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Anjali Kumar: My failed mission to find God -- and what I found instead
安加莉庫瑪: 我沒找到神，但卻找到了其他的東西
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安加莉庫瑪去尋找神，最後卻發現了完全不同的東西。這場振奮人心且有趣的演說，主題是關於我們共同的人性。庫瑪帶我們走上一段靈性朝聖之旅，去見在紐約的女巫、秘魯的黃教僧、巴西的聲名狼藉「療癒者」等等，並分享重要的一課：將我們結合在一起的東西，遠比分裂我們的東西更強大，而且我們的差異並不是不能克服的。
Anjali Kumar - General counsel, author, "idea acupuncturist"
Anjali Kumar is a Brooklyn-born, first-generation Indian American author, attorney, advisor, speaker and “idea acupuncturist.” Full bio
Anjali Kumar is a Brooklyn-born, first-generation Indian American author, attorney, advisor, speaker and “idea acupuncturist.” Full bio
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A few years ago,
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幾年前，
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I set out on a mission to find God.
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我展開了一項尋找神的任務。
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Now, I'm going to tell you
right up front that I failed,
right up front that I failed,
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我先告訴各位，我失敗了，
身為律師，
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which, as a lawyer,
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is a really hard thing for me to admit.
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我真的很難承認這件事。
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But on that failed journey,
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但，在那趟失敗的旅程中，
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a lot of what I found was enlightening.
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許多發現都相當有啟發性。
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And one thing in particular
gave me a lot of hope.
gave me a lot of hope.
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其中特別有一項，
給了我許多希望。
給了我許多希望。
00:34
It has to do with the magnitude
and significance of our differences.
and significance of our differences.
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它和我們的差異的大小
以及重要性有關。
以及重要性有關。
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So, I was raised in America
by Indian parents -- culturally Hindu,
by Indian parents -- culturally Hindu,
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我在美國長大，父母是
印度人——文化上是印度，
印度人——文化上是印度，
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but practicing a strict and relatively
unknown religion outside of India
unknown religion outside of India
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但他們信仰的是在印度外的宗教，
嚴格且相對不太為人所知，
嚴格且相對不太為人所知，
00:47
called Jainism.
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叫做耆那教。
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To give you an idea
of just how minority that makes me:
of just how minority that makes me:
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讓各位知道一下這種宗教
讓我變成多麼少數：
讓我變成多麼少數：
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people from India represent
roughly one percent of the US population;
roughly one percent of the US population;
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美國人口中，約有 1% 來自印度；
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Hindus, about 0.7 percent;
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印度人大約是 0.7%；
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Jains, at most .00046 percent.
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耆那教徒，最多 0.00046%。
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To put that in context:
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用情境來比喻：
01:09
more people visit the Vermont
Teddy Bear Factory each year
Teddy Bear Factory each year
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每年造訪佛蒙特州泰迪熊工廠的人數
01:12
than are followers
of the Jain religion in America.
of the Jain religion in America.
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都比美國的耆那教徒還多。
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To add to my minority mix,
my parents then decided,
my parents then decided,
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我的少數狀況又再上一層樓，
因為我父母決定：
因為我父母決定：
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"What a great idea!
Let's send her to Catholic school" --
Let's send her to Catholic school" --
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「好棒的點子！咱們送她
去讀天主教學校。」——
去讀天主教學校。」——
01:21
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
01:22
where my sister and I
were the only non-white,
were the only non-white,
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全校只有我和我妹妹是
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non-Catholic students
in the entire school.
in the entire school.
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非白人、非天主教的學生。
01:27
At the Infant Jesus of Prague School
in Flossmoor, Illinois --
in Flossmoor, Illinois --
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在伊利諾州佛羅斯的
布拉格聖嬰耶穌學校——
布拉格聖嬰耶穌學校——
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yes, that's really what it was called --
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是的，校名真的就是這樣——
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we were taught to believe
that there is a single Supreme Being
that there is a single Supreme Being
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我們被教導要相信
有唯一的至高神存在，
有唯一的至高神存在，
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who is responsible for everything,
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祂要對一切負責，
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the whole shebang,
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所有的狀況，
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from the creation of the Universe
to moral shepherding to eternal life.
to moral shepherding to eternal life.
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從創造宇宙，到道德指引，
到永生，都歸祂管。
到永生，都歸祂管。
01:46
But at home,
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但在家裡，
01:47
I was being taught something
entirely different.
entirely different.
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我被教導的又完全不同了。
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Followers of the Jain religion
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耆那教的追隨者
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don't believe in a single Supreme Being
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不相信單一的至高神，
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or even a team of Supreme Beings.
