many years.
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men det tog mig mange, mange år.
16:33
There are so many
of our young people today
of our young people today
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Der er så mange af vores unge i dag
16:35
who are struggling with these same issues,
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der kæmper med de selvsamme udfordringer,
16:37
and they're struggling with this alone.
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og de kæmper med dem helt alene.
16:41
And this leaves them open like wounds.
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Og det efterlader dem åbne som sår.
16:44
And for some, the worldview
of radical Islam
of radical Islam
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Og for nogle bliver
radikal islams verdenssyn
radikal islams verdenssyn
16:47
becomes the infection
that festers in these open wounds.
that festers in these open wounds.
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en infektion, der gnaver i disse åbne sår.
16:53
There's an African proverb that says,
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Der er et afrikansk ordsprog, som lyder:
16:57
"If the young are not
initiated into the village,
initiated into the village,
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"Hvis de unge ikke bliver
en del af landsbyen,
en del af landsbyen,
17:01
they will burn it down
just to feel its warmth."
just to feel its warmth."
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så vil de brænde den ned
blot for at føle dens varme."
blot for at føle dens varme."
17:05
I would like to ask --
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Jeg vil gerne spørge
17:07
to Muslim parents and Muslim communities,
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muslimske forældre og fællesskaber,
17:10
will you love and care for your children
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vil I tage jer af jeres børn og elske dem
17:12
without forcing them
to meet your expectations?
to meet your expectations?
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uden at tvinge dem til
opfylde jeres forventninger?
opfylde jeres forventninger?
17:15
Can you choose them instead of your honor?
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Kan I vælge børnene fremfor egen ære?
17:18
Can you understand
why they're so angry and alienated
why they're so angry and alienated
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Kan I forstå hvorfor de føler
sig vrede og fremmedgjorte
sig vrede og fremmedgjorte
17:21
when you put your honor
before their happiness?
before their happiness?
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når I sætter egen ære
højere end deres lykke?
højere end deres lykke?
17:24
Can you try to be a friend to your child
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Kan I prøve at være jeres børns ven,
17:27
so that they can trust you
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så de kan stole på jer
17:28
and want to share with you
their experiences,
their experiences,
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og har lyst til at dele
deres oplevelser med jer
deres oplevelser med jer
17:31
rather than having
to seek it somewhere else?
to seek it somewhere else?
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fremfor at opsøge andre.
17:34
And to our young people
tempted by extremism,
tempted by extremism,
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Og til vores unge mennesker,
der fristes af ekstremisme,
der fristes af ekstremisme,
17:38
can you acknowledge
that your rage is fueled by pain?
that your rage is fueled by pain?
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anerkender I, at jeres vrede
bunder i smerte?
bunder i smerte?
17:43
Will you find the strength
to resist those cynical old men
to resist those cynical old men
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Vil I finde styrken til at modstå
disse kyniske gamle mænd,
disse kyniske gamle mænd,
17:47
who want to use your blood
for their own profits?
for their own profits?
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der vil udgyde jeres blod
for egen vindings skyld?
for egen vindings skyld?
17:51
Can you find a way to live?
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Kan I finde en måde at leve på?
17:53
Can you see that the sweetest revenge
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Kan I se at den bedste hævn
17:56
is for you to live
a happy, full and free life?
a happy, full and free life?
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er at leve et glad, rigt og frit liv?
17:59
A life defined by you and nobody else.
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Et liv bestemt af jer og ingen andre.
18:02
Why do you want to become
just another dead Muslim kid?
just another dead Muslim kid?
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Hvorfor blive det næste
muslimske barn, der dør?
muslimske barn, der dør?
18:07
And for the rest of us, when will we start
listening to our young people?
listening to our young people?
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Og til resten af os, hvornår vil vi
begynde at lytte til vores unge?
begynde at lytte til vores unge?
18:12
How can we support them
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Hvordan kan vi hjælpe dem
18:13
in redirecting their pain
into something more constructive?
into something more constructive?
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med at vende deres smerte
mod noget konstruktivt?
mod noget konstruktivt?
18:18
They think we don't like them.
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De tror, vi ikke kan lide dem.
18:20
They think we don't care
what happens to them.
what happens to them.
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De tror, vi er ligeglade
med deres skæbner.
med deres skæbner.
18:23
They think we don't accept them.
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De tror, vi ikke accepterer dem.
18:24
Can we find a way
to make them feel differently?
to make them feel differently?
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Kan vi finde en måde at få
dem til at føle noget andet?
dem til at føle noget andet?
18:29
What will it take for us
to see them and notice them
to see them and notice them
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Hvad vil det kræve af os
at se dem og bemærke dem
at se dem og bemærke dem
18:32
before they become either the victims
or the perpetrators of violence?
or the perpetrators of violence?
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før de enten bliver ofre for vold
eller dem, der udfører det?
eller dem, der udfører det?
