Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness
Robert Waldinger: Yaxshi hayotning asosi nima? Baxt sirining eng uzoq davom etgan o‘rganishdan kelib chiqqan hayot saboqlari | Robert Waldinger | TED Talks
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and your energy?
most important life goals were,
Millenium avlodining 80 foizi
was to get rich.
of those same young adults
to lean in to work, to push harder
va katta etishuvlavga harakat qilish
are the things that we need to go after
yaxshiroq hayot kechiramiz,
and how those choices work out for them,
ular qilgan qarorlarning oqibatlari
are almost impossible to get.
amalda yetib ham bo’lmaydi.
to remember the past,
is anything but 20/20.
emasligini hammamiz bilamiz.
of what happens to us in life,
narsalarni esdan chiqazamiz
is downright creative.
bo'lib qolishlari mumkin.
qanday o’tyapganini ko’rishga
from the time that they were teenagers
to qariylik chog’igacha
happy and healthy?
va baxtli qilishini ko’ra olsakchi?
of adult life that's ever been done.
tadqiqot sifatida ko’rib chiqish mumkin.
the lives of 724 men,
kishining hayotini kuzatdik.
their home lives, their health,
shaxsiy hayot va so’gliqlari
without knowing how their life stories
lekin ularning hayoti qanday
fall apart within a decade
o’n yil ham davom etmaydi,
drop out of the study,
further down the field.
izdoshlari yo’qligi paytida tugaydi.
of several generations of researchers,
of two groups of men.
erkak kishilarning hayotini kuzatmoqdamiz.
at Harvard College.
2 kurs talabalari edilar.
during World War II,
Jahon Urushi paytida bitirishgan
to serve in the war.
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
from some of the most troubled
1930-yillardagi eng noxush va
many without hot and cold running water.
ijaraga olingan xonadonda yashar edilar.
and we interviewed their parents.
ota-onalari bilan suhbatlashdik.
grew up into adults
and bricklayers and doctors,
shifokorlar va quruvchilar bo’lishdi,
A few developed schizophrenia.
Ba’zilari esa shizofreniya bilan kasal.
all the way to the very top,
in the opposite direction.
yo’nalishda harakat qilishdi.
standing here today, 75 years later,
loyiha hali ham ish yuritmoqdaligini
the study still continues.
tasavvur ham qilisha olishmagan.
and dedicated research staff
sodig bo’lgan xodimlarimiz,
and asks them if we can send them
about their lives.
bo'ladimi deb so'rashadi.
yigitlarning ko’pchiligi so'rashadi:
My life just isn't that interesting."
Hayotimda qiziqarli hech narsa yo’q.
of these lives,
aniqlik kiritish uchun,
from their doctors.
tibbiy kitobchalarini olamiz.
ularning miyasini tekshiramiz
about their deepest concerns.
tashvishlari suhbatini videoga yozamiz.
we finally asked the wives
ularning xotinlariga, loyihada
as members of the study,
"You know, it's about time."
“Nihoyat taklif qildila!” deyishdi.
from the tens of thousands of pages
sahifalarda yig’ilgan axborotlardan
or fame or working harder and harder.
va ko’proq ishlash kerak ekanligida emas.
from this 75-year study is this:
bizga ma'lum bo'lgan eng yorqin fikr bu:
happier and healthier. Period.
sog’lomroq va baxtliroq qilishadi. Bo’ldi.
uchta asosiy saboqni o’rganib oldik.
are really good for us,
biz uchun juda foydali,
who are more socially connected
oilasi, do’stlari va jamiyat bilan
and they live longer
baxtliroq, jismonan sog’lom va
turns out to be toxic.
insonni zaharlashi mumkinligi aniqlandi.
than they want to be from others
ko’proq ajralgan odamlar,
o’zini baxtsizroq his qilishadi,
than people who are not lonely.
is that at any given time,
qachon so’rashingizdan qat’iy nazar,
will report that they're lonely.
men yolg’izman deb javob beradi.
can be lonely in a crowd
the number of friends you have,
you're in a committed relationship,
of your close relationships that matters.
of conflict is really bad for our health.
bizning sog’ligimizga juda zararli ekan.
without much affection,
yetishmaydigan ixtilofli oilalar,
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
balki ajralishdan ham ta’siri kattaroq.
warm relationships is protective.
biz uchun himoya hisoblanadi.
all the way into their 80s,
80 dan oshgandan so’ng,
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
osmasligini, bashorat qila olarmidik
everything we knew about them
50 yashar paytlaridagi
were going to grow old.
darajasi bog’liq emas.
in their relationships.
qanday rivojlanishiga bog’liq.
in their relationships at age 50
mamnun bo’lgan insonlar,
seem to buffer us
bizni taqdir zarbalari
of getting old.
qalqon kabi bo’lar ekan.
when they had more physical pain,
og’riqlar paytlarida ham,
in unhappy relationships,
bo'lgan insonlar esa,
reported more physical pain,
hissiy og’riq ularga qo’shilib,
about relationships and our health
o’zlashtirib olgan 3-saboqimiz,
don't just protect our bodies,
in a securely attached relationship
80 yoshdan so’ng,
bo'lish, siz uchun himoya bo'ladi,
on the other person in times of need,
stay sharper longer.
can't count on the other one,
earlier memory decline.
ancha oldin sodir bo’ladi.
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
har doim beg’uborlik degani emas.
could bicker with each other
kecha va kunduz
could really count on the other
qo’llab-quvvatlashni davom etishsa,
on their memories.
are good for our health and well-being,
salomatlik va yaxshi kayfiyat garovidir,
and so easy to ignore?
e’tiborsiz qoldirish esa oson?
and keep them that way.
and they're complicated
qanday kafolat yo’q,
to family and friends,
oila va do’stlaringiz
Va buning oxiri yo’q.
who were the happiest in retirement
o’z hamkasblarini do'st qilgan
to replace workmates with new playmates.
eng baxtli insondirlar.
in that recent survey,
o’tkazilgan so’rovlarga kabi,
were starting out as young adults
and high achievement
va ulkan muvaffaqiyatlar,
to have a good life.
narsa deb, chin dildan ishonishar edi.
our study has shown
the people who leaned in to relationships,
mustahkam munosabatlar qurish
qayta-qayta isbot bo’ldi.
or you're 40, or you're 60.
yoki 60 yoshdasiz.
to relationships even look like?
sarflamoq nimani anglatadi?
are practically endless.
as replacing screen time with people time
boshqa insonlar bilan vaqt o’tkazish,
by doing something new together,
qiziq fikrlar o’ylab topish:
yoki kechki uchrashuvdir,
who you haven't spoken to in years,
qarindoshga telefon qilish,
from Mark Twain.
heartburnings, callings to account.
va javobga da’vad qilishga.
so to speak, for that."
with good relationships.
munosabatlar orqali quriladi.
ABOUT THE SPEAKERRobert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priest
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history.
Why you should listen
Robert Waldinger is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and Zen priest. He is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and directs the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of adult life ever done. The Study tracked the lives of two groups of men for over 75 years, and it now follows their Baby Boomer children to understand how childhood experience reaches across decades to affect health and wellbeing in middle age. He writes about what science and Zen can teach us about healthy human development.
Dr. Waldinger is the author of numerous scientific papers as well as two books. He teaches medical students and psychiatry residents at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, and he is a Senior Dharma Teacher in Boundless Way Zen.
To keep abreast of research findings, insights and more, visit robertwaldinger.com.
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