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甚至不相信一組至高神。
反之，我們被教導的是，
01:56
Instead, we're taught that God manifests
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我們每個人身上的完美，
就是神現形的方式，
就是神現形的方式，
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as the perfection of each of us
as individuals,
as individuals,
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02:01
and that we're actually
spending our entire lives
spending our entire lives
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我們其實窮盡我們的一生，
02:04
striving to remove the bad karmas
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努力消除不好的「業」，
02:06
that stand in the way of us
becoming our own godlike, perfect selves.
becoming our own godlike, perfect selves.
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因為它阻擋我們，不讓我們
成為那個如神般的完美自己。
成為那個如神般的完美自己。
02:11
On top of that, one of the core
principles of Jainism
principles of Jainism
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最重要的是，耆那教的核心原則之一
02:14
is something called "non-absolutism."
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是所謂的「非絕對主義」。
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Non-absolutists believe
that no single person
that no single person
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非絕對主義者認為，沒有一個人
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can hold ownership or knowledge
of absolute truth,
of absolute truth,
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能夠持有絕對真相的所有權或知識，
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even when it comes to religious beliefs.
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即使在宗教信仰上也一樣。
若想在你的天主教學校中
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Good luck testing that concept out
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對神父和修女完整測試
那個概念，祝你好運。
那個概念，祝你好運。
02:30
on the priests and nuns
in your Catholic school.
in your Catholic school.
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02:32
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
02:33
No wonder I was confused
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難怪我當時會困惑，
02:35
and hyperaware of how different
I was from my peers.
I was from my peers.
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且非常能意識到我和
我的同儕有多麼不同。
我的同儕有多麼不同。
02:39
Cut to 20-something years later,
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跳到二十多年後，
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and I found myself to be
a highly spiritual person,
a highly spiritual person,
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我發現我自己是個高度靈性的人，
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but I was floundering.
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但我在掙扎。
02:46
I was spiritually homeless.
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在精神世界中，我無家可歸。
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I came to learn that I was a "None,"
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我漸漸了解，我是一個
「無信仰者（none）」，
「無信仰者（none）」，
02:51
which isn't an acronym
or a clever play on words,
or a clever play on words,
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它不是字首縮寫或是
在文字上賣弄小聰明，
在文字上賣弄小聰明，
02:54
nor is it one of these.
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也不是這些之一。
(註：修女 nun，英語發音近似)
(註：修女 nun，英語發音近似)
02:57
It's simply the painfully uninspired name
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它很單純，就是一個
痛苦且沒激情的名字，
痛苦且沒激情的名字，
03:00
given to everyone
who checks off the box "none"
who checks off the box "none"
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給予那些被皮尤研究中心
（註：美國一民調和智庫機構）
（註：美國一民調和智庫機構）
問到宗教信仰時，勾選「無」的人。
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when Pew Research asks them
about their religious affiliation.
about their religious affiliation.
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03:07
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
03:08
Now, a couple of interesting
things about Nones are:
things about Nones are:
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關於無信仰者，有一些有趣的事：
03:11
there are a lot of us,
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我們人數很多，
03:12
and we skew young.
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我們偏年輕。
03:14
In 2014, there were over 56 million
religiously unaffiliated Nones
religiously unaffiliated Nones
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2014 年，有 5600 萬人
沒有宗教信仰，
沒有宗教信仰，
這是美國的數據。
03:21
in the United States.
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And Nones account
for over one-third of adults
for over one-third of adults
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18 至 33 歲的成年人中
有三分之一以上是無信仰者。
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between the ages of 18 to 33.
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03:30
But the most interesting thing
to me about Nones
to me about Nones
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但，關於無信仰者
我覺得最有趣的是，
我覺得最有趣的是，
03:33
is that we're often spiritual.
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我們通常都是靈性的人。
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In fact, 68 percent of us believe,
with some degree of certainty,
with some degree of certainty,
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事實上，我們當中
有 68% 的人相信
有 68% 的人相信
在某種程度上必然有神存在。
03:40
that there is a God.
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我們只是不確定祂是誰。
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We're just not sure who it is.
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（笑聲）
03:42
(Laughter)
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03:45
So the first takeaway for me
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當我了解到我是個無信仰者，
03:47
when I realized I was a None
and had found that information out
and had found that information out
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且找出了那些資訊之後，
我學到的第一件事是，
我學到的第一件事是，
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was that I wasn't alone.
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我並不孤單。
03:54
I was finally part of a group in America
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終於，在美國，我隸屬一個
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that had a lot of members,
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人數眾多的團體了，
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which felt really reassuring.
