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Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness
Robert Waldinger: Que converte unha vida en boa? Leccións do estudo máis longo sobre a felicidade
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Que nos mantén felices e saudables ao longo da vida? Se pensas que é a fama e o diñeiro, non estás só, pero segundo o psiquiatra Robert Waldinger, equivócaste. Como director dun estudo de 75 anos sobre o desenvolvemento adulto, Waldinger ten un acceso sen precedentes a datos sobre a verdadeira felicidade e a satisfacción persoal. Nesta charla, comparte tres leccións importantes que aprendeu grazas a ese estudo, así como unha pouca sabedoría práctica, vella como o tempo, sobre como construír unha vida longa e plena.
Robert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priest
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Full bio
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Full bio
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00:12
What keeps us healthy and happy
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Que é o que nos mantén con saúde e felices
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as we go through life?
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durante a vida?
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If you were going to invest now
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Se tivésedes que investir agora
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in your future best self,
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no voso mellor futuro,
00:23
where would you put your time
and your energy?
and your energy?
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onde poñeriades o voso tempo
e a vosa enerxía?
e a vosa enerxía?
00:27
There was a recent survey of millennials
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Unha enquisa recente
á xeración do milenio
á xeración do milenio
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asking them what their
most important life goals were,
most important life goals were,
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preguntoulles cales eran as metas
máis importantes na súa vida,
máis importantes na súa vida,
00:34
and over 80 percent said
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e máis do 80 % dixo
00:36
that a major life goal for them
was to get rich.
was to get rich.
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que unha meta importante
era facerse ricos.
era facerse ricos.
00:40
And another 50 percent
of those same young adults
of those same young adults
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E outro 50 % deses mesmos adultos novos
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said that another major life goal
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dixo que outra meta importante
00:47
was to become famous.
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era ser famosos.
00:50
(Laughter)
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(Risos)
00:52
And we're constantly told
to lean in to work, to push harder
to lean in to work, to push harder
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E dísenos constantemente
que traballemos máis, que nos esforcemos
que traballemos máis, que nos esforcemos
00:58
and achieve more.
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para acadar máis logros.
01:00
We're given the impression that these
are the things that we need to go after
are the things that we need to go after
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Dános a impresión de que
debemos perseguir estas cousas
debemos perseguir estas cousas
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in order to have a good life.
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para ter unha boa vida.
01:06
Pictures of entire lives,
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As imaxes de vidas enteiras,
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of the choices that people make
and how those choices work out for them,
and how those choices work out for them,
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das decisións que toma a xente,
e o resultado desas decisións
e o resultado desas decisións
01:13
those pictures
are almost impossible to get.
are almost impossible to get.
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son case imposibles de obter.
01:18
Most of what we know about human life
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Gran parte do que sabemos da vida
01:21
we know from asking people
to remember the past,
to remember the past,
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sabémolo pedíndolle á xente
que lembre o seu pasado.
que lembre o seu pasado.
01:24
and as we know, hindsight
is anything but 20/20.
is anything but 20/20.
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E, como sabemos, a retrospectiva
é todo menos rigorosa.
é todo menos rigorosa.
01:29
We forget vast amounts
of what happens to us in life,
of what happens to us in life,
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Esquecemos grandes fragmentos
do que nos ocorre na vida,
do que nos ocorre na vida,
01:33
and sometimes memory
is downright creative.
is downright creative.
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e, ás veces, a memoria
é francamente creativa.
é francamente creativa.
01:36
But what if we could watch entire lives
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Pero, e se puidésemos ver vidas enteiras
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as they unfold through time?
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conforme se desenvolven no tempo?
01:44
What if we could study people
from the time that they were teenagers
from the time that they were teenagers
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E se puidésemos estudar as persoas
desde a adolescencia
desde a adolescencia
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all the way into old age
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ata a vellez
01:50
to see what really keeps people
happy and healthy?
happy and healthy?
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para ver que mantén a xente
feliz e saudable?
feliz e saudable?
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We did that.
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Fixémolo.
01:57
The Harvard Study of Adult Development
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O Estudo de Desenvolvemento
Adulto de Harvard
Adulto de Harvard
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may be the longest study
of adult life that's ever been done.
of adult life that's ever been done.
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pode que sexa o estudo máis longo
sobre a vida adulta na historia.
sobre a vida adulta na historia.
