Beth Malone: How my dad's dementia changed my idea of death (and life)
Bet Maloun (Beth Malone): Kako je demencija mog tate promenila moju predstavu o smrti i životu
TED Resident Beth Malone brings bold art to public spaces across the US, encouraging artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks. Full bio
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u 50-im ili 60-im godinama.
that hits people in their 50s or 60s.
iz njegove kuće -
with his own hands.
with the falsetto singing voice
for round-the-clock care
u ustanovu za danonoćnu negu
and I made the mistake
and afternoon art classes
popodnevne časove umetnosti
uhapsili smo vašeg oca.“
everybody with cutlery.
the curtains off the wall,
to throw plants out the window.
da baci biljke kroz prozor.
the old ladies out of their wheelchairs."
je sve starice iz kolica.“
a bunch of state-run facilities
u gomilu državnih ustanova
specifically for people with dementia.
posebno namenjen ljudima sa demencijom.
on the ground wearing a onesie --
dok je nosio kombinezon -
that zip in the back.
as he yanked at it,
oko sat vremena dok ga je vukao,
njegovom starom kamionu, pogurena,
coming out of the pit of my belly.
dopirao iz moje stomačne duplje.
da poverujem da bi moj otac,
was worth living anymore.
više vredan življenja.
to prioritize productivity.
an Adonis in this case --
in the way we expect him to be,
onako kako to očekujemo od nje,
was that my dad was being tortured
jeste da se moj tata muči
the vessel of that torture.
I'm going to kill Dad.
iz tog tela; ubiću tatu.
to live the rest of your life
how to buy heroin."
o njegovoj smrti.
about his death a lot.
about death when we were all healthy.
o smrti dok smo zdravi.
pa onda u grupu za podršku,
and then a support group,
when they're worried about loved ones.
kada su zabrinuti za svoje voljene.
and it's OK to go when you're ready.
i da je u redu da odu kad su spremni.
on the ground in the onesie.
na zemlji u kombinezonu.
and just kind of looking at the ground.
i nekako gledao u zemlju.
about nothing in particular,
ni o čemu naročito,
he sneezed from the ginger ale.
kinuo je zbog soka sa đumbirom.
it jerked his body upright,
u uspravan položaj,
and sparking, over and over and over again
kija i trza se iznova i iznova,
and he was looking at me,
i gledao je u mene.
da izgovorim bilo je: „Tata!
„Pa, nedostaješ i ti meni.“
because I'm just a mess.
jer sam prosto u haosu.
he seemed kind of OK.
nekako izgledao u redu.
was still attached to his body.
što je njegov duh još vezan za telo.
da pomognem i njemu i sebi
as father and daughter.
ABOUT THE SPEAKERBeth Malone - Social entrepreneur, artist
TED Resident Beth Malone brings bold art to public spaces across the US, encouraging artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks.
Why you should listen
Beth Malone is executive director and partner at Dashboard US, an award-winning, experimental creative agency. Dashboard has presented exhibitions and special artist projects in cities around the country including New York, New Orleans, Atlanta, and Detroit. Dashboard has commissioned new, nontraditional works from over 200 artists.
Malone encourages artists to have a sense of humor, to be vulnerable and take creative risks, a practice she employed for herself when processing illness, caretaking and death. In 2014, she and her dad were sitting on a couch in a psychiatric hospital in Atlanta, GA. He looked at her and said, "I’m gonna be lost after this. After this, I’m gonna be gone." In August 2017, her dad passed away from frontotemporal lobe dementia -- just two months after she gave her TED Talk. It was a good death.
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