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這感覺挺令人寬慰的。
03:59
But then the second,
not-so-reassuring takeaway
not-so-reassuring takeaway
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但我學到的第二件事
就不那麼令人寬慰了，
就不那麼令人寬慰了，
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was that, oh, man, there are a lot of us.
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那就是，喔，天，我們人數好多啊。
04:04
That can't be good,
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那不可能是好事，
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because if a lot of highly spiritual
people are currently godless,
people are currently godless,
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因為，如果目前有很多
高度靈性的人不信仰神，
高度靈性的人不信仰神，
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maybe finding God is not going to be
as easy as I had originally hoped.
as easy as I had originally hoped.
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那麼，也許找到神並沒有
我原本希望的那麼容易。
我原本希望的那麼容易。
04:13
So that is when I decided
that on my spiritual journey,
that on my spiritual journey,
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那時，我下定決心，
在我的靈性之旅中，
在我的靈性之旅中，
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I was going to avoid the obvious places
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我要避開明顯的地方，
04:19
and skip the big-box religions altogether
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且略過所有的大型宗教，
04:21
and instead venture out
into the spiritual fringe
into the spiritual fringe
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取而代之，我要冒險
進入靈性的邊緣，
進入靈性的邊緣，
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of mediums
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去探索靈媒、
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and faith healers
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信念治癒者
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and godmen.
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及神人。
04:30
But remember, I'm a non-absolutist,
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但，切記，我是個非絕對主義者，
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which means I was pretty inclined
to keep a fairly open mind,
to keep a fairly open mind,
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這表示我很傾向保持很開放的心胸，
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which turned out to be a good thing,
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結果發現，這是件好事，
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because I went to a witch's potluck dinner
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因為我去參加了女巫的攜菜聚餐，
（註：每人各自帶菜共享）
（註：每人各自帶菜共享）
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at the LGBT Center in New York City,
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位在紐約市的 LGBT 多元中心。
（註：同性戀、雙性戀和跨性別族群）
（註：同性戀、雙性戀和跨性別族群）
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where I befriended two witches;
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我和兩位女巫交了朋友；
04:47
drank a five-gallon jerrican
full of volcanic water
full of volcanic water
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喝了滿滿五加崙汽油桶的火山水，
和秘魯的黃教僧一起喝；
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with a shaman in Peru;
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got a hug from a saint
in the convention center --
in the convention center --
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在會議中心得到聖人的一個擁抱，
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she smelled really nice --
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她真的很好聞；
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(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
04:59
chanted for hours in a smoke-filled,
heat-infused sweat lodge
heat-infused sweat lodge
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在滿是煙且很熱的印第安
蒸汽浴室中吟誦了數小時，
蒸汽浴室中吟誦了數小時，
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on the beaches of Mexico;
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位在墨西哥的海灘上；
05:05
worked with a tequila-drinking medium
to convene with the dead,
to convene with the dead,
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和喝龍舌蘭酒的靈某一起召喚亡者，
05:09
who oddly included both
my deceased mother-in-law
my deceased mother-in-law
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奇特的是她納入的人
同時有我已故的岳母
同時有我已故的岳母
05:12
and the deceased manager
of the hip-hop group The Roots.
of the hip-hop group The Roots.
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以及嬉哈扎根樂團
（The Roots）的已故經理。
（The Roots）的已故經理。
05:15
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
05:16
Yeah, my mother-in-law told me
she was really happy
she was really happy
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是的，我的岳母告訴我，
她非常高興
她非常高興
05:19
her son had chosen me for his wife.
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她兒子選擇和我結婚。
05:21
Duh! But --
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那還用說！但
05:22
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
05:24
Yeah.
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是啊。
05:26
But the manager of The Roots
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但扎根樂團的經理
05:28
said that maybe I should cut back
on all the pasta I was eating.
on all the pasta I was eating.
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說我也許應該要把
我在吃的義大利麵減量。
我在吃的義大利麵減量。
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I think we can all agree
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我想，我們都認同
05:33
that it was lucky for my husband
that it wasn't his dead mother
that it wasn't his dead mother
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我先生很幸運，不是他的已故母親
建議我停止吃碳水化合物。
05:36
who suggested I lay off carbs.