02:05
For 75 years, we've tracked
the lives of 724 men,
the lives of 724 men,
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Durante 75 anos, rastrexamos
a vida de 724 homes,
a vida de 724 homes,
02:13
year after year, asking about their work,
their home lives, their health,
their home lives, their health,
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ano tras ano, preguntámoslles sobre
o seu traballo, a vida doméstica, a saúde,
o seu traballo, a vida doméstica, a saúde,
02:17
and of course asking all along the way
without knowing how their life stories
without knowing how their life stories
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e, claro, preguntando
todo ese tempo sen saber
todo ese tempo sen saber
como resultarían
as súas historias de vida.
as súas historias de vida.
02:22
were going to turn out.
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02:25
Studies like this are exceedingly rare.
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Estudos coma este son moi raros.
02:28
Almost all projects of this kind
fall apart within a decade
fall apart within a decade
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Case todos os proxectos deste tipo
véñense abaixo nunha década
véñense abaixo nunha década
02:33
because too many people
drop out of the study,
drop out of the study,
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porque moitas persoas abandonan o estudo
02:36
or funding for the research dries up,
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ou os fondos da investigación rematan
02:39
or the researchers get distracted,
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ou os investigadores perden o interese
02:41
or they die, and nobody moves the ball
further down the field.
further down the field.
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ou morren, e ninguén continúa
a investigación.
a investigación.
02:46
But through a combination of luck
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Pero, grazas a unha combinación de sorte
02:48
and the persistence
of several generations of researchers,
of several generations of researchers,
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e á perseveranza de varias
xeracións de investigadores,
xeracións de investigadores,
02:52
this study has survived.
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este estudo sobreviviu.
02:54
About 60 of our original 724 men
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Uns 60 dos 724 homes orixinais
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are still alive,
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aínda están vivos,
03:00
still participating in the study,
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e aínda participan no estudo,
03:02
most of them in their 90s.
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a maioría deles andan polos 90 anos.
03:05
And we are now beginning to study
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E agora imos comezar a estudar
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the more than 2,000 children of these men.
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máis de 2000 fillos deses homes.
03:11
And I'm the fourth director of the study.
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E eu son o cuarto director do estudo.
03:15
Since 1938, we've tracked the lives
of two groups of men.
of two groups of men.
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Desde 1938, rastrexamos as vidas
de dous grupos de homes.
de dous grupos de homes.
03:20
The first group started in the study
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O primeiro grupo comezou no estudo
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when they were sophomores
at Harvard College.
at Harvard College.
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sendo alumnos de segundo ano
na Universidade de Harvard.
na Universidade de Harvard.
03:25
They all finished college
during World War II,
during World War II,
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Todos remataron a universidade
durante a II Guerra Mundial
durante a II Guerra Mundial
03:27
and then most went off
to serve in the war.
to serve in the war.
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e, despois, a maioría
participou na Guerra.
participou na Guerra.
03:31
And the second group that we've followed
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O segundo grupo que seguimos
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was a group of boys
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
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foi un grupo de rapaces
dos barrios máis pobres de Boston,
dos barrios máis pobres de Boston,
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boys who were chosen for the study
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rapaces que se elixiron para o estudo
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specifically because they were
from some of the most troubled
from some of the most troubled
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especificamente porque proviñan
dalgunhas das familias
dalgunhas das familias
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and disadvantaged families
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máis problemáticas e desfavorecidas
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in the Boston of the 1930s.
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do Boston dos anos 30.
03:47
Most lived in tenements,
many without hot and cold running water.
many without hot and cold running water.
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A maioría vivía en barracas,
moitos sen auga corrente.
moitos sen auga corrente.
03:54
When they entered the study,
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Cando comezaron o estudo,
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all of these teenagers were interviewed.
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todos estes adolescentes
foron entrevistados.
foron entrevistados.
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They were given medical exams.
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Fixéronlles exames médicos.
04:01
We went to their homes
and we interviewed their parents.
and we interviewed their parents.
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Fomos ás súas casas
e entrevistamos os seus pais.
e entrevistamos os seus pais.
04:05
And then these teenagers
grew up into adults
grew up into adults
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Despois estes adolescentes
chegaron a ser adultos
chegaron a ser adultos
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who entered all walks of life.
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que seguiron camiños diversos na vida.
04:10
They became factory workers and lawyers
and bricklayers and doctors,
and bricklayers and doctors,
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Foron operarios de fábrica,
avogados, albaneis, médicos,
avogados, albaneis, médicos,
04:16
one President of the United States.
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un foi presidente de EE.UU.
04:20
Some developed alcoholism.
A few developed schizophrenia.