18:37
Can we make ourselves care about them
and consider them to be our own?
and consider them to be our own?
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Kan vi få os selv til at bekymre os
om dem og se dem som vores egne?
om dem og se dem som vores egne?
18:40
And not just be outraged when the victims
of violence look like ourselves?
of violence look like ourselves?
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Og ikke blot være oprørte
når ofre for vold ligner os?
når ofre for vold ligner os?
18:45
Can we find a way to reject hatred
and heal the divisions between us?
and heal the divisions between us?
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Kan vi finde en måde at modstå had
og fjerne opdelingerne iblandt os?
og fjerne opdelingerne iblandt os?
18:50
The thing is we cannot afford
to give up on each other or on our kids,
to give up on each other or on our kids,
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Det nytter ikke at opgive
hinanden og vores børn,
hinanden og vores børn,
18:54
even if they've given up on us.
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selv ikke hvis de har opgivet os.
18:56
We are all in this together.
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Vi er alle i samme båd.
18:59
And in the long term, revenge and violence
will not work against extremists.
will not work against extremists.
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Og på lang sigt vil vold og hævn
ikke fungere mod ekstremister.
ikke fungere mod ekstremister.
19:05
Terrorists want us
to huddle in our houses in fear,
to huddle in our houses in fear,
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Terrorister vil have os til at
krybe i skjul i vores huse af frygt
krybe i skjul i vores huse af frygt
19:09
closing our doors and our hearts.
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og lukke vores døre og vores hjerter.
19:11
They want us to tear open
more wounds in our societies
more wounds in our societies
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De vil have os til at rive flere
åbne sår op i vores samfund,
åbne sår op i vores samfund,
19:15
so that they can use them
to spread their infection more widely.
to spread their infection more widely.
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så de kan bruge dem til
at sprede deres smitte.
at sprede deres smitte.
19:18
They want us to become like them:
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De vil have at vi skal blive som dem:
19:21
intolerant, hateful and cruel.
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intolerante, hadefulde og onde.
19:26
The day after the Paris attacks,
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Dagen efter angrebene i Paris,
19:28
a friend of mine
sent this photo of her daughter.
sent this photo of her daughter.
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sendte en af mine venner
dette foto af hendes datter.
dette foto af hendes datter.
19:32
This is a white girl and an Arab girl.
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Det er en hvid pige og en arabisk pige.
19:35
They're best friends.
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De er de bedste venner.
19:37
This image is the kryptonite
for extremists.
for extremists.
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Sådanne billeder er
kryptonit for ekstremister.
kryptonit for ekstremister.
19:43
These two little girls
with their superpowers
with their superpowers
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Disse to små piger med
deres superkræfter
deres superkræfter
19:46
are showing the way forward
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viser vejen frem
19:47
towards a society
that we need to build together,
that we need to build together,
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mod det samfund vi skal bygge sammen,
19:52
a society that includes and supports,
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et samfund der inkluderer og støtter,
19:56
rather than rejects our kids.
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fremfor at afvise vores børn.
19:59
Thank you for listening.
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Tak for at I lyttede.
20:01
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Deeyah Khan - FilmmakerDeeyah Khan is working to create intercultural dialogue and understanding by confronting the world's most complex and controversial topics.
Why you should listen
Deeyah Khan is an Emmy and Peabody award-winning documentary film director and founder of Fuuse, a media and arts company that puts women, people from minorities and third-culture kids at the heart of telling their own stories. In 2016, Khan became the first UNESCO Goodwill Ambassador for artistic freedom and creativity. She has received many honors for her work supporting freedom of expression, human rights and peace, including the Ossietzky Prize, the University of Oslo's Human Rights Award and the Peer Gynt Prize from the Parliament of Norway.
Born in Norway to immigrant parents of Pashtun and Punjabi ancestry, Khan's experience of living between different cultures, both the beauty and the challenges, shapes her artistic vision. Her 2012 multi-award winning documentary, Banaz: A Love Story, chronicles the life and death of Banaz Mahmod, a young British Kurdish woman murdered by her family in a so-called honor killing. Khan's second film, the Grierson and Bafta award-nominated Jihad, involved two years of interviews and filming with Islamic extremists, convicted terrorists and former jihadis. One of Fuuse's recent initiatives, born of Deeyah’s own experiences, is sister-hood, a digital magazine and series of live events spotlighting the voices of women of Muslim heritage. Khan has also produced a number of critically acclaimed albums, including Listen to the Banned, a compilation that brought together musicians from around the world who have been subject to persecution, 'censorship and imprisonment.
The focus of Khan's work and access to voices that are often overlooked and misunderstood has led to increasing demand as a speaker at international human rights events and platforms including the United Nations. She was described by The Times of London thus: "To say Deeyah Khan is an inspiration is an understatement. She is one of the bravest, most indomitable women … facing down bullies and extremists with intelligence and unflinching spirit."
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