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05:37
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
05:38
I also joined a laughing yoga group
out of South Africa;
out of South Africa;
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我也加入了一個
來自非洲的笑瑜伽團體；
來自非洲的笑瑜伽團體；
我目擊了一位女子，
高潮長達四十五分鐘——
高潮長達四十五分鐘——
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witnessed a woman have
a 45-minute orgasm --
a 45-minute orgasm --
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05:47
I am not making this up --
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不是我編造的——
05:48
as she tapped into
the energy of the universe --
the energy of the universe --
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當時她是在利用宇宙的能量——
05:51
I think I'm going to go back there --
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我想我要再回去那裡——
05:53
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
05:57
called God from a phone booth
in the Nevada desert at Burning Man,
in the Nevada desert at Burning Man,
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在內華達州的燃燒人節慶上
從一間電話亭打電話給神，
從一間電話亭打電話給神，
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wearing a unitard and ski goggles;
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穿著彈力緊身衣和滑雪護目鏡；
06:04
and I had an old Indian guy
lie on top of me,
lie on top of me,
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我還讓一位老印度人躺在我上面，
06:08
and no, he wasn't my husband.
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不，他不是我老公。
06:10
This was a perfect stranger named Paramji,
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這位素未平生的陌生人叫帕拉姆先生，
06:12
and he was chanting into my chakras
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他在對著我的脈輪吟誦，
06:14
as he tapped into the energy forces
of the Universe to heal my "yoni,"
of the Universe to heal my "yoni,"
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同時他利用宇宙的能量
來治癒我的「yoni」，
來治癒我的「yoni」，
這個字是梵文，意思是「陰道」。
06:19
which is a Sanskrit word for "vagina."
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06:22
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
06:23
I was going to have a slide here,
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我本來要放一張投影片的，
06:25
but a few people suggested
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但有些人建議，
06:26
that a slide of my yoni
at TED -- even TEDWomen --
at TED -- even TEDWomen --
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在 TED 放我的 yoni 投影片，
就算在 TEDWomen，
就算在 TEDWomen，
不是個最好的主意。
06:31
not the best idea.
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（笑聲）
06:32
(Laughter)
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06:34
Very early in my quest,
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在追尋之旅的非常初期，
06:36
I also went to see the Brazilian
faith healer John of God
faith healer John of God
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我也去見了巴西的
信念治癒者，神的約翰，
信念治癒者，神的約翰，
06:39
at his compound down in Brazil.
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地點在巴西，他的院子中。
06:42
Now, John of God is considered
a full-trance medium,
a full-trance medium,
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神的約翰被認為是完全出神的靈媒，
06:45
which basically means
he can talk to dead people.
he can talk to dead people.
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基本上，這意味著他能和死人說話。
06:48
But in his case, he claims
to channel a very specific group
to channel a very specific group
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但在他的案例中，他聲稱
他溝通的是一個非常明確的族群：
他溝通的是一個非常明確的族群：
06:51
of dead saints and doctors
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死掉的聖人和醫生，
06:53
in order to heal
whatever's wrong with you.
whatever's wrong with you.
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目的是要治癒你的任何問題。
06:55
And although John of God does
not have a medical degree
not have a medical degree
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雖然神的約翰沒有醫學學位，
他甚至沒有高中畢業，
06:58
or even a high school diploma,
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07:01
he actually performs surgery --
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他會真的進行手術，
07:04
the real kind, with a scalpel,
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真正的手術，要用解剖刀的，
07:06
but no anesthesia.
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但不用麻醉。
07:08
Yeah, I don't know.
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是啊，我不知道。
07:10
He also offers invisible surgery,
where there is no cutting,
where there is no cutting,
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他也提供隱形手術，不會有切口，
07:13
and surrogate surgery,
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還有代理手術，
07:14
where he supposedly can treat somebody
who is thousands of miles away
who is thousands of miles away
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用這種手術，他可以
治療在數千英哩外的人，
治療在數千英哩外的人，
07:18
by performing a procedure on a loved one.
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只要把治療程序用在他愛的人身上。
07:21
Now, when you go to visit John of God,
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當你去造訪神的約翰時，
07:23
there are all kinds
of rules and regulations.
of rules and regulations.
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有各種規則和規定要遵守。
07:25
It's a whole complicated thing,
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那是非常複雜的，
07:27
but the bottom line is that
you can visit John of God
you can visit John of God
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但若能遵守，你最後
就能見到神的約翰，
就能見到神的約翰，
07:30
and present him with three things
that you would like fixed,
that you would like fixed,
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告訴他三樣你想要修好的事物，
07:33
and he will set the dead saints
and doctors to work on your behalf
and doctors to work on your behalf
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他會讓死掉的聖人和醫生來代表你
07:37
to get the job done.