A few developed schizophrenia.
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Algúns sufriron alcoholismo.
Outros poucos sufriron esquizofrenia.
Outros poucos sufriron esquizofrenia.
04:25
Some climbed the social ladder
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Algúns subiron na escala social
04:27
from the bottom
all the way to the very top,
all the way to the very top,
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desde a base ata o cumio,
04:30
and some made that journey
in the opposite direction.
in the opposite direction.
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e outros foron en sentido contrario.
04:35
The founders of this study
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Os fundadores deste estudo
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would never in their wildest dreams
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nin nas súas fantasías máis tolas
04:40
have imagined that I would be
standing here today, 75 years later,
standing here today, 75 years later,
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imaxinarían que eu estaría hoxe aquí,
75 anos despois,
75 anos despois,
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telling you that
the study still continues.
the study still continues.
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contándovos que o estudo continúa.
04:49
Every two years, our patient
and dedicated research staff
and dedicated research staff
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Cada dous anos, o noso entregado
e paciente persoal de investigación
e paciente persoal de investigación
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calls up our men
and asks them if we can send them
and asks them if we can send them
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chama estes homes e pregúntalles
se podemos enviarlles
se podemos enviarlles
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yet one more set of questions
about their lives.
about their lives.
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outra serie de preguntas
sobre as súas vidas.
sobre as súas vidas.
05:00
Many of the inner city Boston men ask us,
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Moitos dos homes de Boston
pregúntannos:
pregúntannos:
05:03
"Why do you keep wanting to study me?
My life just isn't that interesting."
My life just isn't that interesting."
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"Por que queren seguir estudándome?
A miña vida xa non é interesante."
A miña vida xa non é interesante."
05:08
The Harvard men never ask that question.
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Os homes de Harvard
nunca fan esta pregunta.
nunca fan esta pregunta.
05:11
(Laughter)
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(Risos)
05:20
To get the clearest picture
of these lives,
of these lives,
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Para obter a imaxe máis clara
destas vidas,
destas vidas,
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we don't just send them questionnaires.
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non só lles enviamos cuestionarios.
05:26
We interview them in their living rooms.
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Entrevistámolos nos seus salóns.
05:29
We get their medical records
from their doctors.
from their doctors.
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Conseguimos as súas historias clínicas.
05:32
We draw their blood, we scan their brains,
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Extraémoslles sangue,
escaneamos os seus cerebros,
escaneamos os seus cerebros,
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we talk to their children.
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falamos cos seus fillos.
05:36
We videotape them talking with their wives
about their deepest concerns.
about their deepest concerns.
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Gravamos as conversas coas súas esposas
sobre as súas preocupacións.
sobre as súas preocupacións.
05:41
And when, about a decade ago,
we finally asked the wives
we finally asked the wives
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E cando, hai unha década,
lles preguntamos ás esposas
lles preguntamos ás esposas
05:45
if they would join us
as members of the study,
as members of the study,
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se querían sumarse como membros do estudo,
05:47
many of the women said,
"You know, it's about time."
"You know, it's about time."
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moitas mulleres dixeron:
"Vaia, xa era hora".
"Vaia, xa era hora".
05:50
(Laughter)
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(Risos)
05:51
So what have we learned?
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Que aprendemos?
05:53
What are the lessons that come
from the tens of thousands of pages
from the tens of thousands of pages
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Que leccións xorden
das decenas de miles de páxinas
das decenas de miles de páxinas
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of information that we've generated
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de información que xeramos
06:01
on these lives?
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sobre estas vidas?
06:03
Well, the lessons aren't about wealth
or fame or working harder and harder.
or fame or working harder and harder.
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Ben, as leccións non teñen que ver
con riqueza, fama nin con traballar moito.
con riqueza, fama nin con traballar moito.
06:10
The clearest message that we get
from this 75-year study is this:
from this 75-year study is this:
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A mensaxe máis clara destes 75
anos de estudo é esta:
anos de estudo é esta:
06:16
Good relationships keep us
happier and healthier. Period.
happier and healthier. Period.
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As boas relacións fannos
máis felices e saudables. Punto.
máis felices e saudables. Punto.
06:23
We've learned three big lessons
about relationships.
about relationships.
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Aprendemos tres cousas sobre as relacións.
06:26
The first is that social connections
are really good for us,
are really good for us,
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A primeira é que
as conexións sociais fannos ben,
as conexións sociais fannos ben,
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and that loneliness kills.
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e que a soidade mata.
