Sue Jaye Johnson: What we don't teach kids about sex
Sue Jaye Johnson - Journalist, filmmaker, writer
TED Resident Sue Jaye Johnson explores the ways cultural expectations shape our public and private behavior. Full bio
brushing my hair when I was a child.
with a fine-bristled brush.
that you can feel in your body right now?
in the world -- through touch.
the hands, on the skin.
to have healthy intimate relationships.
is we teach our children about sex.
about biology and mechanics,
that sex is pretty much all about.
about pleasure and desire,
to be present in their body
that we model touch, play,
not just about sex,
that I needed as a girl.
for what I was experiencing;
I could at the time
just the difficult feelings,
the pleasure, the play,
what it meant to be a grown-up.
about their relationship to sex
they were too sensitive, too much.
of how much I used to feel.
"Day at the beach with the girls."
just out of reach of the surf
drizzling sand on her arm like this,
of sand on her skin
and then her legs.
"Hey, you want me to bury you?"
and she was like, "Yeah!"
and lathered her up in the shower
that I was creating for her?"
like she was on some assembly line
and put to bed.
in a towel tenderly the way a lover would,
to expect that kind of touch.
and respect her body.
that can't be conveyed in words.
on their partner's pleasure,
with my girls when they're older,
identify what gives them pleasure
when I tuck her in.
to rub your back?"
"OK, up and to the right,
how to articulate their sensations
with my girls at home to do this.
on my daughter's arm and say,
to tell them how I'm feeling,
means I'm nervous and I'm excited.
in response to me.
is to judge these reactions
in this binary culture
to sort the world into good and bad.
notice about that story?"
and curious about their experiences,
without checking out --
and challenging ones --
in turn remind our children
About the speaker:Sue Jaye Johnson - Journalist, filmmaker, writer
TED Resident Sue Jaye Johnson explores the ways cultural expectations shape our public and private behavior.
Why you should listen
Working across mediums, from radio, film, print and interactive media, Sue Jaye Johnson has investigated the US criminal justice system, women in sports, the legacy of apartheid and girls in South Africa. As a TED Resident, she is examining our current relationship with pleasure and sex through intimate interviews with people from all walks of life asking what they believe about sex and why. She is working on a book about rethinking how we talk about sexuality and sensuality fostered by this series of interviews.
Jaye is a two-time Peabody-winner and recipient of a Creative Capital award for her pioneering interactive documentary about US prisons. Her first feature film, T-Rex (PBS, Netflix) followed 17-year-old boxer Claressa Shields from Flint, Michigan to the gold medal at the London Olympics. Her work has been broadcast on PBS, NPR, WNY and published in the New York Times and The Washington Post.
She studied visual arts at Harvard University and interactive telecommunications at New York University. She lives in New York City with radio producer and frequent collaborator Joe Richman and their two daughters.
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