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把事情搞定。
07:38
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
07:39
Now, before you snicker,
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在你竊笑之前，
07:41
consider
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先想想，
07:43
that, at least according to his website,
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至少，根據他的網站，
07:45
over eight million people --
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超過八百萬人——
07:47
including Oprah,
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包括歐普拉，
07:49
the Goddess of Daytime TV --
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白天電視節目的女神——
07:52
have gone to see John of God,
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都去見過神的約翰，
07:54
and I was pre-wired to keep an open mind.
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而我預先就採取了開放的心胸。
07:58
But to be honest, the whole thing for me
was kind of weird and inconclusive,
was kind of weird and inconclusive,
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但，老實說，對我而言，
這整件事挺詭異且沒有說服力，
這整件事挺詭異且沒有說服力，
08:01
and in the end, I flew home,
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最終，我飛回家，
08:03
even more confused
than I already started out.
than I already started out.
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比我一開始時還更困惑。
08:06
But that doesn't mean
I came home empty-handed.
I came home empty-handed.
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但那並不表示我兩手空空地回家。
08:10
In the weeks leading up
to my trip to Brazil,
to my trip to Brazil,
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在我為巴西之旅做準備的那幾週，
08:13
I mentioned my upcoming plans
to some friends
to some friends
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我向一些朋友提到我後續的計畫，
08:15
and to a couple of colleagues at Google,
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也對 Google 的幾個同事提到，
08:17
where I was a lawyer at the time.
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當時我在那裡當律師。
08:20
And I might have mentioned it
to a couple more people
to a couple more people
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我可能還有向一些其他人提到，
因為我很愛聊天，
08:22
because I'm chatty,
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包括我的鄰居、
08:23
including my neighbor,
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08:25
the guy who works at the local
coffee shop I go to each morning,
coffee shop I go to each morning,
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在我每天早上要去的
當地咖啡廳工作的一個人、
當地咖啡廳工作的一個人、
08:29
the checkout lady at Whole Foods
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全食超市結帳台的女員工，
08:31
and a stranger who sat
next to me on the subway.
next to me on the subway.
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以及在地鐵上坐
我旁邊的一個陌生人。
我旁邊的一個陌生人。
08:34
I told each of them where I was going
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我告訴這些人，我要去哪裡，
08:36
and why,
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以及為什麼去，
08:38
and I offered to carry three wishes
of theirs down to Brazil,
of theirs down to Brazil,
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我自願幫他們帶三個願望到巴西，
08:42
explaining that anyone going
to see John of God
to see John of God
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我解釋說，任何人
只要去見神的約翰，
只要去見神的約翰，
08:45
could act as a proxy for others
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就能夠當其他人的代理人，
08:47
and save them the trip.
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幫其他人省下一趟旅行。
08:49
And to my surprise, my in-box overflowed.
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我很意外，我的收件匣爆滿了。
08:53
Friends told friends who told friends,
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朋友告訴朋友，朋友再告訴朋友，
08:55
and those friends
apparently told more friends,
apparently told more friends,
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顯然那些朋友又再告訴更多朋友、
08:58
other strangers
and the guys at their coffee shops,
and the guys at their coffee shops,
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其他陌生人，及在咖啡廳的其他人，
09:00
until it seemed that days
before I left for Brazil
before I left for Brazil
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當我要前往巴西的前幾天，
已經傳到沒人不知道
我的電子郵件地址了。
我的電子郵件地址了。
09:02
that there was no one who did not
have my email address.
have my email address.
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09:06
And at the time, all I could conclude
was that I had offered too much
was that I had offered too much
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那時，我唯一的結論是，
我自願提供的協助太多，
我自願提供的協助太多，
且提供給太多人。
09:11
to too many.
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09:13
But when I actually reread
those messages a few years later,
those messages a few years later,
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但，幾年後，我重新讀了那些訊息，
09:18
I noticed something completely different.
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我注意到了完全不一樣的東西。
09:22
Those emails actually shared
three commonalities,
three commonalities,
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那些電子郵件其實有三項共通性，
09:26
the first of which was rather curious.
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第一項還蠻異常的。
09:29
Almost everyone sent me meticulous details
about how they could be reached.
about how they could be reached.
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幾乎每個人都寄給我太細節的資訊，
說明如何聯絡到他們。
說明如何聯絡到他們。
09:35
I had told them,
or their friends had told them,
or their friends had told them,
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我有告訴過他們，
或他們的朋友有告訴過他們，
或他們的朋友有告訴過他們，
09:38
that along with the list
of the three things they wanted fixed,
of the three things they wanted fixed,
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除了寫一張猜單列出三件
他們想要修補的事情之外，
他們想要修補的事情之外，
09:41
I needed their photo, their name
and their date of birth.
and their date of birth.