06:33
It turns out that people
who are more socially connected
who are more socially connected
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Resulta que as persoas
con máis vínculos sociais
con máis vínculos sociais
06:37
to family, to friends, to community,
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coa familia, os amigos, a comunidade,
06:40
are happier, they're physically healthier,
and they live longer
and they live longer
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son máis felices, máis sas e viven máis
06:45
than people who are less well connected.
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que as persoas que teñen menos vínculos.
06:48
And the experience of loneliness
turns out to be toxic.
turns out to be toxic.
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E experimentar soidade resulta ser tóxico.
06:51
People who are more isolated
than they want to be from others
than they want to be from others
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As persoas que están máis illadas
do que quererían doutras persoas
do que quererían doutras persoas
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find that they are less happy,
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atópanse menos felices,
07:00
their health declines earlier in midlife,
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a súa saúde empeora antes
na mediana idade,
na mediana idade,
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their brain functioning declines sooner
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as súas funcións cerebrais
decaen máis axiña
decaen máis axiña
07:05
and they live shorter lives
than people who are not lonely.
than people who are not lonely.
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e viven menos que as persoas
que non están soas.
que non están soas.
07:10
And the sad fact
is that at any given time,
is that at any given time,
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E o triste é que, en calquera momento,
07:13
more than one in five Americans
will report that they're lonely.
will report that they're lonely.
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máis dun de cada cinco estadounidenses
informarán de que están sós.
informarán de que están sós.
07:19
And we know that you
can be lonely in a crowd
can be lonely in a crowd
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E sabemos que podemos estar
sós na multitude
sós na multitude
07:21
and you can be lonely in a marriage,
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e podemos estar sós nun matrimonio,
07:24
so the second big lesson that we learned
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por iso a segunda gran lección
que aprendemos
que aprendemos
07:26
is that it's not just
the number of friends you have,
the number of friends you have,
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é que non ten que ver
coa cantidade de amigos que temos,
coa cantidade de amigos que temos,
07:29
and it's not whether or not
you're in a committed relationship,
you're in a committed relationship,
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tampouco con que esteamos nunha relación,
07:33
but it's the quality
of your close relationships that matters.
of your close relationships that matters.
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o que importa é a calidade
das relacións máis próximas.
das relacións máis próximas.
07:38
It turns out that living in the midst
of conflict is really bad for our health.
of conflict is really bad for our health.
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Resulta que vivir no medio de conflitos
é moi malo para a saúde.
é moi malo para a saúde.
07:43
High-conflict marriages, for example,
without much affection,
without much affection,
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Os matrimonios moi conflitivos,
por exemplo, sen moito afecto,
por exemplo, sen moito afecto,
07:47
turn out to be very bad for our health,
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
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resultan ser moi malos para a saúde,
quizais peores que o divorcio.
quizais peores que o divorcio.
07:53
And living in the midst of good,
warm relationships is protective.
warm relationships is protective.
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E vivir en medio de relacións boas
e cálidas protéxenos.
e cálidas protéxenos.
07:57
Once we had followed our men
all the way into their 80s,
all the way into their 80s,
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Cando os nosos homes
chegaron aos oitenta e tantos,
chegaron aos oitenta e tantos,
08:01
we wanted to look back at them at midlife
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quixemos analizar
como foi a súa mediana idade
como foi a súa mediana idade
08:04
and to see if we could predict
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para ver se podiamos predicir
08:05
who was going to grow
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
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quen se convertería
nun octoxenario feliz e saudable
nun octoxenario feliz e saudable
08:09
and who wasn't.
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e quen non.
08:11
And when we gathered together
everything we knew about them
everything we knew about them
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E cando recollemos
todo o que non sabiamos deles
todo o que non sabiamos deles
08:15
at age 50,
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aos seus 50 anos,
08:18
it wasn't their middle age
cholesterol levels
cholesterol levels
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non foron os niveis de colesterol
da mediana idade
da mediana idade
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that predicted how they
were going to grow old.
were going to grow old.
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os que predixeron como envellecerían.
08:23
It was how satisfied they were
in their relationships.
in their relationships.
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Foi o grao de satisfacción
que tiñan nas súas relacións.
que tiñan nas súas relacións.
08:27
The people who were the most satisfied
in their relationships at age 50
in their relationships at age 50
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As persoas máis satisfeitas
coas súas relacións aos 50 anos
coas súas relacións aos 50 anos
08:31
were the healthiest at age 80.
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foron as máis saudables aos 80 anos.
