Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin: A hilarious celebration of lifelong female friendship
Jane Fonda has had three extraordinary careers (so far): Oscar-winning actor, fitness guru, impassioned activist. Full bioLily Tomlin - Comedian and actor
Lily Tomlin has been honored by the Kennedy Center and awarded the Mark Twain Prize -- and she's still making vital, hilarious comedy. Full bio
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about female friendship a lot,
for a very long time, too.
that I read about female friendship
a lot about someone,"
sucks the life out of me.
look for in a friend?
who has a sense of fun,
of passion for the planet,
has a sense of justice
without my women friends.
therefore I am."
my women friends. They --
they make me smarter,
be in need of course-correcting.
a good deal younger than me, too.
LT: Thank you.
because listen, you know --
to play with and learn from
I'll be there sooner than you.
parallel aging alongside me.
different kinds of life's journeys,
your friendships vital and alive?
I'll tell you that.
I look through my texts
as quickly as possible,
are writers, or activists, or actors,
of other descriptive phrases,
as soon as possible,
JF: I'm really into emojis.
the importance of friendships,
not let too much time go by.
I send to my friends.
about women, female friendships,
to see how many books,
has been done recently --
LT: I was grateful.
because this is another example
put aside, marginalized.
research done on us,
and you all will be interested in this.
close female friendships
to be living much more vital, exciting --
part is they found --
and so conclusive --
is detrimental to your health,
because there's an additional thing.
for years, decades --
were trying to understand stress,
what happens to women when we're stressed,
that when we're stressed -- women,
when we're with our women friends.
why we live longer.
because they don't have that.
diminishes the effects of oxytocin.
and Dolly made "9 to 5" ...
we laughed so much,
and we're so different.
from a poor town in Tennessee,
at least a decade onto our lifespans.
crossed our legs a lot.
to our lives right now.
sent us both to read on female friendship
Sister Joan Chittister,
are not just a social act,
spiritual to your lives?
you've known a long time,
essence inside them,
an element of love in the relationship.
and party friends,
friendships have ...
because it's a heart opening, right?
with my intimate friends.
I'm so touched and inspired by them.
is going to go soon.
Lily, which one are you talking about?
talk about their friendships,
and women friendships?
a lot of empathy for men --
are full disclosure, we go deep.
this is something men don't do.
have I asked you, "Am I doing OK?"
relationships as face-to-face,
are more side-by-side.
men don't want to reveal their emotions,
and watch a game or hit golf balls,
or hunting, or cars or have sex.
it's a more manly behavior.
LT: They talk about sex.
in their man cave to --
that I find very interesting --
until relatively recently --
as relational as women are.
of newborn baby boys and girls,
just like the girls,
exchange of energy.
they could see the dismay on the child,
as they grow older, does that change?
to be emotional with someone is girly.
directions or express a need,
will erase his 'I'."
has always been kind of porous.
our masculinity to prove.
LT: I know who Gloria Steinem is.
but I think it's a --
don't have our masculinity to prove.
so inculcated in the culture
something different happen.
are like a renewable source of power.
about this subject.
are just a hop to our sisterhood,
a very powerful force,
demographic in the world,
we can change the world.
that we need to do --
the consumer standards.
need to consume less
buy things that are made locally,
that's grown locally.
that need to get off the grid.
independent from fossil fuels.
and those bad guys --
without going back to the Stone Age.
just aren't quite there yet,
energy and doing just fine.
wean ourselves from fossil fuel
back in the Stone Age,
to use renewable energy,
and not drill --
in the Alberta tar sands --
and more jobs and more well-being,
going to lead the way.
to start a third-wave feminist movement
women we may never meet,
should be between equals
we had souls even, the Greeks.
just how limited Aristotle was.
men do need women now.
the Equal Rights Amendment.
since the end of World War II
citizens of equal stature,
on how to do that.
in different ways,
women can be friends --
ABOUT THE SPEAKERSJane Fonda - Actor and activist
Jane Fonda has had three extraordinary careers (so far): Oscar-winning actor, fitness guru, impassioned activist.
Why you should listen
Jane Fonda is an actor, author, producer and activist supporting environmental issues, peace and female empowerment. She founded the Georgia Campaign for Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention, and established the Jane Fonda Center for Adolescent Reproductive Health at Emory. She cofounded the Women’s Media Center, and sits on the board of V-Day, a global effort to stop violence against women and girls.
Fonda's remarkable screen and stage career includes two Best Actress Oscars, an Emmy, a Tony Award nomination and an Honorary Palme d’Or from the Cannes Film Festival. Offstage, she revolutionized the fitness industry in the 1980s with Jane Fonda’s Workout — the all-time top-grossing home video. She has written a best-selling memoir, My Life So Far, and Prime Time, a comprehensive guide to living life to the fullest.
Jane Fonda | Speaker | TED.com
Lily Tomlin - Comedian and actor
Lily Tomlin has been honored by the Kennedy Center and awarded the Mark Twain Prize -- and she's still making vital, hilarious comedy.
Why you should listen
Throughout her extraordinary career, Lily Tomlin has won seven Emmys; a Tony for her one-woman Broadway show, Appearing Nitely; a second Tony for Best Actress; a Drama Desk Award and an Outer Critics' Circle Award for her one-woman performance in Jane Wagner’s The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe; a Grammy for her comedy album, This Is a Recording; and two Peabody Awards, the first for the ABC television special, Edith Ann’s Christmas: Just Say Noël, and the second for narrating and executive producing the HBO film, The Celluloid Closet. In 2003, she received the Mark Twain Prize for American Humor, and in December 2014 she was the recipient of the prestigious Kennedy Center Honors in Washington DC.
She made her film debut in Robert Altman's Nashville, and gave a generation-defining performance alongside Dolly Parton and Jane Fonda in the workplace revenge comedy 9 to 5.
Lily Tomlin | Speaker | TED.com