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我也需要他們的
照片、姓名，以及生日。
照片、姓名，以及生日。
09:45
But they gave me full addresses, with,
like, apartment numbers and zip codes,
like, apartment numbers and zip codes,
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但他們給我完整的地址，
有門牌號碼和郵遞區號，
有門牌號碼和郵遞區號，
09:49
as if John of God was going
to stop by their house
to stop by their house
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好像神的約翰會
順道造訪他們家
順道造訪他們家
親自會見他們，
或是寄個包裏過去似的。
或是寄個包裏過去似的。
09:52
and see them in person
or send along a package.
or send along a package.
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09:55
It was as if, in the highly unlikely event
that their wishes were granted
that their wishes were granted
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那就好像是，如果他們的
願望被神的約翰給實現，
願望被神的約翰給實現，
09:59
by John of God,
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雖然不太可能，
10:00
they just wanted to make sure
that they weren't delivered
that they weren't delivered
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他們就是想要確保願望不會被送給
錯的人或是錯的地址。
10:03
to the wrong person or the wrong address.
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10:05
Even if they didn't believe,
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即使他們並不相信，
他們也是腳踏兩條船。
10:07
they were hedging their bets.
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10:10
The second commonality
was just as curious,
was just as curious,
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第二項共通性也一樣異常，
10:14
but far more humbling.
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但更會讓人謙卑。
10:17
Virtually everyone --
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差不多是每個人——
10:19
the stranger on the subway,
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地鐵上的陌生人、
10:21
the guy at the coffee shop,
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咖啡廳的人、
10:23
the lawyer down the hall,
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走道另一頭的律師、
10:25
the Jew, the atheist,
the Muslim, the devout Catholic --
the Muslim, the devout Catholic --
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猶太人、無神論者、
穆斯林、虔誠的天主教徒——
穆斯林、虔誠的天主教徒——
10:28
all asked for essentially
the same three things.
the same three things.
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基本上，都想要同樣的三樣東西。
10:33
OK, there were a couple of outliers,
and yes, a few people asked for cash.
and yes, a few people asked for cash.
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是有些離群值，而且有人想要現金。
10:36
But when I eliminated what were
ultimately a handful of anomalies,
ultimately a handful of anomalies,
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但當我把一些最終被歸為
離群值的資料去除之後，
離群值的資料去除之後，
10:41
the similarities were staggering.
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相似性挺驚人的。
10:45
Almost every single person
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幾乎每個人
都先祈求自己與家人的健康。
10:48
first asked for good health
for themselves and their families.
for themselves and their families.
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10:54
Almost universally,
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幾乎所有人
10:56
they next asked for happiness
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接著就會祈求快樂，
10:58
and then love,
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然後就是愛。
11:01
in that order:
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依這個順序：
11:03
health, happiness, love.
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健康、快樂、愛。
11:07
Sometimes they asked for a specific
health issue to be fixed,
health issue to be fixed,
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有時，他們會明確祈求
某個健康議題能被解決，
某個健康議題能被解決，
11:10
but more often than not, they just
asked for good health in general.
asked for good health in general.
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但多數時候他們祈求一般性的健康。
11:15
When it came to happiness,
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至於快樂，
11:17
they each phrased it slightly differently,
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他們每個人的表達方式都不太一樣，
11:20
but they all asked for the same
specific subtype of happiness, too --
specific subtype of happiness, too --
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但他們也都會明確希望
能得到某種類的快樂——
能得到某種類的快樂——
11:26
the kind of happiness that sinks in
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能滲入你的靈魂當中，
11:28
and sets down roots in your soul;
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並且在那兒深深紮根的那種快樂；
11:32
the kind of happiness
that could sustain us,
that could sustain us,
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即使在我們肯定會失去其他一切，
11:35
even if we were to lose
absolutely everything else.
absolutely everything else.
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仍然會支持著我們的那種快樂。
11:40
And for love,
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至於愛，
11:42
they all asked for the kind
of romantic love,
of romantic love,
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他們都祈求要那種浪漫的愛，
11:45
the soul mate that we read about
in epic romantic novels,
in epic romantic novels,
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我們在史詩浪漫小說中
讀到的心靈伴侶，
讀到的心靈伴侶，
11:50
the kind of love that will stay with us
till the end of our days.
till the end of our days.
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在我們生命結束之前都會
一直與我們同在的那種愛。
一直與我們同在的那種愛。
抱歉，那是我先生。
11:55
Sorry, that's my husband.
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糟糕！我忘了我說到哪裡了。
12:00
Crap! Now I forgot my place.