08:35
And good, close relationships
seem to buffer us
seem to buffer us
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E as boas relacións próximas
parecen suavizar
parecen suavizar
08:38
from some of the slings and arrows
of getting old.
of getting old.
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algúns dos achaques da vellez.
08:42
Our most happily partnered men and women
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Os nosos homes e mulleres
en parella máis felices
en parella máis felices
08:46
reported, in their 80s,
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informaron, aos seus oitenta e tantos,
08:48
that on the days
when they had more physical pain,
when they had more physical pain,
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de que cando sentían máis dor física
08:51
their mood stayed just as happy.
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seguían sendo igual de felices.
08:54
But the people who were
in unhappy relationships,
in unhappy relationships,
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Pero as persoas que estaban
en relacións infelices,
en relacións infelices,
08:57
on the days when they
reported more physical pain,
reported more physical pain,
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nos días que informaban
de teren máis dor física,
de teren máis dor física,
09:00
it was magnified by more emotional pain.
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esta magnificábase
pola dor emocional.
pola dor emocional.
09:04
And the third big lesson that we learned
about relationships and our health
about relationships and our health
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E a terceira gran lección que aprendemos
sobre as relacións e a saúde
sobre as relacións e a saúde
09:08
is that good relationships
don't just protect our bodies,
don't just protect our bodies,
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é que as boas relacións
non só protexen o corpo,
non só protexen o corpo,
09:12
they protect our brains.
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senón tamén o cerebro.
09:14
It turns out that being
in a securely attached relationship
in a securely attached relationship
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Resulta que ter
unha relación segura de apego
unha relación segura de apego
09:19
to another person in your 80s
is protective,
is protective,
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con outra persoa
aos 80 e tantos dá protección,
aos 80 e tantos dá protección,
09:23
that the people who are in relationships
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que as persoas que teñen relacións
09:25
where they really feel they can count
on the other person in times of need,
on the other person in times of need,
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en que senten que poden contar
coa outra persoa se o precisan,
coa outra persoa se o precisan,
09:29
those people's memories
stay sharper longer.
stay sharper longer.
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teñen lembranzas máis nítidas
que permanecen máis tempo.
que permanecen máis tempo.
09:32
And the people in relationships
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E as persoas que teñen relacións
09:34
where they feel they really
can't count on the other one,
can't count on the other one,
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en que senten que non poden contar
coa outra persoa,
coa outra persoa,
09:37
those are the people who experience
earlier memory decline.
earlier memory decline.
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son persoas que perden antes a memoria.
09:42
And those good relationships,
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
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Pero as boas relacións poden
non ser harmoniosas todo o tempo.
non ser harmoniosas todo o tempo.
09:46
Some of our octogenarian couples
could bicker with each other
could bicker with each other
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Algunhas das nosas parellas
octoxenarias podían pelexar
octoxenarias podían pelexar
09:49
day in and day out,
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de cando en vez,
09:51
but as long as they felt that they
could really count on the other
could really count on the other
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pero mentres sentisen
que podían contar co outro
que podían contar co outro
09:54
when the going got tough,
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cando as cousas ían mal
09:56
those arguments didn't take a toll
on their memories.
on their memories.
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esas pelexas non tiñan repercusións
nas lembranzas.
nas lembranzas.
10:01
So this message,
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Pero esta mensaxe,
10:04
that good, close relationships
are good for our health and well-being,
are good for our health and well-being,
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de que as relacións boas e estreitas
son boas para a saúde e o benestar,
son boas para a saúde e o benestar,
10:10
this is wisdom that's as old as the hills.
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é unha sabedoría vella coma o tempo.
10:13
Why is this so hard to get
and so easy to ignore?
and so easy to ignore?
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Por que é tan difícil de entender
e tan fácil de ignorar?
e tan fácil de ignorar?
10:17
Well, we're human.
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Ben, somos humanos.
10:19
What we'd really like is a quick fix,
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O que nos gustaría sería un apaño rápido,
10:21
something we can get
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algo que poidamos facer
10:23
that'll make our lives good
and keep them that way.
and keep them that way.
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que nos mellore a vida e a manteña así.
10:27
Relationships are messy
and they're complicated
and they're complicated
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As relacións son unha lea,
son complicadas,
son complicadas,
10:30
and the hard work of tending
to family and friends,
to family and friends,
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e coidar a familia e as amizades
10:34
it's not sexy or glamorous.
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non é atractivo nin glamuroso.
10:37
It's also lifelong. It never ends.
