Beth Malone: How my dad's dementia changed my idea of death (and life)
Beth Malone: La demenza di mio padre ha cambiato il mio concetto di morte (e di vita)
Beth Malone - Social entrepreneur, artist
TED Resident Beth Malone brings bold art to public spaces across the US, encouraging artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks. Full bio
that hits people in their 50s or 60s.
Colpisce attorno ai 50 o 60 anni.
la personalità delle persone,
with his own hands.
with the falsetto singing voice
dal falsetto melodioso
for round-the-clock care
di assistenza continua
and I made the mistake
abbiamo fatto l'errore
casa di riposo.
and afternoon art classes
lezioni d'arte pomeridiane
abbiamo arrestato suo padre".
everybody with cutlery.
con le posate.
the curtains off the wall,
to throw plants out the window.
le piante dalla finestra.
the old ladies out of their wheelchairs."
dalle loro sedie a rotelle".
a bunch of state-run facilities
tra diversi istituti statali
specifically for people with dementia.
specializzata in pazienti con demenza.
on the ground wearing a onesie --
con addosso una tuta,
that zip in the back.
as he yanked at it,
mentre la tirava
una camicia di forza.
il suo pickup,
coming out of the pit of my belly.
usciva dal profondo della mia pancia.
was worth living anymore.
vivere quella vita.
to prioritize productivity.
per privilegiare la produttività.
an Adonis in this case --
in questo caso un Adone,
in the way we expect him to be,
di quanto ci si aspetti,
was that my dad was being tortured
la tortura di mio padre
the vessel of that torture.
di quella tortura.
I'm going to kill Dad.
to live the rest of your life
della tua vita
how to buy heroin."
a comprare eroina".
about his death a lot.
della sua morte.
about death when we were all healthy.
quando eravamo tutti in salute.
and then a support group,
e da un gruppo di sostegno.
when they're worried about loved ones.
perché si preoccupano dei loro cari.
and it's OK to go when you're ready.
andarsene quando si è pronti.
on the ground in the onesie.
con addosso la tuta.
and just kind of looking at the ground.
quasi rivolto a terra.
about nothing in particular,
del più e del meno.
he sneezed from the ginger ale.
lo ha fatto starnutire.
it jerked his body upright,
il suo corpo,
and sparking, over and over and over again
e sussultare più e più volte
and he was looking at me,
e mi guardava.
"Beh, mi manchi anche tu".
because I'm just a mess.
perché sono un disastro.
he seemed kind of OK.
sembrava stare bene.
was still attached to his body.
fosse ancora nel suo corpo.
per aiutare lui e me
as father and daughter.
di padre e figlia.
come abbiamo sempre fatto.
About the speaker:Beth Malone - Social entrepreneur, artist
TED Resident Beth Malone brings bold art to public spaces across the US, encouraging artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks.
Why you should listen
Beth Malone is executive director and partner at Dashboard US, an award-winning, experimental creative agency. Dashboard has presented exhibitions and special artist projects in cities around the country including New York, New Orleans, Atlanta, and Detroit. Dashboard has commissioned new, nontraditional works from over 200 artists.
Malone encourages artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks, a practice she employed for herself when processing illness, caretaking and death. In 2014, she and her dad were sitting on a couch in a psychiatric hospital in Atlanta, GA. He looked at her and said, "I’m gonna be lost after this. After this, I’m gonna be gone." In August 2017, her dad passed away from frontotemporal lobe dementia -- just two months after she gave her TED Talk. It was a good death.
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