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（笑聲）
12:02
(Laughter)
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12:05
(Applause)
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（掌聲）
12:14
So by and large,
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所以，總的來說，
12:16
all of these friends and strangers,
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所有這些朋友和陌生人，
12:18
regardless of their background,
race or religion,
race or religion,
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不論是什麼背景、種族，或宗教，
12:22
all asked for the same things,
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他們都祈求同樣的東西。
12:24
and they were the same things
that I really wanted,
that I really wanted,
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我也真的很想要這些東西，
12:27
the simplified version
of the basic human needs
of the basic human needs
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基本人類需求的簡化版本，
12:30
identified by social scientists
like Abraham Maslow and Manfred Max-Neef.
like Abraham Maslow and Manfred Max-Neef.
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由社會科學家，像亞伯拉罕馬斯洛
（Abraham Maslow）
（Abraham Maslow）
及曼佛雷德麥克斯尼夫
（Manfred Max-Neef）所確認的。
（Manfred Max-Neef）所確認的。
12:35
No one asked for answers
to the big existential questions
to the big existential questions
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沒有人尋求關於存在之大哉問的解答，
12:38
or for proof of God or the meaning of life
like I had set out to find.
like I had set out to find.
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或神存在的證據，或人生的意義，
就像我最初想要找尋的。
就像我最初想要找尋的。
12:42
They didn't even ask for an end
to war or global hunger.
to war or global hunger.
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他們甚至沒有祈求戰爭
或是全球饑荒能終止。
或是全球饑荒能終止。
12:46
Even when they could have asked
for absolutely anything,
for absolutely anything,
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即使當他們可以祈求任何事物，
12:50
they all asked for health,
happiness and love.
happiness and love.
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他們仍然都祈求健康、快樂和愛。
12:55
So now those emails had
a third commonality as well.
a third commonality as well.
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那些電子郵件還有第三項共通性。
12:59
Each of them ended in the exact same way.
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它們的結尾都一樣。
13:03
Instead of thanking me for carting
their wishes all the way to Brazil,
their wishes all the way to Brazil,
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他們不是謝謝我
把他們的願望一路運送到巴西去，
把他們的願望一路運送到巴西去，
13:08
everyone said,
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每個人反而都說：
13:11
"Please don't tell anyone."
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「請不要告訴任何人。」
13:14
So I decided to tell everyone --
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所以我決定告訴所有人。
13:16
(Laughter)
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（笑聲）
13:18
right here on this stage,
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就在這講台上，
13:21
not because I'm untrustworthy,
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並不是因為我不值得信任，
13:23
but because the fact
that we have so much in common
that we have so much in common
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而是因為我們有這麼多相同之處，
13:27
feels especially important for us
all to hear, especially now,
all to hear, especially now,
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我們能聽到這些是特別
重要的，特別是現在，
重要的，特別是現在，
13:30
when so many of the world's problems
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世界上好多問題
13:32
seem to be because we keep focusing
on the things that make us different,
on the things that make us different,
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起因似乎都是我們不斷聚焦在
讓我們不同的事物，
讓我們不同的事物，
13:36
not on what binds us together.
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而不是結合我們的事物。
13:39
And look -- I am the first to admit
that I am not a statistician,
that I am not a statistician,
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還有，聽著，我是第一位
承認自己不是統計學家的人，
承認自己不是統計學家的人，
13:44
and that the data I presented to you
that I just accumulated in my in-box
that I just accumulated in my in-box
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而我剛與各位分享的資料，
那些我的收件匣裡累積的資料，
那些我的收件匣裡累積的資料，
13:48
is more anecdotal than scientific,
more qualitative than quantitative.
more qualitative than quantitative.
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比較偏向軼事，而非科學，
比較偏向質化，而非量化。
比較偏向質化，而非量化。
13:54
It is, as anyone who works
with data would tell you,
with data would tell you,
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任何在處理資料的人都會告訴你，
13:57
hardly a statistically significant
or demographically balanced sample.
or demographically balanced sample.
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這樣本實在沒有統計顯著性，
在人口統計特徵上也不平衡。
在人口統計特徵上也不平衡。
14:01
But nonetheless, I find myself
thinking about those emails
thinking about those emails
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但不論如何，我自己
會想著這些電子郵件，
會想著這些電子郵件，
14:05
every time I reflect back
on the bias and prejudice
on the bias and prejudice
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每當我回頭反思我人生中
所面對的偏見與成見時，
所面對的偏見與成見時，
14:09
that I've faced in my life,
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都會去想這些郵件。
14:11
or when there's another hate crime
or a senseless tragedy
or a senseless tragedy
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或是當又發生了仇恨犯罪，
或無理的悲劇時，
或無理的悲劇時，
14:14
that underscores the disheartening sense
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這些事會讓人很沮喪，
14:16
that our differences
might be insurmountable.
might be insurmountable.