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Dura toda a vida. Nunca remata.
10:40
The people in our 75-year study
who were the happiest in retirement
who were the happiest in retirement
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No noso estudo de 75 anos as persoas
máis felices na xubilación foron
máis felices na xubilación foron
10:45
were the people who had actively worked
to replace workmates with new playmates.
to replace workmates with new playmates.
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as que fixeron por substituír compañeiros
de traballo por novos compañeiros de xogo.
de traballo por novos compañeiros de xogo.
10:51
Just like the millennials
in that recent survey,
in that recent survey,
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Como os da xeración do milenio,
naquela enquisa recente,
naquela enquisa recente,
10:54
many of our men when they
were starting out as young adults
were starting out as young adults
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moitos dos nosos homes
cando eran adultos novos
cando eran adultos novos
10:58
really believed that fame and wealth
and high achievement
and high achievement
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pensaban que a fama, a riqueza e os logros
11:02
were what they needed to go after
to have a good life.
to have a good life.
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eran o que precisaban acadar
para ter unha boa vida.
para ter unha boa vida.
11:06
But over and over, over these 75 years,
our study has shown
our study has shown
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Pero unha e outra vez, nestes 75 anos,
o estudo amosou
o estudo amosou
11:10
that the people who fared the best were
the people who leaned in to relationships,
the people who leaned in to relationships,
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que a xente á que lle foi mellor
foi aquela que se apoiou nas relacións,
foi aquela que se apoiou nas relacións,
11:16
with family, with friends, with community.
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coa familia, con amizades, coa comunidade.
11:21
So what about you?
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Que hai de vós?
11:23
Let's say you're 25,
or you're 40, or you're 60.
or you're 40, or you're 60.
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Digamos que tedes 25 ou 40 ou 60 anos.
11:27
What might leaning in
to relationships even look like?
to relationships even look like?
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Que implica entregarse ás relacións?
11:31
Well, the possibilities
are practically endless.
are practically endless.
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Ben, as posibilidades son ilimitadas.
11:35
It might be something as simple
as replacing screen time with people time
as replacing screen time with people time
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Podería ser tan simple como pasar
máis tempo con persoas que con pantallas
máis tempo con persoas que con pantallas
11:41
or livening up a stale relationship
by doing something new together,
by doing something new together,
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ou renovar unha relación esgotada
facendo algo novo xuntos,
facendo algo novo xuntos,
11:46
long walks or date nights,
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camiñadas longas ou citas nocturnas,
11:49
or reaching out to that family member
who you haven't spoken to in years,
who you haven't spoken to in years,
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ou achegarse a ese familiar
que non vimos en anos,
que non vimos en anos,
11:54
because those all-too-common family feuds
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porque esas liortas familiares tan comúns
11:57
take a terrible toll
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teñen repercusións terribles
12:00
on the people who hold the grudges.
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nas persoas que gardan rancores.
12:04
I'd like to close with a quote
from Mark Twain.
from Mark Twain.
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Gustaríame rematar
cunha cita de Mark Twain.
cunha cita de Mark Twain.
12:09
More than a century ago,
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Hai máis dun século,
12:11
he was looking back on his life,
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el estaba mirando cara a atrás a súa vida,
12:14
and he wrote this:
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e escribiu isto:
12:16
"There isn't time, so brief is life,
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"Non hai tempo, tan breve é a vida,
12:20
for bickerings, apologies,
heartburnings, callings to account.
heartburnings, callings to account.
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para liortas, desculpas,
xenreiras, peticións de contas.
xenreiras, peticións de contas.
12:26
There is only time for loving,
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Só hai tempo para amar,
12:29
and but an instant,
so to speak, for that."
so to speak, for that."
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e, mesmo para iso, só hai un instante."
12:34
The good life is built
with good relationships.
with good relationships.
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A boa vida constrúese con boas relacións.
12:39
Thank you.
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Grazas.
12:40
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Robert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priestRobert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history.
Why you should listen
Robert Waldinger is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and Zen priest. He is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and directs the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of adult life ever done. The Study tracked the lives of two groups of men for over 75 years, and it now follows their Baby Boomer children to understand how childhood experience reaches across decades to affect health and wellbeing in middle age. He writes about what science and Zen can teach us about healthy human development.
Dr. Waldinger is the author of numerous scientific papers as well as two books. He teaches medical students and psychiatry residents at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, and he is a Senior Dharma Teacher in Boundless Way Zen.
To keep abreast of research findings, insights and more, visit robertwaldinger.com.
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