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覺得我們的差異可能
永遠無法被克服。
永遠無法被克服。
14:21
I then remind myself that I have evidence
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接著，我會提醒我自己
我有證據證明
我有證據證明
14:23
that the humbling, unifying commonality
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我們的人性當中
讓人謙卑且一致的共通性是，
14:26
of our humanity
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14:27
is that, even when presented
with the opportunity
with the opportunity
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當有機會可以祈求
任何東西的時候，
14:30
to ask for anything at all,
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大部分人想要的都一樣，
14:32
most of us want the same things,
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這是真的，不論我們是怎樣的人，
14:34
and that this is true
no matter who we are,
no matter who we are,
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不論我們稱神為什麼名字，
14:38
what name we call our god,
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不論我們的歸屬是
哪種宗教，如果有的話。
哪種宗教，如果有的話。
14:40
or which religion, if any, we call home.
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14:45
I then also note
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接著，我也注意到，
14:46
that apparently some of us
want these things so badly
want these things so badly
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很顯然，有些人非常想要這些東西，
14:50
that we would email a None,
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甚至會寫電子郵件給「無信仰者」，
14:53
a spiritually confused None like me --
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在靈性上很困惑的無信仰者，就像我——
有人可能會說，
我在非靈性上也很困惑——
我在非靈性上也很困惑——
14:56
some might say otherwise
confused as well --
confused as well --
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我們會找到這個陌生人，
14:59
and that we would seek out this stranger
and email her our deepest wishes,
and email her our deepest wishes,
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把我們最深的願望用電子郵件寄給她，
只是以防萬一，萬一有一點點可能
15:04
just in case there is
the remote possibility
the remote possibility
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15:07
that they might be granted
by someone who is not a god,
by someone who is not a god,
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這些願望可能會被某人實現，
這個人不是神，
這個人不是神，
15:11
much less our god,
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更不是我們的神，
15:13
someone who is not even
a member of our chosen religion,
a member of our chosen religion,
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這個人甚至不是我們
所選擇之宗教的成員，
所選擇之宗教的成員，
15:17
someone who, when you
look at him on paper,
look at him on paper,
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當你在書面上看到這個人時，
可能不覺得他會是實現願望的候選人。
15:20
seems like an unlikely
candidate to deliver.
candidate to deliver.
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15:24
And so now,
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所以，現在，
當我回頭反思我的靈性追尋之旅，
15:26
when I reflect back on my spiritual quest,
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雖然我沒有找到神，
15:31
even though I did not find God,
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我在這當中找到了家：
15:35
I found a home in this:
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15:39
even today, in a world
fractured by religious,
fractured by religious,
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即使現今，在一個因為宗教、
人種、政治觀、哲學觀
和種族分歧的世界，
和種族分歧的世界，
15:44
ethnic, political, philosophical,
and racial divides,
and racial divides,
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即使我們很明顯有著歧見和差異，
15:49
even with all of our obvious differences,
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15:52
at the end of the day,
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到頭來，
在最根本的層面上，
15:54
and the most fundamental level,
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我們都是一樣的。
15:56
we are all the same.
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謝謝。
15:59
Thank you.
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16:00
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anjali Kumar - General counsel, author, "idea acupuncturist"Anjali Kumar is a Brooklyn-born, first-generation Indian American author, attorney, advisor, speaker and “idea acupuncturist.”
Why you should listen
Anjali Kumar is the Chief People Officer and General Counsel at Cheddar, author and "idea acupuncturist." She was formerly the Head of Social Innovation and Founding General Counsel at Warby Parker, a transformative lifestyle brand offering designer eyewear at affordable prices while leading the way for socially conscious businesses. Prior to joining Warby Parker, Kumar was Senior Counsel at Google where she was a commercial and product attorney on areas ranging from Google X to YouTube. She is an Adjunct Professor at Columbia Business School and Fordham University and serves as an advisor to prominent technology companies, luxury fashion brands, consumer products and non-profit organizations including Malala Fund, IDEO.org and organize.org. She serves on the Board of Directors of Happy Money, GloScience Professional, Amplifier Foundation, Edible Schoolyard NY, and GrowNYC and the Guggenheim museum’s Global Innovation Group. Anjali’s first book, Stalking God: My Unorthodox Search for Something to Believe In, comes out January 2018 via Seal Press.
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